Well giving head is a gift, one I only bestow on a man when I feel he's earned it or when I'm just feeling particularly generous.
I don't really understand this mentality. To me this puts everything on a if you do this I'll do that status. If you don't enjoy doing a sexual act for someone unless they have "Earned it" it just seems messed up. Is there a certain amount of points he must earn or is it 3 gold stars to go untill you get a blowjob system?
To ask a woman to give you head after she has turned you down for sex says to her "I only want to use you for the physical release of orgasm and if I can't **** you then I would like you to service me."
But if you want to have sex purelly for the physical aspect of being horny thats ok right? Since you control the pu$$y you make the rules.
Sex should be something special, mutually enjoyed by both parties. Not something someone uses another human for, granted we're all guilty of making it into nothing more than a quick fix for a stressful day but in an ideal situation wouldn't we all rather it be better than that
And it can be better than that. It can be wonderful or angry or quick or long or slow or fast or about being one engaged in a Lovers mindset of pure ectasy and wholeness or straight Fcuking like mad people to get off. If your with someone long enough you realize sex has many aspects and not just the special one.
Also I understand alot of what your saying. If a guy isn't treating his girl right then these are the kinds of things he can expect. I never get it when guys come into work and complain about there wifes no giving up the booty for the past month...
If you are with someone and you haven't had sex with them in a month SOMETHING is seriously wrong... Either you are being a complete ass or she is fcuking someone else.