| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/3/2007 2:38:13 PM | | Casual dating to me means you may very well be dating more than one person at a time. You go out and do the regular dating activites but there is no firm commitment to say you have a 'relationship'. Basically you are friends that date once in awhile! | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2007 5:16:46 AM | deranged if the things you say are true and im sure they are then my post was not for you
wow. and here i thought my company, and having a great night together instead of sitting home alone was enuff. geezus. no wonder so many guys try to hit us ladies up for sex on the first date.
and I would not let you pay either ... nor would i expect anything ... and if all both parties want is company and a good time well there is no problem ....heck I have some male friends that i insist on paying every time we do things together as they are less able to pay than I am and i want them included in my life ....but I would be a little put off if they expected it...and I think if its just casual ,ie friendship the woman should offer to share expenses... and some of you do .....but I see the attitude in life and in this thread that some women use guys and keep the possibility of something more than just dating alive in order to get a free meal or even just attention ... and this is no better than the guy that keeps the possibilities of a relationship open just to get sex...personally if i date you more than just a few times ... most of the time more than one date ..I have hopes for a relationship and this is regardless of where there has been sex or not .. so yes I believe dating is for getting to know someone but if there is no possibility of romance either you are just a friend or we are wasting our time... no deranged I am in no way putting what you do down as long as both parties are on the same page... date to your hearts content .. but continuously look for signs that the other person is thinking there could be more ...if you see this and there is no possibility of it happening and you continue then you arnt being honest | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2007 5:35:59 AM | For sure, everyone heard this question before. I'm curious how you define "casual dating". Everyone has their own opinion about it. Now, I'm confused.... Your input is appreciated!
-What is casual dating for you?
-What does it involves?
-What is your experience?
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Well, to me it means that neither of the parties expects a heavy relationship like marriage. I dated this one girl back in 04/05. First went out in late 8/04 I think. By Thanksgiving she was talking about me moving in with her. I love the place I'm living now and wouldn't leave it for anything or anybody. Then she starts bugging me about getting my divorce. YES, LADIES, I'M SEPARATED. IF THAT BOTHERS YOU, GO ON TO THE NEXT POST.
Anyway, I should have checked in with Guinness. I didn't realize I could run a mile in two minutes, but evidently I can.
On the other hand, I've dated a couple of ladies who had no interest in getting married, to me or anyone else. I was a lot more comfortable with them, even though we had sex a few times.
Tom | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2007 5:45:13 AM | casual dating... is more just hanging with someone new and not having any expectation associated with it. So everything starts off kind of casual but it is a matter of long it lasts that way that really defines the dating.
Fo me casual dating in the past has never had any real sex involved, cause at that point I do personally want to get a bit more serious... but what the heck do I know?
It is great when you are not 100% ready for the next relationship or not sure if you are ready or not... that is about it | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2007 6:19:13 AM | Casual dating?
I'm guessing you mean casual relationships?
It means whatever it means to each person basically, so when two people think they are emotionally mature enough to try something like this then as with a normal relationship they need to also be mature enough to make sure their definitions are compatible and that they have the same expectations and boundaries to what they are seeking
For some it will just mean ****ing someone with no strings on more than a one off basis and at the other end of the spectrum its identical to a normal relationship except that there is no expectation of a happy ever after
So the one extreme meet, screw and part, and the other extreme do anything ordinary couples do like meals, pictures, clubbing, holidays socialising with friends etc EXCEPT that its purely for the enjoyment of each others company and niether sees the other as a long term prospect and between the two extremes are an endless infinity of other variations, some monogamous some non exclusive
Short of an open relationship a casual one is probably the next most mature type of relationship to have, but to have one successfully both parties have to be mature enough to be completely open, honest and secure, far more so than is needed to have an ordinary relationship which is why few people can manage to successfully have a casual relationship without going completely idiotic during one | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2007 11:28:41 PM | | if Casual dating is like hanging out? why can't they just call it HANG-OUT as simple as that because it doesn't involve sex, commitment and so fort.... | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2007 11:31:01 PM | | Casual dating is based on sex,where both partners are allowed to see other people. | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/6/2007 5:49:22 AM |
Casual dating is based on sex,where both partners are allowed to see other people.
I cant see how the "allowed to see other people" bit becomes part of the descriotion
For some people its monogamous and some it isnt, every couple make their own rules and boundaries | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/6/2007 9:57:25 AM | Casual dating = getting to know new people but still single
Involves = messing around, dates, hanging out
My experience = Its worked wonders when I'm in stages at life when i needed time to discover what i really want out of life and in a man after having a bad relationship since it takes me a long time to devolope feelings for anyone its the only safe way i can get to know someone without getting hurt | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/6/2007 12:12:19 PM | | No sex and maybe some cuddling. Casual dating is really about spending quality time with someone and foregoing the biochemical fireworks. | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/7/2007 5:42:32 AM | Two Different words. Two different issues and meanings to the phrase.
The first issue is choice of words to describe the relational dynamic.
"Friend" would be a better suited term....
The other issue is wether or not you think it's ok to sleep with your friends... A function of your values, attitudes and beliefs about that , bisected by societal vectors. | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 11/7/2007 9:36:22 AM | Casual dating can be fun...as long as the other person is looking for the same. Casual dating is doing things and going places that you really like, but choose not to be intimate with at the time (or maybe never)...it's opposite is an exclusive relationship where the two people collectively agree on it's definition.
What I'd like to know, have any of you ever been in an exclusive relationship for a while and had the relationship revert to casual dating...and, if so, did it change the depth of intimacy you experienced with each other? | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 12/8/2007 9:10:55 AM | | IMO casual dating = dating a person with any potential long term committments. Casual dating may or may not involve having sex. Sometimes 2 people really like each other, but a LTR isn't a good option. Maybe one or both people are very busy with work, school, family, or other committments. Maybe one person is living in an area for a temporary period of time. Maybe a LTR wouldn't work out because one person wants kids and the other person can't/won't have kids. | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 12/8/2007 10:09:33 AM |
-What is casual dating for you?
My definition of casual dating is as a lifestyle. It is a way of life suited to people who don't want or can't have a long term relationship.
-What does it involves?
It involves going out with multiple people of the opposite sex. It may (and most often does) involve casual sex with one or more of the people being dated. Dates can be one time things or ongoing. Casual dating may sometimes be used to fill the romantic void in a friends with benefits situation. It is sometimes (rarely) employed in the process of finding a real romantic partner. (I say rarely because someone truly interested in something long-term would be seriously dating rather than casually, and concentrating only on valid prospects.)
-What is your experience?
I don't have any experience with it. It's rather distasteful to me. In fact, when I see someone on here who lists "Dating" as their goal, I get suspicious that it's this type of lifestyle they're looking for. I can see where it would be a good choice for the highly-desirable who don't want to settle down, the less-than-desirable who can't find someone to accept them long-term, and those who cannot commit for some reason like being separated. But it's not for me. | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 12/8/2007 11:41:04 AM | | Casual Dating: Its a way for a women to get a guy to spend his money on her good time, with out having to feel bad when someone that she actualy likes comes along... | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 12/9/2007 11:47:36 PM | | ....going out with somebody and not remembering her name..... | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:31:20 AM | To me, casual dating is when two people who are just getting to know each other go out somewhere that they can talk, learn about each other, and have a good time. Some of my criteria for casual dating is:
- Has to be somewhere you can talk; dinner, mini putt, or even just a walk
- A movie is only acceptable if its proceeded or followed by something else that involves lots of conversation
- Each person pays for themselves. You are just getting to know each other, there's no need for the guy to pay on a casual date
- No sex, unless the two realize, and are 100% okay knowing that it is NSA sex. Even then, sex can wait until the next date
- You both must go into the date with no expectations from the other person. This means don't expect a end of night kiss (or more), don't expect a call a day or two after (or even ever), etc. | |
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| Define Casual Dating?
Posted: 12/12/2007 10:23:24 AM | | For me casual dating is dating without getting serious and without getting intimate...you go out, have fun and then go home alone...LOL! | |
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