| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/12/2007 12:31:43 PM | but i do have a special friend who states that depending on a womans diet each woman tastes and smells different.
You know the old saying, you are what you eat.
I have heard that pineapples or strawberries will alter the taste of a guy, but I have never tried that with a woman - however, I can verify that after a big Indian meal the taste and smell of curry was EVERYWHERE .
As per the OP - I have read that some women are only wired for either clitoral or vaginal orgasms, and no matter how much you might try are not responsive to the other type. I had one woman recently, whose response to my best technique was twitching legs and giggling - first time I have ever run into that, and I must say I have a fair amount of experience in that area.
After a while my ex wife stopped letting me do that, after we were married - not because she didn't enoy it, she did - a lot. I think it was because she couldn't really reciprocate because I was rather difficult to finish, or perhaps she just wasn't skilled enough. Also because she felt a little out of control, almost passing out at times from hyperventilating. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/12/2007 12:33:26 PM | | One of my ex-girlfriends didn't like receiving oral sex. I didn't think it was a big deal. Some women would rather give oral sex than receive it. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/12/2007 1:08:26 PM | Any girl who doesn't want a guy to go down and give her pleasure has got severe mental problems and just doesn't "get it". I would drop her in a second no matter what other attributes she might have.
What "DOES" she like? Likely she doesn't know, or doesn't want to like anything.
I've got plenty of friends for hanging out and BS, but I want a woman for adult special sexy time. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/12/2007 1:36:11 PM | | Sometimes choosing to not be involved in certain aspects of sexuality is due to a bad experience - or a thought that won't leave their head - placing a barrier to allowing for full enjoyment. There has to be some understanding and perhaps some assistance needed in overcoming the barrier. However it has to come from within - the desire to allow what is once felt to be taboo. With the right - understanding and empathetic person - she will agree to participating in this activity! | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/12/2007 1:36:21 PM |
Any girl who doesn't want a guy to go down and give her pleasure has got severe mental problems and just doesn't "get it". I would drop her in a second no matter what other attributes she might have.
What "DOES" she like? Likely she doesn't know, or doesn't want to like anything.
This is perhaps one of the dumbest things I've read on the forums to date. I think it is actually you with the severe mental problems. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:24:04 PM | I don't enjoy it
I also have an Ex who didnt like getting head.
People like idfferent things thats the way life is.
Dont worry about it, it has nothing to do with you | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:31:25 PM | Luckily I've never come across a woman like this (ooh err missus  exsqueeze the pun), but I really dont think I could be doing with it personally as its such an intimate and integral part of sex that to have sex with someone who had issues about it and didnt want it wouldnt really be someone I could carry on seeing | |
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| You can't go
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:40:01 PM | | The horror of it all~ how unfortunate not to adore this type of play. | |
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| You can't go
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:16:21 PM | Yeah
it's nto so much that i have issues with it
i know for a lot of women its about self confidence
but not for
i just dont enjoy it as much as other things
it feels good, yes but its not THAT great for me
and no its not because i havent found somebody who is good at it
the people who i have done it with were good and all
its just got that pleasurable for me | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 2:42:29 PM | Worst experience ive ever had was going a brass house ,gave the receptionist £50 .
I went in the room and this fit bird come in she looked like whitney houston she said ,take your clothes off lay on the bed and ill be back in 2 minutes so i took the lot off .
I was trying for dear life to get it hard no response must of been my nerves ,next thing i know she comes in and gets between me legs and starts licking me balls, i thought thats strange so i popped me head up and said here love when you going to start she said i have ya dirty **** i dont do woman that often i said its there and she said it was that small she thought it was a clit .
Ive never been back since
Wife always said 2 inches is enough for any woman ???????????? | |
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meta08
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Joined: 11/2/2007
Msg: 86 | |
| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/20/2007 10:59:19 AM | | My guess is she just isn't comfortable with it. If you haven't already, talk to her about it. Maybe there's a good reason she's too shy to tell you. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 11/26/2007 9:53:40 PM | Possibilities
1 She is shy
2 She thinks the vaginal area might smell unappealing
3 She thinks the anal area might smell unappealing
4 She has heard men tell rude jokes about smelly women
5 A previous boyfriend told her that he had a girlfriend who smelled unpleasant
6 She finds it less exciting than sex
7 She has thrush and is afraid you will catch it
8 She thinks her period might start
9 She is afraid you will bite her or you have sharp teeth
10 She thinks you will give her an infection
11 She thinks you have a cold and your nose will give her an infection
12 She had a one night stand with a guy who did that and he never came back so she thinks that was a mistake
13 She thinks that you will expect her to reciprocate and she is not in the mood for that
14 She is worried that somebody else will come home and find you and it will look odder than sex which is a bit easier to disguise with a hastily grabbed duvet
15 She can't work out how you can do it without getting a mouthful of pubic hair
16 She is scared that if she relaxes she might come and spurt or urinate on your face and that would offend you
17 She is worried that she caught something from her previous relationship, is to shy to go to her doctor for a checkup and is afraid you might catch it
18 She went for a checkup and does not yet have the results
19 She just finds it more exciting to be stimulating at both ends of her body simultaneously with kissing and vaginal intercourse
20 She has twenty fears and that is enough to put off anybody
21 She feels that requires extra devotion and is saving it for somebody for whom she can do no wrong, for somebody who says, 'I love you!', or at least loads of flattery such as: You are gorgeous; I've never known anybody like you; You are wonderful; I've never cared for anybody as much as you
22 She wants her life partner who cannot get her virginity to still get something special unique
Have I missed anything? | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/4/2007 5:02:35 PM | 1tuffgirl,
is north of where I am....so I guess I'd have to go up before I could go down!!!  | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/6/2007 1:53:31 PM | She might have a very contagious disease and would not want you to be part of it  lots of medicine could help | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:16:38 PM | | I can't say ive had that problem....Maybe its the way u approach at times.Theres a time and place for everything,who knos. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:22:20 PM | | two things...she might be hiding a secret from you, or she is just very uncomfortable with you being down there...talk to her about it, ask her why, and if she doesnt answer you, then break up with her...you don't want someone who can't communicate to you anyway. Never know what she might be hiding | |
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Deac0n
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Joined: 12/10/2007
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:17:15 PM | | Well, I love to give it a ton, I had a hard time doing it cause she was a bigger girl and sometimes the smell was so bad, I did talk with her and I found the best time was right after a shower , I would be able to give it too her and it was agreat she loved it. On too the part about me getting a bj I have never really been a fan of getting oral only once did I get off on it and she ( my partner at the time ) really really had to work at it, but if I was to get inside of her I would sometimes go in less then 30 sec's but gettting a bj to make me go it too about an hour the one time I did get off on it. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:12:15 PM | Theres a quick answer to this question, this isn't so uncommon among women. (Although I suppose moreso for younger women. ) Theres a good chance that she heard so many 'smells like fish' related jokes when she was younger that she is now so paranoid that she doesn't want to let you get your face anywhere near the area in fear that you'll reject her. If she has let anyone down there, its likely been very uncomfortable because she can't relax because of this. Then again, this might onyl apply to people my age, I'm not sure how many other generations were inundated with this kind of thing when they were 14  | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/17/2007 1:58:40 AM | Its all about taste and personal preference. Not everyone enjoys oral sex for various reasons. I have met a few women that dont really enjoy oral or not able to orgasm from oral.
There can be many reasons for this. Like that she doesnt like it or it doesnt do anythign for her sexually. maybe she is too sensitive and it actually hurts or is uncomfortable.
Some may have health or self conscious concerns.
Also the human mouth is VERY dirty. A UTI or yeast infection is not something that is not fun and easy to catch from oral.
Some will still let you do it because YOU like it and it makes you happy, but they wont expect or expect you to make em cum from it. You might ask her if she would let you do it for your enjoyment, with the understanding that you dont have to worry about pleasing her.
There are also men who dont like or care for it either.
Im one of those men. for me oral just doesnt do much for me. It kinda feels nice but doenst feel good enough to warrant the work put in to it. i like backrubs more than oral and its very hard for me to experience orgasm with oral.
I would still let a partner do oral on me because she is pleased by it, with the understanding that she can stop anytime she is bored and she wont have to worry about getting me off in that way. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/17/2007 4:25:00 AM | When I was in nursing school this topic came up in a class one day (I don't remember how or why!), and I can still hear one thoroughly appalled female student saying, "That's just no place for a mouth!". Ithought that half the class was going to bust a gut.
I do believe that in some cases it's a matter of age and experience-becoming more comfortable with your own body and your own sexuality. In other cases it might be a fear that someone will find your genitalia less than appealing when it's scrutinized that closely: the media is full of advertisements for products that "freshen"-who wouldn't be paranoid?
And then there are women AND men who simply don't enjoy that particular act. We are complex beings (that's what makes it all so interesting!), and I don't think one answer can cover the question. | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/17/2007 12:58:48 PM | after reading a few pages off this topic , I would ask if she enjoys going down on you ? does she seem to enjoy it, or just because it would please you,
I feel it is noe off the completions off love making, and it's fulment off the act ,
if i don't get the chance to give her oral i feel it's not complete off course im new to sex but??? what do i know!!! | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/17/2007 1:13:19 PM | I feel for you as you are willing to give her oral, does she give you oral ?
My Girl loves me to go down on her, but she will only go down on me if i'm wearing a Flavoured Condom eg strawberry/chocolate.
Tim | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/26/2007 2:44:34 PM | | wow...you actually confessed that. That is funny. That might be a sign that you might need to clean up down there, you think? lol | |
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| You can't go down on me
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:37:39 PM | | That was me at one time. LOL Too afraid. Then I became separated and started to date again. I knew I wanted to become sexualy active so did some research. And prepared for anything and everything. Been out of the dateing sceen for a number of years. I purchased and carry K-jell in my purse and condoms. I always bath and douch before steping out on a date. If nothing else I feel clean and fresh and with that in mind my confidence in myself is built up. My boyfriend and I both enjoy oral sex. He caught me off gaurd one Morning. What a way to wake up! Lol since then, I have encourage it. all the best in your efforts. | |
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