| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 1/11/2008 9:31:45 AM |
3 criminals or parolees
5 unemployed
So guys who have ever been in jail or who are unemployed at the moment
are the same as guys who cheat ? If this is to much of a generalization,
i apologize, but no matter how i read it, comback seems to be saying
that these two types are not qualified to be “counted” as a prospect.
Perhaps this gives folks a clue why so many men AND women
lie on their profiles. You never know what criteria other people are using
and what some will find important. | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:43:33 PM |
Do they go out in public places with you? Did they give you their phone number? If they did give you their phone number do you find they have it turned off at odd times? Have they shown you where they live? Do they give you straight answers about their life? Do they only plan dates with you on the fly and at the last minute?
If do any of these things... they are a much higher risk for being cheaters. it doesn't mean that they are, it just makes them suspicious since these are all things that people that cheat tend to do.
All the above and
Change plans on you at the last min. I.E your finally going to go to thier place and then there's a change in plans because they are coming to your end of town on Business ... sounds totally viable.. the first couple of times!!
Not adding you to thier Facebook acct is another good clue
Not meeting friends
Oh I could go on and on ... but ... bottom line is ...TRUST YOUR GUT !!
wish I had ... NOw I am faced with Do I tell the S/O or not?!
;) take care its scary out there!! | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/13/2008 7:05:11 PM | | One word peepsheet. You can look up the persons name and most of the time it has their online ailises. | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:43:33 PM | No, it's not possible, everyone has the ability to cheat...
And if someone says, "I never cheat"
then that's true, until the first time they cheat...
A cheater can have the demeanor as the 100% most monogamous person in the world that you could bet would never cheat no matter what the situation, or a 100% monogamous person may have the demeanor as the worlds biggest cheater....
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/13/2008 9:00:47 PM | | Like Lick It Up said, anybody can cheat. No matter the circumstances anyone can cheat. There is no foolproof way to check, but there are people who are painfully obvious about it. Hurrah for worthless posts. | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/13/2008 9:39:12 PM | OP
....how do you screen for cheaters?
Go to the "mail control" section of your profile and check the box marked "no cheaters."
Or just put "No cheaters" in your profile."
Seriously, you can not really screen for cheaters unless you have a lot of experience with cheaters and you know what to look for. Maybe if you are a cheater yourself or you are a person who is really good at reading people you can screen but it is difficult.
I am good at detecting cheaters in real life because of my experience in my profession. I am not good at detecting cheaters online. I need to hear tone of voice and see a guys facial reactions in order to correctly read him. | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/14/2008 1:52:13 AM | * cheaters often won't include a photo on their profile so that their significant other won't catch them
* they'll keep their cellphone off or the ringer down during a date but they'll make a point of going to the bathroom (where they rapidly respond to the text message or read their voicemail)
* they're not available on Friday or the weekend, their only free time is 9-5, especially lunch breaks. they don't encourage you to spontaneously contact them.
* they get progressively more nervous as the date progresses in length (since they told their s/o that they'd only be out for a certain amount of time)
* never getting their home phone number or their address
* a family member who has cancer and ongoing treatments (and it's always a last-minute thing that your friend has to be there to help them). since the invented family member has cancer it's not like you can begrudge an excuse like that. an alternate one i heard (recently) that i'm sure was made up was a "friend" who slipped off the roof and broke his back, necessitating her to watch the friend's kids.
Probably the biggest trait of the cheater is anxiousness/nervousness/paranoia. | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/14/2008 3:16:01 AM | | The single greatest predictor of future behavior, is past behavior. Have they cheated in the past? How do they feel about it now? Do they defend it, and how? How do they feel about other people who cheat? | |
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| Screening for cheaters - how to?
Posted: 9/14/2008 3:32:01 AM | You grab a Q-Tip, swab the inside of his cheek, and run a DNA test.
Seriously. scientists in the brave new world are studying a monogamy gene:
http://www.healthnews.com/medical-updates/scientists-discover-monogamy-gene-1706.html
What will they think of next? | |
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hbunny
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Joined: 10/22/2008
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