| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:52:25 PM | HELLO EVERY ONE this is not about a child seeing a child naked it is about a child seeign an adult of the opposite sex naked!!!!! As I said before in the Province of Alberta you children coan be APPREHENDED BY CHILD WELFARE!!!!! Catch on it is classified as abuse..... | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/18/2008 6:17:43 PM |
In my opinion it is the people who are doing the freaking out about nudity that have the problem.
I agree with this.
I wouldn't be surprised if it's entirely Americans that are freaking out about it, because this country was founded by the religious freaks who made nudity a giant taboo. I just don't fit in in this country.  | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:26:17 AM | | Well i guess to sum the arguement up, it's okay if you and the child don't have an issue with it and if they do then you should respect that! Which takes us right back to the OP because he already stated he had an issue with it. Next time lock the door! Simple really!!! | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/20/2008 9:52:21 AM | Ok. I didn't read all the posts so forgive me if I say something already said.
Kids are exposed to all kinds of sexualy linked images through mass media all the time. It is a proven fact that children are entering into puberty at younger ages and one line of thought says it is from the exposure to so much sexual images from the media that it is causing the brain to release the hormones which kick in puberty at a younger age. SEX SELLS.
My take is that its totally fine for kids to see naked people of all kinds in healthy settings such as the home since they are already being exposed to it all over the place. If your lucky enough to live on a farm with critters then the kids see animals (which we are by the way) even having sex. Being naked is normal, sex is normal, sexuality is normal. Hiding these things from children is not only delusional thinking it is also going to give them baggage they don't need.
I would rather my children see me naked and understand how people develop and know me for the human that I am rather than purvey some myth about me being some kind of strange diety that so many parents want their children to see them as. My kids know I am into naked (hell, I garden naked) yet they don't choose to be that way themselves which is fine, as it was their choice and not something I did to them by scarring them in some way.
I think being comfortable in ones own skin goes a long way in modeling what having a healthy self esteem looks like to a child. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 2:12:48 PM | My Son is 4 and he sees me naked all the time.. we get changed together in the mornings - it's part of our ritual of getting ready. He knows i have boobs ( and so he should they fed him for 7 weeks ) and why should i be embarassed about that...? i was getting them out in bl00dy shopping centres in front of total strangers so that i could feed him so my Son seeing them now is NO problem..!
He will also point to my stomach at my marks and say " i gave you those did'nt i mummy " there is no misunderstanding with him.. he knows all the "bits" and at this time there is no need to fully go into things. But he has not suffered by seeing me naked,and i doubt he ever will. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 6:20:48 AM | Oh the naivity, 711,
Check the statutes in your area. I'm pretty sure, even in red-neck Alberta that nudity in the house is not a misdemeanor, let alone a capital offense. You need to stick your head out the door and notice that everyone does not think the same way. Lots of people don't like censorship but they censor themselves around their friends and family. My body isn't evil or disgusting and I doubt yours is either. It's the way I was made and if I have to spend my life being sorry for that then why didn't god make us with clothes on? | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 8:03:13 AM | | I don't have a problem with my kids seeing me naked, but I would have a problem with a non parent running around the house that way. Lock the door, use a little discretion. No kid deserves to witness your short comings. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 9:25:22 AM | know a few people who take the whole family to naturist campsites, everyone goes naked there and it seems like no big deal. Seems the kids grow up with less hang ups about being nude....
looks to me like the bloke in a relationship was having a shower, kid burst in and he got wound up
no big deal, freaking out will only make the kid question it all deeper
was round a friend's house having a sit down session when the door burst open and all his kids burst in "for a look" took a long while to persude them to leave :)
door is firmly locked since then... | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/22/2008 10:56:12 AM |
Has anyone asked who was looking after the child while your girlfriend joined you in the shower??
Do you hire a babysitter so you can bathe?
I leave her watching tv or playing a game while I shower, also I leave the bathroom door unlocked in case she needs me for anything while I am bathing. | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/22/2008 11:56:08 AM | HELLO EVERY ONE this is not about a child seeing a child naked it is about a child seeign an adult of the opposite sex naked!!!!! As I said before in the Province of Alberta you children coan be APPREHENDED BY CHILD WELFARE!!!!! Catch on it is classified as abuse....\
Get a grip on yourself, your outlandish reactions and, if possible, the truth. Hysteria is unbecoming in one so young.
It is not illegal to be naked in your own shower anywhere outside of the Sudan, and then only if you are property. I mean, female. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 1:59:49 PM | If it is not your child ... then there she should absolutely not see you nude.
If it is your child ... that's when you need to find a medium . So the child knows that you don't need to be ashamed of your body, but that it's also a private thing and should not be shown to everyone. You don't want a child growing up with a complex about nudity, but you need to teach a child (at a young age) that her body is private and there are certain times that it is okay to be naked (I taught my children what to do if someone wants to see them naked or touch them at the age of 4 ... can't be too cautious these days).
Point is - not your child - don't let her look. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 12:48:50 AM | | What u did was right, children need to respect privacy at all times, my kids are 5 and 7 and once they were at the talking stage I felt that it was inappropriate that they be in the room when I changed my clothes or showered, it teaches them respect for others. | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:03:03 PM |
Your girlfriend should not be a mother, scary really and sad at the same time
That, my friend is hilarious. Why should I not be a mother pray tell?
Because I don't believe my daughter would be damaged by seeing a penis or that I think she would be more damaged in the long run for being screamed at for looking at said penis?
His kid sees me naked every time we go the swimming pool. Should I be condemned for allowing her to see my boobs?
Tell me Fred, if your daughter walked in the bathroom and saw your willy, would you scream at her or ask her politely to give you privacy? | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:44:41 PM | | My Mom would walk around the house letting it all hang out, "there's nothing wrong with the human body" she would say. Uh, not cool people. Hell no, my kids don't see me naked. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 11:28:16 PM | | I have two young children... Single parent my daughter uses the toliet when i'm in the shower she's 7 and my son wonders in and out telling me what his cars are doing or what cartoon is on..... I don't sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend when they are home... I didn't sleep in the same bed with my x husband until we got engaged.... You never know how long a relationship will last...... I as a child walk in the bathroom when my dads friend was goin pee..... It had no effect... Wouldn't remember it if i wasn't reminded / told about it..... | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:55:10 PM | | @op...i understand the child was asleep and woke up to go to the bathroom ? you just happen to be there, not expecting her to walk in on you.... dont worry bout it...she is just as shocked as you are....she probably wont remember any of this next week. but do talk and give her an explaination, that you fergot to lock the door and you didnt mean to yell at her...this will reinsure her. she wont be to scared next time to get up and go to the bathroom, worring if your gonna be in there again. sometimes after a situation like that, a child can be afraid to get up. hope this helps you. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 7:22:02 PM | | Amen, I agree. How are your gonna keep your 13 year old daughter from showering with her boyfriend when she sees you showering with yours when she is 4. | |
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:47:08 AM | Its not ok..
Now if it was your son, that may be different.
As well as, my ex and my daughter, get dressed in the same room sometimes.
That I consider acceptable. For the opposite sex, no I don't think so. Thats just
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:10:18 AM | we are all born into this world naked and if you are ashamed of that then there are serious issues.
it is appropraite for a child to see a parent naked. As long as the child realises that their body is their own and that their boundaries of privacy are respected and equally respect the ones you set..then all is well.
if we were not meant to be seen naked then we would all have been born with clothes on!
My kids see me naked every day..no big deal..i dont shower with clothes on and if they see me getting dressed...i dont freak.
I knock on their bedroom doors before i enter and if they dont want me to see them in a state of undress they can ask me to wait.
I would add that i dont consider it appropriate for a child to see a non parent wandering around naked
Lou
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| is it okay for kids to see you naked?
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:02:28 AM |
Your girlfriend should not be a mother, scary really and sad at the same time That, my friend is hilarious. Why should I not be a mother pray tell?
In my opinion you have a lackadaisical attitude about exposing your child to things she should not be exposed to and not protecting your child. Your reaction confirms my beliefs.
Because I don't believe my daughter would be damaged by seeing a penis
Would it be okay with you if I showed her mine? So looking is okay? How about touching? Your boyfriend is your stud that you are not married to. He is a stranger. What about the previous stud or the next. Nudity is one thing but interaction between sexes and adults is another do you understand the difference? I know you think you're in love and everything is peachy that's why you cohabitate in an uncommitted relationship or at least have sleep overs. Good lesson to teach your child. I guess you want your child to shack up with any man that makes her tingly, look mommy I'm just like you. That's not scary to you? Child molesters love women like you. What were you doing in the shower perhaps if she came in earlier she wouldn't see a penis because he was playing hide the slippery salami in the shower. Mommy why was there a towel rack in the shower with you poking your butt? Did you drop the soap, it looked like you were trying to pick it up.
or that I think she would be more damaged in the long run for being screamed at for looking at said penis?
You missed the point. Part of your job of being a parent is teaching your child respect for privacy and moral behavior. Sometimes I think you should be able to get fired from the most important job in the world. It appears you're already screwed up your life, do whatever the hell you want. DO NOT RUIN YOUR CHILD'S LIFE. A good mother protects her children which it doesn't appear that you do which is why I made my original statement.
Screaming should be avoided but sometimes it's an unavoidable reaction. Okay so when your kid is walking down the middle of the street do you scream to get out of there? Or do you say "how cute, she wants to be a traffic cop". When she's playing with the stove do you scream to tell her to stop and not do that anymore? Or do you say, "oh look. how cute shes trying to cook dinner"? Get real lady.
His kid sees me naked every time we go the swimming pool. Should I be condemned for allowing her to see my boobs?
Is his kid a female? Do you shower with men when she see's you? Do you see the difference in your example and how you try to play it down with your absurd comparison?
Tell me Fred, if your daughter walked in the bathroom and saw your willy, would you scream at her or ask her politely to give you privacy?
Yes I would and I've had this conversation before with her and explicitly told her to respect my privacy as I would hers. I have a sink outside my bathroom and told her if she came over to announce herself and do not approach without permission if I was there. She thought that was ridiculous as she thinks many of my rules are. It's called PARENTING. I teach her to protect herself and close the bathroom door when she's in there and lock it when others are around. I teach her to be aware and protect herself from perverts and child molesters she may run into. It's a big bad world out there you're bringing the wrong parts of it into your home and exposing your minor children to danger.
Yes you scare me as a parent and I think it is sad. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:57:53 PM |
What were you doing in the shower perhaps if she came in earlier she wouldn't see a penis because he was playing hide the slippery salami in the shower.
Generally when people have shower they do so to clean themselves. You know...soap, shampoo...maybe a pretty puff to scrub (yours is probably nasty from lack of cleanliness). People generally shower for personal hygiene (google it if you are unsure)
Not everyone has a shower with their partner just so they can have s e x in the bathroom.
Your boyfriend is your stud that you are not married to.He is a stranger.
What an ignorant statement. I was with my last boyfriend for 8 years, how long does it take before he is no longer a 'stranger'?
that's why you cohabitate in an uncommitted relationship
hmm I co-habitated in an uncommited relationship when I had my children. The kids are totally horribly ruined!!
It appears you're already screwed up your life, do whatever the hell you want.
Screwed up my life how? By having wonderful loving kids who have a fantastic father figure to look up to, unlike yourself who is single. | |
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