| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/3/2009 9:00:55 AM | I had a friend in college who was dating a surprisingly good looking girl (awful thing to say...sorry) and apparently, she wanted to improve his kissing style and he refused to let her.
I have no problem with it. I want her to tell me what she likes. I don't necessarily want to hear, "Your kisses suck, do it this way." But she could say, "you know what turns me on is when you do such and such." | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/9/2009 3:09:54 AM |
widowedmom...I do believe that often the way a man kisses you is a clue to the way he would make love with you. I have found in the past that a terrific kisser is often a terrific lover. Perhaps it is because the same attention you take to learn to kiss a new partner, is the same attention you take to learn to make love with them. It is something unique to the pair. It is all about the dance.
I could not agree with you more .....
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kevoh
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/19/2009 10:34:29 AM | | Every kiss is a learning experience!!!! You can tell alot about a woman when you kiss her and it can change from minute to minute. The real key is being able to read the touch and the feel of each kiss. A kiss is somthing that is different with every person and i think "teach" is a strong word. If it is really right between two people then it will happen naturally and you will know what is right as it happens. A kiss is more about feelings and personal connection. In my opinion it can't be taught it has to be experienced and grow from the emotions of each other at the time it happens. Now if you mean would i follow my lover's lead as we kissed and make her feel the passion and love that i feel in a way that i kissed her then yes i can be taught like that. But that is more about love and emotion connection then being taught to kiss! | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/19/2009 10:45:25 AM | | As posts have already said, you can tell a lot about a person's love making style by the way they kiss. If I was with a woman whose kisses completely intoxicated me then I would be open to letting her pink cushions of experience take my lips on a sensual journey. It would be the first step in learning her body and preparing for what might end up being a beautiful love-making experience. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/19/2009 11:57:02 AM |
Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Sure. I don't think I have a problem with this but it would be interesting to see another person's style. I'm always up to something new.
Would you be annoyed if someone told you that you were a bad kisser?
Maybe slightly annoyed but I wouldn't be torn up about it or anything. People have their own likes and dislikes after all. Just out of curiosity, do people actually blurt this stuff out?
Would you end the date there?
Not unless he was a total jerk about it.
Would you be mortally offended if your date suggested "teaching" you?
No. If done in the right way it might be cute.
Would you actually do what he suggested?
If it wasn't a joke type of thing and they were genuinely into it, then sure. Nothing wrong with broadening one's horizons. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/19/2009 12:26:41 PM | Idk,I would take the advice whole heatedly but in the back of my mind I'd know that it wouldn't last and I'll more than likely use what she taught me with another woman.I know that's shallow but that's what always kinda happens,pick up a trick then inevitably end up moving on  | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/19/2009 1:13:25 PM |
What I want to know is:
Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Would you be annoyed if someone told you that you were a bad kisser?
Would you end the date there?
Would you be mortally offended if your date suggested "teaching" you?
Would you actually do what he suggested?
Well, let's see...
- Yes, I would let someone teach me how to kiss (how do you think I learned the first time, right?)
- Annoyed? No. Embarrassed? Yes.
- No, I wouldn't end the date there - I'd have to think quick and employ my "silver tongue" to get me outta the jam, likely with a story about how "I'm just out of practice - but practice makes perfect..." lmao
- Offended? Not at all. Again, see: embarrassed
- Um...I would do what SHE suggested, yes. LOL.
Everyone has different standards of excellence they have come to expect from a kiss. A kiss, being in my mind one of the most intimate acts shared between people, needs to be handled with care. Some like the full on, tongue draggin' liplocks...some like the smooth darting of tongues instead...some like the 30 minutes epic kisses that seem to know nothing about time or space...some feel claustrophobic after 15 seconds...some don't even like tongues involved at all...some like licks...some like nibbles and biting/pulling...
It pays to diversify, and let her lead. This is what I've found. Let her kiss you and see how she likes it, and if you're at least good at what you do, you can keep up and acclimate easily enough.
I've seen some people get rampantly offended if anyone suggested they needed to be taught how to kiss, or didn't do it "right"...but that's just ego bruising. As for me, I like to deliver what they like to the best of my ability and willingness to play along, so if I can't quite get them "there" with my kiss, and they have suggestions to improve...why would I say no?
Kissing is a huge thing for me. I like it to be done "right" just like they do.
Getting offended or annoyed is just juvenile. | |
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Achmud
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/19/2009 1:44:09 PM | Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Yeah, if I can improve on something then i will do just that.
Would you be annoyed if someone told you that you were a bad kisser?
Would go absolutely ballistic! If I was a bad kisser then why is she sucking me off!
Would you end the date there?
Might as well end it. Its embarrassing for me and what fun is "she" gonna get out of it
Would you be mortally offended if your date suggested "teaching" you?
We all had to start sometime. Might as well take the opportunity to learn even if you dont like here so you can take the experience to a bird you would actualy like.
Would you actually do what he suggested?
He?!? im not f'ing like that! | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/20/2009 3:13:33 AM | | I can accept criticism and i would let someone teach me to kiss, but i would prob feel bad. maybe it's just how you kiss them tthat they want to change? some folks like a little harder, some like softer.... | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/20/2009 4:11:20 AM | | People either match for kissing or they don't, there's no teaching. It's far too subjective and personal. I will never forget the best kisser I've ever been with. When i was 18, I spent a night with a girl by the name of Petra, and all we did was kiss and pet a bit - sans drugs and only a few drinks - and it was still the most amazing thing to this day. We just clicked in that regard. There have been women who have been better and worse at everything else, but she was the best kisser I've ever had. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/20/2009 4:12:23 AM | haha ur seriously asking this question
in grade school u just kinda learn how to kiss..
especially when ur playing mommies and daddies at the club house | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:23:26 PM | This forum and the responses have been very interesting. I am amused at those who would be annoyed, offended or unwilling to be "taught." I also wonder at those who feel something like this can't be learned...that it is inate based on "passion."
Think back to your first time. Were you not taught by that person and wasn't it based upon what "style" and reponses they had to teach you? So, did you kiss everyone after that the same way or did you adapt? Kissing is person-al, not universal, like, say learning math. I really don't think we come out of the womb knowing...and the best kisser is the one that adapts to the smell, shape, feel and responses of the one they are kissing. Afterall, they are the one rating you, now.
Personally, I say teach me! It's an expression of what someone likes and how they want to be kissed. If they are special enough to kiss, aren't they special enough to be kissed they way they want? Besides, when it comes to expressing passion through the kiss; no ego should be involved. It's not about you, if you're really as good as you say you are, now, is it? | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/21/2009 8:43:20 PM | 1. I am the Kiss Commander! Don't nobody nake a women's toes curl and panties damp like me.
However:
Every woman has her own definition of the perfect kiss. So if I'm into a girl, I will eventually ask hee to kiss me the way she likes while I stay passive.
Usually it is some varient of the way I kiss. I keep it mind and use that modification sometimes. Told you, I'm the Kiss Commander.
But if it's weird, like going for my uvula, I simply stop her and tell her that doesn't work for me. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/21/2009 8:54:52 PM | lol one is never too old to learn at all... if someone thought i was a bad kisser ... I am game to learn... it has never happened yet...
It would not ruffle MY feathers... I leave that for MEN... lol | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 3/21/2009 9:05:42 PM |
Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Yes. But not if they charged money for the lesson.
Would you be annoyed if someone told you that you were a bad kisser?
Somewhat. Not because they said I was a bad kisser, but because it means they don't see it as a reciprocating process that is subjective to the people involved. Or they are unable to communicate effectively.
I wouldn't be offended if she said the kiss was horrible, or the kiss was bad, and then wanted to show/tell me how I could improve what was bothering her.
Would you end the date there?
Depends on how bad the kiss was. If the problem was my, or their, technique then no. If I ended up with pink eye and a hairlip then yes.
Would you be mortally offended if your date suggested "teaching" you?
Quite the opposite. It would mean she wants to continue kissing me.
Would you actually do what he suggested?
I may be a little homophobic here, but if a guy started telling me how I was kissing them incorrectly then I was either slipped something or drank too much. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
If "she" told me something then I would do it, if it did not hamper my enjoyment then great. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 6/2/2009 9:54:36 PM |
Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
I already know how.
Would you be annoyed if someone told you that you were a bad kisser?
Not at all. Would just mean we aren't compatible
Would you end the date there?
No, but there wouldn't be another date after that one. If we don't mesh with kissing, we aren't going to mesh in a relationship.
Would you be mortally offended if your date suggested "teaching" you?
Not at all. But he should realize that he needs to learn to kiss the way I like it if he's suggesting he teach me.
Would you actually do what he suggested
nope. I like how I kiss. The one I'm meant to be with will like it too and I'll like his style. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 6/3/2009 5:24:54 AM | never had to be taught how to kiss....but if I were that bad I might get a lesson or two from a date if offered but after that prob drop the deal.... | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 6/3/2009 6:53:22 AM | Ultimately aren't we all taught how to kiss every time we kiss someone new?
Anyone who enjoys kissing for the intimate and exquisite experience it is pays attention to what they are doing and the reaction it inspires......... By paying attention you learn what your new partner likes, and ultimately each couple develops their own style of kissing that melds their likes and experiences.....
I know that each relationship I have been in has developed its own unique style of kissing. None was better or worse than the other....... It worked for both of us in the relationship.......
Kissing is about sharing the most intimate thing two people can share......We owe it to our partners to learn about what they like and combine it with our likes into a unique style and experience.....
Some of you need to get over yourselves and your arrogance. Kissing is not just all about you and your perceived skills and abilities. Kissing is a shared experience. What you think you know and what was good for previous partners may not work for your current. Kissing a new partner is a path of discovery...... | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 6/3/2009 8:37:37 AM |
Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
I'd be willing to let someone teach me how to kiss them. The opportunity to please them with my lips is something I take pride in. And kissing being so important to me, I'd be more than willing to learn. | |
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| Would you let someone teach you how to kiss?
Posted: 7/16/2009 11:32:00 PM | I don't remember any woman telling me that I was a bad kisser. I've had a couple women who just preferred to kiss differently than I do. I like a long, romantic kiss to be slightly wet while they preferred dry kisses. It took awhile but I finally accepted it. After all we were in a long term relationship.
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