| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:24:01 PM |
So POF, are roses really THAT serious to you guys?
They can be! Especially if you're dating someone exclusively and one of their roses "mysteriously" disappears... and you didn't get it! 
But that can be a blessing in disguise. Had that not happened, I would not have been single and available when my sweetheart came knocking on my door!  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:28:59 PM | | The roses and gift points that you earn on POF were designed to keep you coming back and to give you the tools to hopefully start a conversation. However I simply consider my rose count as well as my points count as mearly a reminder of how long I have been here. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:49:04 PM | I don't take anything given to me (virtually or in the real world) by someone who does not know me.
My name happens to be the same as the subject of discussion...and because of it, I receive more than my fair share of the single red rose at the first meet. I know the guy is trying to impress me and be thoughtful....I often get the old line: "a rose for a rose" or " a rose by any other name.....". I don't mean to sound ungrateful, because I DO think it is sweet of a guy to take the time to present me with a rose at the meet....but really....the virtual rose? Come'on....it's just a virtual rose...NBD (no big deal).
Now IF my guy and I were in what I thought was an exclusive relationship AND I found out he was passing out roses to other ladies.....THEN I'd be a little miffed. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:50:28 PM | I admit, you guys are making some good points. You can see that a rose is missing but one thing you can't see is the reasoning behind. I gave mine to a forum friend who was having a bad day and didn't have no idea it said be mine until I sent it.
Well I guess if you want to find out if that man or woman is a POF player, all you have to do ask them to send you a rose and see what happens. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:07:17 PM | Roses or their absence provides some information on the men who have contacted you. The problem is too often the "information" is inaccurate or misleading. Personally, don't care for the roses or other virtual gifts.
However, real flowers are truly wonderful. Love getting them anytime! | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:59:26 PM | Although I would much prefer the real thing, I would have to say getting a gift or a rose on here touches my heart and puts a smile on my face. Face it everyone...... we all could use a pick me up once in awhile.
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:08:51 PM | umm - they aren't 'real'.
Sorry.
Next week we will be discussing Santa Claus.
Virtual roses - sheesh! I remember another thread on them, right after I read it I sent one rose to some guy who never responded (didn't expect him to! lol) - the other I sent to myself, and if that guy knew what I did for that fake rose - he mighta responded tooo! lol
(I said lol!)
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:10:38 PM |
** She's on this site and is cool with me asking this on a forum**
Wow!!!!! At least she gave you permission to ask a question. Just curious how does she react when you talk to a lady teller at the bank? This woman sounds a bit mental in my opinion if you have to get permission to to do something as simple as ask a question on a public forum.
Wish you all the luck with this one bud. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:18:40 PM | Wow!!!!! At least she gave you permission to ask a question. Just curious how does she react when you talk to a lady teller at the bank?
No she isn't mental. She is the least jealous woman I've ever met. It's not the fact that I gave someone a rose, it's the fact I gave it to someone else and when I messaged her i didn't. It's more ego than anyting.
This woman sounds a bit mental in my opinion if you have to get permission to to do something as simple as ask a question on a public forum.
It's called being respectful and courteous. I didn't HAVE to ask her, I just felt it was the right thing to do. Although this is VERY minor, I don't want her to think I would air any of our dirty laundry in a public forum. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:25:39 PM | | Despite the fact that they are only virtual, they certainly can be an key indicator of somones intentions. I myself like both and try to surprise my Honey, with the real thing, which is a feat all in itself. Romance is certainly not dead and this is just another way to show someone that they are special. The one thing to remember though, even though they may be virtual, thorns are still thorns. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:01:03 PM | "Wow!!!!! At least she gave you permission to ask a question. Just curious how does she react when you talk to a lady teller at the bank? This woman sounds a bit mental in my opinion if you have to get permission to to do something as simple as ask a question on a public forum." Cleve rides again
Do you realize just how judgemental this sounds? Where does it say that he ASKED for her PERMISSION? I think the OP was just clarifying in his original statement that his gf is aware that he is posting this....and my guess would be he did that in order to head off any possible posting from someone who ASSUMED that he was doing anything (such as being on a dating site) behind her back. And from his statements, you have deemed his gf as "a bit mental"?
Would it be possible that I could assume you to be misogynistic, based on your post? And to help you out, just in case you don't know the meaning of the big word: misogynistic = woman hater.
Sorry, I am really not directing this at you...even though it really does appear that I am. I constantly read posts from others where the poster either takes something out of context...or reads things into what the OP wrote that really wasn't there...or jumps to conclusions that aren't really there...OR just plain does not read the entire posting and thus goes off in a direction that really does not apply.
Sorry, I know that I am off topic....but I have read type of response to an original post and this one was the perverbial straw. There are just sometimes when I just gotta say "ARRRRRGGGHHH"
Back to our scheduled programming. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:02:18 PM | | If I see that a guy has no roses left, then I think he is very busy chatting up other women. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:08:09 PM | um... not really.
yes it is a nice gesture, but they ARE virtual roses.
besides, who else sees them but me.
@southernbandit...
thanks for the reminder... i might even hit the 10000 point mark.
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:22:23 PM | I could care less about sending or getting online roses. But if they could figure out how someone could send me some online lasagna that I could eat I would be impressed as hell | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:33:47 PM |
I know it might sound so silly but ya I have to admit it would bother me as well.
You start talking to someone you find a conection with and then you look at their profile and a rose has been sent out and not to me. I would have to ask about it. It must be it is a "Be Mine" rose and I would have figured you met someone you conected with more than with me and I would have moved on, but I would ask first lol.
I would ahve done the same thing she did. As with her I would have responded but I would have taken a few seconds before I did
I, too would feel the same thing. I noticed a man who had zero roses. Well, I know that in the course of 30 days he gave out two roses. It's safer to give those gifts where we use points. No one can see those or how many you have given out. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:44:05 PM | When I was actually "looking" on PoF then, yes, the state of a girl's "rose count" was significant to me. I did not contact any girl that did not have her roses intact [that sounded almost virginal didn't it?], because it told me that she had, or was trying to develop, an interest with someone.
Sure, they are free, and not real, but, in my eyes, they are symbolic.
I never sent one. Sent a few free flowers and teddy bears, which might be the way to go if (OP) you are just trying to cheer someone up.
BE MINE signifies more than a passing interest, or should anyway. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:44:32 PM | My rule: Don't send roses....Implies misconceived message to others...
eg.Women you are already talking to will throw ya back with the other fishies. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:45:24 PM | I'm having a hard time believing that some people wouldn't talk to someone based upon the fact that all their virtual [meaningless] roses have been given away. Almost as dumb as not talking to someone because lots of people have them listed as a favorite.
When I was actually "looking" on PoF then, yes, the state of a girl's "rose count" was significant to me. I did not contact any girl that did not have her roses intact [that sounded almost virginal didn't it?], because it told me that she had, or was trying to develop, an interest with someone.
This is a dating site. Is it really that big of a shocker that she was *gasp* trying to develop relationships with other people before you came along?
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:47:05 PM | gulfptgirl...... I just wanted to thank you for the rose you sent, it was very thoughtful of you  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:48:46 PM | I do not have a problem with you sending the PICTURE of the rose to brighten up someone's day. It is the words "BE MINE" accompanying the rose that would bother me. It would realy annoy me if you were somewhat interested in me and sent the rose to someone else with the words "be mine"...
Like it has been mentioned, I would think you are more interested in the other woman than me and yes, I would let the current take me to an other area of this pond.
You know, come to think of it, I would prefer that the words taken off...
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:55:08 PM | | Well.......considering my fiance' also has a profile on here (we both like the forums) I would say those roses are pretty darn important. If he is missing one it had better be in my inbox....grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:59:06 PM | Some give gifts or flowers (real or virtual) simply to be thoughtful.
Others to be romantic. Others to apologize. A person sending one here-
Could be a player
Could be sending a sorry you're sick or you got dumped flower to a friend.
Could be signaling genuine romantic feelings.
In cyberspace, assumptions takes the place of questions,
Email replaces human interaction...
And communication fails.
I'd rather get something real that I can see, smell and, best of all, kiss the giver for. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/13/2007 8:08:20 PM |
Virtual roses here are a dime a dozen
ummm, not even...........there like.....zero a dozen ....
i much prefer the virtual gifts they have to spend their points on......can't be accepting freebies, people might think i'm cheap...............
i suppose if i was interested in someone it might irk me to see that he had sent out a rose...but at the same time, i'd think it was cheezy if he sent one to me.......... | |
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