| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:24:10 AM | | People are usually talking/dating more than one person - after all - that's what dating is all about. How can you possibly claim exclusivity over someone with whom you've never met....whenever I see something like that type of behaviour reer its ugly head - I run in the opposite direction! | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:31:30 AM | so sexyfungy is the opposite direction east or west?
And would you like a rose when "they" replenish those that I have sent out without any respect at all for their virtual validity, not to mention great value?
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A.S.is
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:37:29 AM | | Well if s/he is that much into you and wants to forever be with you, what better way to tell someone than with a rose and/or a gift. I like recieving gifts and flowers, what woman wouldn't? | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:14:49 AM | somebody who doesn't like flowers is not a nice person
if someone does not like virtual rose saying "it's not real"
basically should leave PoF now, as first letters here are also "not real letters on paper" so she won't appreciate it either.
basically these are the negative people that do not smile and have a bad attitude to live. just feel sorry about them, poor ones that cannot even appreciate a PoF rose | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:24:43 AM |
the virtual gifts are just a bit of fun.....
however the two roses that are at the end of the profile ...can be viewed as disappearing. The rose has a card that says "be mine" and I have never sent it because ...
1. everyone can see you sent it
2. I wouldn't send something that said "be mine" unless I meant it.
So yeah if I look at a profile and see a rose is gone...then I am gonna think that they are really interested in someone....and its not me. LOL
I agree ~squirrly~. I think that was Marcus's intention with the roses. So we could see if Mr. or Mrs. Dater was fixating on someone else, when we thought that they were "fixating" on us.
I don't like the roses myself. I think they open up a whole lotta angst. Even if you question why someone only has one (or none) roses left... And we are given a plausible reason... I think we're still going to have a bit of doubt in the back of our mind if it was the truth or not.
Granted, they are only "virtual" and not real. However, the intent of what they COULD mean to the person that has sent one, is what can fvck us up. IMHO of course.
Msg #70
i like getting pof roses.it shows an interest.and it sweet and thoughtful...show that you care about that person..along with the other gifts on here..tey might not be real..but its the thought that counts
Picture this... You and a guy have been chatting for sometime and hitting it off.
you've even dated and it seems like things are progressing nicely with this guy. You look forward to your next date that has already been planned for the following night.
~ You log in and notice that he has just given away a rose... and It wasn't to YOU.
What would your very first reaction be? | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:48:27 AM | | This comes from a romantic mind though so to me, since they say "Be mine", they are an indicator of interest and if I notice a woman has one or none of her roses, I figure she is interested in someone and I will not contact her. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:53:49 AM | | Do you realize how stupid that sounds though? Maybe she and the person have lost contact since she sent it? Maybe she sent it to a friend? Perhaps she doesn't place as much emphasis on a virtual rose as you do? I've had people send me roses upon first contact--nothing special there at all. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:56:40 AM |
~ You log in and notice that he has just given away a rose... and It wasn't to YOU.
What would your very first reaction be?
1. That he is dating/speaking with someone else that is progressing further than I thought we were. Not so much that there are "others" - but that he cares about/is interested in another enough to publicly demonstrate that there is another.
2. My thinking obviously needs to have the "reset button" hit because my thinking is getting ahead of "what's really so".
3. Reactive moment of "I'm not going to join anyone else's parade" - likely modified to "I'll back off for a bit and dial my reaction to him WAAAAY down and see what develops" because people do meet/speak with more than one person initially.
4. I'll still see him tomorrow night, depending on what he says when I ask about the rose - but with a pocket of space that wasn't there before. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 9:14:41 AM | ^^^ exactly my point Margo... and now the seed of doubt has been planted where there was none before.
Maybe she and the person have lost contact since she sent it? Maybe she sent it to a friend? Perhaps she doesn't place as much emphasis on a virtual rose as you do?
^^^ also my point. The ambiguity of the "intent" of the sender. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 9:24:03 AM | Since the roses are replenished in 30 days, if one is gone it was given away less than 30 days ago and I personally think they mean something, even if they are just virtual. What emphasis anyone else places on the roses is all theirs  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 9:49:36 AM | | I grow the real deal for Mother Nature...and the beetles! Good thing there's Sevin. Now, if they'd only come up with some type of sh1tpacker repellant. Now, you're cookin' with gas! | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:01:09 AM | | It's always a nice gesture to receive a rose, but you have to be careful when you send it. The person might feel uncomfortable or get the wrong impression unless you explain yourself. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:04:38 AM | | There is only one person I want a rose from...the real kind or the POF kind. I've sent him one, but so far I haven't gotten one from him. I just think it's a sweet gesture. Of course, when I say "Be Mine", I mean it! | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:09:24 AM | Well.. I did the same thing as the OP's new gf.
I stop chatting with a fellow when I saw that he had sent roses.. and not to me. Clearly, he was chatting up someone else and equally clearly he was interested in that person and not me.
I have received messages from men.. when I looked at their profiles I would see they had sent roses to someone ... I back off.
I have asked about it... and have never gotten a reply. So, it is clear that my "take" on the meaning of the roses wasn't far from the truth. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 4:59:39 PM |
I have asked about it... and have never gotten a reply
Maybe they figured that if a picture of a rose is that big of a deal to you then why bother. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 5:56:09 PM | | well It is always something I look at, a man that has no roses is probably a player, It is a good indication of a man's agenda yes I would have to think about talking to a man that had no roses each month............. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:03:33 PM | | I would have to agree with her because if I were really interested in someone and we were supposed to be talking of a relationship then him giving a rose to someone else and leaving me out would seem as though I wasn't his only one. Not even the only one for this site. And the rose to them would seem as if she were the more important of us two. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:37:05 PM | I can't lie about this (lol) ............as silly as it may seem to some, I also pay attention to how many roses are on someone's profile when they contact me. I also agree that Marcus should consider removing this feature (along with the favorites) from public view.
Anyway, congrats Mag and Cali and here's wishing you both the very best for the future.
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 9:22:34 PM | I kinda like the roses. I don't care if someone has 0, 1, or 2 left on their profiles. Maybe they sent them to a friend, maybe they sent them as a way to break the ice, it really doesn't matter. I send my to girlfriends, to good male friends, whatever.
Personally, I think its sweet. I'm a romantic at heart, and I like flowers, real and virtual. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 9:41:15 PM | How important are POF roses?
To me - not at all.
In all honesty, I really don't notice if a person has all - or none - of their roses.
I know for myself I occasionally send roses to friends. Just for fun.
But what I do know is this - if somebody is so uptight as to read such DEEP meaning into my rose count... that person is probably too uptight for me.
Here's a thought - ASK HER/HIM. If somebody is incapable of basic communication, I kn0w they are not a good match for me. Been there, done that. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 9:54:22 PM | I got 2 from a guy, at the same time, and just told him it was very sweet and thank you. I had no idea they meant that much.  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:10:12 PM | if i see a guy has sent out both of his roses and is telling me he is super interested in me i feel he is being fake and dishonest. yes i have sent out A rose before...but it was to a guy i had met up with several times and even met his family...didnt work out but i was honest in only sending ONE rose out to the ONE guy i was interested in having something further with.  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:06:52 AM | Does anyone want my roses? I wanna get rid of them.
They get in the way and the pedals keep falling in my beer.
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