| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:22:26 AM | ^^^ I'll takes them. . . I'm kinda desperate that way lol
This whole thread is direct evidence that the Roses Do Not Work as (I believe) Marcus intended them to.
If everybody read the original thread that Marcus started when he created the virtual rose, you would see that many of the people using them to "send to a sad friend", "as a first contact wink " etc. are not using them as Marcus intended. He has given us the virtual gifts for such purposes.
They say "Be Mine" ... that in itself kinda gives some meaning into their intent. That being; to make us aware of someone whose intentions are not as honourable as we may have first thought. Or, to send to someone who actually means, or is starting to mean something to us. I would guess that that is why he made them visible to all rather then keeping your lack thereof private. (see my example in msg #80)
If I'm wrong Marcus... please correct me. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:28:12 AM | | "Uptight is subjective... I wonder how may in your age group think that You are already uptight? | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:37:22 AM | same for me, in my age group. This is one thread about our opinion. Doesn't makes us uptight.
It would have been nicer if you had said "a lot of people seem to be uptight about this subject" rather than bringing age or the presumption that one's opinion makes them uptight in general. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:48:13 AM | | Well good thing I'm not worried about appearing 'nice'. I am just incredulous at how much meaning people attach to virtual objects. I mean, a man who has no roses=a player? So sending someone a picture of a rose means you are a player? In my opinion, this can only be described as uptight and neurotic to the nth degree. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:50:40 AM | I think they're ok to receive, nice jesture....I always thank that person, tell them I put them in water...... it's a good ice-breaker.....ya never know. Actually, I have given them to a good 'woman' friend of mine, told her she could keep the rose, but the 'be mine' part I'm saving for the 'right male friend' who may or may not show up on this site......happy fishin' 
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:59:06 AM | Damn!, you guys have got me thinking about it now.I rarely send mine out and don't even bother to know, if a girl has sent hers out or not.I didn't attach too much importance to it but now I gotta think twice  : . . | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 9:17:06 AM | The roses are just a gimmick the site offers, nothing more, nothing less... but for someone to get insulted, feeling entitled to a "rose" from someone, a stranger, who's just contacted her for the first time?
I have to say the real issue here is not what others think about giving roses. The real issue you ought to be concerned with is that this is part of her attitude (if it wasn't, she wouldn't have reacted that way - ever) and this kind of attitude will surface again in other ways and can bite you on your butt eventually.
I mean, when you first contacted her, instead of her thinking, "oooh, cute guy! Let me get to know him better", she checks out your profile but zeroes in on the one gifted rose - and feels "slighted" - and lets you know it in her "sarcastic" response!
What an initial impression that makes! What does that tell you about the person?
But I'll bet you're smitten and you'll close your eyes to these red flags about her character. What a thought, the idea of evaluating someone's character by their actions, rather than closing one's eyes to it and discounting it.
Talk to us in a year when and if you've had some more time with this woman. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 9:31:59 AM |
mean, when you first contacted her, instead of her thinking, "oooh, cute guy! Let me get to know him better", she checks out your profile but zeroes in on the one gifted rose - and feels "slighted" - and lets you know it in her "sarcastic" response!
I'm not talking about "first contact" I'm referring to those you've have already seen or been corresponding with for some length of time.
Anyone who sends one at first contact, probably is new and doesn't know that they say "Be Mine" . | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:05:49 AM |
I'm not talking about "first contact" - stove top
I wasn't posting to you. I'm posting to the OP about his situation. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:13:16 AM | Hey mr. Dynomite!! I'll take yer beer soddin roses - then I can send them to stovetop ! well if I can't resend them - what's the difference ? I'll tell him that I sent them and since they're like my imaginary friend (who hardly ever comes by anymore) - that should make everyone happy!
Dynomite wants to get rid of his cuz they keep leaving peddles in his beer and cuz I soooo enjoy sending them out - it would be my pleasure to please stovetop and from hereon make him the recipient of at least a rose a month.
((Then we'll invite y'all to our virtual marriage - of course there will be a slight difference about the "gifts" at that special event!))
lol
((HEY! I said lol!!)) no offense to virtual rose romantics :D
**One correction: people who don't care for virtual roses are so nice people ya (^&%!!
LOL <<<
(omg I hope they know I'm jokin  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:21:13 AM | So many people with different opinions , different personalities,and attitudes.
Some of us are not that playful to send out meaningless messages to the opposite sex.
It is a virtual rose because this is after all cyberspace !
Can you send a real one here , to someone you are getting to know online ?
If your preferences says you are looking for friends, intimate encounters or dating ,sending your roses to every male , female or whatever is just fine . In that case ,I understand if you are talking to me and sending roses to others, won't bother me at all.
But if I am looking LT and you are too, then two weeks or so into talking , you saying you are very interested in me and you send a "virtual rose " to another tells me you must be more interested in someone else ....why would I want to waste my time on you ? I would consider you a player.
There are some people who never sends out roses, unless they are really interested in someone , I like them better, I understand them .
There are some who never have any roses, it's gone a soon as they come, them ,I see as fickle or too many "friends" ?
It's the principle of the message, are you seriously looking for love , or here to play .
Then why are so many of you complaining of dishonesty,and players online ? | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:52:06 AM | Are POF roses really that serious? ..... ummmm I think that they can be, I've given out two, once upon a time. I gave them to the same guy though, and he really likes roses.
We weren't exclusive, but I treated it as such anyway. There was no one else that I wanted to send the roses to. The second one that I gave him was because he was having a rough day. We ended up becoming great friends.
I remember when I noticed that he had sent a rose that didn't make it into my email.... yeah, it reminded me that he is on a dating site..... it was kinda weird to think about him with other women.
Over a half year later, and we still can't talk about our love lives with complete abandon. We can talk about anything else for hours on end, but dating is still an uncomfortable topic.
I haven't sent out a rose since back then. Who's having a bad day????? I'll send yah a rose!!! | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:56:24 AM | "How important are POF roses?" How important are favorites lists or testimonials?
They're features on a free site. They're as important as you make them yourself. What many don't think about is their importance to someone else may not be the same.
I do think since they're readable and posted it tends to make people think they have to come to some sort of decision as to what any of them are "supposed" to mean. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:56:38 AM | I think the fact that users can see from your profile that you have given one out makes it matter.
However, I do think the virtual gifts are sort of BS because no one else can tell how many points you have nor if you have given one out. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 11:37:49 AM | these little things are nice to recieve but you have to remember they ain't real and act accordingly,
if you had given this other person a "real" rose and a card then she would have a case
my suggestion is this she needs to "wise up" about this rose thing and move on from it or you will end up having this thrown back in your face time and time again | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 11:45:30 AM | it just shows a lil bit more of interest from the person....i dont use them often though...
Yippee ..this my first post here...never been to the forum... | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 12:02:05 PM | my suggestion is this she needs to "wise up" about this rose thing and move on from it or you will end up having this thrown back in your face time and time again
It's not something she would use to throw back in my face. Just something we joke about from time to time. Usually, I bring it up b/c it's so fascinating that anyone can take them seriously.
But after reading these post, I can KINDA see why roses have potential to be a big deal. | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:46:58 PM | I love roses, send them to me, and then you will have to explain at some point what happened to them.  | |
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| How important are POF roses?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:59:45 PM | | I gave mine out by mistake...I attached them instead of my pic . I can't believe anyone would be insulted or slighted about not getting a rose, or feeling like someone is a player because they have none left. Sounds like a big red flag to me. High maintenance or what. The rose givers could very well just be idiots like me! lol | |
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