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Posted: 11/13/2007 6:53:50 PM | | I know that is what everybody said. I know that he isn't the one but I guest I just wanted to know more than what he is willing to say. The "spark" thing doesn't cut it for me. Its just a way out thats all. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 7:14:26 PM | | Again not a man point of view ---- But / Did You Ever See the episode of Sex & City where the guy tells Miranda(character on show) why she has not gotten phone call after 2nd date --- the answer"he is just not into you" well Miranda got it & passed it along to other people even strangers she overheard talking ---- so don't keep wondering & like everyone else is saying -- chalk up to a life experience & move on & get happy ---- as for his emails / sounds like he may just be keeping you on the backburner --- so if you want to cling onto the hope that he may still get back with you keep the communication otherwise save yourself some heartache & just move on---yes there are other fish in the sea -----wake up like Miranda & realize that it is not a bad thing "for someone to not be into you"---think of the people that you are"not into" | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 7:29:26 PM | | Thank you everybody for the input. Ita always nice to hear it from all side. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 5:23:41 AM | | Yes, I admit that I wasn't truthful about my age. I think a lot of women lie about their age as long as they look it. I only did that on my profile to get rid of the much older guys . I am not saying that it is right. The thing is the guy that I went to see, his picture on his profile is seven years old. I could tell that he was not 45. I ask him for a more recent picture before I flew over to see him and so I won't be surprise. Yes, he had put on some weight and also look older. At least my picture is what I am now, so no one is surprise when they meet me. I rather someone tell me their wrong age than show me the wrong picture of themself. It happen to me and people I know a lot. They don't look anything like their picture. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 5:26:15 AM | Hi Mrs. J,
Sounds like at one point the guy really liked you.Or he was a player that didn't care if his family met you or not.That's rare for most men though.If we introduce you to are families,that means "you've got potential" or " your the one".That bieng said I'm inclined to think something changed during your second visit and he didn't tell you at that time. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:02:42 AM | | No, nothing changes . He was still very attentive and loving toward me. We get along great. I am a very easygoing person. I think he never intend to have a relationship with anybody. After I came back from the trip when I didn't hear from him for a week even after I left him a message. I text him a message saying. "why is it we talk before my trip but not now since I came back?" I think he started to feel that I was questioning him like we were in a realationship so he decided to back of. He love to go out and party, I think he was looking for a pretty women by his side when he go out. He was always showing me off to all his friends that he know at all the club we go to. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 11:39:25 AM | You mean that's all it took to get you in the sack??
Looks like I just have to brush up on my 'saying nice things and letting you meet my family' routine before shagging these women and then sending them back on their marry way at the airport security checkpoint........ What the hell have I been doing?? If I had known you women would fly all over the place, hopping in the bed at the slightest illusion of 'chemistry', just to come on here and make it 'the guys fault', I would have offered up all my frequent flyer miles months ago.........
yall crack me up......... | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 3:29:52 PM | | I have never flown to see anybody but him.He really push the issue. Are you saying that if you spend two plane ticket you wouldn'd have want to sleep with her? We were two adult . Needless to say we have been talking for two months before I came the first time. We didn't sleep together until my second trip. So what you are saying is you would not have slept with a women after 8 date? Remember we spend 3 days together the first time. That mean two breakfast, three lunch, and three dinner. So I guest that makes 8 date. Plus lunch and dinner on the second trip. I not blaming him just wanted to know why? I have always thank you him for everything. I even left him a thank you card behind on his bed when i left last. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 3:36:51 PM | You may think the "lack of chemistry" explanation doesn't cut it but a lot of people need some form of chemistry, attraction or spark! He hasn't played you at all. He flew you out twice, gave it time to see if you were what he was looking for and you obviously weren't so he told you. That is being honest....not playing someone.
As for you sleeping with him...it sounds like you slept with him because he paid for the plane tickets and you felt some sort of obligation!
I don't care how much a man spends on me...I will only have sex because I want to. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 3:37:51 PM | sounds like he got what he wanted , and forgot the best . oh well you were tricked . now you know .
i;d say you next time notice were eyes are looking | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 3:38:39 PM | | I hate to be the barer of bad news as you have probably guessed by now, he has found someone else closer or had an old flame he rekindled. Anyway, you will have to move on. I feel for you. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 4:18:56 PM | he benched you MrsJanuary ~ told you it wasn't working for him ~
sorry ~ know it hurts ~ sounds like you'd enjoyed a better ending
There is no telling why ~ another woman I figure
Sound like you are still in the game ~ for now ~ He'd deciding what
he wants ~ kind of like women do when they have options.
~dar | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 4:22:48 PM | | Obviously to him something in your second visit just did not go so great . I doubt he was playing you as he introduced you to his family and actually paid for your tickets there and back twice. It just didn't work out. This is the way it is in dating. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:55:12 PM | I didn't sleep with him out of obligation. I really like the guy. There were chemistry between us. He was all over me the second visit.
The first time after I came back he didn't even return my call until after 2 weeks. My friends was already telling me that it was a red flag. I should have listen. He was such a sweet talker and got me to fall into coming the second time. Sometime I always give people benifit of a doublt so I trusted him. His excuse was he have been so buzy with work. Now with cell phone you can even call when you are on the road. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:04:15 PM | | since he didn't call me back the first time visit until 2 weeks. I guest thing didn't go well with one of his other date so he call me back. Of course my friend said he problaly have a girlfriend in Mississippi. That is where he work. He come home to Houston every other weeken for 4 days. I think he wanted a pretty girl by his side to take to the Labor day-family party in Houston . always wanting to take me out and showing me of to his friend at the bars and night club. There were one comment that he said" lets go dance so we can show of your pretty leggs." I had on a mini dress on that night. thank all for the opinion. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:29:44 PM | A man doesnt fly u out twice & introduce u to the family if he doesnt like you (especially if he has a girlfriend)
So...its gonna be one of two things....
Either the sex was crap or really really good which will make him wonder who & how many u've done before him...OR...
.......his family didnt like you & probably think u have ulterior motives
I dont care how nice they were to ur face, thats the one Im picking^^^ | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:38:01 PM | | It is diffinitely not his family. As for the sex. remember he is 45. There were time when he couldn't get it all up. so the next day he went to get some herbal stuff to help him. Like said in my other post he is alot better when he has some drinking other time he is very late back. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:41:49 PM | | by the way we both were married for 11 years and been divorce for 6. He said that all he have been doing is partying way too much that ia why he took a job in Mississippi because it is a dry city. He still travel to New Orlean to go out. At out age, I hope we both have some experience. He need help on alcohol to perform better though. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 8:02:34 PM | | Players are cheap. They don't spend any money. He flew you twice. He introduced you to his family. Something didn't click with this guy. But I don't think he was playing you, unless the guy has so much money that it doesn't mean anything. But why go for an out of town girl when there may be plenty in town. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 8:06:53 PM | | It doesn't matter how nice and polite someones family is too you they can still dislike you. I have recently dated a guy who everyone in my family disliked but they were always polite ,kind and nice to him. He strongly believed they liked him ,but he was very wrong. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2007 5:30:29 AM | | not to brag, But I am a very easy person to get along. I don't know of any person who doesn't like me when they meet me. I come from a great family and have great values. I am a Cosmetologist and all my client are like a family to me. They all think I am a great person. My friend say taht I have a good heart and it is in it right place. He wanted a girl to have beside him for Labor day weeken. He did not introduce me as his girlfriend to them. Just another girl he brought to a party. his family problay knows that . | |
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Posted: 11/15/2007 6:03:46 AM | | Hmmmm........I don't lie about my age. And I like Men my age. But if I wanted to meet someone I would pay my way. And stay in a motel. It takes more than meeting someone a few times to find out who that person is. I like my playing field to be on the same level each time. And I have figured that i have meant a few people online and half of them lied to me from the get go, the other half are really nice Men with no chemisty but hopefully friends. So if I ever decide to take my chances with someone far away then I would level the playing field by making it even. He flew you out quite a few times so I believe that his intentions were good. I think you were lucky that he was a nice. Because you stayed with someone you hadn't ever had a chance to meet. And you could of been hurt. And as far as him not introducing you as his girlfriend he didn't know you well enough,,,,,,,,,and if he drinks to much and you are still preplexed why he didn't want you then some higher power was looking out for you this is typical of and alcoholics behavior. This isn't whether your a good person or not. You were very lucky to get away from him count your Blessings........ | |
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Posted: 11/15/2007 6:07:58 AM | | Thank you, yes, he was nice, I did stayed in my hotel room the first trip. The second time I stayed with him. I was scared to fly to see him. But he was so assuring that I will be okay. I guest I tend to trust people too much my girlfriend says. He was a builder so to fly me over is pocket change for him. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2007 6:16:24 AM | Just count your Blessings that you didn't get caught up with his alcoholic behaviors. What he did isn't personal against you. It doesn't mean that your any less of a person nice, talented or decent,,,,,,,,,,,it doesn't mean your character isn't great. It also doesn't mean he is a alcoholic but certain things you have said suggested that could be part of his problem. You were probably never know the reasoning behind it and if you did it wouldn't make a difference. Consider yourself lucky. And just because someone has money and its pocket change to them shouldn't matter. It should be pride. I would pay my own way whether they had money or not. That way I wouldn't be swayed by what someone had or didn't have. I tend to be very proud. And that way I can see what a person has in their heart not their pocket. But that is just me.
You will have no problem finding someone wonderful you seem to be very nice I wish you luck...........Smiles Blue | |
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Posted: 11/15/2007 6:33:47 AM | | Thank you, I didn't go for him because of his money. Its is how the guy treat me. I didn't even wanted to come that far. He kept asking me and after a couple of months I decided because of our conversation. I have told him that he has a great heart for people because of the way I see him with his family and friends. I think he got some issue of insecurity. He has to drink to have fun and open up. He doesn't have a bad body but never let me see him without a shirt unless it is in the dark. After we make out he will put his shirt back on. I think it has alot to do with his ex. He is very convidence in his work and talk about it all the time but in everyday life, I am not so sure. | |
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