| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:10:23 AM | Grabs one of badboys brews.... kicks feet up onto desk to read the posts....
Ahhhhhh thanks!!!
OK OK so it isnt a brew its a diet coke!  | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:25:07 AM | Hi there,
Im definately not young but its just another medium used to meet people like anything else. More young people definately because this is what they have grown up with.....the internet! | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:28:40 AM | I've always ignored this but I've always found it funny that it's supposedly more acceptable for older people to be on here when we're supposed to be the techy generation and be all over these things. What with all our time on computers/internet and cells with constant texting going on and all that. Ironically, as much as that's supposed to be true, many at this age would ridicule someone and say how much of a loser they are for being here.
We grew up with the internet being widely available at a (fairly) young age and it's weird that some of us are here? There's also the fact that some of us are actually a little beyond the partying phase that many in this age range are stuck in. So it makes sense you would want to broaden your possibilities to someone more like-minded when it's already extremely hard, why should we be stuck with the real world and the unlikely possibility of meeting someone on the same level 'out there'.
I'm embracing technology and the possibilities of meeting people you wouldn't normally ever meet if you just stuck to the 'real' world out there. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 1:19:59 PM | I think for young people getting on here, if they're not being attention-whores, then it's obvious that things are not easier for the 18-25 year old range.
I know when I was 18-25, most attractive women I met were in their bad boy phase, were not looking for a solid relationship, etc. I imagine the women would also have plenty of stories of guys who just wanted sex, so for the relationship-minded male or female, sometimes you have to get online. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 2:49:20 PM | Think it just easier than trying to meet nice, normal people in nightclubs! I think the cliches of internet dating dont exist any more (I hope!).
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 2:57:34 PM | i think that dating online can be very useful for men and women of any age, the main reason being that u can talk to the potential dates before u meet them...when out and about u cant really sit down and have a long convo like u can on the computer, it gives u a chance to actually interview sum1 before wasting ur time and money datin many diff people that u may not be compatible with.......who cares who else uses this website....if u dont like seein alot of younger men in ur search u can narrow ur search by using that feature on the advanced search option....
good luck
carly | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 3:01:31 PM | | Using the internet for dating purposes is so much easier then "real life". I am young but i work 6 or 7 days a week and am lucky if I get a couple days off a month. I dont like the bar club scene and I live in a small town so meeting people via the internet is easier and gives me access to a broader group of people that dont think I am crazy for not going out partying, too tired for that mess | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:43:10 PM | | In my case I go to school in the day and I work at night. Hard to meet ppl with my schedule. Plus, it is easier to meet older men here which is what I prefer. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:46:45 PM | I'm an extraordinarily busy person. I've been on here for a few years and met some awesome people, some who became really good friends. Why do I join an online dating site? Because I can't stand the bar scene, there's no one in my immediate circle of friends/acquaintances that I want to date. I also don't have an exorbent amount of free time. I work full time, go to school full time, and am out doing volunteer work for a club I organize almost every other night. On top of that I have friends that I do try to see once in awhile, plus additional obligations and responsibilities. My current boyfriend is also a very busy person. Although we don't see each other often, neither of us are needy or clingy, and both are independent, so it works out well. As a result, online dating worked best for us to meet new people.
I also prefer online dating because I can find people with similar interests far easier. Plus I can eliminate people with limited problems. I don't have to worry about meeting someone at a bar who won't go away. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 9:08:30 PM | i didnt take it as an instult. i was stating my point. i have numerous friends all my age who also have all the same responisibilities as i do and they've all turned to online dating.
fact of the matter is when you were our age things were much different as it will be when the next generation of 20 somethings will be from when we were in our 20's. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 9:23:34 PM | Speaking to the OP as a 21 year old with a busy social life... basically, I'm here to keep an open mind for venues for meeting people, because my social circles are largely stagnant and my free time is almost all committed to a pile of different activities with different people who are almost all long term friends.
I do try to get in at least one social activity per week that includes people I haven't met before or don't know well. But if I can meet and get to know people on here and make new friends or even meet partners, I think it has the potential to be a great place to keep my social life from growing too stagnant.
Mind you I haven't pushed too much to contact anyone yet and I'm not certain on it. But that's why I was drawn to sign up here, anyways. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 9:44:26 PM | I think its little discriminating to ask because of their age. There shouldn't be an age range that you can look towards internet dating. Everyone has their personal reason just like you. Just because someone 18-25 doesn't mean your getting tones of dates. Lots are going to school, working full time or both and don't have time to meet new people. These people maybe weren't popular in school and no one every gave any attention to them. Some maybe have had bad experiences talking and asking random people out and they want something thats a little less pressure. How are you to know if someone on the street or at a bar is single? You don't if you don't talk to them. Well what if your to shy or don't have the confidence to talk to them? Then what? Some such as myself are using this as another avenue to meet more people.
But hugs to you for asking, because remember at POF there is no right or wrong question! | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:25:52 PM | I have noticed quite a large fish population here amoung the 18-25 age group.
Between working,school,taking care of my house I don't have time to go out and party like I used too.Sure I still go out every now and then and hook up but POF is free, so theres no harm in signing up when your bored at night logging on and see whats going on.
Not everyone is looking for there "soulmate" .I have talked to a lot of people my age that feel the same way.We are young and having fun and I'm willing to bet a lot of you older people when you where young had your share of fun.Especially all you people who where in your teens in the late 60's or early to mid 70's. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/1/2008 1:42:24 AM | Hey!
The reasons I'm here arebecause I've made a lot of friends on the internet in the past, on the web its easier to find people with the same interests. As well... one of the only places I've found to meet people my age is at a bar/club and unfourtunately, the only ones I've met there have not wanted a relationship, just a one night stand.
So, I'm hoping to find someone with similar interests who is interested in the "getting to know eachother" process and not just looking for one night.
*Nikki* | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/1/2008 7:19:02 PM | Im hear beacause all the men around me are compleate idiots  that dont know how to hold up a conversation! Hello...isnt talking like the number 1 way of communicating?! | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/1/2008 9:23:23 PM | Let me respond!
I have had this long debate with many people, my take on this and I can assure that I am spot on. The fact is that most younger people have not been taught or trained to be social, this goes into the schools and what parents seem to allow and or the schools, kids that are in the generation that you are refering to are and maybe skilled in computers and tech but have very little to no social skills whereas I was a tv gen, I was still taught the social skills needed to interact.
Point; stupid is as stupid does. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/1/2008 9:40:59 PM | Uh... you know that we aren't socially inept, right? This age range primarily likes to 'have fun' and 'enjoy life' by having sex with anyone with a pulse and drinking until they physically aren't able to anymore.
I haven't met a single person that was unable to be social in a 'real world' setting. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/1/2008 10:13:51 PM | Perhaps they are here to learn, about our screw-up? Perhaps having grown up with the internet they see it as a viable way to meet people, as opposed to hit-or-miss in the real world. Or maybe, they are look for an older, more experience partner . | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/1/2008 10:35:20 PM | To assume that we have no obligations just because we're young is a bit inaccurate. I work 6 sometimes 7 days a week. I have course work and photo projects to finish in my spare time. I also look after my parents. My father, 72, had a minor stroke in Oct, and my mother, 66, isn't the most physically able person in the world. I get out and "live the life" when I can, but I just don't have the time to party and hook up like that. And I'm not alone in that. Most of the people I know are in a very similar boat.
Aside from the time stand point, I did my running around and I'm done with it. Around here there's a bar scene and thats about it. If I want something more than a "hook up", I have to go elsewhere.
Lack of time + Want of substance = Internet dating and social networking. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/2/2008 5:02:23 AM | smiley... please go read the thread called.."caring for our parents". I THINK there are some facts in there that you will find most HELPFUL.
I tried to email you privately to tell you this but your settings are set so that you dont accept mail from my age or gender... sorry.
jj | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:11:35 AM | | I personally think we as a Western society have become increasingly lazy. I guaran-damn-tee that if I spent 8 hours in public trying to meet women and set up dates and I spent another 8 hours online trying to meet women and set up dates I've have 10 times the dates lined up in person. It's so much easier in person, IF you can strap on a set and approach a stranger and engage them in conversation. I understand many don't have the tools necessary to do this in real life and that is why they resort to this online medium. But people who are young, say 18-21, are still young! They have their youth! They should be exploring life and have very little tying them down and there should be ample time for them to meet people in real life and foster relationships. But I suppose people hear about these online dating things and think how much easier and less stressful it'd be to just sit behind a monitor. Then you can be whoever you please on the computer also. You can be as outgoing and boisterous as you want, and you may not be able to do that in person because of a social phobia or some other insecurity. I know for people who have children or who are aging and work a lot it can be daunting to go to the bars and meet people. I don't even bother in a bar. If I meet a girl fine, but as a rule I'm there to have fun with my friend(s) and I'm not out looking. I find the bar just about as superficial as online, as with the addition of alcohol people can also be whoever they choose to be. My buddy and I used to play a game. We'd plan a weekend getaway to a town a bit of a trek away from home and we'd plan to party hard. But every bar we'd go into we'd make up names and occupations, and they were always the most ludicrous of sorts. You know, Jed the Big Game Hunter, Mikka the plastic surgeon, Madison the test pilot, etc. etc. My personal favourite was the big game hunter though! And usually they were so outrageous that the women would catch on right away and laugh, and we'd expose our true identities and the night would go on. But quite often they'd bite and be fascinated by our "careers" and our exotic lifestyles that eventually we'd burst into laughter and expose ourselves anyway. It was never to dupe anyone into leaving with us. It was just for fun, and more or less an icebreaker. But when you are drinking, much like on here, your inhibitions are lost and you can be whoever you want to be. You can say many of the things you might not say to a person in a grocery store or at work because you may never see them again and really they don't know you and can't judge you past that meeting so who cares really? | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:00:43 AM | | I joined because at the time I was going to a practically all-men college. Also, I have never had much luck talking to women face to face for the first time. So, I decided to try this site. I have met in person six people off this site. Not to mention, I now work in a predominantly male working environment. It's even harder than the college scene for me because at work we are told not to compliment women, etc. What a shame... | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:16:36 AM | | I am not a big bar person, and plus during this college age, that's the only place to go where everyone else is. If someone my age is looking for a relationship, the bar is not the place to meet them (usually). There are other places sure...but the guys who do those activities you like are probably taken haha. This way, you can meet people who may be in the same age range who are tired of the same crowd, or older (or younger) who may know what they want more clearly. | |
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| Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:25:30 AM | | Me thinks them young ones want an older gal or guy for more learning, lol. OR They can't find someone at school to suit them or college. Who knows with the young ones, they're probably curious somewhere. | |
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