| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:55:56 PM |
He has told me stories about his sexual adventures with many of them.
sadly some men have to build themselves up to woman thinking that they will see them as more desirable and have been desirable by woman in the past My self I think his whole kocksman story is a load of bs concerning his conquest of fyck friends. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:10:28 PM | Guys view sex as sex. I know from talking with my guy friends 2 things...1) He will only stick around if his interested in you & 2) Don't hound men they don't like it.
I am friends with all of my ex's. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Give him a shot, trust him. What do you have to lose? | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:50:07 PM | So here is a man who has honored sex with a long term FRIENDSHIP "commitment" and he is red flagged? Who knows, maybe he is telling myths, maybe not, the OP can take her pick of all the expressed views in the thread (as well as the non-views, lol). He is either a good man or a bad one. One of the two. That is for sure!  Flip a coin! Or ask to meet the friends-exes. Should be interesting. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:02:06 PM | Holey cum-oh-lee ... I think suckafish and moi-sellfah have been tamponed and tampered out of the same petri dish.. finally a glimpse of myne owe-nah speak-sees .. love the skin your in..
yah you rah rah rahock gal...
and I was wondering if you would become a womb for high-er sire as sum gals on hear yah herd need to go back in the ovum oven and get baa baked right ???.. with zero tolerance to bee hiving in the nests of baa baa corn and bean bag stories... If you can- naugty be a uteral habitat for humanity dat tis okay as I am sure they can look down on themselves to learn to appreciate their vague-eye-nah menologues easier if they took their own rah rah rydes ... and found out freedom before 55 is always with wings ... period at the end of a sentence ... and boy oh bouy do women ever get bleedin ayn -gah-ree at their own cah cah -hinds....
thnks for a great gobble dee gook in wordaciousville .. loved your lingo.. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:15:54 PM | | No, it's not usual that a man, or woman for that matter, remains friends with all their ex-lovers. I can see remaining on good terms with a few, but not all. It's not realistic. Perhaps some of the women are holding on to the hope that they might get back together. I would be just as concerned, if not more so, with the fact that he feels the need to regale you with his prior sexual exploits. I would be very leery of a man who tells me about his sexual antics with women with whom he is still in close contact. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:39:38 PM | This is real simple
If I enter a long term relationship with a woman it is because I trust her. I don't care if she is friends with her ex's, or old flings, whatever. I only care that from the time we start a commited relationship that she is faithful to our relationship.
If the time comes that I feel I cannot trust her ........I will leave our relationship
Everybody has a Past.......few of us has a spotless one | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:21:16 PM | I have no issues with it. I am friends with most of my ex's... just because you are ex' s doesn't mean they are bad people it just means that you were not a good partnership.
My fiance is friends with some of his ex's and I have no problem with it.
In fact one if his ex's (she was right before me) is going to be the MC at our wedding next year.
And yes he tell me stories about him and his ex's... its kind of funny. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:04:29 AM |
For those actually interested in the OP, read the other thread related to the OP, started in July ...
Dating and Love Advice > Dating guy, spends every weekend w/me. Saw his POF, he sends point gifts to others. I went and looked at the other thread briefly and in it she speaks of this guy still emailing with other women here on POF and some of the emails have conversation related to him touching them etc. Supposedly he even still has "coffee dates" with other women.
I would not want to be spending the "weekend" with any man who is out "touching" other women and still having "coffee dates" with them. If the relationship is to the point that we are spending our weekends together, he should not still be "dating" other women ... even if it's over a cup of coffee.
This woman even admits she may have low self-esteem .... ummmm YA!!!! I think she needs to lose this man as fast as she can, but I doubt she will. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/20/2007 4:16:22 PM | Just curious? Isn't is possible to share a difference of opinion without degradation when someone does not share your point of view?
And if someone says where did that come from? Apparently they have not read the entire thread. It is possible to be articulate without being consending and humor can indicate much more that the laugh it elicited. Another's opinion is just that, read, keep what you need and discard what you don't but don't call others stupid because they do not agree with you. You can love most people into much but rarely can you bully someone into anything. Causing someone to leave a post because of personal attacks speaks little of the attacker and even less when they relish joy from intimidating or hurting another.
Since we are in a fishing pond--here is a fishing fact--when bottomfeeders rise to the level of the other fish, it is usually to hurl the crap from within. Then they go back to the bottom and ingest more of what the other fish dropped to the bottom. I think that speaks for itself. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:18:45 PM | | Hey twisted sisters... I never called anyone in particular stupid ..... just women who decide to become involved with guys who still have to ah ah oh yah nurture .... a friendship trip over to dimble rides the red hoods house .. to have tea and scrumpets or cold poor-ridge and read a large portion of Genesis without Phil well that one too..and Phil Collins too .. well maybe tom collins...like I said alot of women confuse compassion with enabling behaviour, staying friends in this sit or lay down situation is a guy preparing his next victim for his quazi dysfunctional pimp ride ,playing you in the cards of 52 pickup .. and if you put this question to any psychologist well any psychologist who doesn't visit his or her ex f'friends .. they will likely say that peeling carrots and celery and deboning the cackling for some good old chicken soup for the soul might be better if the fan that is gonnah hit the sh!t gets turned off first .... go green and take the blue pill is all I can say .. and it is a good thing vulcans are fictitious cause Captain Kirk would have to do some major clean up on the enterprise deck and get CSI involved cause Spocks brains wouldah been blown out reading some of the responses on this post card from the edge... | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:54:33 PM | Hello Myrtel. I would have prefered to comment on this in private but I am 55 years old so I was not accepted to send you emails. Anyway, my advice to you is to drop this fool. Although there is nothing wrong with remaining friends with an ex lover, this person shows disrespect, rudeness and inconsiderate feelings towards you to have actually told you what he told you and the way he told you. I personally have had the pleasure to be involved with some very classy mature women who I thought were just incredible, but we were able to realize that we are both nice people, but we were not a connection for marriage. I have remained friends with a couple of them and do stay in touch occasionally. I don't think there is anything wrong with remaining friends with someone that you have a mutual break off with if you part on good terms, but to have given you details like this person did not only shows you little respect but pretty much gives you a slap in the face. I vote for you to drop him as quickly as possible. You appear to be a very nice person and deserve better. Also, if he is like this now, it will only get worse and your feelings will end up getting hurt worse. There is nothing wrong with you or your beliefs. I am sure you are an intelligent woman and already realize that he does not love you and never will. Please do not settle for second best. It is much much nicer to have a best friend to love and share with but you are better off being by yourself and drama free then to be with a person just for the sake of being with someone, especially a guy like you have described.
Best of nice wishes....Gary Willens/Los Angeles | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 1:15:08 AM | | Just my 2 cents. I lived with a woman that talked about her past sexual conquests frequently, and we were together 8 years until she admitted that she had several one night stands during our relationship, while I didn't even contimplate doing that, or even understand it, however, I knew that she was a bed hopper before I even started in on the relationship. She assured me that I was the one, and I bought that hoping for the best.Well, as you all can figure out, that's not the way it all turned out, and I got out of the relationship asap. I know now that the best indicator of a person's present is to view their past, and a zebra doesn't change their stripes. If this person (past or present) talks about details about it is just trying to brag about it, and will do the same to you. The main tipoff was the jealousy exhibited toward me, so watch for that, and if someone exhibits that, that means something is up with their fidelity. However, we still talk and the good thing is she is a great lady, just we don't have nothing at stake anymore. I would say that we are friends that will never go there again, and it's all good. I'm ready for life and a new relationship knowing these cold hard facts, and if this helps anyone, I'm glad that I helped, and be careful, wear a condom with people like these, you don't know who they have been with and what they have. I got off lucky, belive me. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 2:03:50 AM |
Hey twisted sisters... I never called anyone in particular stupid
...perhaps not by individual name, but clearly in your montage there were allusions to those you felt were stupid
just women who decide to become involved
dictionary defines twisted as:
To alter or distort the intended meaning of--I did not twist what you wrote
When writing one should convey the meaning. Clarity is everything. Meandering, wandering and off-topic points do little to settle the issue.
I did not think, in this instance, that a reference to Twisted Sister indicated a new thread on Dee Snider. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 9:27:05 AM | Dear outofthedesert ....
To quote your quote , " When writing one should convey the meaning."
So that means to check in with you and make sure that everyone is writing your way.....
Did you know that ...and this is not Ripley's believe it or not .. this is Quantico identifiable profiling markers that people who use "one" and write in this kind of pomposity sound like they are "Queen" fans but apparently won't be getting back stage passes in our next lives or any of the ate yah got left, do I hear a meeee owww on dat>>>???? .......are you a snarley GNARLES BARKLEY FAN TOO ??? .... good street tango songs ... | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 9:54:13 AM | | You absolutely do not have to check in with me and I would be quite delighted if you didn't. My only suggestion was to insure that your meaning came across so that no one misunderstood what you said or assumed something you didn't. No, I do not meow and I shall leave the hissing to you. | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 7:50:09 PM |
You absolutely do not have to check in with me and I would be quite delighted if you didn't.
um, then What IS the point?
(oh yes, just AnOther 'chiming in' FLAMEr)
My only suggestion was to insure that your meaning came across so that no one misunderstood what you said or assumed something you didn't. No, I do not meow and I shall leave the hissing to you.
(if it meows like a cat/hisses like a cat, tis probably a...)
so, 'we' have graduated (or, degraded) to 'suggestion'?
oh, i knoooow-some HATE my (other's/EveryOne Else BUT their) writing ~styles~
(is there a 'pof writing JAIL'?-will there be a new 'Policy' implemented-that...imposes fines?tickets? even BANS? oh my-o dear *cringe,shshshshake*-FOR: writing STYLES? not WHAT one (or Any) Posts-But, HOW they post it?)
NoBody's Meaning is going to 'come across' To EveryBody, All of zee Time
*either they 'Get It', or? they doNT*
OT: (which is What we All ARE 'supposed to' DO-in Each/Every post)
i simply 'Agree' with the 'Meaning' of anOther Person's post/~words~
*On this Thread* (and, im shuuure Most-if not Every-'thang' Else)
And, i saw More than ONE post (BY More than One 'Other' postER)
*FLAME ing* her FOR her WAY of writing (IS there a 'rule'?-have yet to be made 'aware' of?)
and for THAT, i get referred to as a 'bottom feeder'?
YA- "meooooooow" *and* "FLAME"
in case MY 'meaning' is 'Lost' on ANY?
i concur, being 'With' one whom Has a LOT of 'x/sex/friends'?
is not a 'smart THING' to 'do'
^TIS^ the TOPIC of This Thread, i 'thought' i had zee 'Right' to an Opinion
on such (as does EveryOne else/pof fellows)
in my own LIL opinion-getting FLAMEd for 'HOW' AnyOne types?
just plain R U D E | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 7:59:17 PM | I also don't see the problem here. I am friends with all my exs. No sex and clear about the relationship turning into friendship but why not? Once you care about someone you always care even if you find out he or she is not the one for you. If someone cheats he is more likely to cheat with someone new than his old g/f who he got tired of because things were bad. I don't think all people who are friends with their ex cheat.. Now about your guy the red flag is that he had a booty call with his ex wife , while she was married to someone else. I think that was a
bad idea and his bounderies are not great, and his morals are not the best either.
travel | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/21/2007 8:54:33 PM | | I agree. ^^^^ A man and a woman who have been lovers are IMO more likely to be/remain REAL friends than a man and a woman who have not. As long as the sex did not lead to complocations often seen in people who associate sex and love making with other, psyschologically complicated, "associations" (one the the factors is religious and meta-religious effects into social thinking, see Max Webber's work). | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/22/2007 9:48:35 AM | | O.K....how about if the guy tells you about his x's [not sex details- just that the sex was good]..... thinks the x-wife cheated on him while married, he had a booty call with her while she was with her current husband-before that marriage-AND more recently ASKED HER for another booty call but she said no ..... another women -the most recent one- he broke it off and she was quite upset about it for awhile, now they are 'friends' ..... the other - she says he talks sex to her - he says he has not while we were together. Also, while cooking dinner for me, he was online with one of them talking about a new hottub she had - running to the computer every time it dinged with a new message. I said I would leave so he could finish his conversation with her. He says I'm jealous and immature ... I think what I listed are extenuating circumstances. I've written about this before [yeah..obsessive compulsive?] but I really really like so many things about him [yeah - including the sex, it is incredible]. I asked him to look at this listing and I know everyone does not agree with me. But I think it's disrespectful to me and asking for trouble [he has a booty call list, I don't like it]. Of course, this is for 2 people in a committed relationship that they want to last forever. If we are just getting to know each other and still have the option to see other people, he can have his booty call list. AM I totally wrong???? | |
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| He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it.
Posted: 11/22/2007 9:56:25 AM |
Does anyone think it is the usual for a guy to be friends with women that he has had sex with? I am seeing a guy who has all women "friends". He has told me stories about his sexual adventures with many of them. These adventures have supposedly not happened for a long time. I know one was a year and a half ago. I don't know how long ago the rest were. He still talks, visits, emails MANY of them. He says they have just stayed friends. I guess that is just not my personality. If I am no longer seeing someone, I am more the kind that never wants to see them again. What do you think? Just curious.
maybe he's such a nice bloke that the girls enjoy being around him even with no sex involved.. if you believe him that he's faithful to the gal he's with at the time (you, at the moment), that you can trust him....then i'd take it as a good sign that he's not some dirty-scumbag-no-gooder, as the westerns would say (well, they would say that if i wrote them..) ...and therefore worth knowing..
it'd be more of a red flag to me if all his ex's hated him and had stories of his dirty-scumbagish behaviour to them after he'd "gotten what he wanted"..
if his friends of the girl type are too involved in his life; calling all the time, interfering in your relationship, then that's something to talk with him about.... | |
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