| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:33:59 PM | Get a minivib and simulate yourself during intercourse.
I would never leave a good man because of that... | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:34:40 PM | | not even oral? However I don't think it is reason enough to leave. I have only had an oragasm 2 times in my life from penetration.....Try the clit, it works! | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 3:21:58 PM | | This is a man that you care about, together you have tried a lot of things and it doesn't happen for you. Maybe you need professional help. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:34:33 PM | | buy a vibrator.............................................................................................................. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:46:48 PM | Not all women can orgasm via sex. Sad, but true fact.
I am one of them. I've tried everything under the sun -- nothing works.
Its just a fact of life. Its frustrating, yes. I want to experience an orgasm that way too, but it will never happen. (Guys will sometimes say "oh hes doing it wrong" etc... its all bullshit, ignor that).
If you truely loved him, you wouldn't leave him over that.
Try stimulating your clit during sex, theres even little vibes you can place on your clit that will stay to help out. Sometimes my boyfriend will stimulate my clit during sex and for most women it works.
Good luck. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:34:04 PM | YUP! have to totally agree with the opinion that this is much about you as it is him. what you failed to say is if you have ever climaxed before. some women go a whole lifetime without having an orgasm (scary thought).
As well, some men are completely clueless as to the mechanics of how women achieve orgasm. Firstly it is in her head. Many of us still don't give ourselves "permission" to enjoy sex, nor do we just give over to the physical experience.
Oddly enough, there is a video out there, that is a "how to" for this particular thing. it comes off like an "idiots guide" but hey, whatever works,, right? (try searching U tube for it).there are also ones out there for oral. ( dont ask me how i know this,, you dont want me to tell you LOL)
In all fairness, there are women who dont know how to achieve orgasm and how to orally pleasure a man. The Kama Sutra wont help u. The kama sutra is an ancient asian text about propriety more than a sex manual. ( gods, i should shut up now) LOL | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:37:47 PM | i can imagine the POW! when this chick finally relaxes.
eh hem,, you are gonna wanna protect your mattress when you do relax, before you climax,,,
LMAO, i made a rhyme | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 7:47:43 PM |
I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I enjoy sex but he has never made me come. He has tried lots of things but nothing works.
He got really annoyed with himself and put a lot of pressure on both of us trying to find out why, even looking up internet sites etc. I asked him to stop putting the pressure on because it was a total turnoff.
I really love him but im starting to wonder if i should end it, especially when he says things like he wishes i could experience what he has everytime he's with me.
Should I leave just to try and find someone else who will make it happen for me?
I was even wondering if i should suggest we should just have a few months break so we can be with other people. Neither of us was very 'experienced' at all before we met. But now we have done everything together. And still nothing for me. I am starting to go off sex with him a bit over this, but i still love him and who he is. Could it be that we are just physically incompatible??? We dont 'fit together' right?
He is at least willing to keep TRYING...
Some guys might get so put off..they'd bail out and find someone that they could "satisfy"
Some people are married for years and never have what you are looking to experience...
Thinking of other partners as a solution is such a poor idea that you should drop it from your mind...
Unless you plan on dropping HIM,that is....
If you love this guy...keep working w/ him...and like the earlier poster said .."Relax"
If you don't ...end this and move on.... | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:34:31 PM | You just don't have the right fit. The fit is the most important factor.
Then comes the pheremones... | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:12:05 AM | Cold water!! and ice cubes....
Every morning ice cold water up your vagina and rectum....
If you can handle ice cubes or ice water even better...this will work!!
Excellent for men also, however it's limited to the rectum and soaking the penis!! | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:22:03 AM | | wise man showed me this technique. shhhhhhhhhhhhh don't tell anyone. some of us have a harder time climaxing than others. have him insert one finger inside the vagina. while you are laying on your back of course. now with index finger have him act like he is motioning someone to come near him. you know, how you would motion someone who cannot hear you from across a room, you motion with your finger "come here". anyways, this is a great way to find the dreaded g spot in most women. works for me and i really appreciated the person finding it for me. tell me how it goes. even works with a viberator, just have to get used to that certain spot and being able to find it. its kinda up towards the belly button, but must be rubbed just right. mmmmmm good luck and happy hunting | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 7:50:03 AM | | sweetontweety, do you really think that is 'your little secret' that no other woman knows about? LOL, just teasing........... | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 7:55:32 AM | One of my friends asked the same question : I coudn't come with Him!
The answer is - Come without Him.
It helps. It works.
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 8:34:19 AM | Your title says it all. In my opinion it is not his job to "make you" come or do anything else, for that matter. As previous posters have suggested, take 100% of the responsibility yourself for finding out what works for you and then work him into it the best way you can. Explain from the get-go what you are doing and why. There is so much information around on this subject, read it yourself, find out what works for you, and share what you find with him with him.
Certainly getting too serious about this is a turn-off. Keep it light-hearted, even silly. Learn to laugh when you try something that does not work. Enjoy every step of the journey, not just the destination.
As far as finding another man, do that only if the man you have is not willing to make this journey of exploration with you, or if you have other reasons for this decision. But don't ever think that your answer is just to find the right guy. Sure, you may find a lad that some other lady has already tutored and he may have learned a trick or two that also works for you. If the one you have is not so well tutored but is willing to learn, you can have a wonderful time learning together. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:15:31 AM | There is already alot of good advice on here
Yes its been said not every women comes from intercourse, its a fact. U shouldnt worry about coming, like someone before said enjoy the experience & how good it feels. Also there could be mental stuff going on in your head that isnt helping, a few could be stuff your not sure of or if you do know of them its hard confronting them or whatever, also Depression in your past could play into this.
But i think your bigger problem is your Boyfriend, lets put it this way to me he sounds like a good guy, he wants to please you not himself, he wants to help & understand why & help you. Nothing wrong with him trying, but you sound like your done with wanting to try & want him to stop to. I think your still frustrated that you havent came yet during sex, & your boyfriend bugging you about it isnt helping much. But understand from a guys point of view or a good guys point of view, we worry. Truth is i have the same problem you do, i've had some girls who really cared & love me worry cause they thought they werent physically pleasing enough to me, maybe they werent that good in bed, or something. Ur boyfriend probably gots the same things going on thro his head, he worries about U & ur relationship that you share together.
U can orgazism without sexual intercourse, pretty much women have 2 ways to orgazism. Clit than vaginual ( idk if thats spell right ). anyways doesnt matter. I think you should talk to your boyfriend more than worry about your problems. Maybe a break is a good idea but tell him why you want to take a bring, cause he is pushing the issue to much. During the bring its up to you what you want to do, either explore with other people which you might regert & also might hurt your boyfriends feelings doing. If he is anything like me he will be majorly hurt, maybe understanding of why, but still hurt, idk if he could handle taking you back, & things might not be the same afterwords if you do get back together.
I hope you make the right choices & hope things work out for the better | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:19:19 AM | The Odoctor has alot of sucsess with the Hitachi in this area.. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:39:37 AM | Great or good sex is very important in a relationship and if this guy can't make you "cum", perhaps you two aren't on the same "mental" level of stimulation , which is VERY important, and w/out it no matter how he tries to please you, you'll never "connect" or be satisfied .. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:17:33 AM | """Your title says it all. In my opinion it is not his job to "make you" come or do anything else, for that matter. As previous posters have suggested, take 100% of the responsibility yourself for finding out what works for you """
just to be clear, this was not what this poster was saying. yes it is your responsibility to relax and give yourself permission, as well as it is to know your own body and how it responds to different stimuli. if you know this and he still doesnt "stimulate correctly" the reliance on him to get you there is pointless. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:32:52 AM | | All you need to do is relax...once you can relax nature will take its course and you'll be a happy woman...stop stressing and definitely don't take a break so you can sleep with other guys to see if they can ring your bell, it's not your man, it's you! | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:52:05 AM | | me and my wife had this problem when we first got together but all is good i could not get her started ...now i cant get her stopped | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 12:05:28 PM | | the ice spurred special...that was old when iwas young.....and the classic UP AND TO THE LEFT...guys do we really know that they have or r we dreaming.....messers ryan and crystall.......and just on the qt ....i have faked it...my x all ways told me that there r definite signs ..so squirting real or.........................but again some can some cant............ | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 12:14:38 PM | | yeah ...............who gets the map of cannada......nver botherd me...being the kinda guy i am | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 2:06:08 PM | | Experience, exploration and open mindedness with the one you love..... if you want your world rocked. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/20/2007 2:41:18 PM |
I was even wondering if i should suggest we should just have a few months break so we can be with other people. Neither of us was very 'experienced' at all before we met. But now we have done everything together. And still nothing for me. I am starting to go off sex with him a bit over this, but i still love him and who he is.
I was going to say that he needed to take the pressure off. But I realize after reading this that it's you. You need to relax. Did you used to come before? | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/21/2007 8:04:48 PM | | I know that alot of people's advice is to just relax, but GET REAL...I don't care how much I relax, it ain't gonna happen if I am not turned on. I have found that alot of foreplay tends to turn me on. I especially enjoy it when my boyfriend decides to share his tongue. If you know what I mean. However, most of the time I can't actually have an orgasm while having sex unless I am on top and in control. I have noticed that if I seduce him and torture him ( in the sense of teasing), I get more turned on. Someone once told me that it's knowing how well he is enjoying himself and what I am doing to him, that turns me on. I have noticed they are right. The more he moans, the more excited I get. I hope this helps. | |
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