| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/22/2007 1:32:25 AM | | Have you attempted to guide him? Is he using his mouth? Is he using it properly? Only you know what you need. Are you letting him know? He may have a lack of skills, but the possibility exists that you are not letting him know what you need. If that's the problem, it will follow you forever...or until you find someone who has skills and you don't have to tell him what you need...of course a guy like that may have 4 other girlfriends and the one with the best communication and other skills is the one who will get to keep him. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/22/2007 5:37:31 AM | | Has he tried the cumminator 4000 with adjustable straps and lube attachment? | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/22/2007 7:16:03 AM | Listen honey; all but one person in this thread has given you advice on the "mechanics" of the deed. You need to ignore them all but this one person. I forget which one it was but she was about my age and she gave you the BEST advice there was.
Sex for a woman is NOT the 1/2 hr to 1 hour in the bedroom. Sex for a woman is built up over the remaining 23 hours of your day. You and your man need to concentrate on being affectionate, loving, and giving during the remainder of your day BEFORE you even think about hitting the sack together. If he or you are not showing love and affection during the day it is very hard for a woman to "just do it". A lot of the act is mental for a woman and if she has not been "primed" emotionally , mentally, spiritually AND physically during the majority of the day then she will have a hard time warming up when it comes to the actual act.
Most guys are not this way. All it takes for us is just a word or two to give us a mental picture and "Oscar" is ready to go. But most women need to know their guy is there for them emotionally etc throughout the course of your day together. If she has been treated right during the day and THEN relaxed during the deed, it will be a much more satisfying event for both of you.
So I would advise you both do this:
1. play and flirt during the day
2. forget any alcohol. It only acts as a DEPRESSANT.
3. while flirting you might try adding some playful touch here and there.
4. when the time comes, relax and continue to play: as if nothing BUT play is going to happen anyway. Then just enjoy each other's body for nothing more than the enjoyment of it. touch each other all over. explore slowly and playfully.
5. concentrate on pleasing the OTHER person more than pleasing YOURSELF.
If you can do this...I think you will find that what you are seekiing will happen and it will blow your mind how precious and fulfilling it will be for you.
Good luck Sweetheart. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/24/2007 4:59:10 AM | i donno there hersh ^^^??
i've know some lady's that are just into doing it and they seem sad it took so long for me to make the move....
however i general i do agree...but not all women are built that way, if they were then us guy's would be able to have them all anytime?? | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/27/2007 10:52:24 AM | Sex for a woman is NOT the 1/2 hr to 1 hour in the bedroom. Sex for a woman is built up over the remaining 23 hours of your day. You and your man need to concentrate on being affectionate, loving, and giving during the remainder of your day BEFORE you even think about hitting the sack together. If he or you are not showing love and affection during the day it is very hard for a woman to "just do it". A lot of the act is mental for a woman and if she has not been "primed" emotionally , mentally, spiritually AND physically during the majority of the day then she will have a hard time warming up when it comes to the actual act.
Hersheyboy is so right. I had the same problems until I met the guy I am with now. He treats me like gold and shows me more affection than anyone ever has. It is so nice to have his arm around me, his lips kiss my neck, & his hands rub my back not matter what time of day it may be. He comliments me, tells me he loves me, tells me he misses me, and just stares in my eyes throught the day. When we aren't together, he sends me text messages reminding me of how much I mean to him. It is so nice..
Also....5. concentrate on pleasing the OTHER person more than pleasing YOURSELF.
I also do the same in return and I can say that I get such a thrill out of knowing that I am turning my man on. When he tells me how good I feel and how much he wants me, I jsut want to explode. I experienced something last night that I have never in my life felt. I never knew it was possible to get such a thrill and be turned on so much from just pleasuring a man. WOW!!!! I have never had a relationship like this...I have never enjoyed making love to someone as much as I do him. He is wonderful!!!! | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:10:44 AM | | Ever thought about maybe being accountable for your own orgasm first before you just upgrade??? | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/28/2007 5:56:07 PM | | I don't know if it has been said b4, but if you can 'come' by yourself and not with him, and 'come'ing is important (as it should be). Then go and find it somewhere else. Sorry but this is the truth, find what you need, no one is going to find it for you. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/28/2007 6:32:50 PM | You should leave the relationship.  You've tried everything, and nothing worked. It could be due to the lack of experience between the both of you.
You just don't "fit together". Leave and find someone that "fits".
If you stay with him...can you imagine how bad it's going to get? Life is too short not to enjoy the finer things, and boy are you missing out! | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 11/30/2007 1:56:01 PM | Did you ever think that it might be you?
Your body usually only does what you want it to do, so if you're really not into it or stressed about it, you sure aren't going to cum. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/14/2007 8:36:29 AM | Good Day Pandora,
Yes Pandora leave his Punk A$$ and Move On. Size does matter.
Anyone who tell you it does'nt is a lier. If size did'nt matter Scientist would'nt be making Pills that helps it Grow. I am Blessed with a 10 1/4" Thick Penis and I have had
a lot of Sexxx around the World. I have never sleep with any woeman who has never
Came from my Serious Penetration. Until you experience a Man who knows what he
is doing & Knows how to Put It Down Pandora, you will remain Sexually Deprived.
Step Up your Game and solve your Problem. Now you know what to Do Peace.
minf033 | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/14/2007 9:01:42 AM | | how do you know he's at fault,you dont say whether you have with any previous partner,and the agony of trying to force yourself to ,will only make the pair of you more uptight.if he's right in all the other areas,dont try as hard relax more | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/14/2007 9:04:12 AM | | That's something for you to decide. With some men you could possibly try to take it the long haul and they or it could better, but has to be some life changing experience to raise your level of rush so that you put your mindset on a different level. Ever wonder why some people who get into helicoptor crashes or something and seem totally incompatible get together, sharing of memorable experiences with someone gives an extra tie or connection for you toward them and vice verse. Sometimes, when you have to look back and that you tried, you think for a moment that you should of move on and find something better. The grass may not be greener on the other side, however, sometimes it may be. I would just go with the flo, as long as there is nothing that causes resentment or frustration. Life is too short. | |
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| Performance
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:51:36 AM | Great post..
Now I will state that most men really want their women to also get their cookie during sex.. if they cannot get their partner off, it is not as fufilling for us.. It does make us feel great when we both get off.. really.
I would guess they your guy has tried everything he can think of..
I will state that everyone of us is responsible for our own big " O". You are cheating yourself.... It is apparent that you should take a little more controll during your sexual encounters... It is time for you to get yourself off during your lovemaking.. he will enjoy it that you are taking things into your own hands.. it will turn him on... so let your finders do the walking on your way to fufillment..
Good luck... Jeff | |
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| Performance
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:18:28 PM | Post 53, and whomever you were refering to - you are right on. It's all in the mental mind. One can not achieve success without working for it. Two healthy minds coming together...no pun intended...indeed will achieve a satisfactory sex life.
Communication is key, as I'm sure other's have posted. There is nothing wrong with a little 'guidance'.
Making love, or having sex, can be THEEE most exhilerating experience if you let it.. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:28:34 AM | | I would say if the dude cares so much to look it up and try new things keep him at least he's a careing guy ! | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:55:56 AM | sounds to me as you dont seem compatible howz about getting yourself a Dildo or vibrator thats if you havent already ? as i got my girl one and it sure has its uses and helps with the forplay get it out next time for him to use on you he can only refuse !!!
Good luck
Tim | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:14:11 AM | Has anyone mentioned teasing?
Don't forget the power of teasing to build up the sexual tension. Kiss/stroke/lick around the erogenous zones. Tickle each other, have nibble fights, just sit and look at each other whilst naked, eye to eye----this can be very erotic.
Each one of these activities will help you relax in each others company and will build the intimacy.
Don't even try to have full to have an orgasm for a while. Just enjoy being touchy feely with each other.
If you have had orgasms with others or by yourself then this should do the trick....like others have said, don't put pressure on each other. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:37:28 AM |
The orgasm is not about the moment of arousal and orgasm alone - it's about the other 23.5 hours! If you are not into each other 110% - then how can you expect to orgasm with someone that doesn't turn you on all the time! For most women it's a 24/7 foreplay that gives you the best orgasms! Meaning that you love and desire each other so much - by the time you touch - it's electric!!
Right on the money, as was the post that said orgasm for a woman is more in her head than anywhere.
Try a whole week of foreplay without actually having sex, you might not make it thro the whole 7 days tho
For the OP and all those ladies that haven't had an orgasm thro penetration, ( I was one of those) try a new(ish) condom on the market made by durex called "play vibration condom ring" it has a tiny little vibrator in exactly the right place. It'll send you thro the roof  | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/18/2007 8:14:02 AM | | Have you tried using a vibrator on clitorus while he has sex with you? has he performed oral sex on you while you give him instructions? thsoe are my tips. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/18/2007 9:30:11 AM | | I have had women cum just by forplay alone. I know its more than just penetration. Listen to the women its thier body, they know what works for them. Its a real turn on when they enjoy the forplay. What rea fun is to stop forplay before they climax. just when they are on the virge. STOP! then give her your bruce almighty to finish her off. LOL | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/18/2007 1:49:16 PM | | If a woman is properly mentally stimulated she can cum without actually even being touched. There is a lot more than mechanics involved. When a look can cause excitement, mm hmm. If you aren't at that level, there are things you can try, but if you feel you've tried it all... All work and no sex, that's missing a piece to a very delicate puzzle of a relationship. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:36:08 PM | | I have to agree with the last one. For me there have been times when I had the children to tend to after working all day and then the dishes to do. By the time we were able to be together, my mind was every where other than being intimate with him. He took the time to give me attention without touching the targeted areas for quite sometime. The way that he did it made me feel relaxed and that I was the sexiest woman in the world. His attention felt different than the normal "foreplay". By the time we got to the targeted areas I was no longer thinking of the children's homework or the dishes and I went off like a rocket. The reason why I'm telling you this is because it is not easy for me to reach the moon either. The typical foreplay doesn't work with me when I've been in a relationship for a while. I have to be totally distracted and made to feel desired mentally not physically. All you have to do is figure out what it is that he can do that would take your mind off of the pressure of accomplishing the act and let things happen. | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:49:50 PM | | Get on top of him so that you can control the pace, the direction of his shwang, instead of making him look for the spot, he can't feel what you like so its on you to take control, if I don't tell a girl what I like, theres no way she'll get it right guessing, despite what women think, plus your parts are on the inside, boys are outside so its pretty much all there for ya, he's a guy not an oil drill, if you don't direct, he'll drill randomly praying to hit the gold rush which sucks for both of you | |
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| He can't make me 'come'
Posted: 12/19/2007 6:15:55 AM | | foreplay starts long before the act and women really have more sex drive through the brain """" , Maybe he should try and court you more in actions, words and dinners, flowers etc etc . Woman are very romatic and men just want to get it on. | |
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