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 m_church
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A more common form is known as "hot wife" and is similar without the humiliation. This is even more common than the "cuckold".

Wife swapping is another name for the 'hot wife', I think this is part of the mystique of 'swinging'. I think that is part of reason these guys enjoy seeing their wives getting done by other guys.... they just won't admit it....
 PBJelly
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 12/18/2008 2:44:33 PM
I LOVE this!!!!!
 PBJelly
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Posted: 12/30/2008 3:49:31 AM
any other gals into this?
 cuckmeout
Joined: 12/30/2008
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Posted: 1/3/2009 3:57:03 PM
yes, any other ladies like doing this?
 tonytexas25
Joined: 4/6/2008
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Posted: 1/3/2009 6:52:15 PM
Although I don't think I would fit the description but I am all for watching my GF or Wife with other men. As long as she agreed I would have no problem with it. It is a turn on for me to see her get pleasure out of it.
 m_church
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Posted: 1/3/2009 11:05:27 PM

Although I don't think I would fit the description but I am all for watching my GF or Wife with other men. As long as she agreed I would have no problem with it. It is a turn on for me to see her get pleasure out of it.

Then you kind of fit the description....
 nickolysseus
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Posted: 1/4/2009 12:24:11 AM
Re the Opost

My comment is:
The English language never ceases to amaze me. So do the sexual antics of certain people.
Double yikes for the term and the act it implies/refers to.

 flappo77
Joined: 2/6/2009
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Posted: 2/22/2009 12:16:25 AM
Well, it's something out of the ordinary for sure. But it could be something very exciting for you if you had a hubby that encouraged you to enjoy yourself... and he remained faitful, and submissive to you. Just arguing the flipside.
 tonytexas25
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Posted: 2/22/2009 12:27:41 PM
M Chruch.. i am more into the wife swapping. I want so candy too.
 sally bentley
Joined: 7/9/2008
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Posted: 2/22/2009 12:37:33 PM
Not my cup of tea.
 Brooklyn Gemini
Joined: 5/5/2009
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Posted: 9/2/2009 12:04:09 PM
Yes. Any other ladies? Cause plenty of guys would accept it.
 wayfarer4you
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Posted: 9/2/2009 12:35:16 PM
If I am with someone I do not share woth anyone no matter what !!just something about my childhood and wanting all the toys and not shareing .
 m_church
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Posted: 9/2/2009 1:11:41 PM

Cause plenty of guys would accept it.

Yes, guys might accept it.... Men wouldn't....
 77Angela
Joined: 6/20/2009
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Posted: 9/2/2009 2:04:19 PM
I've been asked by a guy on pof if I'd consider cuckolding him.
I don't get pleasure from humiliating anyone, so that arrangement doesn't work for me.
 Zebra Circle
Joined: 4/12/2009
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Posted: 9/3/2009 7:00:22 AM
Cuckolding (is that even a word?) is a HUGE fantasy of mine. I'm all for it.

... now if only I could talk a woman into doing this ...
 2HEDZ
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Posted: 9/3/2009 7:53:14 AM
yea i'm surprised how common this is. when i was in the service a friend of mine approached me and showed naked pics of his wife and asked me if i would have sex with her. he explained that he would not interfere that he would be in the closet the whole time and would only watch through slits in the doors. apparently his wife has certain prferences in men and he felt it was his job to find men he thought would be suitable for his wife's pleasure.

i thought about it for a moment because his wife was very attractive but in the end the thought of him hiding in the closet while i was in bed with his wife just didnt do it for me. i'd keep worrying about him getting upset and coming at my back with a knife or something. i declined.
 Argentum Crinis Philogus
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Posted: 9/3/2009 11:13:27 AM

Wife swapping is another name for the 'hot wife', I think this is part of the mystique of 'swinging'. I think that is part of reason these guys enjoy seeing their wives getting done by other guys.... they just won't admit it....


Wife swapping is a forerunner to the term "Swinging and Swingers" as heterosexual couples exchanged partners. A "hotwife, sharedwife, slutwife, cuckoldress" is a separate fetish and lifestyle, although they can also be swingers, or "wife swappers", the terms are not mutually exclusive.

Her is a little article that I prepared sometime back that might bring some clarification to the discussion of cuckolds.

What is a Cuckold and Cuckoldry?

Cuckold is derived from the Old French for the cuckoo
Cuckoo

The cuckoos are a family, Cuculidae, of near passerine birds. The order Cuculiformes, in addition to the cuckoos, also includes the turacos ....
, cocu, with the pejorative
Pejorative

Words and phrases are pejorative if they imply disapproval or contempt. When used as an adjective, pejorative is synonymous with derogatory, derisive, dyslogistic, and contemptuous....
suffix -ald. The earliest written use of the Middle English derivation, cokewold, occurs in 1250. The females of certain varieties of cuckoo lay their eggs in other bird’s nests, freeing themselves from the need to nurture the eggs to hatching.

Cuckolds have sometimes been written as "wearing the horns of a cuckold" or just "wearing the horns". This refers to the fact that the man being cuckolded is the last to know of his wife's infidelity. He is wearing horns that can be seen by everybody but him. This also refers to a tradition claiming that in villages of unknown European location, the community would gather to collectively humiliate a man whose wife gives birth to a child recognizably not his own. According to this legend, a parade was held in which the hapless husband is forced to wear antlers on his head as a symbol of his wife’s infidelity. Whether this did actually happen or not is inconsequential as the phrase has survived.

In French the term is porter des cornes and is used by Molière to describe someone whose consort has been unfaithful.
Molière

Jean-Baptiste Poquelin, also known by his stage name Molire, was a French playwright and actor who is considered one of the greatest masters of comedy in Western literature....
's L'École des femmes
The School for Wives

The School for Wives is a theatrical comedy written by the 17th century French playwright Moli?re and considered by some critics to be one of his finest achievements....
(1662) is the story of a man who mocks cuckolds and becomes one at the end. In Geoffrey Chaucer

The term dates from the Roman empire, since legionaries returning from the war were given horns as a triumph or prize. So, the use of the term is a mockery of the husband, victorious in the battlefield, but defeated in his own bed.

Cultural usage
The concept occurs in Brazil, Bulgaria, Greece, Italy, Poland, Portugal, Russia, Czech Republic, Croatia, Hungary, Slovenia, Turkey, and the USA. Terminologies used in different languages include:

Spanish language

Spanish or Castilian is a Romance language that originated in northern Spain, and gradually spread in the Kingdom of Castile and evolved into the principal language of government and trade....

Arabic language

Arabic is a Central Semitic language, thus related to and classified alongside other Semitic languages such as Hebrew language and Aramaic language....
speaking countries, "horns" are a metaphor for suffering the infidelity of a partner, not limited to husbands in modern usage. The gesture of the horned hand
Corna

The sign of the horns, also corna is a hand gesture with a vulgar meaning in Mediterranean countries and a variety of meanings and uses in other cultures....
can be used to insult the cuckold.

Italian language

Italian is a Romance language spoken by about 63 million people as a first language, primarily in Italy. In Switzerland, Italian is one of four Linguistic geography of Switzerland’s....
equivalent is cornuto, sharing the same double entendre with the English word cornuted, asserting both featuring horns

A horn is a pointed projection of the skin on the head of various mammals, consisting of a covering of horn surrounding a core of living bone.... and cuckolded. Its use is playful and lightheartedly derisive, with little or no particular efficacy in scorning someone during confrontations as it is lacking earnest damning credentials, potentially leading all parties to a chuckle and smothering the feud at its inception. A pervasive metaphor

Portuguese language

Portuguese is a Romance language that originated in what is now Galicia and Portugal. It is derived from the Latin language spoken by the Romanization Pre-Roman peoples of the Iberian Peninsula around 2000 years ago.... the terms corno ("horn"), cornudo or chifrudo ("horned") are used to spite or mock the cheated male partner. The expression corno manso ("tame horned") is used to indicate those men who, although cheated by their partners, come to accept it as a fact of their lives.


Spanish language

The word cornudo is used to describe a male partner whose female partner is sexually unfaithful. A consenting cuckold, cabrón

The Chinese term for "cuckold" is literally translated to "wearing a green hat" (???, dài lu mào). It is because of this that it is extremely rare to see any Chinese man wearing a green hat. Chinese

In Trinidad & Tobago the term "horn" is used in conjunction with cuckolds, or anyone of either sex who has a cheating spouse. Other uses include "to horn" (to sleep with someone else's spouse), "horning" (the act of cheating on your spouse), "horner-man" (a man who is sleeping with someone else's spouse) and "horner-woman" (a woman who is sleeping with someone else's spouse), "to get horn", "to take (a) horn". It is usually used in a pejorative sense. Numerous calypsoes have been written about the topic; the most famous being "Horn Me Sandra" by the Calypsonian

This horn analogy extends to Turkey, where the cuckolded husband is termed boynuzlu, "horned one".

History of Cuckoldry
Cuckoldry as a fetish has been around since at least the time of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch.

Leopold von Sacher-Masoch

Leopold Ritter von Sacher-Masoch was an Austrian writer and journalist, who gained renown at his time for his stories of Galicia life and Romanticism novels....
(the writer after whom the term masochism is coined). Sacher-Masoch's wife, Aurora Rümelin, recounts in her memoirs multiple instances of Sacher-Masoch asking, begging and even threatening her to make her cuckold him so he could experience the pain and humiliation of the act. To that end, Sacher-Masoch created multiple opportunities for the adulterous act to occur, none of which were successful. While Rümelin indulged her husband in many of his masochistic requests, due in large part because of her dependence on him to financially support her and her children, she steadfastly refused to cuckold him. Rümelin's refusal to succumb to Sacher-Masoch's cuckolding fantasies was one of the causes of their separation and her subsequent descent into poverty.

The term has acquired additional meanings within certain sub-cultures, referring to couples wherein the female is dominant and she takes on additional partners, while the male takes on a submissive role where he is monogamous to her, or only becoming involved sexually when it is felt to be emotionally supportive of her and her lover, or remaining altogether celibate.

Cuckoldry as a fetish

"By definition, a cuckold is a married man whose wife cheats on him behind his back. A cuckold fetishist, on the other hand, not only knows about his wife's dalliances, but often enjoys the humiliation of being forced to watch and often help "clean up".." says Tristan Taormino, columnist, pornographer, and author. [3] In this subculture the female is sexually dominant and she takes on additional partners, while the male takes on a submissive role where he is monogamous to her, or only becoming involved sexually when it is felt to be emotionally supportive of her and her lover, or remaining altogether celibate.
The desire for the male to enjoy being cuckolded is more related to sexual gratification and less about interpersonal ideals (respect, commissary, between the partners). Sometimes this is part of the sexual fantasy because they gain sexual arousal through being humiliated. Other times the husband finds pleasure through that of his wife. In a broader context, the contrast between a cuckold and the additional male participant is sometimes used to summarize an individual's personality or behavior and the variability commonly seen in male libidos: the cuckold or beta male suggesting a lack of masculinity or alpha male representing that missing masculinity
The wife and extramarital participant may both enjoy attempting to actively include him in the act of cuckolding as much as possible through serving her. Some common themes include praising her appearance, attempting to stimulate her sexually at the same time as the additional participant, and generally being engrossed in her enjoyment. It is common for the male to be more absorbed with the female's pleasure than his own.
The wife who enjoys cuckoldry is sometimes referred to as a hotwife, slutwife, sharedwife, or a cuckoldress

Swinging

Swinging, sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle, is "non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity that can be experienced as a couple." The phenomenon of swinging may be seen as part of the Sexual Revolution of recent decades, which occurred after the upsurge in sexual activity made possible by...
or cuckoldress. In a broader context, the contrast between a cuckold and the additional male participant is sometimes used to summarize an individual's personality or behavior and the variability commonly seen in male libidos: the cuckold or beta male suggesting a lack of masculinity or alpha male

Cuckolding among female-dominant couples differs from the original definition of cuckolding in that many of these men are willing to be cuckolded by their wives, sometimes as part of the their sexual fantasy.

Sexual fantasy

A sexual fantasy, also called an erotic fantasy, is a deliberate Fantasy or pattern of thoughts with the goal of creating or enhancing sexual feelings; it is mental imagery that an individual considers Eroticism.... and sometimes because they gain genuine sexual arousal

Sexual arousal

Sexual arousal is the arousal of sexual desires in preparation for sexual behavior....
through being humiliated by his wife being better sexually fulfilled with a potentially superior male, or by the wife domination of her husband making him give her oral satisfaction after she returns fresh from her lover’s side.

The desire for the male to enjoy being cuckolded is more related to sexual gratification and less about interpersonal ideals (respect, commissary, between the partners).

In most modern cases of cuckolding, the husband usually finds pleasure in compersion.

Compersion

Compersion is a term used by practitioners of polyamory to describe the experience of taking pleasure that one's partner is experiencing pleasure, even if the source of their pleasure is other than yourself.... through that of his wife and they (the wife and extramarital participant) may both enjoy attempting to actively include him in the act of cuckolding as much as possible through serving her. Some common themes include praising her appearance, attempting to stimulate her sexually at the same time as the additional participant, and generally being engrossed in her enjoyment. It is common for the male to be more absorbed with the female’s pleasure than his own.

While the word defines the cuckold husband as being submissive, powerless and/or in need of humiliation to receive stimulation, contemporary practice suggests that many in such a relationship are experiencing something altogether different than cuckoldry. Rather than passively acceding to the infidelity and desires of an errant wife, this cuckold is more in keeping with the male partners defined in polyamory

Polyamory

Polyamory is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved....an open relationship.

Open Relationship

An open relationship denotes a relationship in which the participants are free to have sexual intercourse with other partners. If the couples making this agreement are married, it is an open marriage, or swinging


Cuckquean

The term "cuckold" is exclusively used for a male whose wife takes other partners; a woman whose husband strays in such fashion is known as a cuckquean.

Wittol

The term “wittol” is used husbands who consent to their wife's extramarital sex, and non-married couples in analogous situations.

Understanding of the Phenomenon

There is a dearth of research available about this phenomenon. Recent information suggests that “sperm competition” might play a role as an influencing variable. Research conducted by Shackleford and Goetz (2007) offers this as one suggestion among others. It is anticipated that further research will be conducted to better understand this phenomenon and the influences that motivates the behavior.

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ACP
 m_church
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Posted: 9/3/2009 11:17:02 AM

but in the end the thought of him hiding in the closet while i was in bed with his wife just didnt do it for me. i'd keep worrying about him getting upset and coming at my back with a knife or something. i declined.
Something similar happened to a buddy of mine years ago. He was invited by a couple he knew to have sex with the wife, they talked about it in advance, they planned it all out they basically covered all the bases...
As soon as my friend started fooling with the wife, her hubby suddenly want berserk got angry and started punching my friend. They haven't spoken since.
 prettybird74
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Posted: 9/9/2009 2:32:01 PM
every man and women at some point should explore their feelings about this. some masochist want to feel inadequate. we are all a little ****ed up.
 miss_contemplative
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Posted: 9/9/2009 7:45:08 PM
I was approached by a man on here who asked me the same thing. I think the cuckold male is an interesting creature. I don't recall it ever having anything to do with the size of his penis so I think that is way off.

And I don't suspect that cuckolds necessarily feel inadequate. In fact I think they do gain some measure of control by consenting and actually encouraging their female partners to enjoy other lovers.

The man I spoke with said that it excited him to know that she could attract other lovers to herself and that he (in past relationships of this sort) would actually be friends with the lovers in question at some point in time. He was quite gracious in helping me to understand exactly how this lifestyle works. He went into great detail for me, seemed very intelligent and wasn't bad looking at all. And I highly doubt his penis was an issue.



Now why couldn't I have found one of those in my twenties? Damn it!
 brooklynro
Joined: 4/17/2009
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Posted: 9/10/2009 10:09:48 AM
now i dont subscribe to this fetish but i dont condemn it either, the only thing i can say is that it could put a strain on a friendship if an unwilling person was approached. if people can have a healthy relationship and have that as part of their sex lives then go and have fun. personally i feel that the idea of group sex is better in theory than it is practical or healthy for a relationship. just my idea and not necessarily true for everyone...

Rev. Roland
 TantraD
Joined: 8/21/2009
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Posted: 9/10/2009 11:30:22 AM
THANKYOU PHILOGUS for your article...:)

ONE of the things missing from *some * of the posts is that cuckolding is MOST OFTEN AFTER a relationship is built on respect trust and love...and NOT IN A HUMILIATING WAY.
Thus the cuck willingly goes along and encourages his woman having other partners...secure in her love...
He derives pleasure from her pleasure...it is thrilling to him
She may go out and be with them and come home and tell him all...go with him also or he cleans up after..or they hug and hold.
They are the ones in love...

***I feel that when a man asks you to be his cuckoldress and does not really know you..it is a way to get in on a 3 way or for him to have you hunt down other men then he can jerk off while you have sex or for him to be a watcher.***

MY 2nd husband was a cuck husband...and encouraged me to have others becuz of my voracious appetite and other things..
.This was discussed and the parameters agreed on by us.He was not humilated in any way

A man on POF also approached me about cucking...
We met and talked a long while and agreed that the way we felt about it..
to be IN LOVE with the person FIRST and the the cucking develops would not work becuz...we were not in love and simply talking about me with other men..
which was a totally different MIND set..to what we were looking for..

I recognize as well...my opinion and ideas are simply mine..take what you want and leave the rest
T
 terdex
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Posted: 1/29/2010 12:43:01 PM
hi im al would you like a cuck?
 terdex
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Posted: 1/29/2010 12:44:58 PM
hi would u like a cuck?
 BikerBoy8
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Posted: 1/29/2010 4:24:54 PM
It is so strange to me that so many men are into this, or are okay with it. It also amazes me how many women are able to do it.

I can imagine the alternative:

"My wife of 10 years has put on a few lbs, and has had a couple kids. So I get to screw some tight little hardbodied woman who is younger and better in bed. Then I taunt my wife by telling her how much tighter and younger the other womans **** is, how firm and ample her breasts are, how much firmer and sexier her body is, how much better she moves in bed and has more stamina to handle me. "

I am an ***hole, but that even I couldnt do.

Now, an open relationship on the other hand...............
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