| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 11/20/2007 5:15:27 AM | | clare, My friends will be thrilled as I am for my lady being a woman who is beautiful both inside and out, and her having the power to make me return to my better senses. What is unattractive is someone who thinks that their appearances are all that are needed to live life as it should be. I believe that it's called "vanity" ...and not to be misconstrued w/ "self-respect". | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:14:05 AM | Hi Clare,
I teach too and I heard something really shocking that relates to your question. I went to lunch with a few colleagues that are new to my school. In our conversation, one guy said something obnoxious about only dating women that other guys would be envious of him for. I told him that even before this absurdity came out of his mouth I thought his arrogance was just overcompensation for being shorter than the average guy and bald.
Don't get me wrong, He's a good looking guy but he is clearly insecure. Later that day he told me that he does feel insecure about his height and his hair (mercifully, it's shaved and not a comb over). He works out tirelessly especially before a date to boost his self esteem. Guys have issues too. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 11/20/2007 1:48:44 PM | | As for your boyfriends/friend, just say this to yourself and say this to your boyfriend/friend "I don't care if you like me or not, I'm myself. If you have something bad to say about me, take your opinion and shove it up your ass. Accept me for me, and not for who you want me to be." If they can't accept you for who you are, then they really aren't your friends. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 11/20/2007 3:36:00 PM | I would want my friends to think she's unattractive. Actually, it would be great if I thought she was the hottest thing ever and every other man didn't.
The ginger people are so universally hated.
Is that my problem? | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:44:07 PM | I think it would depend how much other people's opinions matter to us. I like to think I don't care what anyone else thinks about what I do, who I hang out with or date, what kind of music I listen to, but I do have friends whose opinions I respect and I keep a fairly open mind. If someone makes a point about a choice I've made that I haven't really considered that much, then I am compelled to consider what they say, particularly if I respect there opinion.
But if it's "true love" (if there is such a thing), then someone else's opinion ultimately shouldn't matter. If someone only likes someone or something if his or her friends do too, then that person wouldn't strike me as someone I'd want to date anyways. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:47:29 PM | Frankly, I doubt this would ever be an issue for me for one very good reason: I am pretty good at picking my friends. If a friend of mine ever said that a girlfriend of mine wasn't good-looking enough, I'm sure I'd dump the friend long before I'd dump the girlfriend.
In fact, my best friend of 23 years married a woman that I, personally, would not be the least bit attracted to, but she's a fantastic woman and the two of them are wonderful together. I was the best man at their wedding and couldn't possibly have been any happier for them than I was, and I consider her every bit as much a friend as I do him. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:01:04 AM | | If a guy dated a girl that his peers thought was hot , his social standing goes up. If the girl he dates is rated dog by his friends...woof...he moves down the chain in terms of social standing. And they might even tease him about it. P.S. You're kinda hot. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:15:50 AM | | The younger I was the more important it was; Now I could care less. I see it in many of the girls posts I read too; I want someone I can show off to my family and friends or someone to take home too. Kind of sad that they need to impress people with their SO's money or looks. Very shallow. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:17:29 AM | | I am with CSIAnaheim, I pick pretty well with my friends. They know my choices are none of their damn business. If I had friends that went with the social status due to a hot girlfriend, they wouldn't be my friend. I don't care to be around dumb@sses, just my choice. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:10:31 AM | | There was this time I was dating this really hot girl, and she dropped by my workplace to have lunch with me during my lunch break. My male colleagues were like "holy shit! You're my hero." Girls go for the same sort of peer pressure. They want to date hot guys to show off to their other girl friends. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:22:05 AM | Actually, I don't think any of my friends have asked me, do I think their boy/girlfriend is attractive. Sorry, yes they have when we were around 10-12 years old.
I would never volunteer information like that. Why would I say to anyone that I find your SO to be attractive or unattractive? How does one come out with things like that anyway? Do you just say it in the middle of the conversation, as btw your boyfriend is not that attractive....?
Why does it matter to me if they are attractive or not? I'm not the one that is going out with them.
None of my friends have never said it to me either about my boyfriends.
I would seriously question people, who feels the need to comment things like this. What is their motive for doing so. | |
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| Do you care if your friends think your lady is unattractive?
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:14:02 PM | | Whether my friends thought my SO was attractive is absolutely of no consequence to me. I'd be more inclined to listen if they were saying something about his character, or behavior but even then....I'm one to make up my own mind. | |
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