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Coma66
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Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 228 | |
| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 5:01:40 AM | | "I didn't know there was going to be a test", I thought I was shallow. Yes a lot of you are being too critical, just because we can't all spell every little word perfectly doesn't mean we are bad people undeserving of a chance at finding love and happiness. Note I use the word "we" including myself as a poor speller, at 41 I know spelling well is not high on my list of things that matter in life. It hasn't held me back from doing anything I've wanted to and I manage to make it through each day just fine even if I can't spell as good as a lot of other people can. Having read a few of the replies to your message there seems to be a lot of people who feel we are not as good as they because of misspelling things. And I bow down to them because they are just so peachy and holy and better then the rest of us. Ok sorry for venting a little. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 5:20:23 AM | It's not how they spell, it's what they say.
Like "oh baby I am the man for you, you are the love of my life and together we can make dreams come true. I am the man for you, I will love you and understand you and take care of you"....blah blah blah.......and that's the first e-mail he has ever sent to you..lol
Spelling isn't that big an issue......driving drunk is an issue | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 230 | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 5:48:07 AM | At my age (44), I expect those I am corresponding with to have a basic grasp of the English language. Typos I understand.
I always check a profile first and if the profile is filled with misspelled words and poor grammar, it is a turn-off for me. If the profile is hard to read and the email equally hard to read it is a turn off.
Text speak is a turn off too.
If they don’t know the difference between there and their, your and you’re, hear and here, hour and our, saw and seen etc., etc, I will have a very difficult time responding. I will respond with a very short message but nothing more.
I do understand some people are not good spellers. I do expect a basic grasp of the language and the ability to spell the most common of words. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 5:49:21 AM | | Apparently we live in an age where we did so much communicating verbally, then we went computerized, time is so short that many people just want to get their message across and don't pay attention to grammar and spelling. I like to see correct grammar and spelling but it's what's being said that's more important. And it doesn't necessarily indicate how they communicate in person; I've met people that communicate in writing very well and then I've met them and they can't hold a conversation...very off-putting. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 5:58:00 AM | No, et do knat buthir me at al, sinse I is a grate speeler.........
Seriously, though, yes it is one of my biggest pet peeves and I even mention it in a disclaimer at the end of my profile! It has even become a deal breaker with me with some men, since it is an indication of intelligence (or lack of). | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 7:28:45 AM | I do not feel it is being too critical.
Typos are common but if I get an email with alot of misspelled words I will go look at the profile and if it also is poorly written then it usually is a turn off.
I have received emails that look like a 4th grader has written them and some that have such awful grammar that they honestly make no sense whatsoever. In the age range that I am interested I would think by now they should have a good handle on spelling and grammar. I find intelligence attractive. So yes I feel it is important. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/2/2007 9:54:46 AM | plain ignorant and reveals a serious character flaw.
No...it reveals a preference. Your own profile indicates that you turned down a "fat, nasty, ugly chick" (a pretty derogatory and inflammatory thing to say, for someone who admits he's not perfect but doesn't post a pic) Other threads you've posted on also indicate that you don't like "fat" women. That's your preference, and while it does indicate some prejudices, it is YOUR preference and you're entitled to it. Some choose not to communicate with people who don't display a pic. That's another preference....not a character flaw.
I'm sure you don't feel that disdain for large women is a character flaw, do you? THEY might feel that your lack of respect for them is...but you simply aren't attracted to women of that type. It's YOUR preference. There are those who'd find that "ignorant" too, I'm sure.
Preferring to read email and chat with someone who takes the care and time to do it properly is merely that - a preference. Preferences reveal what people are comfortable with. You're not comfortable with fat women. I'm not one, I dont' have anything personal invested in this.... but I'm not comfortable dating or typing to inarticulate men.
We all have "filters" for who we do/don't want to be involved with. Live with it. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:20:08 PM | | For me i write essays in the evening and text my friends all day at work... so my grammar when i aim/yahoo messenger someone or even email is horrible by most everyone’s standards. So to answer the question.. It is a indication of my personality.. Even though i am well educated. I am beat down by the time i get on fish to send emails. So it is a indicator that i like to cut corners when i can.. Who doesn’t like to cut corners.??? Isn’t that what internet dating is all about? To save you the trouble of running through 100's of people at the singles bar. So.. My falsify is to be patient with people with bad grammar and to dig deeper to find out the reason why they do it before you label them. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:32:14 PM | Um...one of the sweetest girls I know is dislexic.
Another very nice lady that I correspond with is a high school English teacher...I think she uses poor spelling and grammar as an escape from her work.
Too bad so many of you wouldn't take the time to get to know either one of them. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/4/2007 4:16:00 AM | Honestly, I cna overlook mistyped or mispelled words but poor grammar is a big no no. Sentences should make sense. So even if the I is not before the e or if they use the wrong (Their, there, they're) It is not a deal braker. noone is perfect but stupidity makes me mad. I overlook small simple mistakes. pucntuation does not matter much to me either. As long as I can undestand what they are typing and are not writting in ghetto slang or ebonics as its called. Say alright not aight. I like me E's and R's.  | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/4/2007 6:48:07 AM | An occasional mistake is understandable...gross errors in syntax, spelling, and grammar are deal breakers.
The point is, written communication is NOT supposed to be the same as VERBAL communication. It is extremely difficult to project the same nuances, inflections, etc. into a written form on paper as when they are spoken. It's the reason actors are able to turn a script into something vibrant and living.
Okay, I'm going back to my dark little corner now... | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:28:40 AM | | What I find to be amusing is the people in this thread who are claiming to be horrible with grammar and spelling aren't making any gross grammatical and spelling errors in their posts. Everything is still intelligible. Obviously, we're not talking about bad spellers like you (cause you're really not that bad). It seems as though some folks are almost taking it personally that anyone would be turned off by someone who can't spell or put together a proper sentence. I am not lying when I say I have received some messages that are INCOHERENT. The whole thing is a mess from the spelling to the grammar to the sentence structure to word choice to syntax and finally the punctuation. Who wants to spend 20 minutes trying to decipher 3-4 sentences. I'm sure that the people who send these messages are perfectly nice. However, I can tell just from the way they write that our personalities would not mesh. Why waste their time and mine? | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/4/2007 9:17:48 AM | Yes I would always respond back. Not responding back is in my eyes very rude. But I think a lot of internet daters are 'rude'. English is my second lanuage and I'm still trying to improve, especially my grammar. So since I'm not perfect, and no one is, I think everyone should get at least a chance.
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:21:32 AM | carebear - you write better than some native English speakers. Everything you wrote was clear and intelligible. I didn't even notice that one typo until you said something about it. I don't think you have the type of bad spelling/grammar that would turn someone off. Here is an example of what we are talking about
Hi! A seen yor profyle an your pretty, maybe we could of are first date at movie. Wot movie will yu likd to saw. Plees wright back.
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That is the type of hot a$$ mess I'm referring to. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:28:10 AM |
I know I shouldn't be so picky about it;but, people who email me with very bad grammar and misspelled words turn me off. Is this an indication of how they communicate in person? Is this being too critical? I guess for me it all depends on the gist of what has been said; many people have poor language skills but I don't know if that's the rule for their entire personality, so I'd look for things in common: sense of humour, etc.
In any case, I will reply even if it's just to say 'I don't think we're a match but thank you for your interest.' .. | |
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