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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:53:24 AM | Give me a break........ I have made mistakes and I am an outdoor writer on the side.
Some people just do not type very well or they try to type to fast. If you are going to judge someone by a spelling mistake or grammer mistake you are being picky.
If I see that a lady has checked my profile I will check hers back. If I see something
I will send her a message. I am not going to take the time to go to my Word Perfect type a message and spell check and grammer check.
What about the people that can't put up a quality photo are you going to judge them on that?
Loosen up and live life.....and enjoy those who would like to enjoy it with you. | |
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Joined: 1/14/2008
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 2:03:20 PM | | I have to say this.....try and look past the writing "mechanics" and look at the "content" of what is being said. There are a TON of people out there who have learning disabilities that weren't recognized in school, and if you can't get past the typos or spelling mistakes, then you may be missing out on someone GREAT who just has problems communicating in the written form. So they are already at a huge disadvantage when it comes to first contact. However, if this really irks you, then by all means, delete!!! Because it will only bother you in the long run - no matter how great the person may be! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 2:18:03 PM | ^^^^^^I lecture to students at Dalhousie University, do I draft any of the lectures, no I don't, that's why I have two Secretaries that I dictate to....I can't spell it's atrocious, but yet I earn 4x as much as my secretaries.....and I speak very well, that's my job, public speaking...... | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 2:28:50 PM | | Being critical has nothing to do with it. If there is alot of "misspelled words and bad grammar" BEWARE. I have responded to two such emails and found out that they were nothing but scams. I even talked to a woman (after the fact) that fell for the scam and it got her several thousand dollars. I myself recieved a check from one such man for over $5,000, but I wasn't stupid or vunerable enough to fall for it. I did some checking and found out that these are usually people that do not even live in the US, but say they do. SO BE PICKY!!! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:27:26 PM | Well, I don't know about bad grammar being a red flag for a scam, but this is a topic I feel a little uncomfy about. You see, I find myself turned off by poor spelling and grammar. Not the occasional typo, everyone does that. But chronically bad spelling, sentences like "i am looking 4 sum1 to b wit, R U her", profiles that are typed in all caps (WTF?) and profiles that are one big run on sentence with no punctuation whatsoever.
That being said, my oldest daughter, who is 20, is an atrocious speller. God knows I tried, spelling drills, computer programs, etc. Her spelling still stinks. But she is a very smart girl who does well in school, knows how to use spell checker and is quite lovely to look at. I would hate for someone to dismiss her because her spelling is lousy.
I guess the bottom line for me is that spelling isn't everything, but I draw the line when the person I see speaks as poorly as they write. And someone who says "ain't" isn't even an option. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:29:21 PM | my feelings are the same,if they cant spell correctly then they cant do anything else correctly,end of story.but i do understand there are allowances for some,but u can tell the difference !
bigbird, isn't this a bit hypocritical of "U"? Last time I checked it was spelled "you". | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:51:31 PM | | Mis -typing is one thing. And generally ok. Usually you owuld take the time to proof read before you send an e-mail. Bad grammar is another. And When people talk with all caps which is cruise control for their keyboard is downright annoying. When I see thse things To the point that I have to try to translat e what they are saying it shows them as being stupid or uneducated in my mind. so yes If its it really bad such as people saying "nite" uinstead of "night" it bothers me to an extent. If they do it so repeatedly to the point that they think that is how it is spelled. Maybe we are jsut anal retentive and once in a while it cna be ok maybe even cute. but if I find 10 misspellings in a sginel message then I am not tlaking to someoen who is borderline retarded with an IQ of 70 like Paris Hilton. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:55:34 PM | If it is important to you, then it is important to consider. Perhaps deleting on the first email, is a bit presumptive and harsh, but it will eliminate dealing with the issue and the person.
There could be the occasional spell-check brain-burp. I know that after the age of forty, my own internal spell-check has developed some glitches. Some people are quite intelligent and thoughtful human beings, yet do not have the good spelling gene. Lots of men fall into this category, it is considered to be a Y chromosome thing.
I, too, am repelled by poor spelling and poor grammar. However, I do try to evaluate the situation a bit further. If the poor grammar and spelling seem representative of poor thinking skills and illogic then I know there is not even a substantial friendship there for me. I value rational thought highly, and tend to avoid the irrational folk as much as possible.
I would likely send a short note telling the person that we are not a match, and leave it at that. No need to be rude, when the person was thinking they were sending you a compliment by saying they found you attractive. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 5:13:48 PM | A few typos I can handle. I myself am not a great typist and some basic grammar rules escape me. But, I just can't get past the "your" "You're" and "they're" "their" and "there" and "now" and "know" confusion. It quite literally makes me crazy and I HAVE to read/delete.
I have so very few deal breakers as I am a relatively easy going person but the misuse of those words just gets right under my skin. As you can imagine, those seven little words really lowers the number of people that make it through my "screening process." - LOL! I thought about lightning up on those deal breakers but the one time I did - I um, well regretted it.
An earlier poster said that many times people write as they speak and I find that to be true. If they write using inappropriate wording they will typically speak that way too - and that comes across as ignorance - another turnoff for me. I also feel that if someone is trying to contact me for the first time and their writing is sloppy, incorrect or just bizarre then it goes to say that they are not trying to put their best foot forward. I try to come across in the best light possible for them, why shouldn't they try to as well? I think careful communication is an indication to the intentions and seriousness of the process of getting to know a new person. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 5:19:56 PM | Some good point of views here. The fact is true that we all have little pet peeves.
We all have a tendency to stereo-type others when it comes to people that not only don't know proper grammer but other things that may appear to make them look un-educated. Statistically many Americans learning English from birth still don't speak or write it properly.
You have to take into consideration that there are things like "computer slang ".
I myself do find it annoying if I have to "translate" what has been typed to me. None of us wants to decode an email...lol
I am not "as" interested in that person but, I do give them the benefit of the doubt.
I will surely check out their profile and see what that looks like and how the personality shines through there.
I basically type all day for work but I find many mispelled words when I am on the computer for personal use. Sometimes you didn't proofread and other times things are typed in slang, mispelled on purpose and just reading it you can usually understand what is being said. The point is to each his own. Judging someone for mispelling is not something I would consider since it does seem so minor of an issue. It really doesn't mean if they aren't efficient in typing, that they aren't wonderful people and efficient in many other areas of their life.
Note: I wasn't sure how to spell the word tendency but I was really too lazy to check! LOL | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 6:27:38 PM | firstly, i don't really think one has to be dislexic or spell like an idiot to qualify as a genius
secondly, i have a suggestion:
people who can tolerate bad spelling should go and date people who can't spell;
and people who like good spelling should date the literate fish.
that way everbody gets a date and no-one needs to be annoyed.
now could the second category please talk to me, i spell superbly in several languages even though i don't use capital letters when keyboarding
still looking for a travel companion to come with me around australia........there is a lot of time for spelling contests while crossing the nullarbor | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:04:10 PM | Did not Know that there are so many sad people out there .
I can't spell and my grammer is also bad . . but then I have Dyslexia .
To those of you that are so sad as to hold the misspelling of word's and bad grammer as a reason not to talk with other's is just amazing.
But then when you think about it it is also really quite a good thing, as those of you who do that are just so shallow, and in a way you are filtering yourselves from those of us who have problem's in the spelling and grammer area; and that cannot be a bad thing as it keeps people that think that way from us . . we may have problems in spelling and grammer, but you have problem's with your humanity.
I do feel sorry for you if that is the way your mind work's. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:42:29 PM | | A similar topic came up in conversation a while back with some friends and one guy's opinion was "Half the people in this world worth talking to don't talk (or in this case, write) like they're writing a college paper." and that sort of stuck with me. I believe it's true to an extent, even if someone's message is badly put together I would think it was the actual content and the tone of the letter that mattered. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/18/2008 8:13:47 PM | I'm not going to say that everything I write is a model of perfect grammar and syntax, but it's pretty damn close, at least by modern American standards. What can I tell you? It is a gift and a burden. One thing I can definitely say with certainty is that I have yet to meet someone who swooned over my pretty perfect words. I guess it is kind of like personal hygiene. No one will notice unless it is lacking.
Do I care about someone else's poor spelling and grammar? That depends on what her profile photo looks like. Am I being too honest? I have this fantasy that an attractive woman will send me an email with typos, misspellings, etc. which I will print and mark up with a red sharpie. Then when we meet I will have her bend over a desk and re-read the letter to me over and over while I give her a good spanking. That's how James Spader bagged Maggie Gyllenhall.
Okay, I'm just kidding so don't flame me. But seriously, when I read a profile that is in ALL CAPS, I assume that person to be retarded and thus we might run out of things to talk about. I have a real hang up about the whole cap lock thing. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:37:03 AM | | Truth told YES it is a turn-off to me when someone sends a message that appears with misspelled words and bad grammer.Looks aren't everything I want a man I can communicate with that at the very least has high school grammer skills.Until we actually meet and speak ,typing sentences to one another is all we have on here. | |
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