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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:06:20 AM |
I know I shouldn't be so picky about it;but, people who email me with very bad grammar and misspelled words turn me off. Is this an indication of how they communicate in person? Is this being too critical?
I don't think you should knock someone down for how they spell. Some people can't help it and some people can. I know I am not a spelling bee champ and I honestly suck at it but if someone was like "Oh hell no, this girl can't spell...I am not talking to her." that would be for a small picky reason. At least find out what they are truly about. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:26:33 AM | This is such a tricky situation. I work in education, so I am attracted to people who are likely to be able to carry on good written communication. However, I do business with a guy who owns a very successful trucking company. His e-mails would be totally misleading because he can't put 5 words together. Evidently he never learned to type, and anything that he would put into his profile, unless someone prepared it for him, would sound completely illiterate. Yet, he'd certainly be worth meeting. So you never know.
Sandie | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:00:20 PM | #471... just a little insite.. It is a exhausting job... my son, (who's an adult now) was the worse speller... many times during his school years he woke me up and asked me how to spell a word... Why? He was up late writing a school paper.. he was school aholic..
Yet, although he wasn't the best speller.... He won numerous awards, he is now married a sucessful father, husband, school teacher and still goes to college.... I smile because it is bitter sweet.... He learned from me.. as continues to teach those in his generation and those that aren't of his generation..... So... what was my reasoning..
 ... Some one take my pencil... I just poked myself.... | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:39:13 PM | | My own mother can barely spell, but has 2 degrees. One in archeology and one in sociology. However, her ability to spell, read and interpret the feelings of others is below a 15 year old's. One would not know this without knowing her as well as myself or other's who know her like me. She has learned to survive quite well without having to do these things very much. And has even been very successful in her life. Many many people have degrees who cannot put together an essay or even study or read. They are glib. IMO it's an indicator of other problems that lie deeper than we, or they can see. So, knowing this, I would not be all that interested in a guy who cannot spell or read. No matter how much money he has. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:57:59 PM | I love sneaking around here in the forums and seeing some of my favorite grammar police on patrol, I just hop in and start to make it look like I'm contributing some contrived drivel to a mundane topic that is ridiculous and would never really reply except for the fact that "they" are here, and just make their day for them. You would think they were "smart" and would catch on, enough said ta ta.
Yes I would reply and I do so often, there is always a nice lady at the other end so how can I go wrong
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 1:44:51 PM | I am one of the bad gramer guys out here, I have been to collage and an owner of a Co for 25 years, hands on kinda guy. can fix about anything. Now when it comes to spelling i just don't spell the words like everyone else.. I get the message across and don't realy think to hit spell check. I would think some people are better at words then others. some are great cooks too!!!
well thats my story and i am sticking to it,,LOL | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:23:56 PM | I have a built in spell check so everything I read gets "reviewed". But if the overall spelling is OK I assume the occasional misspell is due to fingers & not brain.
As for grammar, I can't handle it if the entire email/profile is atrocious. But if the majority is OK, I'm OK. But, I can NOT handle text speak from someone in my generation! I'll let the "younguns" slip through, mostly because I'm not going to date them anyway. They just don't know any better! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:13:03 PM |
There's no point for me to correspond with someone who writes like this:
"waz up, wot ru doin 4 weekend. I am go 2 c sum frends"
Oh, that is so painful. It took me about 15 seconds to read, re-read, and understand those 14 words. How utterly painful.
And just remember that spell-check is not perfect. To/too, through/threw, your/you're are all perfectly spelled words and are the most frequent misused words.
"I was to angry to answer your email. Your a dork and that's why I due it this way."
Ouch. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:17:48 PM | | aperfectlifeforme - of course I would respond because the person could be thethe nicest one you might ever meet. A lot of people type fast or not too good and don't check their spelling after they answer a question. I myself tell that person to type in their answer in word, run the spell check and then copy and paste it back into this site. So far no one has had any negative thing to say to me about it. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:29:18 PM | | To me it's as simple as using spell check.... It drives me crazy to have to read over and over again either a profile or e-mail from someone. I've sent an e-mail back to someone telling them that I wasn't interested in them for this reason. Needless to say I got an e-mail back with even worse spelling telling me how much I missed out on. I just deleted the e-mail (what I could make out anyway) and blocked them. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:30:32 PM | I guess the question for me is whether or not the person has something worth responding to. If I can understand the message despite the grammar / spelling, I would probably respond if the message was compelling.
On the other hand, if I received a properly spelled, grammatically correct message that was trite (or worse, downright boring), I may not bother to respond, especially if I couldn't find anything positive to say back to them.
Spelling counts, but the message counts more. My 2 cents. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:44:30 PM | Personally I would not respond, but it would depend on how bad the misspelled words and grammar are.
I usually reread what I have written and make any corrections before I send it. Sometimes when you are writing what you are thinking and then see it in print, it looks different.
I take this as a sign of me not being important enough to take the time to use proper english when trying to make a connection with someone. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:54:28 PM | If someone emailed me who had bad spelling & grammar I would definitely reply. We all have various talents. I was secretary once for a man with 2 degrees. He was shocked each time I changed words in his letters, checked & discovered mine to be correct. Some of us have an ear for music, while many don't.... would you disqualify those who don't? They often have earthshaking things to say!.  | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:58:46 PM | oh gve me a break, thats just so nit picky, who the hell cares i mispell all the time. and this isn't school. geez. what a crock of dung. surley theres more pressing things to worry about.
and hey, besides what about someone with learning disabilities - i dont see a spell check on here for them, do you??? And if they have one and thats why their spelling or grammer is off or awful, and you'd also hold that against them - thats worse than shallow.
or hey, not everyone is keyboard proficient, what about someone who only types one handed or one finger and/or cant type with out looking at the board etc etc., lots of people, thers bound to be spelling mistakes. and if you think spelling and grammer indicates intelligence or lack of, you're way off.
Bottom line, theres many reasons for terrible spelling and grammer, even laziness, to lazy or rushed to re-read and proof read.
doesnt matter, if it gets your knickers in a tiwist, you've got issues. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 7:19:29 PM | Quintas, most people have at least some minimum standards; that's normal when it comes to dating. Far from being superficial, spelling & grammar are just one such standard. If I'm going to connect with someone on an interpersonal level then they not only have to be able to spell, but also do basic arithmetic, know the capital city of the country, obey stop signs when driving, and have sufficient brains not to smoke cigarettes.
Dating is about meeting someone you relate to so well that you go on to a deeper, romantic relationship. It's not about wasting time on the first brainless twit to send you an unintelligible email. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:30:08 PM | Most of my friends know me as the grammar and spelling police...haha. It's a pet peeve of mine if you can't put together a proper sentence. It's understandable to get maybe 1 or 2 words misspelled. After all, some people type fast on their computers and typos do occur. I give them a benefit of a doubt. However, when a guy "TyPes LyK Diz" and start saying "holla atcha boi shorty" That is such a major turnoff...not cute at all. Don't expect a reply from me either  | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:53:10 AM | | Spelling is a pet peeve of mine for sure. I used to be employed as a web designer a few years back. And I'd have to read through an entire website for the company, print the pages with the misspelled words and give it to the person to correct them. I also have my own website. And for some reason..... .....that other people don't understand, seeing misspelled words on the Internet for literally the whole world to see, bugs me. And the same goes for emails. I know I misspell words too. But the person who does not care about what another person sees, well..................forget about it. If they cannot go back to school and take a simple reading, writing and spelling class, then I don't want them. Seriously. I think it's all about communication and what a person wants to come across as. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:13:44 AM | I do not respond to people who use slang or spell words like ThIs ... with caps then small etc...
That being said I also misspell words ;-) I have it right on my profile that I am a poor speller...however when I misspell a few words here and there I do not believe it is indicitve of how intelligent I am in real life. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:19:49 PM | who the hell cares i mispell all the time.
Well, it's pretty clear who doesn't care.
what about someone with learning disabilities - i dont see a spell check on here for them, do you??? And if they have one and thats why their spelling or grammer is off or awful, and you'd also hold that against them - thats worse than shallow.
One of my daughters has dyslexia and the other has A.D.D. Both of them spell far better than many I've seen who don't have to deal with learning disabilities.
not everyone is keyboard proficient, what about someone who only types one handed or one finger and/or cant type with out looking at the board etc etc., lots of people, thers bound to be spelling mistakes. and if you think spelling and grammer indicates intelligence or lack of, you're way off.
My dyslexic daughter has to look at the keyboard when she types and she certainly doesn't spell everything correctly, but she still spells pretty well and what's more ~ she cares enough to ask how to spell something or looks it up.
theres many reasons for terrible spelling and grammer, even laziness, to lazy or rushed to re-read and proof read.
And there you have it in a nutshell. You see, it's not about intelligence. It's about caring enough to put a little effort into what you communicate, whether it be in person or in writing. It's about caring whether it's correct, presents you in the best light, and doesn't make you look like a lazy person who doesn't give a rip about anything. If someone doesn't care about something as fundamental as spelling in a medium that's based on written words, that says a lot about them to me.
I'm not a perfect speller, but I look words up all the time because I care that what I write is correct. I care whether it's easy to read because I want the focus to be on what I have to say and not have those who read my words be distracted by horrible spelling, poor grammar, no/incorrect punctuation and capitalization, etc.
And for those of you who get all defensive and say people who care about such things are nit picky and need to get over it and who cares if someone can't spell.....how's about if you date those people and leave the ones who care for the rest of us, k?  | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:54:31 PM | I feel the same way. I actually received an email from someone on this site who used bad grammar/spelling errors/'text talk' on purpose to come across hip and cool. I mean, someone who's well into their 40's who's trying to come across all 'ghetto' is just silly to me!
Most profiles I read that are riddled with spelling errors (for once and for all...one is woman, two or more is WOMEN!) I pass on by, which is probably some kind of discrimination. I would think most savvy men would type out their profiles on Word or some other word processing software and spell check it before pasting onto POF. | |
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