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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:11:23 PM |
Yall know this is the internet,right?
Yeah, and not all that long ago those with access to the internet were, in general, more articulate and better writers than the general public. I'm not sure why the internet is now seen as an opportunity to be less articulate and a poorer writer than the general public. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:58:29 PM | This is a message board for an online dating site. Yall take grammar online(ie plentyoffish) way too seriously. If anyone can comprehend what a person is typing,then what's the problem?
The way someone writes and the care a person puts into what he or she writes says something about that person. It probably says more than the things that person wants you to know by including it in a profile. There is no problem if you don't care about how people perceive you based on how you write. However, I would think that on a dating site, most people would like to be perceived positively by the type of people they want to attract. If you're looking for someone who is articulate, intelligent and educated, then you'll probably be SOL unless you write for an articulate, intelligent and educated audience. Also, my ability to comprehend what someone writes is only half of it. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/3/2008 5:40:02 PM |
If anyone can comprehend what a person is typing,then what's the problem?
If you really don't get what the problem is, I doubt you ever will. And anyone who's apathetic won't see the problem, which is fine. You just won't be dating anyone who isn't apathetic, that's all. Knock yourself out! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/3/2008 6:24:58 PM | aperfect, As you're asking me among the you of 'y'all out here' for a response, I'm forging ahead for for my answer w/o reading what others had to share.
I'd have to consider several things before I draw any conclusions:
1.) Can I interpret the gist of what she's trying to let me know or ask of me? Before I met my SO from Pof, who I've asked to manage my money for us ...besides a few other aspects of our living together here, I'd next read her profile prose. 2.) If her profile is written in the same 'jibberish' ...in lieu of a more than less attempt for correct spelling and grammar, then no. 3. ) Even if I'd still reply w/ a "Thanx, butt no think you" ...unless her profile pics were of good "OMG!" quality. 4.) I'd have to wonder, though, if 'she' wasn't another contrived "spam-bot"out for fresh internet interest in what is too cliché for the perfect woman ...and then again, I'd not respond as 'it' desired, even if I did in ways that received no further foolishness on their behalf. [BTW, the same sort of approach works well w/ all those Latter Day Saints, dressed as corporate robots, who come a callin' to convert you to to LD 'Saintery', but I digress once more.]
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice? Shame on me for not picking up on the likelihood that someone isn't real, but then what if email was sent from the someone who potentially might be truly loving of you, your 'scars from previous love lessons', and where you are headed in this crazy world and lifetime w/ more twists and turns than others can fathom for your past experiences?
Yes, good spelling and grammar matter to me, but what if she was so very real and so very intent on knowing me better that what her heart wrote w/o her mind allowing for a quick spell-check before she sent what she did from her good heart? It is precisely why I'm looking forward to having a happier "Volumbus Day" w/ a real and very loving woman beside me (Under or above too?) ..to celebrate the "holiday" this year as we should best do for not letting bad grammar or spelling getting in the way of what best be IRL. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:58:40 AM | well they could be:
1. drunk
2. dyslexic (most dyslexics have above average IQ's so don't write them off, especially if they can add, which wordy people often can't)
3. or simply unable to type but enthusiastic and responsive
i guess there's no way of knowing unless you actually take a chance and meet the individual for yourself.
just a thought
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:46:36 AM | Suzanne, please stop! Open minds are not allowed. Its all about filtering out people, did you not get the properly spelled memo?
Let me get the checklist out and refresh you on this, the only people entitled to verbal intercourse must have the following:
Perfect grammar- check
Perfect syntax - check
perfect internet etiquette - check
Should make $100k a year - check
Have nothing but time (and still make $100k without working too much - check
have the patience of a saint- check
great looks - check
good personality - check
love kids - check
willing to overlook my flaws (yet he/she are allowed none) - check
Well I could go on about this but I think you get the sarcasm. It's really ironic how my own experiences seem to pan out it's always the people who had characteristics that were at first unappealing in some minor way, ended up being those with qualities that were most admirable once the superficial aspects of that relationship had faded. A diamond in the rough is only revealed with a little digging.
Doesn't that then beg the question: What are you really looking for? By having all these filters set to (everyone's excluded) level, I find that to be first and foremost a source of comedy, secondly a goldmine of deviant anthropology, and (coming in a distant third) a search for Mr. or Ms sixpack/cleavage/rockstar/yacht club/model who doesn't exist in the real world. What are the chances he/she exists in this one?
Oh, my bad a run on sentence.
Regards,
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:03:57 AM | I still think that it's a huge turn-off to open emails with bad grammar and all of that. It's cool to find someone who can be articulate in writing. (since this is a website and nobody is actually speaking in person). If that's me being too picky, then the illegible dudes can just pass me bye. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:26:58 PM |
Let me get the checklist out and refresh you on this, the only people entitled to verbal intercourse must have the following:
Perfect grammar- check
Perfect syntax - check
perfect internet etiquette - check
Should make $100k a year - check
Have nothing but time (and still make $100k without working too much - check
have the patience of a saint- check
great looks - check
good personality - check
love kids - check
willing to overlook my flaws (yet he/she are allowed none) - check
Doesn't that then beg the question: What are you really looking for? By having all these filters set to (everyone's excluded) level, I find that to be first and foremost a source of comedy, secondly a goldmine of deviant anthropology, and (coming in a distant third) a search for Mr. or Ms sixpack/cleavage/rockstar/yacht club/model who doesn't exist in the real world. What are the chances he/she exists in this one?
Oh pulease! This rant is beyond a stretch, bordering on ludicrous. If it really bothers you so much that some people care about spelling, accuracy, and more importantly, the qualities of people who care about such, then don't date them. Pretty simple, really. But to mock by saying we have laundry lists of requirements and unrealistic expectations just shows your insecurity like a prominent forehead facing the sun. Not very becoming. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:36:11 PM | So let me get this right. You took this personal? Wonder why???
Oh pulease! This rant is beyond a stretch, bordering on ludicrous.
You spelled please wrong, does that mean we all should stop reading from this point on? Just a thought.
Well where do we start.
Just because you say something is so, doesn't make it true. But again, I guess that's why you are perfect (in your own mind) which gives you license to put others down for silly things like, oh let me just make something up, poor grammar. Where's your evidence or argument to your claims of knowing this is a stretch, even ludicrous? Do you not find it just as irritating as a person who misspells a word as not being able to form coherent arguments. Is this not just a matter of being cognitively lazy? Or do you get a free pass on silly stuff like... logic?
Lets see, so which one does this apply to:
willing to overlook my flaws (yet he/she are allowed none) - check
If it really bothers you so much that some people care about spelling, accuracy, and more importantly, the qualities of people who care about such, then don't date them. Pretty simple, really.
It doesn't bother me, its not me who will be miserable and alone the rest of your life, maybe because the one guy who was possibly the "One" was a doctor or some other profession who are notorious for being poor spellers(I dare you to find a single doctor's Rx pad that has a correctly spelled word in it). But that's the irony huh? Because had you not been a grammar nazi, someone like that may have gotten past the filters and become a victim to that incredible person he was going to be blessed by the mere presence of . Well, goody for him, he escaped the death trap!
As for not dating, I would never date or even want to be around anyone so centric, but alas, my fortunes have already been found and had 27 wonderful years of it (neither one of us can spell thank goodness). The secret was that I went and found myself the poorest speller in my high school class and have been happy ever since. How's that working out for you?
But to mock by saying we have laundry lists of requirements and unrealistic expectations just shows your insecurity like a prominent forehead facing the sun. Not very becoming.
Just because I find comedy in the specific behavior of a species is not mocking, its just a hobby and it makes me laugh. Anthropology is a blast, I hear they pay people money to do it. But again, you took it personal because maybe my humor was just a tad too close to the mark for you to ignore. I do like the personal attack though, nice touch, you have diagnosed my insecurity from the intertubes. Brilliant!!!
As for my proof of your unrealistic expectations, just by looking at a few prior post of yours, all you have done is set up a discriminatory body of text telling us how you have officially eradicated at least half of the human population(there goes your theory about half the world is below average). But hey, you're the righteous one here huh? Since I never mentioned you specifically your claims that "we" was what I find extremely curious. But I hear self centered people tend to do that from time to time.
Well, I'm just pointing to the obvious and was speaking directly to another individual, who just by her few words of kindness and open mindedness, has shown far more class and humanity than with all of your sordid discriminatory statements. You may want to talk with her instead, it looks like she may have that secret to success you so clearly lack.
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:55:18 PM | Technically emails, IM's and text are informal methods of communication. Using abbreviations and acronyms should be acceptable since it is informal. Business memos and technical writings should be scrutinized for bad grammar and spelling errors.
So to some you are being a bit of a snob when you expect people to use proper grammar, punctuation, and even spelling when utilizing informal communication. But it boils down to each persons individual preference.
If someone holds something like that against me they are probably too uptight of aperson 4 me ny way :)
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:40:04 PM | You spelled please wrong
My choice of spelling was deliberate. You, on the other hand, made several spelling and/or punctuation errors in your latest rant. But I won't point them out, as I'm not a grammar nazi, as you like to say.
I have never said, either explicitly or implicitly, that I am perfect. But nice try. Your comments are a stretch because I know for me, personally, I don't have a laundry list of requirements in a potential partner. My former S.O. was not a great speller. That's not what any of this is about, but some people will do anything to stir it up and try to engage people in an argument. It's pointless, really. Date who you want and don't date anyone who doesn't wind your clock. How hard is that? I don't express my views for the sake of arguing with anyone; I share them for the sake of sharing them. Not all of us need to argue. And with the personal attacks in your post, I'd say I struck a nerve for sure. That wasn't my intention, but I'm certainly not going to lose any sleep over it. If it makes you feel all manly to flame me ~ tell me I think I'm perfect, I put people down, I'm self righteous, I have no class, I'm self centered, I think half the world is below average, I lack the secret to success, I'll be miserable and alone the rest of my life...knock yourself out. I'm sure your mother would be proud. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:58:23 PM | | I remember reading an interview with one of the Eagles, who was asked why it took so long to record the "Hotel California" album. His answer was that "we strive for perfection, but settle for excellence." In my writing, in whatever context, this is what I strive for. I rarely match my own standards, but the important thing is to strive in the first place. Isn't this better than striving for mediocrity and settling for failure? (This reminds me of a very funny line I once read from a letter of recommendation: "She sets very low expectations of herself, and fails to live up to them.") | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:09:55 PM | I have to say that bad grammar is a turn off for me.
However, there have been times when I was tired but HAD to post something or send an e-mail and read it a few hours later only to realize that it was atrocious! LOL
I am not a snob - I just like to see that a person has taken the time to write to me in proper form. Especially in the 'getting to know you' phase of a dating relationship, one has to put their best foot forward.
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:22:13 PM | "we strive for perfection, but settle for excellence." In my writing, in whatever context, this is what I strive for. I rarely match my own standards, but the important thing is to strive in the first place. Isn't this better than striving for mediocrity and settling for failure?
Yes, it is.
I am not a snob - I just like to see that a person has taken the time to write to me in proper form. Especially in the 'getting to know you' phase of a dating relationship, one has to put their best foot forward.
Well said, and I agree. From the start I had in life, the last thing I would ever be is a snob and I don't base my decisions on whether to get to know someone solely on how well they do or don't spell. This doesn't mean I don't think it's important, for all the reasons I've stated previously.
And just for the record, I wouldn't have any interest in dating a doctor and it has nothing to do with how well they spell. I work around doctors and have seen what their world is like and it's not something I find appealing. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:03:31 PM |
You might be suprized. Just because he may not spell they way you like it
Two points: first, this whole issue has very little to do with spelling ability (and still less with typographical errors) -- it's an issue of basic literacy and whether that is something worth championing. Second, it's not a matter of the way I, or anyone else, might "like it", but rather of what is standard English and how much we abandon by denying or denigrating the importance of clear, concise communication.
I suppose I'm lucky: I had thirteen years of fairly rigorous education in the British school system, the foundation of which used to be verbal and numerical literacy. My parents, neither of whom went beyond the equivalent of Grade 8 (this was back in the 1920s), were fully literate: my Dad wrote a book about his life in the year before he died, and I'm sorry to say that his use of English was equal to and in most instances superior to that of most of the thousands of undergraduates I have taught over the last 35 years. Sadly, those kinds of basic requirements for good citizenship have been abandoned, and society is the poorer for it.
Now why the heck do I keep going on about this, in a dating site for crying out loud? Because it's important, that's why, and because I like to read the forums but am so frequently appalled by what I read. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:07:59 PM | Funny that you made the comment, "I would say that someoone that judges others in any way, is a very small minded person ..."
A large number of people on POF (and on most sites) make derrogatory remarks against people of size AKA overweight.
If those very people can state their preferences (which in most cases is VERY rude), I and others should be able to state that we prefer to recieve correspondence from those that appear to know how to have a decent conversation.
Just my view ...
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