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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 6:54:43 AM |
Me a jst the apposite, if samone rite me and spll too good, me a think them way too ful o thamself and is just some overly pretentious **** with nothing better to do with their time that nitpick about the small stuff, one does not have to look far to see the reason they are still single. Maybe in 20 years when they are still alone living with 20 cats they might look back and wonder ( did i miss out on the love of my life because i was way too full of myself back then on pof?).
You see it's not so much the lack of grammar, it's the attitude that generally comes with it. It's the same with the posts about physical attraction. Everyone else is 'up' themselves and overly pretentious. People who are a bit more articulate or physically attractive generaly don't have these attitudes of bitterness. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:03:01 AM | "people who are abit more articulate or physically attractive generaly don't have these attitudes of bitterness"
If you are going to make a big stink about grammar and spelling and how it's important to you. How you reject others for it, the least you can do is make sure you're spelling words correctly, Otherwise some people might think you're just a pompous windbag.
The word is spelled GENERALLY Not GENERALY but i am sure with your super intelligence you already knew that and was just testing us less fortunate souls. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:06:29 AM | It is a minor turn-off to me. I'm not talking about typos, really, but just generally bad chatspeak. I've found that most people who type in chatspeak when you're first getting to know them are either just bad at talking through typing (and it is thusly hard to get to know them online) or are generally unintelligent.
I have exactly one friend in RL who IMs in chatspeak, and this person is a corporate exec who often IMs between business meetings on his phone. He also manages to sounds intelligent in spite of the chatspeak. So he is forgiven.
Many of the emails I get say, "hi wat up lol". Delete. Just my preference. I'd rather not wade through an awkward "lol"ing conversation in order to get to know someone, on the off chance that they might actually be literate and erudite in real life. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:07:36 AM | If you are going to make a big stink about grammer and spelling and how it's important to you.
grammer? correct spelling is grammAr
let's stop being so nit picky with each other...I feel as though I'm in an English class or spelling bee competition in here. There are no winners...no prizes....ohhhh darn it!!! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:29:22 AM | Acceptance and Tolerance:
my girlfriend and I have a mutual male friend whom she introduced me to. Don't know about his writing but I do know he says the most irritating things that really throws me off my rockers....I get off the phone before I let loose and say that deadly :s" word.... I call my friend to complain about why cant he act like an intelligent person....... Her words to me is that I am to remember that God wants all people to be at different level to make his world more exciting....She say I am to consider him as a younger brother in need of my help whom the Lord has put here to teach ME patience and how to be humble..... Now whenever I am on the phone with him and he starts getting on my nerves, I remember what my friend told me and I have a little more kindness in me towards him......It helps me also to be kinder and not to be too judgemental about other people.......er..... except the pompous ones...........I totally hate pomposity and judgemental people.....
......anyway, can someone please tell me how to do a spellcheck here and on the outgoing POF mail? Would much appreciate let I be killed by the grammar nazi or spell police in future. .....and I am talking from the perspective of someone whose English, written and oral is of an extremely high standard....I shake my head in sadness of the expression of some of the complainers....if even not their spelling or grammar, just the formation of the sentences tells a lot about the person's ability........so I say.....LET US NOT BE TO FREEKIN JUDGEMENTAL.....LET WE TOO BE JUDGED AND HARSHLY! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 8:10:07 AM | An excessive amount of bad grammar and misspelled words is a bit of a turn off to me, but I always respond because if someone thought enough of me to email, I don't want them to feel like they have been totally rejected by not receiving an email back. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. The problem with this is that I do end up spending a lot of time emailing people just to be nice.....heh heh....you could make a full time job out of this......well there's my two cents!
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 8:27:59 AM | Great communication is emotional intelligence not intellectual intelligence , if you can "read" anyone on the deepest level of who they are then you are where you want to be.... there is a huge difference between poor grammar and bad manners and arrogance of not feeling the space of all around you ... international communication should be emotional intelligence ....
I guess if you spend the time to understand where the grammar nazi comes from ... you will soon find out why they behave like they do ..... most prolific writers and the worlds greatest thinkers couldn't spell "was" properly
Proper grammar does not reach people on an emotional level. I am sure if you married someone and they were out taking the grandkids on a toboggan ride you would not look out the window and go, "there's Ralph I would love him more if only he could spell right .. get some good grammar into his life...! "
and pamperpooch... the problems with men your age in Britain and the surrounding UK is that most are alcoholics .... they are pub addicted and alcohol and love do not mix in any dictionary. In Canada the problem is pervasive as well and self medicated unhealthy people make unhealthy loving... | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 9:58:39 AM | Due to dyslexia and a neuromuscular disorder which has caused a disconnect between my brain and my fingers my spelling is very bad. Therefore I use a spell check before I send a message or make a post.
Everyone will make an occasional error in spelling or grammar, so I do not get too concerned when I receive a message with a few mistakes. Even highly intelligent people can have issues which may cause them difficulty with written communication, but most of them will use a spell check or some other means to overcome their problem. When I receive a message from someone which contains many errors I try to determine whether the problem is due to laziness, ignorance, or written communication issues. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 10:08:13 AM | I found this on a Forum from another discussion and think I will put it here so everyone can have a "bear" moment.......... I just love it!
GONNA BE A BEAR
In this life I'm a woman. In my next life, I'd like to come back as a bear. When you're a bear, you get to hibernate. You do nothing but sleep for six months. I could deal with that.
Before you hibernate, you're supposed to eat yourself stupid. I could deal with that too.
When you're a girl bear, you birth your children (who are the size of walnuts) while you're sleeping and wake to partially grown, cute, cuddly cubs. I could definitely deal with that.
If you're a mama bear, everyone knows you mean business. You swat anyone who bothers your cubs. If your cubs get out of line, you swat them too. I could deal with that.
If you're a bear, your mate EXPECTS you will wake up growling. He EXPECTS that you will have hairy legs and excess body fat.
YUP, GONNA BE A BEAR! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 12:43:50 PM | Nope. You are entitled to your perspective and you get to choose how you perceive first impressions. Some don't like .... long hair, no hair, too short, too skinny, too fat, too quiet, too talkative...... too smart or too dumb both get to count.
And, FYI, I am with you. Anyone who emails someone on here, or posts a forum topic or reply exposes themself to the judgment of the reader. And, many times, in reading some of the replies on the forums, I can't help myself from going to the poster's profile to find out where and what kind of a rock that person lives under. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 6:29:45 PM | | I kind of have a problem with this too...but I hate that its a problem! Just because someone doesnt use the correct word or the proper punctuation, why should it matter? But it DOES! lol The occasional misspelled word isnt bad, we all do that, but when you have to read things two or three times just to get what they are saying...I think thats a losing battle. And since Im only here to chat....well there ya have it! lol | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 6:42:32 PM | | Wow! An instant judgement call. This person may have English as 2nd. language and in their first language be a language major! Also, there are many hearing-impaired persons who have never heard the spoken word and have great difficulty with spelling and writing except in the acceptable ASL (American Sign Language), individuals who may be brilliant. I would read for content, concept, feelings, etc before making a judgement. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 6:52:25 PM | Aldana: Wow! An instant judgement call. This person may have English as 2nd. language and in their first language be a language major! Also, there are many hearing-impaired persons who have never heard the spoken word and have great difficulty with spelling and writing except in the acceptable ASL (American Sign Language), individuals who may be brilliant. I would read for content, concept, feelings, etc before making a judgement.
Why on earth complicate such a simple matter? I would assume (and expect) that if this person has a first language different from English, or if he/she had some kind of disability, that he/she would be very open about it from the get-go and, in that case, the outcome would probably be much different than with the average joe (which is who I think we all assume we are talking about in this thread), who simply cant be bothered with spelling and grammar. After all, this is a 'written word' connection on this site, being a chat site, at least on first meeting and probably for awhile before moving to the spoken word. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:53:51 PM | I think your being too critical. My spelling and grammar is very terrible. No joke. But I do talk intelligently in person. But I must admit if it is so bad to the point they sound like a 5 year old kid then I would be worried.
I met a man here on POF that typed as if he was very intelligent but when I met him he was clearly mentally retarded. The lights were on but no one was home if you know what I mean. I could not wait to get the hell out of the restaurant and end the date.
BTW...SORRY FOR THE TYPOS ...LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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