| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:18:13 PM | This sort of thing happens all the time, and it can happen later in life as well.
If they cant understand or are willing to understand/respect you even more for taking on what you have alone.. Then to hell with them!
They are problaby just looking for sex, (or) will never grow up and would find some other excuse to rid of you if you did not have a child.
I know damn well if I really like someone for who they are.. not much would stand in my way, (or) be enough to make me run, and if I saw a man take on even half of what I have as a single mom, ...that would be all the more reason to Admire him, not the opposite!
I wish you the Best life and Motherhood has to offer. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:32:54 PM | Note: you will come across some real creeps who would like to instill that feeling of it all being too late for you and all that sh*t...Lies lies lies.
They'd do that for any other vulnerable feeling as well,
PREDETORY is the word here, and theres many on the Internet,
just a heads up. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/26/2007 2:00:20 AM | | Its gonna be tough but i hope in the end you'll find that not all guys the same, ive been married and divorced twice with kids to both, neither father paid much attention to the kids either when we were married or not, but i love my kids to pieces and could never contemplate being with a guy who couldnt accept that, there are some understanding guys out there and there are some nasty guys, try to follow your instincts and dont let them tell you youre not worth it, you are and your kid will love you, dont let anyone make you feel bad about yourself, and dont go for someone you think is wrong, just take it easy and see what the wind blows, good luck x | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/26/2007 10:26:59 AM | Thank you for your well spoken answer. I am fairly new to this dating as a single parent scene. I have devoted the last several years to raising my son and getting an education. Dating was definately not part of the picture then.
Now I am ready, but concerned about being a single parent, trying to have a social life, exposing my son to different people, paying for babysitters, what happens with the babysitter and a myriad of other worries.
Your option of meeting a guy with a child(ren) makes sense to me and was really the best option I have come up with so far. The men I have spoken with that do no have children simply cannot understand the place I am in my life and my priorities. My son will always come first. I am not free to jet off for a weekend, or even an impromptu dinner for that matter. I've tried to meet for happy hour, that ends up about fifteen minutes long.
I have not met too many single fathers, either full-time or part-time. But, I would like to. And I think that taking the kids to a park or a picnic would be good for everyone. If I take him to a park we meet people and other kids anyway. What's wrong with meeting someone you met on-line at a park?
It is really hard to try and combine the responsibilities of single parenting and creating a healthy balance in your life. I'm trying. I want the best life possible for myself and my son.
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/26/2007 9:46:28 PM | | For me first thing is to love you. However to be with you I will need to get along with your kid as well. Of cause it is worth trying. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/27/2007 2:47:55 AM | Yes you can meet a guy that will except you son. I am a single mom myself and it was a while before I dated and I have not meet a guy who said he didn't want to date a single mom.
It just didn't work out and I am dating a very wonderful guy and he realized I was a packaged deal and when we do things together we have taken my son with us all but one time and my mom watched him for the night.
He has son's but they are grown up and like he said that one of my ex's said one time where are you going to find a female who doesn't have kids.
My son just turned 2 years old and to one guy who said that if they are well behaved well my son still does things that gets him in trouble but I also get on to him I don't let him get away with anything.
So if you find the right guy he won't mind you or your son. I am not looking for a father for my son and I want someone for me. Best of luck | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/27/2007 1:21:31 PM | | Oh my gosh Serenity you're so pretty, of course you'll find someone else!! Don't even worry, and you're so young!! | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/27/2007 5:02:44 PM | | I've mostly preferred dating single moms. Having been a single dad they were much more understanding of the demands on my time. Plus they understood about cancelling an anticipated date at the last minute because of an illness, how I couldn't just drop everything and hang out all night without any planning and things like that. Now it did always make planning and coordinating difficult because of the various schedules, but that was usually worth it! Women without kids also thought of it as a competition and that was never good! | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/28/2007 9:00:34 PM | I feel you..... I'm a single mom of a 20 month old and dating has been hell, mind you there are some guys who are really great with kids. I don't know I have had my share of good guys and bad guys and well I think the best times are those spent alone with my son playing on the floor! my ex had the nerve to tell me life ended when you are single mom, thats not true but don't get me wrong I won't be doing the single mom thing with another child one is enough to do alone lol! | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/30/2007 1:00:30 AM | yes yes yes yes im a single dad and i would welcome a mum bringing up children alone is hard. Single mums would understand that ya cant make it tonight cause ya kids not well.Or that you might be a little short cause kids needed something.
Also would be nice to just spend time with somebody who is on the same wave length as me. Dont mean im looking for a mum for my kids they already have that. just a nice person that understands how hard it is to do this alone. Then we could help each other with a bit of love and understanding.
so yes yes yes yes guys do like single mums  | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/30/2007 7:08:06 AM | | I personally have no problem whatsover with a single mom, I am a single dad so we would have LOTS to talk about. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 11/30/2007 8:43:18 PM | | Dear "shaken" ,You sound like a wonderfull Woman & Mother! I can tell You that certain Guys will love single Moms! Even would prefer someone who has accepted adversity with class. The secret is knowing what type to look for. Understand this, You already know that Your gut feelings (((failed))) You the first time. Christian Guys are several good things wrapped up in one. These may not attract You as yet. They are morally conservative. Not fridgid, but (ridgid) in their goals and limits. They have an unusual genteel quality in the field of the dater. They understand investment & a work ethic. You won't meet them in bars or at the races, or at OTB. Perhaps at church or some local function. ie: volunteering somehow. They fold their laundry as most single guys don't. And here is the worst thing. They are not broken. They have their head & direction right. Your predicament is very common. My Mon raised Us 4 kids on a lousy $40 a week support and Her waitress work. And there was no welfare or food stamps for Us! That was the 1960-70 era. It was a long journey for Us. Because of that, I have a great respect for You. Please remember that You must decide on the (sort) of Man You will look for. You have to learn to like the Church Guy who is willing to wait for His wedding day as Your former squeeze did'nt want to! Boy...there is no smoother talker than a drafted groom! Don't get Me wrong. Petting of all sorts in romance if normal. Full sex is safest in Marriage. Let Him see the real package immediatly. He will love You & Child as His own. You need someone to eliminate the I'M NOT & I JUST part of Your letter. Because He Will. xxxxxLance Perlman New Milford,NJ | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:38:22 AM | I'm a single DAD now and the answer is NO. for all the love and goodwill people with no kids women included look at the situation and say to themselves I can't do this. This is after months of thinkig it's cool to be such a loving Dad. Over time when the kids are older and independant it's more of a possibility. I know legally your live in might be legally responsible for the financial well being of a child who's not theirs.
That's why I date casually and don't get myself in a position to be hurt because when there are kids involved I just don't need the bullshit casual works . My kids have a great MOM and I'm a great DAD but we just don't live together.
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 8:04:58 AM | | It depends on the guy, make sure you know what he wants from you before getting involved and mention you have kids straight away, at least you'll weed out the men from the boys... | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 8:20:47 AM | See why are men who choose not to date single moms called boys? All it takes is one bad experience dating single mothers to scare you away from dating them ever again. Would you date someone with a criminal record for beating his ex wife? I have had a few bad experiences and pair that with a law that we have in Canada that you have to pay child support for ex step children (in many cases the parent can collect child support from multiple people if they were married or lived common law with them ) it does give reason for out to consider not getting involved in dating single moms.
Now if you are a great lady you might be worth dating. If you are nearly broke and just looking for a "Daddy" for your child or are loking for someone to support you then you need to understand why men aviod single moms.
If you say men are shallow or immature or boys then you just give more reason not to date single moms because it sounds like it is just soar grapes from you because the man has ruled out dating you.
We all have our choices just because some do not date you does not mean they are shallow. I have cerebral palsey is it shallow for a woman to choose not to date me because of it? I have been told that several times. While I wish it was not true it is reality but I do not go around bashing women who will not date me for it.
If all men choose to date single moms would you then choose who you would and wouyld not date based on your criteria you have for dating? Would you be shallow if you ruled some of them out say because they were fat or not tall enough or unemployed?
Just because you have a child does not mean someone owes you a date. | |
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Joined: 10/14/2006
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 8:30:56 AM | "why are men who choose not to date single moms called boys"
your responses indicate your a boy and not a man im guessing.
"all it takes is one bad experience dating single mothers to scare you away from dating them ever again"
for you one experience may do that...NOT for everyone. Most reasonable people understand that one bad experience from one person does not mean all people are the same.
"just sounds like sour grapes from you because the man has ruled out dating you"
and the responses you make sound like sour grapes as well 
"just because you are a child does not mean someone owes you a date"
that is a bull shit comment. How would you like it if someone said just because you have cerebal palsy doesnt mean someone owes you a date? It works both ways Johne. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:25:09 AM | Pucks read what I write I already said some women do tell me that they do not want to date me because I have cerebral palsey..they have a roight to choose and I do not bash them for it. Read this and other threads women call men shallow, immature, little boys if they say they do not want to date single moms. But if single moms do not want the answer why ask the question?
We all have choices and just because a man may not like single moms does not mean he is a bad person.
I will give credit to many posters on this thread who did not bash with their comments and who are reasonable and fair. | |
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Joined: 10/14/2006
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:35:36 AM | " i already said some women do" "they have the right to choose and i do not bash them for it"
well how would we know that? For all we know you bash them hard, as you do single moms. Are we supposed to just take your word for it
"read this and other threads"
i have indeed and i see the same message in all those others thread from you...constant repetition with some word changes is all. Ever here of redundacy?
"but if single moms do not want the answer why ask the question?"
answering the question is fine...even doing so a few times but you go on and on for tons of pages in numerous threads. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 11:04:34 AM | | hey i just wanted to say i know how u feel. i went out with a guy and within 4 months i got pregnant and after i had my daughter, he wasnt taking on the role of a dad. he was ignoring her so i up and left him and now i am wanting to find a guy but every guy i find, when i tell them i have a daughter, they always make up an reason not to talk to me n e more. i just wanted to tell u that i think there is only about 10% of men that doesnt care if a girl has a kid. if u find a guy, try to keep him. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:17:08 PM | | girlfriend don't be dishearted there are plenty of men that love women with a child or children. Because some have kids and want a women that can handle that and some or not fathers and want a ready made family. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:02:27 PM | guys like single moms but they despise anyone that makes this same tired old topic over and over.
If any single mom finds herself wondering why guys don't like single moms she should take heart in the fact that they actually don't mind her kids, its HER they don't want. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:57:41 PM | I just have one question for UHS and I am suprised noone thought to ask this. Would you look your mother in the eye and tell she is undesirable because she is an older woman or because she has you or because her husband left her for some reason? If you were any kind of real man you wouldn't.
[Saying you don't need a father for your child, you don't need anyone to help raise him, you don't need anyone's money is all a load of bullshit. Any man who commits to you for the long haul will have to play some parental role, some financial role, some emotional role for that child. How could you avoid that if you were in it for the long haul together? Saying that kind of stuff only turns men off]
Saying you don't need a father for your child or need someone to help raise them only means that we as single mothers are capable of raising and supporting our children ourselves. We are only looking for what we can't give ourselves the love and companionship of someone else.
If we are fortunate enough to find someone to share our lives with I would hope (for all single mothers) that he would want to give me support in raising my children but know that he is in no way obligated to do so. | |
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