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| | This guy like single moms.. like u.Page 38 of 43 (3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43) | Hello Miss..
Please dont be too hard on urself. You are such a wonderful and responsible person/mom, lookign after your baby single handedly. You have earn alot of respects from me . You just neeed to stay wellwith positive attitude towards life. Personally, I feel comfortable with a single mom thanwith a single lady. With signle mom, there is always something to talk about, the kids, etc.
I would not want to miss an opportunity to know you..
cheers,
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:18:46 AM | "First, your stupid statement that 2 parent families are the real problem is just that - stupid. I would like you to show one statistic that lends credit to this. You can't. Everything over the past 59 years that you see on conservative talk shows and radio has shown otherwise. "
If you look at the data it is true single mother homes have a higher persentage of problems when looked at next to two parent homes, but single father homes do much better and in many areas do better then two parent homes. So here are some statistics for you on this. But it is not talked about much on conservative radio, because most of that is for people that really do not want the facts any way. See below
Back to the idea that one bad parent in a two parent home can be a bigger problem then there being a single parent home, well there is lots of data available to support that idea too, be it man or women one crazy parent in the home can be a vary bad thing for the kids.
Reuniting Fathers With Their Families
By Stuart A. Miller and Rich Zubaty
This appeared as an article in the Washington Times (12/19/95 - A19) and is distributed by the Texas Fathers Alliance
85% of prisoners, 78% of high school dropouts, 82% of teenage girls who become pregnant, the majority of drug and alcohol abusers - all come from single-mother-headed households. Less than 1% of any of these categories come from single-father-headed households. This seems to indicate that the problems children encounter are not related to single-parent households, but are related specifically to single-mother-headed households. So, should we blame the mothers or the fathers? Perhaps, neither. There is no question that father-absence has reached epidemic proportions. According to Wade Horn of the National Fatherhood Initiative, we must reverse the trend in 7 - 8 years or it will be too late to do so.
And, how has our government responded to this crisis? By continuing to drive fathers out of the family. It is bad enough that some fathers abandon their families, but it is unconscionable that our federal and state policies drive fathers away from their families. With 80+ percent of divorces involving children resulting in sole-mother-custody, combined with a "no man in the house rule" and "presumptive sole-mother-custody" in welfare cases - we are not blameless from a policy perspective. We must change our policies, practices and procedures to specifically include fathers in families. If not, we can be certain that social spending will continue to increase and we will be plagued with an ever burgeoning population of maladjusted children who will fill our prisons and wreak havoc on society.
Social research data reveal that our blind reliance only on the nurturing value of mothers is inadequate and misplaced. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, a child living with his/her divorced mother, compared to a child living with both parents, is "375% more likely to need professional treatment for emotional or behavioral problems and is almost twice as likely to repeat a grade of school, is more likely to suffer chronic asthma, frequent headaches, and/or bedwetting, develop a stammer or speech defect, suffer from anxiety or depression, and be diagnosed as hyperactive."
However, these afflictions were surprisingly uncommon in the 15% of single-parent households headed by men. A study of all state child protective services agencies in the country - by the Children's Rights Coalition, a child advocacy and research organization in Austin, Texas - found that biological mothers physically abuse their children at twice the rate of biological fathers. The majority of the rest of the time, children are abused because of single-mothers' poor choices in the subsequent men in their lives. Incidences of abuse were almost non-existent in single-father-headed households. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 11:30:12 AM |
Your a LOSER. Understand? A LOSER. Your the perfect guy to date a single mother because they are an "easy target" and you can't get anything else. So go do it. Better yet start contributing to "our bills". Have your substance go to another mans DNA while you always come second to another mans kid.
First, your stupid statement that 2 parent families are the real problem is just that - stupid. I would like you to show one statistic that lends credit to this. You can't. Everything over the past 59 years that you see on conservative talk shows and radio has shown otherwise. Let me remind you again - 90% of prisoners (male and female) in correctional facilities are products of single mother households.
Guys with somthing to offer are far less likely to accept another mans baggage as part of the deal. But guys with little or nothing to offer (hint, hint) will "accept" single mothers. Are you so desperate to get laid you would actually lower yourself to becoming second to another mans DNA?
Lol! I feel so sorry for you! That is so sad...
First -
You're means you are.
Your means your.
Second -
You are the loser.
You pulled exact words from Ann Coulter's book ("Here is the lottery ticket that single mothers are handing their innocent children by choosing to raise them without fathers..."), but you cannot even get her statistical data correct.
"70 percent of inmates in state juvenile detention centers serving long-term sentences were raised by single mothers. Seventy-two percent of juvenile murderers and 60 percent of rapists come from single-mother homes. "
To say that 90% of all inmates (which would have include those who have been there since your 4% of mothers were single 1954 stats) is totally asinine.
Furthermore, you only have responded to men, calling them idiots, or people whose responses appear to be less intelligent than your original statement, and your "rebuttals".
My guess is that you won't respond to me, or anyone else who is clearly stronger in the thoughts department than you, because you can't really debate. Hell, you cannot even get your data correct.
Saying that 2 parent households are automatically the better source of life, and the mother choosing to protect their offspring from an abusive father is no longer a good woman and her child will likely end up a criminal, is absolutely ridiculous. A woman should not choose to be battered for the sanctity of marriage. A woman strong enough to walk away from this is amazing. Some men walk away for no other reason than that they want to party and sleep around.
Not every woman with a child or children is a gold digger looking for the other half of an income to make ends meet with a man. I happen to date great men, some that even say before they met me they would have NEVER considered dating a woman with kids.
It is fine to point fingers and say that single mothers “choose” to be single mothers, or incite people by titling one of Ann Coulter's chapters “Victim of a Crime? Blame a Single Mother.” No matter what the statistics are, this is generalization at its finest. Not to mention that she’s alienating people that might otherwise give what she is saying (which is an important point) a valid chance. Worst of all is that she doesn’t get to the root of the problem. Yes, single motherhood is bad for society, but what is causing this trend, what is at the root of this problem?
Here’s an example from Davon Ferrara, single mom and entrepreneur:
"I was abused as a child. I lived with my abuser in my home until the age of 18 when I could no longer stand the sight of his face and could legally leave my home. I was alone, naive and fell in love. I got engaged and pregnant all by the time I was 19. My daughter was born. My daughter’s father wanted to marry me – and it would have worked out were it not for the fact that he raped me and turned out to be a child molester. Does you call this “choosing” to be a single mom? I would give my life to be with the man I love and have a family and a father for my daughter, but there are limits to what one can stand in the name of staying together. "
I know there are many single mothers that have done a great job in raising their kids alone, without being on welfare or sucking up taxpayer money, or raising thugs. Single mothers that have raised kids that contribute to society. I also know many married couples that could not control their kids and they ended up as criminals. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 11:50:10 AM | Statistics are also relative.
Case in point: Divorce rates for new marriages is rising drastically every year. This leaves us with more single parent households. Only about 16% of custodial parents are fathers. Of course less criminals come from motherless households... there are less of them.
Furthermore, with people like the OP suggesting you stay away from a single mom - he is contributing to the problem he finds so disturbing - single motherhood leads to poverty and criminal behavior. If he is lobbying for change, should he be making sure all these "damaged" women getting married pronto, to stop the increase of criminals?!
Another missing piece of data in arguments the rise in criminals coming from a single mother... these single mothers that are lending their offspring to the criminal justice system are more likely already criminals themselves. Whether prostitutes, drug-users, thieves - how many inmates came from already criminal homes?
Statistical data can be made to enhance whatever your outlook may be, and is rarely looked at properly when opinionated idiots are quoting them.
Given ALL of the statistical data, then, it follows that we must look outside the family structure for the causes of crime. Instead of blaming single mothers, it would be wiser to direct our research at examining socioeconomic conditions, such as economic inequality, imbalances of power, poverty, unemployment, underemployment, and relative deprivation--in income, housing, health care, and education. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 12:04:49 PM | "Only about 16% of custodial parents are fathers. Of course less criminals come from motherless households... there are less of them."
But if single fathers make up 16% of the custodial homes and children from single father homes make up less then 1% of the people going to jail, that says to me they are betting the odds. Some times that is a good thing. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 12:42:19 PM |
"Only about 16% of custodial parents are fathers. Of course less criminals come from motherless households... there are less of them."
But if single fathers make up 16% of the custodial homes and children from single father homes make up less then 1% of the people going to jail, that says to me they are betting the odds. Some times that is a good thing.
I disagree. There aren't entire threads devoted to keeping single fathers single, and how many single fathers are going to end up dating or marrying an abusive woman? How many single fathers are criminals themselves?
If a man is awarded custody, there's a damn good reason. Single mothers aren't always awarded custody because they should be; and of these women they either don't get a fight from the father, don't know who the father is, or are just a lessor of two evils.
I feel like there is far too much weight put on the generalization of a single mother, and there is no way to know if the 2 parent household version of these violent criminals childhoods would have ended with them being good members of society.
I blame my parents for plenty of my thoughts and feelings, but never for my actions. My siblings and I all came from the same broken home, and while they want to sit around and whine about how they can't succeed because our parents got divorced and we were poor because of it, I choose to do whatever the hell I want, not including becoming a criminal. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 12:55:02 PM |
Your a LOSER. Understand? A LOSER. Your the perfect guy to date a single mother because they are an "easy target" and you can't get anything else. So go do it. Better yet start contributing to "our bills". Have your substance go to another mans DNA while you always come second to another mans kid.
First, your stupid statement that 2 parent families are the real problem is just that - stupid. I would like you to show one statistic that lends credit to this. You can't. Everything over the past 59 years that you see on conservative talk shows and radio has shown otherwise. Let me remind you again - 90% of prisoners (male and female) in correctional facilities are products of single mother households.
Guys with somthing to offer are far less likely to accept another mans baggage as part of the deal. But guys with little or nothing to offer (hint, hint) will "accept" single mothers. Are you so desperate to get laid you would actually lower yourself to becoming second to another mans DNA?
Lol! I feel so sorry for you! That is so sad...
lol, i find you comically pathetic. You're not even really worth responding to, as you are obviously a spoiled, juevenile, arrogant brat. I'm not sure what kind of issues you are having in life to project such a concrete viewpoint. It must be something, but its none of my business. Just remember, Viagra is out there, and you dont have to be embarrassed to discuss this with your doctor.
Your a LOSER. Understand? A LOSER.
lol, reminds me of word fights i used to have in 3rd grade, complete with grammatical incorrection and all. Please, stop...you are hurting my feelings. I'm gonna tell my mom!! :P. I dont even have to argue your points to feel superior to you in this debate, just reading your posts gives me that pleasure.
Someday you will grow up, look back at this, and say "Holy sh*t i was a moron"
P.S.- I've got Ann Coulter's phone number if you want it :P. That way you can pleasure yourself to her voice, instead of just the photo on her book jacket. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 1:10:28 PM | In case anyone is wondering:
From: telekinetic242 (View Profile) (View All Correspondence) Subject: Your have reached the maximum number of Sent Date: 6/15/2009 12  06 PM "You have reached the maximum number of times you may post to this thread." This is not a spelling contest. Pointing out "your" is "you're" does not make my opinions invalid. The fact that your spelling and grammatical usage is correct does not make your argument correct. Do you understand? I would like to respond but I can't. Your post is too verbose and has no fundamental point. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:36:40 PM | | there are so many single moms out there. yeah mature guys dont mind whether or not you have a baby. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:11:57 PM |
there are so many single moms out there. yeah mature guys dont mind whether or not you have a baby.
Yeah, it's because guys who do care are immature. 
It couldn't possibly be because they did a rational, logic evaluation of the pros and cons and came to the conclusion that there are a whole lot of negatives to dating single parents and essentially no positives.
Or maybe you think rational, logic evaluations are immature. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:48:14 PM | | OP if you can make that man feel just as important to you as your child is then you have a keeper. Being a single mother offers a man a window into your honesty and shows how dedicated you are for someone you truly love, if a guy sees that you could love him with that honesty he'll fall for you in a heart beat. Too many single mothers make men feel like they are second best right on their profiles then wonder why they can't get a date. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:58:56 PM | | Please see all the other threads along this general topic. Short answer, is that you will not die alone. Yes men date single mothers. The concenus, is that you should look for a single father. Makes everyones life easier. Freaked again concenus is some will be some won't. Can't put everyone into the same barrel. Take each man as he comes, then make your judgements. Good Luck. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 9:28:08 AM | telekinetic242 u could simply say I'm not into dating single moms and be done with it...
u have a very limited view of the world...
single mothers are damaged goods
I'm not even going to dignify that with a response... ur mind is a lil too narrow...
u know why the states has the highest level of crime then any industrial nation in the world... its cuz u have the highest level of poverty...
u want to know why the states has the highest level of teen pregnancy thank ur former president Bush Jr. who only gave money to schools who taught abstence... and in a society where there is sex everywhere it makes for a bad combination...
other countries teach safe sex and we have a lower teen pregnancy rate...
u are just one of those persons that looks for scapegoats to blame all societies problems on and to u us single moms make an easy target...
poverty is the real issue behind crime... and u know what there isn't the middle class that there used to be during the 1950s u know why cuz ur politicians have allowed greedy capitalist to outsource all the good manufacturing paying jobs to China and India...
but us single moms we don't know anything.... we're just stupid teen moms (even though i had my child at 26)... u might not like it but many women are choosing to bypass men to have children... because they don't want to have to put up with BS... | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:48:57 AM | i love dating single parent, hey at least they know what to do and what they want out of life, everyone titled a mistake in their lives no ones perfect.. the whole idea is that not to make the same one again and be wise about it..it could be also the " donor fault" aka father that are dead beats and thinking with the wrong heads and it ended up being with a bad marriage or bad BF some people just need to grow up and realize what more important
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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:27:19 PM | Personally I don't really care if someone has a child or not, and can even understand that the children will always come first. I've never dated women who do have children however so I'm not talking from experience but purely my personal views on the topic.
I'll date someone if I like them, they're a good person, and are prepared to be in a relationship regardless of whether they have children or not. So long as they don't make me feel like I'm the bottom of their priorities in everyday life, I'll be happy to date them.
I can understand why a lot of guys would be put off by it, having come from a single parent family there is a lot of issues that can put off guys, such as any/all custody related crap with the children's father, child support, children who might not be accepting of you dating their mum etc etc. It's not for everyone, and not every single mother is the same. Many don't have any of the above-mentioned issues, and some do, but in general it can be very daunting for a guy to enter such relationships.
Women should perhaps be a bit more understanding with regards to this matter, except when it comes to guys who are just plain idiots about it. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 8:55:17 PM | | I agree. I personally do not mind if a woman has a child or children. If I am attracted to her and we click, why not? There are guys out there that will date women with kids. There are some that will not. Its just a preference. Same goes for women. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 9:14:12 PM | k i undrstand in somewat wat happened...i was a month pg when i found out my babys dad was cheatin on me wit his ex gf...now im lookin for somethin long term u knw and im also lookin for someone for me...but u have to look for someone that will love ur son and can care for him like his own...dont say that ur not lookin for someone to take care of him because if all goes well wit a man they will nd to help u....now i believe ya its hard for us to find a man willin to accept us wit a kid like its hard for a man who cares for his kids to find a woman...we all go through it and we gotta jst lift our heads up high and keep movin and remember that we gotta b there for our kids....its like they say guys come and go but ur kids are ur kids and u need to protect them....jst take it day by day girl and ull see evrythin will turn out great for u | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 9:23:25 PM | | I have three kids and they are on my picture on here I don't want a guy that can't handle the fact that I have three children they are my world and no man will ever come between us unfortuneately I don't get contacted much but you know what that means the wait for the right one will be worth it | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:27:45 PM | depends on the guy.
but in my case yes.
cuz i'm a single dad.
and in both our cases i feel that our kids make for a great qualifier because it pushes away all the ***holes and all the gold diggers
remember it's ALWAYS good to qualify the person you're with.
like minds reach like hearts. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/20/2009 4:39:23 PM | | You know what? If they do, then they aren't worth your time. Yes there are guys out there that will date you and you just have to be patient enough to realize that the right one will come along. Hang in there. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 9:20:01 PM | Good point ... notice how he mentioned keeping in or getting in shape - I think it's hard to find someone to share your life with if you are a full time single parent - but it's harder if you are overweight! And if you are both ... well, then it's almost impossible.
Just remember that we all have a choice when we wake up in the morning - choosing to be happy makes life so much sweeter:) Enjoy your kids, there will be time for a companion when the kids need you less. | |
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| Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:30:54 PM | I am a guy, and I would say yes some men do, it may take a while for some of them to warm up to the idea, but all in all, my answer is yes. I know you say you are looking for YOU, and hopes the will love your son too, but my advice to you, that person needs to love your son as much as they love you, or as a mom, I would hope you would see that relationship would not work very well, it has to be mutual for the man to love you and your child, or else you might as well just have an FWB, and he never knows you even have a child. Geoff, I have a 3 year old daughter. | |
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