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| Antmendment..
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:16:26 AM | I prefer to respond to ingnorant remarks with a few subtle sarcastic comments...and use sarcasim as a warning to someone who I feel has crossed the line.....it's the polite thing to do.
On the other hand....I use humerous wit when trading insults with my close friends........but then, I know my audience. I can dish...but I can take it...and dish..etc...
IMO a sarcastic response is generally provoked and a reaction to someone's ignorant behaviour. Don't confuse being malicious and a bully with sarcasim...Delivering an insult takes far less thought and intelligence than the sarcastic response to that comment does. | |
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| Sarcasm is Damaging to Relationships
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:21:51 AM | | Sarcasm is usually a relationship killer. Nothing wrong with having a sense of humor, and kidding around, but sarcasm can alter a relationship very quickly. I think it a sarcastic person is someone with a whole lot of issues. | |
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| Sarcasm is Damaging to Relationships
Posted: 4/4/2008 9:42:55 PM | I'm posting here because the OP has pasted an excellent article (#1 post) which I found from another posting, where the OP intimated
(sics all over) my family use(d) to do it alot when i(!) was growing up. It was like(ly?) only the auth(o)er of the sarcasm though(t) it was funny. Good to know and good to remember--in an argument or high stakes cat fight, the use of sarcasm could be either an attractive, albeit arresting, display of intelligence--or an inappropriate display of immaturity and/or abusive tendencies. A flag (it could be red, or it could be...pink(?)--nonetheless an alert that could either deepen or destroy the relationship): both partners need to be aware.
When the "joke" is missed, then by all means, the 'author' is on point for resolving any misunderstandings. When in the middle of an argument, it is extremely important for both parties to seek opportunities discuss and clarity the overtones and implications. Without clarification, open communication in the future is in peril. Both parties need to explain how/why the communication affected themselves and the other. So important to understand how something was received and why it was used | |
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| Sarcasm is Damaging to Relationships
Posted: 4/7/2008 9:36:12 PM | | If I may add my 2 cents worth then let me say humor has been greatly associated with depression as well so to say humor and sarcasm go hand in hand could be a stretch.The man that played on Taxi,a comedy show in the early 80's,and later on Jim Carrey played him in an autobiography type of movie.Sometimes we use humor to hide our pain in our depression.I wrote this in another forum but I will rewrite it here as I think it is relevent to this.There are alot of ppl that use sarcasm as a forrunner for comedy and they have made thousands of bucks doing it like Ron White or Larry the Cable Guy and of course Bill Envall with his "here's your sign"bit and they are funny.Sometimes the irony of what is said just can't be ignored.How the person chooses to recieve it is another story.Some people will take a serious hello as grounds to attack someone they say they love.Sometimes someone may choose to laugh when someone they thought loved them calls them a beastly name and so goes it.All of this is human nature at work and because we are thinkers, although some of us chose to think with what's at the south end,we have the ability to interpret words and move them around to get the meaning we want from them which sometimes is not what the person saying them meant.However if we become a people that have to walk on eggshells around everyone because we have far to many running around that don't or can't understand the english language and all of its playful and opportunic wording abilities then we needn't talk to one another at all.We have people coming to our country with no ability to interpret the words we speak but only know their own culture which oddly enough is mostly the polar opposite of ours so the words we have used commonly for so long now are taken as insulting to people that just don't understand.Is this our fault or is it the fault of the one coming here without being prepared to live amongst us. | |
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| Sarcasm is Damaging to Relationships
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:03:18 PM | Well, as the Wilde man said, "Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit."
Now, there are many forms of wit, sarcasm being one of them, which is usally associated with mocking the individual receiving it. And, I admit, I use it, but I am not conscious when I fling my verbal quips, what FORM it's in (the wit).
Any guy who can keep up with me in a repartee is a keeper (sometimes, I am known to add the words, "KEEP UP!"  ). And, I love laughing and people around me laughing...which I usually accomplish. I'm still learning though about the 'target audience thing', esp. about people who can't figure out the connections in my comment, and the worst thing ever, is to have to explain a joke or a line.
So, I'd say, it really depends on the individuals in a particular relationship (friends, lovers, even family), whether sarcasm is damaging or not. AND, another key thing: the DELIVERY. You gotta do it with a charm and a flair, deliver the wit.
Usually, my quips are almost all about 'making fun of myself at some level' by saying the reverse (which is evident in the situation to be not true) - i.e., hyping myself up to ridiculous heights that it's ludicrous and comical. My desired effect.
For example, my dad loves it (and gets it) - my humour, my mama, not so much.
One day, in a rush to leave the house, I hastily threw on clothes, and as I'm leaving, my mom points out that my fly is undone.
My response: "Meh, I'm advertising."
(example of it being an effective tool in awkward, embarrasing situations - which is great)
*now, my dad, he would have snickered, my mom was not amused. Point taken, target audience, sunk. Will know for the next time, but, if someone asks me to give it up, it seriously would be like asking me to become a hollow person. It is part of who I am.
Sometimes, it does come out as defense mechanism, actually only in instances to jab back at an insult directed at me (this I think is fair)...but, mostly, it just is. Not to do any harm. And, I'd hate to give it up.
-Qriosity | |
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| Sarcasm is Damaging to Relationships
Posted: 4/7/2008 11:21:50 PM | I do not think that all sarcasm is cruel. I love sarcasm but dislike cruel sarcasm. We all have different personalities and different sense of humor. What is cruel to one is not to another and what is funny to one is not funny to another. I myself am a good person and also quite sarcastic. So whoever said that sarcastic people are not good people is wrong, in my opinion.
But for the record, I would someone use cruel sarcasm on me and have it hurt then to have someone be kind to my face and say horrible things about me behind my back.
So I think that not all people who use sarcasm are cruel and horrible people. I think it is all a matter of perspective.
~Carrie | |
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