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nedlog
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Joined: 12/24/2006
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| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 12/30/2007 9:03:03 PM | I don't want this to sound mean, but I am going to be straight out. Every time I read one of your posts about someone you met, it always has some type of drama/dilemma in it. You are seeing someone casual, last post was you were seeing someone but also wanted to hit on your roofer's friend. Now you are questioning different cigarettes and lip liner in a car with a guy you had one date with. Geesh, you need to learn to relax and quit analyzing things right from the get go. Otherwise, no guy is going to have a chance because you are going to continue looking for things.
When you have dated for a while and are considering becoming intimate, that is when you should ask the questions. It was one date and you are dating someone, so if he is dating someone else , so what. He doesn't owe you a thing at this point, nor do you owe him anything. Did you tell him you were seeing someone casually? | |
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| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 12/31/2007 4:44:11 AM | i really wouldn't put too much into it yet...ask him...does he have a daughter?..or maybe he car pools with a woman.maybe you should just outright ask him if he's a one woman man or does he believe in dating more then oneat the same time?..just be tactful.
sometimes i think our imaginations can run wild and we jump to conclusions too quickly when there could be other answers..if he likes you,you shouldn't have a problem discussing it with him...better to find out now for sure then to let it eat away and you and find out you were wrong!! you'd feel pretty embarrassed then. if he does have someone else,well, then you of course have the option of dumping him. | |
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| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 12/31/2007 5:33:02 PM | I have a friend whose uncle passed away recently and for the time being she is driving his truck because she has no other transportation. Were she to go on a date and pick a guy up he'd notice men's golf shoes in the cab, a box of golf balls in the back seat etc.
The items mean something to her but don't mean a thing when it comes to grounds for suspicion. (She doesn't date but that' not the point.)
And there's all kinds of things that mean nothing when it comes to products a person has laying around. Like one poster asked, does he have a daughter? A recent ex? A second driver of his vehicle?
I personally feel ripped off when I buy certain products made for women because these are long on being pretty and short on quality or getting the job done.
I wear men's deoderant and sport socks for that very reason. I just bought a men's electric razor to shave my legs because all the chic ones looked cutesy but cheap. And there's two toothbrushes in my bathroom most of the time -- one for travel and one for home. My 19-year-old son leaves stuff behind almost everytime he visits too.
A jealous man would go ape-sh!t on his first visit here!
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dreamy
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Joined: 1/16/2007
Msg: 87 | |
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Joined: 6/13/2007
Msg: 89 | |
| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 12/31/2007 6:17:43 PM | | Now listen, you read a lot of posts about people finding opposite sex items or hints with a date. The marriage thing, sure, that's something to worry about, but for the most part, why can't people just DATE? You have to date a LOT of people to find the real person you're looking for, or you know how it's going to eventually end up. What happened to having a date on like Monday, one on Wednesday, go out for the weekend? You know, like in the golden age of television, when little Janey would accidentally invite both Billy AND George to the same school dance. Now it's like if you go on one date, it instantly becomes something more if there's a TINY bit of chemistry? The word "dating" itself implies.. DATING PEOPLE!!! People used to date to just go out and meet new people. Now dating is this big huge friggin ORDEAL that gets pumped up to crazy levels over NOTHING. If something really clicks, hey, you make a second date with THAT person. THEN it's time to start your little investigations to find out if he's hiding anything. Ah, the good ol' days. | |
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| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 12/31/2007 10:10:30 PM | | okay let me get this straight...so you're seeing more than one guy to keep your options open, one of the guys is seeing you behind his fiancee's back, and you're getting insecure or jealous about the possibility that one of your guys may be seeing someone else besides you? hunny, maybe he's doing the same thing as you....keeping his options open. and the lipstick/cigarettes may actually belong to his buddy...his buddy may just happen to be a girl. men and women are platonic friends sometimes ya know. lol. either way, you shouldn't have expectations of exclusivity after only one date (much less before that one date occurred). | |
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| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 12:57:56 PM | I'd have picked it up, inspected it, and promptly pronounced that it's not quite his colour. I'd go with something a little more to the neutral, and then put it back down without another word. Let him explain from there as he feels so moved.
I would much rather a person be perfectly honest about the fact that they are seeing multiple people at once than attempt to hide it. Being in the dating scene does not mean that one must "commit" to one person and one person alone once they've sent that "send" button on the first contact. Until there's serious physical and emotional involvement, it's perfectly acceptable (and I would almost argue preferred!) for a person to date more than one person. I feel as if it keeps the person from getting prematurely clutchy on me and the relationship from moving at breakneck speed. There is NOTHING I hate more than a clingy date on the... second date. I hate feeling like he's mentally engagement ring shopping while I'm still debating if I want to pursue it. If the relationship is progressing in a healthy direction, the other dating partners will slowly fade into the background anyway. It's a natural process with a natural speed and we hurry it far too often. Savor it, enjoy it. But there's no reason to spend the OTHER four or five nights of the week being bored while you space out your time with Mr. NewGuy. | |
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| First date with this guy...went GREAT except for THE LIPSTICK..men and women's opinions wanted!!
Posted: 1/1/2008 4:38:19 PM | JWA
^^^Yo--------SmartBlonde---do you realize the last time the OP posted to this topic was OVER a month ago??????? LOL
JWA, I had to laugh along with you. I agree with SmartBlonde, we'll probably see a sequel from the OP down the road. I think it's truly funny when I read some of the postings that were started in '05 or '06 and the OP is long gone, moved on, disappeared and never heard from again and people are STILL responding and adding their two cents in. It's obvious too that many don't read all the responses, or lose the original intent of the question so the answers wind up all over the board. THAT, me thinks is the better part of the entertainment value here... LMBO
Now, if y'all will excuse me, I think I'll go look for some more entertainment... ancient is good
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