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| Bullying & methods to reduce its prevalence/impact
Posted: 4/22/2008 12:50:44 PM | | Our high school uses an imaginative and entertaining tool. Each semester, they show "The Revenge of the Nerds". Then the kids get together and discuss bullies, how to recognize them, and how to realistically deal with them as a group. The children "get" the movie where they might tune out a lecture. | |
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| Bullying & methods to reduce its prevalence/impact
Posted: 7/27/2008 1:36:54 AM | 1) get the kids to study and discuss bullying as part of their assessed work, asking them to identify what it means to bully, why people bully and what to do if it happens to them
Good point(s)... feel free to ellaborate... rune 3
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| Bullying & methods to reduce its prevalence/impact
Posted: 7/27/2008 1:46:12 AM | Not 2 shabby, yna6:
You have to remove the bully and his little gang of hangers on. By making an example of one, you send a clear message to the others. I've had to do this...it works.
Remember...bullies are cowards at heart, and when confronted while alone are very vulnerable.
They do not understand why they should not bully...they do understand that they can be bullied themselves for their own misdeeds. This is a powerful tool to use.
Attempting to talk them out of it is like trying to explain to a rattlesnake why it should not bite and poison prey...it doesn't work...so use methods that DO work.
Usually permanent expulsion is a good tool. Remove the leader, the rest fall in line, especially when it is explined to them what is going to happen and its subsequent consequences.
The victim is just that...a victim. They need to be coached to ignore bullys, and to report them when bullying occurs. They also need to be coached to excell in areas that the bully is trying to keep them from succeeding in. Whether it be work, class assignments, sports, whatever.
If it is a thing about hair colour...point out to the victim the number of people who have the same colour and how it was a positive in their lives. Lucielle Ball was not a redhead...but it became almost a trademark for her!
Never "praise" a bully about their positive points...they have none. Their own behaviour overshadows any goodness in them, and until they can beat that themselves, they are nothing. You can point out that they are "good: in some areas, but never let them forget that their behaviour overshadows those areas all the time. Nobody is going to remember the "star" football player...they will remember the bully. Make sure they understand that these type of complaints are going on their record and WILL affect any chances of a scholarship....they won't be getting a good report from you to recruiters. This appeals to their own self-interest...a far better thing than pleading with them to leave the weaker people alone.
There is no use appealing to their "better nature"...they may not have one. Self interest is a far more likely method to modify their behaviour.
Do not "befriend" victims. They have to learn to stand on their own, not to search out a power figure to hide behind. This does not mean don't help...it does mean positive reinforcment. Get them to take self-defence courses. An introductory psychology course can do wonders. Encourage them to try new things, from something on the menu at a restaurant to skydiving. This empowers a victim to get on with their lives...they need not hold back or be afraid to actually go out and live.
You want a discussion group? Great....separate the two into two groups...victims and bullys. Tell the bullies exactly what is going to happen to them if any incidents occur. Tell the "victim" group that they must report anything that happens. Then keep to it.
Bullies always quit when their own self-interest is at stake. | |
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| Bullying & methods to reduce its prevalence/impact
Posted: 8/13/2008 2:47:35 AM | Bullying occurs in the workplace too.
"Bullying is persistent unwelcome behaviour, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings imposed, and much more. In the workplace, bullying usually focuses on distorted or fabricated allegations of underperformance." From: http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/bully.htm
Mostly it's psychological: undermining, excluding, belittling, name-calling, ridiculing, ignoring.
Kudos*;
heads up here two... prowlers will attempt to invoke Mod citations for nothing....
What normally motivates this kind of behavior.
Solid comments, Any1?
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