| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 12/13/2007 9:03:51 AM | | The way I see it is that everybody has a preference when it comes to being attracted to somebody. For instance, I am overweight, but I tend to like tall, thin men. I am attacted to some men who are overweight (the lead singer from Rascal Flatts, for instance), but they're not my general preference. I would never date anybody who is grossly obese. Why should I settle for somebody who I find unattractive just because I'm a tad on the chubby side? There are plenty of men out there who prefer larger women like myself who are thin; it works out for both of us! To say that an overweight person shouldn't have the right to reject another overweight person is sheer nonsense. | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 12/13/2007 9:24:52 AM | Why is he considered a hypocrite?
Because he likes what he likes??
So I guess it's safe to say that we should all only like , and only date"our kind".
Sound s a bit silly to me.
So big deal, the guy is overweight and he likes skinny girls?
If it was the other way around, the skinny part of the duo wouldn't be considered hypocritical, u would say, well everyone has the right to like what they like.
It's not only skinny people that get to have a preference, and if you think that, well I'm sorry for your ignorance...
JJ
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 12/13/2007 9:28:02 AM |
this world is a very big place and even if you're not usually attracted to overweight people there should be at least one fat person in this world that attracts you. If not you're pretty shallow.
So one is shallow for not being attracted to at least one of a certain type of woman? Some women don't like 5'8 guys, some don't like shaved heads, and some don't like black men. Does that make them shallow? No | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/1/2008 8:45:55 AM | Anyone can reject another for any reason they care too. There ain't no law against it.
I happen to know a huge fat guy on here who has multiple profiles without pictures who'll only go out with normal weight women. He doesn't have much luck but occassionally he snags someone.
Interestingly, there are normal weight women who'll only go out with big fat guys. They are called chubby chasers. I don't quite know or understand the attraction, but that is how it is.
Remember in love as in war all is fair and you're making a big mistake when you try to bring in judgements about human behavior.
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/1/2008 9:01:42 AM | This is a case where the mirror's telling the truth but hard to accept by those who look at it. That's the side that could be called hypocrite
I would say the guy doesn't accept himself and thinks of himself skinny... yes, everyone has their own likes/dislikes but the woman only asked for a dance... that takes guts, I don't ask! Then get rejected, that's hard!
All the situations described... overweight, smokers, drugs, anorexia are all addictions. His reason sounds silly, yes. He may like women in shape, may be he'll lose the weight running after her, in courtship or as she does her workouts... or may be she'll outrun him with another guy... who knows! I think that it's ok to strive for better... in the cited situations, the addicted may not want an addicted partner, but it starts with oneself... or it comes out as hypocrite!
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/1/2008 9:13:10 AM | I think it's really important for people to face the music, and realize that if there isn't a mutual physical attraction present, then dating is just plain NOT GOING TO WORK. All these people who would suggest that the fat person go for the other fat person just because they are fat are insane. I think men will do this a lot - they will lead a woman on and date them even when they don't feel real feelings for them, just because they really want to date, really want to get laid, and are too much of a weenie to examine their feelings. You can't force these feelings. They are either there or not.
However, in the case of the opening post, I've got to say - does it kill a guy to dance with a girl at a club? | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/1/2008 10:18:53 AM | | This subject is like war in the Middle east.... It will never end ! I work in a night club and I see this kind of thing happen all the time.. I don't understand it .. in fact I've stoped try'n to understand it. The only thing I can come up with is as people we like nice good looking things.. A Ferrari gets you from point A - B just like a honda civic.. But if we had a choice... I'm sure we would pick a Ferrari.. It puts you in a certain "Class" Thats why women spend $1,000 for a Chennele purse when the $50 Purse from Guess does the same exact thing.. That thousand dollar rolex tells the same time the $10 watch from walmart does.. I've met thousands of people ,being in the army allowed to meet a lot of peopl from all over. Different creeds colors and religon.. But as people we all want the same thing.. The best we can possibly get. Anyone who tells you different is pull'n your chain.. And its not just guys who are like this.. When I see women lust after Jack Black, Danny Devito, and Bruce Bruce... Instead of Brad Pitt, Matthew McCahunney and LL Cool J Then and only then will I start to think otherwise.. We all like beautiful people thats both Males and Females.. Why is it that men get hit with the "Shallow stick" when women are just as bad ? | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/1/2008 10:57:07 AM | It's his taste,and his loss. I hope I see the person for who they are. Third wife was very overweight, She also had killer tattoos,long beautiful brown hair,pretty brown eyes,and got noticed and complemented constantly. Sometimes hard to be married to a work of art. Now if any one had ask me what I liked in a women. She would not have been on the list. Good thing no one ask. JD | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/3/2008 7:20:15 AM |
The way I see it is that everybody has a preference when it comes to being attracted to somebody. For instance, I am overweight, but I tend to like tall, thin men
Thing is, unfortuantely, everyone wants the "thin goodlooking" people in general
Overweight people would LIKE to have a hunk/babe
Thin people would like the same
Ugly People want the same
Average people want the same.
Seems like everyone wants someone that's goodlooking, by default, right? lol. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 7:50:34 AM |
Thing is, unfortuantely, everyone wants the "thin goodlooking" people in general
Yes indeed. And I suspect that most people who say otherwise would change their tune in a minute if they could snap their fingers and actually get a thin, good looking person.
And in thinking about it, why should it be at all unreasonable to dump on the guy in the OP's story for wanting to date thin women when he's isn't thin.
Do we dump on a 5'2 woman who only wants to date 5'10 and above men? I mean, she's short. Shouldn't she be dating short guys only? Isn't she something of a hypocrite. Now, you might respond, "yes, but that's different. It's far more natural for a short woman to be with a tall man." Well, perhaps for the guy in the OP's story, it's far more natural for a woman to be the thin one, while the man does not have to worry so much about his body.
Let's face it, one of the reasons we get uncomfortable when we see an overweight guy with a slim, attractive women (a rare occurrence of course) is because we want that guy to be punished because his body type is not desirable. We don't think he deserves to date someone who is thin and perhaps even good looking. "How dare that fatty date outside his league", we say. | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/3/2008 7:56:29 AM |
Now i don't think he has the right to refuse anyone solely based on weight, A fat person using preference to reject another fat person is utterly silly.
So, he's a hypocrite. Why does it bug you so much? Maybe he dislikes the overweight in himself as well, and just doesn't have the willpower to do something about it. Doesn't mean he has to pretend to be attracted to others who have the same quality he dislikes in himself. By the way: yeah, he does have the "right" to refuse anyone at all, just like you do. | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/3/2008 8:20:24 AM | I have this friend that does not think he is big and fat. Puts down other big and fat people. Whats with that. If you call him on it he craws alway. People are people and as such they see things as they see them be it fair and honest or as they wish it was or as it should be etc. Truth is in the mind of the individual. That individual is what he is. Some people are not capeable if see the truth or knowing it when its there. Fairy dust all over the place --people from other plants--people that can not think or reason. But were all people with a lot of ? that make us who we are.  | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:16:18 AM | He is definitely a hypocrite, but the truth of the matter is...we can reject people for whatever stupid reason we want to reject them. It does not have to be logical or make a bit of sense...that's just the way it is.
I would think he is fishing in a very small pond if he is a big ol' boy, but wants his women "in shape". The majority of "in shape" women will at least want their man in reasonable shape, too. | |
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