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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:01:38 AM | I'm sure this has already been mentioned, but I'm not going to read 13 or 14 pages. There is nothing wrong with a fat woman rejecting fat men or vice versa. However a fat woman would be a hypocrite if she rejects a man due to weight, height, race etc AND also complains about another man rejecting her due to her weight. I think a fat man is entitled to go after thin/fit women just like a fat woman is entitled to go after thin/fit men. However they might not always be able to get what they are looking for.
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:02:46 AM | It just isn't a good comparison to think that being over weight is like skin color or your height.
You can change the fact that you are over-weight.
So.. since I am only 5'5" I shouldn't perfer men who are at least 5'10"..???
That would make sense if I could choose to grow and extra 5" over the next couple months.
So... if you don't take care of yourself... eat whatever you like to stuff in your face.
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then require any possible date be slim and toned??
I think that is not OK.
If you are overweight and you have this preference... then... time to start working on getting back into shape! | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:58:30 AM | | you should have just asked him if he looked in the mirror...ever.....what gets me is that he wants to be with a willowy woman but he himself is doing nothing to change his image...men seem to not see themselves in real light or refuse to acknowledge that they are less than perfect...".my woman has to take me like I am,whatever faults I have that I could fix."...and women turn themselves inside out to appeal to a man....I respect anybody who has willpower....it's not easy but at least one can try rather than shoot down other people...talking about calling the kettle black...I,personally,think the guy is a jerk...just by his answer....I know what I want...no kidding....I want,I want,I want.....waaaaaaaaaaa.... | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:07:05 AM | | Well I've been around plenty of over weight or chubby chicks and they have normally wanted guys who are in shape so to speak. I figure they are hypocritical really cause inside they don't like themselves. Where as not all but some people can be with somebody on criteria more than looks. It is funny though to have people act so entitled to judge based on something they can't even accomplish. They wanna act like someone should judge them for who they are inside. It goes to show how shallow people are no matter their size but the like to put the shallow and conceitedness upon attractive people. They feel good being a victim about their life. What I don't get is people who only date outside their race. It perplexes me. They can be attracted to who ever they want but it still makes no sense. I know a few white chicks who only date black guys. I don't get it cause I would be with an asian,black, hispanic,or white chick. I mean if their hot their hot! It may be preference but it still seems like they want to dis themselves some how. A person of any color can be cool to be with just find the right person. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 4:48:56 PM | >
Hey, Mahogany Rush, I am the woman who started that other thread. Apparently you have trouble comprehending simple english. At no time did I say I would reject someone based on his weight. My statement was, "You show me a man who is intelligent, witty and kind, and I'll show you the sexiest man alive." That makes no mention of weight AT ALL!!!! It is a man's character that defines him. Not his weight. Nor deos weight define any human!
The last thing I am is a hippocrite. Since you are obviously perfect, your comment about me being "more than overweight" has seriously wounded me.......try not to choke on my sarcasm. How dare you? I'd tell you that if you decide to discard a book based on it's cover, chances are you'll be missing one amazing story but I'm sure that would be lost on you. Clearly you are still on picture books! | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being ove
Posted: 3/22/2008 9:03:09 AM | Some people are just lost in their own little fantasy world, where they are the king, perhaps their fantasies are mixed with realities. With me, if a girl even talks to me, I'll respond, heck if a girl asked me to dance, I would, regardless of whether I was attracted to them, it's just a dance, afterall. Then maybe after talking to them, you find that you are interested in them, I mean, who knows? Attraction has to go past the skin at some point, it's what we are all hoping for. If we solely base attraction on how tall or short, how big or small, how educated or not, then we will find that we will be single the rest of our lives, never find happiness and as some fat nurse is changing our clothes in the retirement home, we will reflect on how we never made a decision, instead of settling down with someone who wasn't quite "perfect", we chose to search for that golden fleece or that holy grail of the perfect mate, and failed miserably, so we end up, cold, alone and miserable for the last few pathetic years of our lives.
Point being. There is always going to be someone more attractive than the person you are with. There is always going to be someone who is too overweight, too fit, too smart, too dumb, too white, too black, too nerdy, too lazy, too tall, too short, I could go on, but I think maybe someone might get the message so I will stop. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 7:17:02 PM | First off obvioulsy I am overweight....but I don't think its right for anyone to judge someone based soley on physical apperance.
WIth that said..yes there has to be physical chemistry...if your not attracted to someone..your just not attracted to someone....but should you reject someone based upon their weight...not in my opinion...I mean who am i to judge anyone on their looks...
Everyone has the type of person they are attracted to...but I would hope someone who not judge someone else based soley apon the cover..they should read the book a bit first :) | |
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| Is it ok for a overweight person to reject another overweight person, solely based on them being overweight?
Posted: 3/23/2008 3:49:27 AM | He likes women in shape but he is fat fck...That is good for him and good luck with that. Perhaps he will find a fit woman that likes fat fcks... All peeps are different. However, and based on my opinion, which I hold true to form...
I am 5 foot 7 and weigh 108 pounds, I would not want a partner that did not take care of himself. I take care of myself... It is only fair that my mate also takes care of himself. This is the world according to me mind you. Soooo...with that said........
The word Hypocrite comes to mind fast and hard...Those who live in fudge houses should not walk around naked.
No cuttin' on the dude here but damn, if you are not walking the walk then you should not be talking the talk...
Play in your league. | |
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| Preference my butt, you can't use preference as an excuse.
Posted: 3/23/2008 4:22:58 AM | ^^^ Yup, I would. Why would a thin man turn around and say you are too skinny for me?? Ummm, that is a hypocrite. Get the definition of hypocrite and then check back with me.
Here is an idea for you... READ before you post!! wooopeee!!
I said maybe some fit chicks are into fatties BUT for this dude to just write off a gal who is overweight, when he himself is a fat thing is that not being a hypocrite? Ummm it is.
Ya, we can all WANT what we want and expect to get it but that is for people that like look like me.
 
Let's put our brain cells to work here now... never said peeps did not have ideals...
Ok...just playing...kind of. Here is the deal:
What I am trying to say is this; it is not wrong to have an 'ideal'' in a mate - however if you're like tons of fun and your ideal mate is Ms/Mr. Fit and you KNOCK women/men for being overweight, well then that makes you a pretty big jerk ( umm and the H word). Da ya get that ? Or should I like use brail???
PS...I think what you meant to say there Ms. I don't know it all, when you changed the thread title on here ~ was more like "Preference my butt, you CAN use preference as an excuse."
The way you worded it just supports my posts 100% THANKS!!!
You changed the title to: "Preference my butt, you CAN'T use preference as an excuse."...Yup...Exactly
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| Preference my butt, you can't use preference as an excuse.
Posted: 3/23/2008 4:58:16 AM | Now i don't think he has the right to refuse anyone solely based on weight,
They guy has every right to refuse a woman due to her weight, how tall she is, the length of her hair, the hair on her arms, the color of her skin, the color of her shoes, or anything else. This isn't a job, this isn't school, this is DATING, the eventual goal being to spend the rest of your life with someone. Only a fool would be with (or stay with) someone they are unhappy with. Next we're going to have people filing discrimination lawsuits against people who turned them down for a date (although someone else has ALREADY proposed filing a lawsuit because they got dumped).
I wouldn't go into a restaurant and order something I don't really like to eat. I wouldn't buy a shirt that I didn't like. So why would I date someone I wasn't happy with, either? I SURE as hell wouldn't want a woman dating me just because she felt obligated. | |
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| Preference my butt, you can't use preference as an excuse.
Posted: 3/23/2008 11:51:52 PM |
^^^ Yup, I would. Why would a thin man turn around and say you are too skinny for me?? Ummm, that is a hypocrite. Get the definition of hypocrite and then check back with me.
Here is an idea for you... READ before you post!! wooopeee!!
I said maybe some fit chicks are into fatties BUT for this dude to just write off a gal who is overweight, when he himself is a fat thing is that not being a hypocrite? Ummm it is.
Ya, we can all WANT what we want and expect to get it but that is for people that like look like me.
Let's put our brain cells to work here now... never said peeps did not have ideals...
Ok...just playing...kind of. Here is the deal:
What I am trying to say is this; it is not wrong to have an 'ideal'' in a mate - however if you're like tons of fun and your ideal mate is Ms/Mr. Fit and you KNOCK women/men for being overweight, well then that makes you a pretty big jerk ( umm and the H word). Da ya get that ? Or should I like use brail???
PS...I think what you meant to say there Ms. I don't know it all, when you changed the thread title on here ~ was more like "Preference my butt, you CAN use preference as an excuse."
The way you worded it just supports my posts 100% THANKS!!!
You changed the title to: "Preference my butt, you CAN'T use preference as an excuse."...Yup...Exactly
Wow...I take it that's directed at me...thanks for allowing me an opinion and the right on a forum to express it.
Even though YOUR opinion is evidently set in stone and marked by the Heavens, I'm still saying that everyone has a preference.
I know heavy women who prefer skinny men and I know heavy men who prefer skinny women...no matter how you cut it, it's a preference. I have a good friend who spends hours and hours in the gym, but he prefers women with a little meat on their bones--20-30 lbs extra...it's a preference. So...sorry to not bow to popular opinion--it is a preference and it is not hypocritical. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 11:02:27 AM | ^^^Yup, you got it - that was directed at you. That was about the ONLY thing you got right out of my post.
Likewise. Thanks for allowing me an opinion and the right on a forum to express it.
The funny thing is, I am not disagreeing with you. I am just stating an obvious fact that you are not getting.
Did I NOT say read what is written before you post? Yeh, I did. Try that. Works wonders.
I'm gonna try this again and real slow like so maybe you understand.
I said that there is nothing wrong with having an ideal for a mate. Follow so far? I agree with that 100% we all deserve to have that. HOWEVER if you discount dating someone for being the same as you because it does not fit your ideal, then that makes you a hypocrite. A person is not wrong for doing this but they are a hypocrite.
Let me give you an example, where I will use myself in the scenerio. I have kids. Now, I prefer to date men that don't have kids. Ideally. Does that make me wrong? No. Does it make me a hypocrite? Bet your azz it does.
Now, I hate repeating myself so if you don't get what I am saying by now ask someone else to explain it to you. I am done trying to get thru to your one dimensional mind.
Mark that by the Heavens. I'm done here.  | |
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