| He took my pic
Posted: 11/26/2007 5:00:43 PM | | It was wrong of him to take your pic he should have respected your wishes and kept his camera shutter from clicking:modhammer: | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/26/2007 5:07:42 PM | My lord but you're over reacting and so are the others who are weirded out by this... You weren't "violated" or harmed in any way. Unless you were nude and he took a photo of you naked and posted it on the www... and if so, send me a link and I'll let you know if the photo was in good taste or not.
I take a zillion photo's of my self and anyone else who get's in my way. I'll send anyone most unflattering photo I have of myself if they ask.. After all, it's just the reflection of a moment and means nothing.
That's my 2 cents worth. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/26/2007 5:12:50 PM | | that's right, i saw you!!! oh my god. why were you wearing that weird... you know! and what's with the pony and peanut butter thing. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:49:49 PM | With all these armchair psychologists, it's no wonder why there are so many singles out there. Rock on, lemmings! 
"He took my pic"  | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:55:18 PM | ^ I think the bigger surprise is the number of people who need to validate their decisions/feelings.
If you're reacting to something in an honest way (ie. being yourself) what does it matter if you're over reacting or "weird" ?
Unless you want to actively change who you are in order to fit some sort of societal norm, it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks-- at least, not unless you're in a long term relationship where you're willing to make sacrifices or bend. A lot of people don't compromise early on-- which I GUESS is ok.... but if you aren't going to compromise--- what does it matter if your thought process is a bit odd? | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 6:32:45 AM | I don't have fear of taking my pictures - I love it.
But the question on the hand is not about the fear - it's about care.
She told him that she doesn't like something - he still did it...............put anything instead of something - and you get a picture of the future relationship.
He likes taking pictures, she doesn't like it.
He likes to kiss, she doesn't.
He likes some kind of sex, she doesn't.
If he keeps doing what she doesn't like - he doesn't care...........OR he can't help. Either way - the relationship will be over sooner or later. Because "doesn't care" - diagnosis | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 5:25:33 PM | sweetpetite, I've rarely been comfortable in front of another's camera, so I can understand ...in an Amish sort of way, why you might not like to have your picture taken. However, some of us who are fascinated w/ photography and enjoy capturing precious moments, and not the posed type, for life w/ others in the picture. As for your new relationship taking your picture while you slept, he was not right for not asking ...nor was he wrong for his possibly being inspired by your momentary beauty and choosing not to wake you up.
The word that comes to my mind is "stifle" ...and you just might be doing so to someone who adores you. As for me letting myself be photographed, it all depends on my company. My newt love is into photography also, so I say why not, smile, and look her in the eye. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 8:06:38 PM | OP
I had a woman asking me to put up a more recent pic... this after I had met her in person for coffee... I kept thinking to myself.. if she wants a newer pic of me so bad, why didn't she just take one with her cell phone... Hmmmm... maybe hers didn't have a camera capability... I guess I just assume most do these days... lol I don't have a problem with my pic being taken, but as some other posters have mentioned, least delete the noncomplimentary ones... yeah yeah I know, honesty would be all, but com'n have a heart! :) Since ur guy knew you didn't like/want ur pic taken... He was WAY out of line doing so... the question should be... what punishment is he deserving of for such an infraction of your space?? Merry Christmas all!! | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 8:59:14 PM |
The photographer was my own "long hair loving" father that thinks I'm too precious when I'm sleeping! (Probably cause it's the only time I'm not talking.)
I have to laugh as my dad did the same thing a year ago. I was napping on the couch with my feet/toes resting on a pillow. He's in this photo forum and the topic was a body part, thence my toes. Yes, my painted toes are on the internet entitled, "Sleeping Toes". I understand he won with that picture. Good Grief. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:00:00 PM | | when you guys break up, your tits are all over the internet FA sure. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:24:55 PM |
I find it slightly creepy
only SLIGHTLY?
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:31:54 PM |
I take a zillion photo's of my self and anyone else who get's in my way. I'll send anyone most unflattering photo I have of myself if they ask..
oh LORDY!
um, "NO...No Thanx!"
and, DAT^?
is 'IT'...Exactly
ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:39:27 PM |
In any event, he did not respect your request. You need to decide how important his ignorance/forgetfulness will be in the long run and discuss that with him.
exactly.
I doubt he 'forgot' the conversation | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/28/2007 12:33:44 AM |
Last night he sent me a pic he had taken of me while I was sleeping. ... I had even cautioned him against taking a pic when I was unaware.
...but I feel somewhat violated.
He apologized. I know he's sorry, but it's still bothering me since this had been pre-discussed and he says he doesn't remember the convo.
Dear sweetpetitegirl:
There's a lot of ways to look at this, but the truth is, you set a personal boundary and he violated it - either deliberately or by not bothering to listen to something that was important to you. That says something about what kind of person he will be in a reltionship. The question your actions will now answer is, what kind of person will you be? Don't let anyone minimize this. Having a picture taken may not be important to others, but it is to you, and you said so, and that matters.
I'd **at**most** give him one more chance, and be very alert for how he treats your other boundaries, and those of other people. You might just want to call it a day, for that matter. No one should have to worry about their boundaries in an intimate relationship.
Regards - Grant | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/28/2007 10:53:05 AM | First of all I love photography and have many, many, many times taken pictures of unsuspecting and totally unaware subjects. It is something that occurs probably every second worldwide. Pictures of this sort are published daily in newspapers, TV, postcards, magazines, internet and bulletin boards all over the world.
However,,,,,,,,, there is always a line of personal integrity and respect that goes along with it. ANY respectable person, photographer or not, will avoid snapping the shutter when it compromises the self respect or integrity of the subject, and will almost always delete, edit or expose it in a manner that isn't insulting or degrading of another. Also there are laws that regulate it. ANY photographer abides by the golden rule of "expectation of privacy". A person really doesn’t have that expectation in an airport park, or shopping mall or any public place. But washrooms, locker rooms, dressing rooms are certainly not public places and a bedroom damn sure isn't.
If it was a party or a bbq or even a semi social get-to-gether like a camping trip I would say maybe you are overacting, but in a place where a normal person would expect to be private or a personal sanctuary, it is a rotten thing to do and a betrayal of trust.
Dump the prick.... | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/28/2007 6:55:31 PM | | Ew. I find it creepy too. I would even find it creepy if a guy did that to me, and I actually don't mind having my picture taken when I'm awake and aware. I mean, if you can't trust what someone is doing while you're asleep, how safe are you going to feel when you sleep with him? And why didn't he tell you immediately after you woke up, instead of sending it to you later, so that you would have the option of deleting the picture before it got onto a computer? I would take this as a huge fricken' red flag. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/29/2007 12:23:23 AM | | I like my picture taken but i find that creepy. I don't know anyone who has ever done that. I say dump him now, he's weird. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/29/2007 10:35:14 AM | In the late 80's I knew a guy who had a common law wife.
He took her picture nude while she was alseep.
She went to the police and the police charged him.
I guess anybody who plans on taking a picture should talk to a lawyer first.
What I find a bit creepy myself, is that you're suppose to be in a so called new relationship, yet on a dating site. When the relationship is over, where will the pictures end up? | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/29/2007 2:42:08 PM | | I am such a ham in front of the camera that this is hard for me to relate to. Tell him your feelings and ask him to respect how you feel. If he can't do that, he isn't for you. | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/29/2007 4:13:26 PM | So he wanted a picture of you for to remind him of you ?
A nasty man ? no, just someone who likes you. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2007 8:09:19 PM | OH..THIS IS A GOOD ONE....
THE PROBLEM ISNT THAT HE TOOK THE PIC GIRL....IF HE KEPT IT TO HIMSELF
NO HARM DONE REALLY... ITS THAT HE SENT IT TO YOU... EVEN I ...AM NOT SURE WHAT
THAT PSYCHOLOGICALLY IMPLIES ....BUT ITS NOT GOOD...I CAN TELL YOU THAT.....HMMMM.....
HE HAS VIOLATED YOUR TRUST... YOUR PRIVACY .....AND SENT YOUR PHOTO
ACROSS THE INTERNET.... ID BET MY NEXT CHEESEBURGER THAT YOUR PHOTO
IS NOW ON SOME PORN SITE.... THESE KINDS OF BEHAVIORS ALWASY RUN DEEPER AND MORE SINISTER THAN THEY APPEAR....
MY ADVISE... THREATEN THIS GUY WITH CRIMINAL CHARGES SHOULD HE EVER TALK TO YOU AGIAN...OR YOU FIND YOUR PHOTO ON THE WEB.... AND BE
VERY ADAMANT ABOUT IT...THEN SLAM THE PHONE IN HIS EAR... THIS GUY IS
TROUBLE.... | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/29/2007 8:14:43 PM | | The thing I find wrong with this isn't that he took your pic, but that he claims to have no recollection of the conversation about how you felt about getting your pic taken. If he can't even respect you enough to take note of your wishes then he's not got much going for him. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2007 8:19:46 PM | Sweetpea, baby girl,
I have not read the thread, but only your posting. You are not overreacting. He violated and disrespected you. He remembers and is testing to see if he can get away with it (you). Be aware of the red flags you are seeing. Don't waste years. Good luck! | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 11/29/2007 8:22:16 PM | I would have to say even though it bothered you i wasn't meant as a harmful thing and you shouldn't get to upset because he didn't hide it from you. Just be grateful that he finds you so attractive that he wants a pic of you to show off so bad that even one where you are asleep adn not even smiling or looking at him is good enough | |
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| He took my pic
Posted: 12/3/2007 1:45:46 AM |
With all these armchair psychologists, it's no wonder why there are so many singles out there. Rock on, lemmings!
Look at the bright side..........Normally it would cost $65 an hour or more, to spill your guts out to a total stranger...... | |
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