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Posted: 12/15/2007 9:18:54 PM | some people want kids, some dont. Big deal, if someone cant commet because of that.........NEXT !!! I dont want to have kids but it seems like most gals do. I luv other peoples kids ! I am a god father and thats as close to a daddy as i want to get. There is sooooo much more then kids to offer in a relationship.
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Posted: 12/15/2007 11:41:23 PM | | For a guy not looking for kids you have just as much to offer as anyone else.. love, compassion, friendship, caring and so on..men need that also. i think he was just being insensitive and hurtful. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 12:40:42 AM | thanks all...though most posters didnt cough up any REASONS to committ??
anyway
the friend said the tight box thing.....the boyfriend is gone for other reasons
and my ...um errrr box is closed for he holiday season | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 2:29:28 AM | @batgurlie
I'm going to say something really trite but, you are getting involved with and hanging out with the wrong guys.
Long-term committed relationships are emotional investments, not just necessarily fiscal ones.
I don't think the kind of thinking your guy friend is touting, is that much different than any number of women out there, either. Many people see relationships as highly transient and easily swapped. But, not everybody does. It's just a trend, that may not last.
P.S. It took me like 15 seconds to piece together what 'legal tight box' actually was in reference to. I have to admit, that's kind of funny. Specifically, the legal part.
the giggleparts - I'm trending down the drain | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 12:16:41 PM | OP, you (and all of us) deserve to have someone who doesn't make you come up with a list of reasons to commit but who already knows them. You commit because you can barely imagine not being with that person, because he or she adds to your happiness and you add to his or hers, because your life together is better than it is apart, because you complement each other, because the sum of your parts is ever greater synergy. And for some people, you might also commit because you want to have children together. But that sure as heck isn't the only reason or even the primary one for many people.
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Posted: 12/16/2007 1:38:24 PM | | OMG...gal, YOU need a new guy friend! and you have as much to offer as you ever did, just because you don't wanna have kids doesn't disqualify you for a committed relationship...they aren't only about kids. They are about finding someone you want to be with for an extended if not lifelong relationship! Geez....he may not need a woman for much, but according to guys on here, they are needed more than that guy thinks! | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 3:05:52 PM | REASONS to commit?
I can think of at least ONE really good reason.
It is not good that man (i.e. mankind) should be alone. Nothing is so sad as to see someone who has spent their life in trivial pursuits and ended up being alone at their death.
OTOH; nothing is more fulfilling than coming to the end of their days and looking back to see a host of loved ones, children, grandchildren, friends, family, co-workers, etc. All these (typically) are the result of two people coming together to build a life together. Even if the couple do NOT have children of thier own, it is not out of the realm of possiblity that they are cherished and loved by their siblings' kids or grandkids.
I think the single greatest reason for committing to another person for life would be the joy of growing old together (and everything which that would entail) as opposed to growing old alone. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 7:45:53 PM | OP he's full of it.
Speaking as a guy with a vasectomy I am not looking for kids, I'm looking for companionship, someone to dote on occasionally and to have fun together. I'm not looking for someone to be my shadow and spend every waking moment of the day with but someone who cares if I have a bad day and vice versa.
I don't need someone to make my life complete but I would like to share good times.
There is a lot to be said for a caring and kind woman who will do stuff like bring you lunch at work occasionally. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 5:11:46 AM | OP
You were reduced to a thing. You have been objectified.
You are only as good as your street-legal box?
Charming fella...for a caveman. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 10:04:59 AM | I dont see how she is ONLY defined as a legal tight box really
Its just that most other things she has going for her so will/do MOST other women, so none of it makes her stand out
This is no different to the droves of women who fondly remember men who were good lovers or who had exceptionally large todgers, and usually with those women that wasnt "ALL" that they liked about them, it was just something that made them stand out compared to others who DID have all their other positive attributes
So basically she COULD have a good sense of humour, be pretty, intelligent, caring, fun to be around, have a good figure, be a good cook/dancer/ partner, be understanding, compassionate, have her own opinions and actually voice them, be able to compromise when needed, be a good communicator and countless other things that..........so has every single OTHER woman the bloke has dated
BUT, have a legal tight box TOO, which very few women over 25 can atest to even tho most think they can
So personally I think all this oestrogen hazed tizzy fitting is a bit overreactive really all things considered | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 3:31:17 PM | I respect your decision to do that; but you need to also realize that you will be limited. Most men and women want to be married and have kids. You probably will have to find someone that already has kids and has been there and done that.
I dont want a baby machine; I want everything. But you have to be realistic. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 3:37:24 PM | That's ridiculous. I've been with women who had kids, and they were tight. One could break a pencil I swear.
Sounds to me like he was trying to take away any hope you had for a life without him. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 3:43:18 PM | wordaholic/batgirlie
I'll have a beer...
Besides even if it is like a "Wizzards sleeve" there are alternatives
BIg AL | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 9:10:14 AM | gezzzzz....i will keep diggin for the answer....since i was batgulie
and still am in thought.........oh lord | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 9:15:14 AM | I wouldn't let it worry you, there are plenty of guys out there that could care less if they ever had a kid , i'm sure you are perfect for some of them | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 9:22:48 AM |
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I often wonder what someone was searching for, when an older thread title like this one turns up.  | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 10:15:31 AM | Well it's been almost a year now........I'll give you my take...
Yes in todays world and one I might ad woman created that is all you now have to offer.
Most of our trouble started when we (guys) gave the woman the right to vote (and you haven't thanked us)
Women decieded that they would like to be men so they gave up their job of Family yes that was what they were created for. They refused to be the families historians,Mothers,teachers of our young.They wanted to be men.
Woman wonder what is going on w/ a man, It's not us, You refused you rightful job and left no replacement, You say you want to be our equal. Equal at what? you have/had your job and now you want the mans job so now we have two totally different species wanting to do the same role when one wasn't created to do the others job. So now the only difference between the two is below the waist. | |
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