| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/1/2007 5:04:36 AM | Yes.
“Smitten”.... nice choice.
While i never read a “your match” profile without a picture, i have read more than a few based on
peoples Forum posts. ( I have also kept a mental list of folks i wouldn’t care to meet under any
circumstances.)
It makes sense. You can get a feel for they way people think on the forums so much better than reading answers about deep emotional questions discussed on their profiles like “ smoker” or “height” . I am, sadly, a humor junkie. I don’t think reading “ My friends find me funny” or “ I have a great sense of humor” is nearly as compelling as actually reading the thoughts people express here.
( now, can someone please explain to me why, at my age, i suddenly find Canadians so
damned funny ?) | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/1/2007 12:10:42 PM |
darn it dynomite, cuz you is always the smittOR, not the smittEE. whatchu talkin 'bout?
oh nevahmind ~ you're one of the "ellusive" ones.
You are just toooo smooove ! You ~ charmer ~ you.
Evvy buddy wuvs you !
Dah dah d-d-dahhh I'm wuvvin it!
Wushious Wuv all the way fwom texas. lol
Mr. Dynomite- I saw a thread that eventually got deleted
by someone who was real smitten by you!!-LOL!!!
I musta missed that one. (?) | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/1/2007 12:21:20 PM | Sometimes, I get these e-mails in the line of saying, "If you lived down the road from me, we would get together today" and they live thousands of miles away. They're great looking and spirited women...but what good is it making that statement?
(teases)
...The word "smitten" reminds me of something a British Granny would say. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/1/2007 12:30:17 PM | I haven't been smitten, but I have laughed and appreciated those people who make me laugh or I have been intrigued and made to think a little more on a topic and really appreciated those people who helped with that.
That is why I love visiting the forums. Thank you to all who take time to post something :) | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/1/2007 2:02:34 PM | No I can't say that I have ever been to the point I could fall in love with someone like that..But, I have grown to really respect some people out here for their postings.. IF they are consistent with the style of writing you get a window into that person..Mind you only one demension..But still can be a large one.
I personally live my life like an open book.The only thing private is my proffessional life due to ethic laws.
So, Pretty much what people see in my profile, and my postings along with my emails are me.. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/8/2007 7:42:31 AM | | There are 3 male posters with whom I'm quite "smitten" with, simply for their usage of the English language. They're of three different age ranges but they express themselves eloquently and really make you "get it", y'know? I LOVE that about them! So, yeah, I tend to read their posts a lot and have actually written to them telling them so! | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/9/2007 6:39:56 AM | I'm forever intrigued with people posting at the forum.
I have some wonderful friends whom I have 'known' for my two years here and I wish so much that they were closer to me.
They are NOT all men, I have a very special female friend here whom I respect and simply adore as we are so alike and speak of our adventures on at least a weekly basis.
I also have a couple of guys that I would so dearly love to meet.....But that damn ocean seems to get in the way! | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:07:46 PM | Yes, without a doubt I've grown "smitten" with people I've "met" online.
Not just here. But in many other online forums covering a wide variety of topics.
It seems to me that the ones I gravitate to have a wicked sense of humor, a little bit of devil in their replies, a dash of sarcasm, a way to twist a phrase so you can see its underbelly, and a flirtiness that makes you think "Hmmm, I wonder if she's available *outside* of the topic?" | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/30/2007 6:31:25 AM | Another great question. This thread is priceless. I only started posting to the forum today and I am lovin' it!
I think the 23 yo diesel mechanic from Vancouver (onib4ku) is wise beyond his years. Captain Girly Girl's experience is probably a good "for instnace".
First Falcon, dude. That is the funniest profile pic I have ever seen. Your profile is damn funny too. I've only been posting for a day and so far you and Jim Dandy 2007 (for his post on "When men get all GIRLIE") are already my provisional heroes.
It's midnight and I think I have been keeping the neighbours awake with my laughter on this thread alone. Never thought re-arranging electrons could be so much fun. Interesting that electrons can be arranged in such a way that someone could be smitten by the arranger.
Never mind what word is used, there is no doubt. Human relationship happen online as much as offline. It's like anything though, when you see someone in one context, it might be enough to get you to pursue them in another, but you are only a percentage of the way there. Your relationship as it pertains to your life companion has a long way to go. The online forums are as good a catalyst as any to get things going.
My tip is to try to meet them anyway, but be realistic, and don't spoil it with your high expectations. Even if it doesn't work out, you won't have them as a competing interest in your mind when you meet someone else. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/30/2007 1:15:35 PM | THis is an old thread but looks like mrsnaphappy is reviving it...since I have been on the forums a few weeks now (oh so long) but just now exploring the offtopic...I'll respond.
Smitten wouldn't be my word, but I really enjoy seeing familiar names responding to questions because I know I'll enjoy their responses - whether or not I agree with them.
Some posters I esp find insightful and look forward to seeing their name.
None of what I"ve said is esp new or enlightening. But let me share this. I am part of another website...not dating...it's an infertility website. I joined it in 1998. 9 years ago. And I am still posting on the forums with some of the same women from 1998, along with of course scores more.
I've met many of these women now IRL. And I consider a lot of the women to be just as good as friends to me as some of my IRL friends are. I know them better than I know my neighbors. Obviously, no, I'm not smitten w/them - as they are women like me and I"m hetero. But over time it's natural to feel like you know them and to grow close to them. And when I travel for whatever reason, sometimes I'll let an online friend know and we'll meet for lunch. Always such a treat. Or we'll talk via cells. I don't really see how that's any different than getting to know folk on the forums and developing "friendships" of a sort. The only difference is the topics - and that folk here are looking for dating/love etc so that we perhaps are reading their posts a little bit more closely and reading more meaning into what they say.
Kaylie  | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/30/2007 5:45:15 PM | not in this place but in another, love online for two years.. met him.. not what
he was but love him anyways ...they all have a place in my heart..had a few... texan phoned today to wish me happy new years.. I wished him the best too..life goes on.. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/30/2007 8:32:39 PM |
First Falcon, dude. That is the funniest profile pic I have ever seen.
Dude, its not funny, its women ripping off and throwing their support hose and foundation undergarments at their monitors SEXY. I have a reputation to destroy here.
Thanks, compliments gladly accepted, and keep em' coming.  | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:59:24 PM | Hmmm, maybe intrigued is the better word for it.
That works for me too. Intrigued because of posts. Smitten doesn't come till there has been some one on one communication. And yes, it happened once.
Won't happen again but I have made quite a few friends of both sexes through posts and then later emails exchanged. :) They are all irreverent, funny, and quick witted as hell. I'd like to round them all up and have a big party. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:11:18 PM | On my first foray into the forums I was reading a thread where it appeared to me that none of the posters had really answered the question. Then I found a post that did, so I read her profile and even though she was a Canadian, sent her an email. I was indeed "intrigued" at first.
Now I am totally "smitten" with her.
Post 5 and 26, I have to agree, when I read on the forums and decide to look at profiles, it's mostly Canadian ladies that catch my attention. Is there a shortage of men in Canada that there are so many free ladies there? | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:28:56 PM | Oh absolutely. There are some extremely clever, funny, charming men on here, mostly over a thousand miles away, but hey, if I was there, they'd be here, such is life. I've even made a few friends that way, and there are a few I'd still like to be friends with. Once in a while I've shot them an email letting them know how much I liked their posts.
There are some really fabulous insights into personalities or lack there of through the forum postings. The subjects they choose and the frequency of their postings is very telling too.
As for me, I only post when I have a lot to say and no one to listen, sometimes I'm angry and it shows, other times I'm being silly and just trying to get reactions to learn what other people's real passions are. I expose myself very well on here, for better or for worse, and find it very attractive and brave to see it in others.
I think a profile without a list of forum posts at the bottom is a real shame, as I firmly believe everyone must have an opinion on something, and I'd love to hear it.
I'm also very much smitten with the use of language, how some people dish it out like yesterday's leftovers and others can mold it like clay, into art.
I'm naturally attracted to cerebral, funny, articulate people, so if a person posts at all, they may have some of those qualities, and it's definitely a step in the right direction.
I firmly believe I'm more likely to make a match in here than scanning through the profiles, scrolling down the people buffet, getting and giving the same consideration everyone else gets by sheer lack of direction, bla! | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:35:47 PM | | You know, I made a bunch of friends on a different online forum and met them personally, and it ran about 80/20 as to whether they were as enjoyable in person as they had been online (80-yes, 20-no). As far as physical appearance, I always think it's funny that after you know someone who really isn't very physically attractive but you really care for them and enjoy them, they become more attractive to you. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:08:10 AM |
hehehe....i like that word!
Did anyone ever see the Winnie the Pooh Valentines Day special where he gets bitten by a smitten? LOL
Does anyone remember the song that goes "When the love bug bites, you don't know where to scratch..."
Anyway - yeah - I've been smitten by words. It's rather inevitable when you're a literary-minded, communicative person that has been online in various communities and forums for over thirteen years. I take it all with a grain of salt. For example, a few years ago, I finally met someone on the west coast that I had had an incredible email correspondence with for over five years. I think we were realistic about our expectations but just needed to see what would happen, being the sorts to not want to live with regrets.
What happened is that he didn't know how to talk to me in real life and it was an awkward and painful three day visit. Me, I'm a talker regardless of face to face or online, and I talk like I write - its all open and its all good. He spent the three days writing in a journal and stumbling like he couldn't talk, when I spoke to him. I was so frustrated because I was really trying to make him comfortable, but as soon as he got home, he wrote me an enormous missive that he had been "both awestruck and terrified by my real life presence" and just didn't know what to say.
Err... I guess I could have asked him to write me emails while he was here but I didn't think of it.
We stayed friends and are still communicating, though not as much... but my point is, smitten can lead to more, but until you've really explored something in real space and time, it is largely a fantasy. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 1/2/2008 12:05:23 PM | | Not smitten exactly, not smitten just from reading posts... Interested, yes. Interested enough to write to them to talk about their views in more depth and in the case of my special someone interest led to fascination, resonance, attraction and plenty of smitten-ness. Nowhere is really too far away. I travelled to Canada from the UK this time last year to meet him for the first time, after 4 months of emailing. He's now been living with me in Wales for 9 months and I feel extremely grateful that he wrote back to me and lucky to have found him. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:54:07 PM | I don't know if  smitten is quite the word for me either after reading everyones post. There are many frequent posters here who when I see them in threads will want to read their replies of humor or well written thoughts on a topic.
I have notices duel personalities though on profile write ups and then posts in the forums. | |
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