| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/12/2008 7:55:36 PM | I respectfully disagree with Msg #25. Do not lie.
I believe the OP handled the situation in the best way possible. Tact and Grace, open and honest. I didn't see any 'geekiness'. You can only control your actions, not the other person's reactions.
Since the other guy blocked YOU, I guess it saved you the trouble.
His reaction is nothing more than an adult temper tantrum. :frustrated:
Sometimes people here think because they contact you and share a few emails, that you OWE them more than they deserve.
I wish you better luck on your next cast!
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/12/2008 11:37:46 PM | Although I know you were looking for the male response, I just had to put in a word for the females after reading all of the posts. While it may seem like the classy or polite thing to do, responding to every e-mail one receives in a day is not always possible. Further, even when you do send a polite rejection e-mail, many men refuse to accept your response at face value and insist on continuing to e-mail you. Like you, I have received nasty e-mails berating me simply because I sent a polite, no thank you e-mail. My advice? Just don't bother to respond to an e-mail if you're not at all interested in the person sending it. In the long run, if a man feels that insecure and upset that a woman read an e-mail but didn't bother to respond, he probably has some personal issues you may not want to deal with anyway. Good luck in your search! | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 12:07:35 AM | To back-up 'teacher's point . .
Any more than One 'Thanks, but No Thanks' is grounds for *Block*age . . !!
*BAM!*
I'm disappointed with a lack of a response . . but if I suspect that I may Not get a response . . I will address that point in my Original letter . .
I'm Polite in my Admiration . . If the Lady just doesn't have the time [that I do]
I will understand . .
It's part of * The Curse of the Pretty Lady *
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 8:00:51 AM | | I personally prefer a polite reply saying thanks but no thanks than to hear nothing at all. I don't think being nice and having manner is a geeky thing, and believe me I know geeky. It seems to me that the person who you wrote too had some sort of log jammed up their rectum. I didn't think what they said was very nice. | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 9:29:09 AM | | I'd much rather be told they simply weren't interested. On the other hand, I usually message someone who shares a common interest simply because I want to chat....not necessarily because I'm interested. When I don't "hit on her" or anything and get no response or a nasty-gram....that bothers me a little. | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 9:59:28 AM | Different people will respond differently. To say that there is only one way to do anything is short sighted and most likely bound to not meet everyones needs or expectations. Do what feels right to you. | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 11:02:17 AM | | I'm surprised of all the guys that would want a response back. I don't care one way or the other myself if I get a response or not. I think it is polite for a response back, but if I don't recieve a response, I already know that they aren't interested and I can move on. | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 3:56:38 PM |
I'm surprised of all the guys that would want a response back. I don't care one way or the other myself if I get a response or not. I think it is polite for a response back, but if I don't recieve a response, I already know that they aren't interested and I can move on.
True... However, many people will leave a message in their mailbox even after reading them. If you get no response, you might think that they may be interested and they just have not had the time to respond. I always thought if a lady read the message and left it there, then she was interested. I would send another just to make sure. Usually they say no... but at least there was some communication going.
If someone read it and removed it from their mailbox, then I at least knew they had read it and were not interested and I wouldn't message them again. | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:53:28 PM | OP sounds like you crushed his fragile MALE ego...lol 
Don't worry OP...you gonna come thu a few wusses who can't take rejection and blame you...saying it's ur fault for rejecting them...lol
Our EGOES are so inflatible it's a joke......those who are sure of ourselves don't over inflate | |
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| Good Manners Geeky?
Posted: 1/13/2008 7:40:28 PM | | meh, message or not, how can you be hurt by people who you don't know and don't even exist except as an image on your computer screen? Although no one should have a problem with a polite no-thank you, after all the plenty of yadda yadda yadda. If you forget this re-check the web address. | |
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