| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 10:41:44 AM | This thread cracks me up. People who don't live in the inner city where cars are ridiculously expensive to keep have no clue and broadly apply their suburbia mentality to a different situation. Ex: to keep a car in the city I'd be paying roughly $1G a year in insurance on top of $3,600 just to freaking park the stupid thing. Then there's more expensive gas here as well, pushing $3.80 a gallon in some cases.
I was out with a buddy one time and as soon as I told this gal I didn't have a car her and her friend dismissed us. There was instantly a shield. The funny part is that $5k I save each year is what allows me to take trips to anywhere in the world I feel like going each year.
Car versus killer vacations. I think I'm the winner on that one. Especially being in a city where everything I need is within 10 blocks walking distance with ultra cheap public transit. It's stupid to pay that much to park a car. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:04:31 AM |
People who don't live in the inner city where cars are ridiculously expensive to keep have no clue and broadly apply their suburbia mentality to a different situation.
I think this goes without saying that your answer is going to depend on whether you really need one or not, and where you live. People are answering as it apples to them, and I wouldn't necessarily take it as a condemnation of your life style if they say they wouldn't date someone who has car, or be overly sensitive about their comments. What they are probably saying is: where I live, everyone has and/or needs a car, and not to have one is pretty unusual.
The other context I think you have to keep in mind is we are talking about as it relates to dating here. I think it's a generally accept principal that when you are actively looking to invite someone to your life, the overwhelming consensus is people appreciate it if you at least have the basics of your life in order. Mental stability, a job, a way to way to get around- in many areas, owing a car is one of the basics.
I would be lying if I said I wasn't a little resentful at times, that such a large amount of money has to go towards having even an average car-typically a $300 or so monthly payment, plus $100 a month for insurance-and I won't even get into gas or parking (if you're in an area where paying for parking is a must).
I once heard a friend of mine (who was originally from major urban area in another state) complain that people in this area (Detroit) will drive anything, no matter how beat up, unreliable, or dangerous it is. The fact of the matter is that many of them have too. The public transportation in the Metro Detroit area is non-existent. You really NEED a car here, that's just the way it is, as it is in many suburban areas of the US as well. They may not be able to afford a nice car, but they generally have to have something.
That being said, the other reason it doesn't look good NOT owning a mode of transportation in some regions . is that having a car just to get around in, doesn't have to be that expensive (at least in this area where there is no need to pay for parking). It may not be the vehicle of your dreams, but it just has to get you where you're going.
So you do the math: You're in your late 20s or mid 30s, you live in an area where you pretty much need a car, and you can't manage to come up with a $1000 to get a 8 or 10 year old used vehicle just to get around? If you don't have a really good reason beyond "I don't have the money" or "I just don't really care, I have my friends drive me around"-then no, you're not exactly painting a picture of financial stability and responsibility, and maybe dating shouldn't be your top priority right now.
That's just how it is in certain regions. If you live in an area where owning a car is not a must, and chose not to invest your money in that, more power to you. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:09:47 AM | if she is 19 and has no car, it's one thing but 45 and no car? because it broke down and she does not have the money to fix it. hmm, the fact she is broke is more of a concern than the fact she has no car.
I'd pass unless she lived in NYC where public transport, taxis and subway were reasonable options. borrowing a car is not cool. does your sister have you listed on her insuarnce? | |
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eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 54 | |
| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 12:18:39 PM | If your a woman with no car you can probably get away with it in the dating world, as men are more open to coming to get you.....
I guess my only question is if your male with no car...how do you ask a female on a date?...the only options is to meet them anywhere they want to go. You can probably get away with not telling them the first couple times and just meeting them..but eventually it comes to a point where someone has to pick someone else up...and that is gonna be YOU that is gonna get picked up.... | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 12:21:35 PM | | I told my fiancee' the first date that I didn't drive and she didn't have a problem with it. Cars are over rated. You can get by in society without one. If we weren't so individualistic as a society who wanted everything yesterday, we would realize that. | |
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JAM22
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Joined: 11/18/2007
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 5:49:38 PM | | A person shouldn't be judged by if they have or don't have a car. BUT...I did used to have a very good friend that didn't for years and she came to expect everyone to take her everywere she needed to go. That gets really old after awhile. I truly do hope though that you're not taking advantage of your sisters kindness. Keep in mind that she's having to pay for all of those repairs and the insurance that you are saving money on. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 6:00:14 PM | | so then what do you think about a FEMALE that just doesnt wnat to get a license,and make everyone her ****(her words not mine),would you date her or even meet her. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 6:01:24 PM | If she lives with the big city limits with big traffic and no parking . like Manhattan, San Fran, Boston, DC, sure no problem.
But outside the Downtown Metro area, it would be a problem and a big dating turnoff.
Unless of course I have fallen madly in love with her and then of course I will buy her one.  | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 8:41:32 PM |
But outside the Downtown Metro area, it would be a problem and a big dating turnoff.
Precisely. I don't see what's so complicated to understand about this concept, with people saying you shouldn't judge people for not having one. BS. You are judged by the cultural norm of the region. In Mexico, it's quite normal for generations of family members and extended family to live in the same house. It's no big deal to them. Yet I routinely see American and Canadian girls saying don't message me if you live in your parents basement. LOL. And house payment or apartment rent is a damn sight more than a cheap car. :laugh:
so then what do you think about a FEMALE that just doesnt wnat to get a license,and make everyone her ***
I'd think she was bum and tell her to stop leeching of her friends.
Interestingly enough, I knew a girl who said this too, and her standard complain that was in Ontario, it's much harder to get license than it is in the states, and she didn't feel it was worth the bother. So I found it kinda funny when I clicked on your profile and saw you were also from Ontario.
Is her name perhaps Andrea? lol | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/27/2007 9:42:22 PM | whats a car have to do with anything.
if i like the girl who cares.
i would help her get a car anyhow, though -
If i didn't feel anything with her then no way. | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
Msg: 62 | |
| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 12:32:09 AM | Makes no difference to me.
I know a lot of people who have gotten rid of their cars as they are unsound choices in life. Coming from Europe lots more people use public transport as it's a much better idea for the most part, and it's there. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 5:54:58 AM | I dont own a car simply cause i cannot afford to, all of my ex's (near enough) have had cars and i only ever asked for a lift once, which was to take my daughter to hospital.
if he has a car, good for him, its not a requirement - i manage fine to get around without one so i would never expect/ask to be taken anywhere unless it was a real emergency or if he offered | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:11:08 AM |
Unless of course I have fallen madly in love with her and then of course I will buy her one
hello luvsToScuba
let me introduce myself
JK of course | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:18:06 AM | | well if the relationship is local its fine,a long distance relationship of a few miles would make a difference,its ok going to work by bus would you rely on someone being on time and making all the effort to go and see them all the time,cause they cant be bothered to go to you | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:28:34 AM | It's a two-pronged conundrum.
In much of North America, a car is a daily necessity for the majority of people, there's really only a handful of major urban centers where you could - at least theoretically - get away with not having one and still be able to lead something approaching a 'normal' (by North American standards) life.
Has to do with distances, size of packaging of stuff, layout of cities, streets, and a host of other factors.
What may be an even more important factor is that so much of daily American (and canadian) life is focused on and centered around the automobile that if you do not have one, you will often automatically find yourself living on the fringes of society, even if you are not a 'fringe' type person.
You will simply not be able to participate in what everybody else takes for granted.
All this is, of course, much more critical for the guys, if you're a guy and you live in North America, you MUST own a car, otherwise you might as well become a eunuch.
Even if owning a car makes absolutely no sense in your situation and is basically just a huge waste of money.
You still need one, because the females will DEMAND it. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 10:19:38 AM | | No,your profile says you are 45 and can't afford a car,call your self a princess,and don't think anything is wrong with using other peoples cars,I just went out with a woman that was similar,showed up ay a date with a car that had been in a wreck and said she didn't have insurance and couldn't afford to fix it,at 18 that might be something you could overlook,but at 45 it is time to grow up. | |
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eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 68 | |
| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 10:24:20 AM | If your talking just in the dating world...a female can get away with it as guys are more willing to come and get you to take you out....
if your a man without a car, your at a disadvantage in the dating world...i know i know...a million guys are gonna respond how it has no affect on them at all....
this much is true...when I met a female i can ask her out, with no fear of saying..."i will meet you there, I cant pick up cause I have no car".... | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/28/2007 12:19:24 PM | | Of course i would date a woman with no car , you would have to be really shallow to rule out a potential love match just because she doesnt have a car. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/29/2007 8:40:32 AM |
No,your profile says you are 45 and can't afford a car,call your self a princess,and don't think anything is wrong with using other peoples cars,I just went out with a woman that was similar,showed up ay a date with a car that had been in a wreck and said she didn't have insurance and couldn't afford to fix it,at 18 that might be something you could overlook,but at 45 it is time to grow up.
first of all please get your facts straight! I said I couldnt afford the repair work 2 years ago, and since then i have not needed it since i use public transportation and share a car with my sis, which she gladly lets me as I help her in other areas. Right now I dont "need" a car with all the "extra" expence it brings, the pollution it causes and the threat of accidents ( I did have a major car accident and still am a little gun shy)
so with that said ....I am grown up and know what I need in my life, ty very much.
And if you knew anything about princesses, you would know we dont drive in cars, we ride in Horse Drawn Carriages  | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/29/2007 10:22:41 AM | To me it does'nt matter what the women owns or does'nt own or does or does'nt do.
I would date a women who did'nt own anything. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/29/2007 10:49:48 AM | | That is a great question I just went through a break up of three years and he took the car. I was wondering the same thing. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/29/2007 11:13:15 AM |
Would you date a woman with no car?
Only if she swallows.
If she had no car, and no 0ther means of transportation,
that means she'd be 100% reliant on me for her 24/7
transportation needs.
There is no public transportation system in the town I live.
Not even a taxi service. | |
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| Would you date a woman with no car?
Posted: 11/29/2007 4:27:15 PM |
All this is, of course, much more critical for the guys, if you're a guy and you live in North America, you MUST own a car, otherwise you might as well become a eunuch.
bullshit. i've been carless for over 5 years and i have no problems with dating at all. i made a deliberate choice not to own a car for a variety of reasons... a love of cycling, fitness and just plain pissed off with traffic, being the main ones. cost was not a factor. the health benefits alone have been worth it... i'm in better shape than a lot of guys 10-15 years younger than me. i eat, drink and sleep as much as i want without worrying about looking like a beachball. oh yeah, and don't forget buns of steel too.
why would i want a car? if i need a vehicle there are lots of options... renting, taxis, car co-ops and transit. i do not expect a date to play chaffeur. as a matter of fact, during summers, i've found that going for a ride on our bicycles appeals to a lot of women.
yes, some women have written me off because of the choice i've made about having a car. if they're so materialistic that they refuse to see past the lack of a vehicle, its their loss. | |
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