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Posted: 1/18/2008 3:17:32 AM | | I see some mean comments directed toward the OP. The lady is confident and there is nothing wrong with that. I think that may be why some people get overlooked. Alot of people shy away from confident people. That , my friends, is due to the LACK of confidence in themselves. Personally , I like strong minded women that stand up to me . Everyone is different so carry on. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 3:43:10 AM | Belle,
I want to encourage you and tell you I hope you don't give up looking for that person who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Give your heart some time to heal- and remember that you are a unique, lovely lady with a great sense of humor, and have alot to offer.  | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 2:59:30 PM | Well, I dunno, maybe someone needs to explain this to me.
I've heard this before...good looking people staying at home most nights...how is it possible when we live in a society that is so FIXATED on looks?
The OP sounds a bit..um..unbalanced...but I'm wondering how much truth there is to this 'beautiful people not catching a break in the dating scene' stuff.
Thoughts....?
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Posted: 1/19/2008 10:59:30 AM | Started to read this thread.........but gave it up, went to end of the thread so I could post....... LMAO. I lucked out too, nice lady at th eend of this thread.
@lunaiiiitz........if I lived in Baltimore Maryland.......you wouldn't be sitting at home much especially Saturday nights. I'd would have emailed you........but distance matter if you get my drift. I'm infaturated with your looks. LOL, take care. hob | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 2:30:03 PM | | @ kathareeene, she has proven she's more beautiful than you because she has a mastery of the english language, and acutally uses words, not "street slang" like whateva, aint, enuff....Jesus christ!! I'm 18, and even Idont talk like that | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:25:40 PM | Ok this isnt directed at anyone its just my experience/opinion.... observation in life.
Theres a big difference between beauty and vanity... vanity can make a beautiful person...very unattractive...imo.,,,its an" aura" about them that says im more beautiful i expect i should b treated this way etc, like an ugly inpentrable wall ... and can seem like theyre looking down on others..EVEN A TRULY BEAUTIFUL PERSON CAN APPEAR UNAPPEALING IF FILLED WITH VANITY. in australia (vanity ) is refferred to as stuck up. were usally quick to spot it too.
everyone has qualities .or preferences they attracted too in others. ie blondes. or dark looks etc..etc. And if you look really really closely into peoples minds/hearts /souls.... they either become better looking over time or less attractive..ie theyre flaws come out..
When my son was young, we would watch tv, he would say" mum do u think shes pretty?" of a athetically attractive girl.. I would say ohh wait ill look into your eyes and tell you.. I taught him to see woman/people for whats inside them. get to know them.
All con artists work off vanity/greed ego charm etc.. If they cannot appeal to these areas your usually safe...usually. They smell desperate ,they smell lonely they use charm on an ego/ for whatever excuse a person uses in why theyve become that way..
IF you get to know anybody who has a nice soul or interesting mind..you will always see beauty in them regardless of features..
I dont think Al pacino or dustin hoffman are great lookers , but Id prefer to spend time with them than brad pitt for eg.(nothing against brad, but he just dosent spark my soul,, and angelina. very attractive but the interveiws ive seen she seems quite control/freak and abit nutz?) because i find their characters beautiful. ie dustins crooked smile al pacinos eyes/acting abilities/character.
Its easy to make excuses re blaming 1 aspect of a persons attributes, ,,,if your truly unable to get dates, why not take pics off and just write from the heart... attitude etc the inner you, that cries out for companionship/love. that way your only getting judged? upon who you truly are. not what you look like..
i go to chat/music site,,no pics up of me,, I get to have fun joke etc. its great. guys hit on woman with pics up.. but joke with me(im 1 of da boys)..recently a guy comes in, reads my profile pursuses me nonstop,... he had no idea what I look like but felt drawn to my soul..9from my profile_) HE himself could articulate the same desires... and as we get to know each other.. and see each other maybe the attraction will grow more and more..regardless.... our friendship is not based on looks... I look for a persons abilty to give their/heart/soul..
If its not working/getting you what you truly desire in life,, then changes need to occur. oR a person can hide behind walls.
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:46:42 AM | ^^^^Uh huh. Actually it was "overlooked", but that's OK, shug. Why don't you just go to the mall, do some shopping & tanning and see who looks you over before the hockey game, princess?
Good god, my daughter is far prettier than you, would never use the word "princess" to describe herself, and has , oh I would guess, 25 interests that would come before shopping and tanning.
Maybe vacuous people get overlooked? Look it up, it will give you a break from being you. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 4:55:22 PM | | do u not have a life 2 be putting down young girls on here? guess not.. and i was saying that WOMEN is pretty.. not me.. dont look at my pix if udont like the way i look.. im not looking for sum old women... thanks! oh and FYI my name means PRINCESS. look it up! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 5:03:24 PM | | trust me u dont know anything by the way, maybe u would know wut pretty means if u got all ur coles taken off ur face cuz ur pretty disgusting and so fat its not even funny. get a life and god will punish u 4 hating on HOT people cuz ur jealous, no wonder ur single. and ya i **** alot of hockey players, which more of a life then u have, fat ass! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 5:06:33 PM | | I have turned down dates with pretty women who hadnasty attitudes. i also have not iven some pretty people a chance cause ielt like I was out of their league. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 7:16:06 PM | See one should not stress attractiveness....
Truly though come on people when you are out with your friends at a bar or in a restaurant how many times when you see a couple walk in and one appears ALOT nicer looking then the other that you say.... what do they see in them????? it's just not talked about here in the forum really amongt strangers....
I sort of wonder if she felt secure dating a man that she assesses not as nice looking as she believes herself to be thinking ahhh he won't leave me.... only to find out he has had a gf all along and she didn't measure up???? Or how many when you first breakup and see your competition believe them to be "less then" you???? for crimeny sakes you're hurting and it's one of the ways you lash out at first... no one likes the other woman/man... you look for ways to degrade them in order to restore your own suffering self esteem.... I think it's human nature.... | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:58:23 PM | Hey Bella, you're taking a lot of flack on this thread, but I agree with what you're saying. The other great side effect of being good looking is that if you're not currently attached people act shocked and then wonder what terrible flaw you must have that accounts for you being single. It's like assumed that good looking people don't also need time to focus on their careers or get centered after a relationship ends, etc...
I totally understand your shock over your guy cheating on you, but as a fellow pretty person I'll tell you that when you date a guy who you think is just on par with you or slightly below you on the attractiveness/popularity chart you will often encounter more difficulties with faithfulness. The reasons for this include:
1) because he's being seen with you, suddenly women who wouldn't give him the time of day before you are taking a second look to see what's got you hooked - often the guys can't handle this new experience of popularity and it goes to their heads and they stray
2) your attitude is not as grateful of their attention as they would like - you expect to be loved and cared for so you don't pander to his ego the way a more insecure women would - hence they leave you for the less appealing woman
3) they don't feel they deserve you, so in the back of their mind they believe the relationship won't last and so they'll grab an opportunity to be with someone who they believe will be more devoted/grateful to be with them
So the rule is you must stick to your own level. ie. the guy might be less good looking than you, but he'd better have some career success or special skill which gives him confidence or else he's not going to be able to stick it out with you for the above reasons.
In other words, it's not about looks, it's about having a similar level of self confidence which looks may or may not be a key factor in depending on the person.
Bella: your ex was clearly not a very self confident person as is evidenced by his relationship with the other woman who allowed him to treat her like crap. A person with confidence would not find a doormat appealing in the slightest. I'm sure he enjoyed the ego boost of being with you for a time, but he probably felt that eventually either some other guy would take you from him or you'd decide that you could do better, so he gets his thrills and then goes back to old faithful who he's sure isn't ever going to leave him.
OK, people flame away, because you don't like the truth of human nature
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Posted: 1/21/2008 3:13:49 PM | Wow Belle, thats quite a story you just shared....and my sympathies, but never lose hope. Dont let someone "steal your joy".
I am a married mid aged man, and a pretty one at that, and my wife is a younger pretty one too, we both get lots of looks, i catch men looking at her, and she catches women looking at me. But it aint that pretty. We have only been married for a little over a year and she has cheated on me. Another pitfall of being the pretty ones, you are continually tested in the fidelity area, well at least a great looking woman is. Mine failed. And so here we are, the two pretty ones with a life to try and rebuild, or not. And everyone from afar looks and says, wow, what a pretty couple, they have it all.
There are lots of pretty people out there that are of substance as well, but as you say they get overlooked because we all assume they must have someone. Sometimes though as you have said we dont, or worse yet, we have the wrong someone. Despite what many of the ugly betties might think, it isnt any easier being a pretty one, perhaps its harder.
Remember though, expect good things today, and dont allow anyone to steal you joy.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 3:23:35 PM | ^^^^^ sorry to hear your wife cheated ^^^^^
Been there myself with a cheating pretty boy - that's why now integrity is at the top of my wants list - without integrity it's to hard to resist all of the temptation, plus there is the competition factor where people want to compete with you by going after your SO.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 5:30:42 PM | Wow, there is a lot of b!tchiness going on in this thread!
Pretty people probably get overlooked because people think they're either already taken, or have a bad attitude or personality (as some have already shown on this thread).
I don't know if i consider myself "pretty" or not...but im sure everyone gets overlooked by other people no matter what your appearance is like.
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Posted: 1/22/2008 5:25:09 AM | | well to tell the truth,i am one of those so call guys,that is going bald , short and a little heavy ,some come me stocky,to be nice,but i am not scared to talk to a pretty girl cause i know what they may think ,but if they give you just i little chance to know you they over look what you look like,and see that i am real and not someone trying to con them ,if they dont seem to be interesting ,i move on to the next one ,all they can say is no,its not the end of the world,i like to talk all kinds of girls,i like to lisen to what they got to say,really!!! | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:18:46 AM | DID YOU EVER THINK THAT JUST MAYBE, YOUR TOO HIGH MAINTENANCE AND MEN NEED A LOT OF CASH TO TAKE YOU OUT AS YOU ONLY WANT TO BE SEEN IN THE BEST PLACES!!! YEAH GET REAL WITH YOURSELF, HOW MANY SHY MEN APPROACH YOU EVERY WEEK AND YOU IGNORE THEIR EFFORTS???
IF YOU WERE AS SWEET AS YOU LOOK YOU WOULD HAVE MORE THAN ONE MAN AFTER YOU ON SATURDAY NIGHT. ONLY YOU KNOW THE REAL TRUTH AS I CAN ONLY CONCLUDE, YOUR NOT AS SOCIAL WITH THE AVERAGE MAN....RIGHT??? | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:22:16 AM | | NO IDEA WHY YOU WANT TO GIVE YOUR OPINION HERE SINCE YOUR A CLASSIC BARBIE DOLL. ANY MAN WITH LOOKS AND MONEY AND YOU WOULD JKUMP UP AND DOWN FOR HIM, POSER | |
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