| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 8/29/2008 7:48:25 PM | No. I'm not afraid of love.
I had a great love once.
The first time, I lost my love to a fear of marriage.
And then I lost that same love...forever...to a rare illness.
When love finds me again, I'll know what to do. "Hang on to your love."
Be brave, fellow fish. Some of the best times lay ahead.
afishcalledjack
Musiq (Soulchild) sings to/about "Love":
> Verse 1:
> Love
> So many things Ive got to tell you
> But Im afraid I dont know how
> Cause theres a possibility
> Youll look at me differently
> Love
> Ever since the first moment I spoke your name
> From then on I knew that by you being in my life
> Things were destined to change cause
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> Hook:
> Love
> So many people use your name in vain
> Love
> Those have faith in you sometimes go astray
> Love
> Through all the ups and downs the joy and hurt
> Love
> For better or worse I still will choose you first
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> Verse 2:
> Many days Ive longed for you
> Wanting you
> Hoping for the chance to get to know you
> Longing for your kiss
> For your touch, your feel, your essence
> Many nights Ive cried from the things you do
> Felt like I could die from the thought of losing you
> I know that youre real
> With no doubts and no fears
> And no questions
>
> (hook)
>
> Verse 3:
> At first you didnt mean that much to me
> But now I know that youre all I need
> The world looks so brand new to me
> Now that I found love
> Everyday I live for you
> And everything that I do
> I do it for you
> What I say is how I feel so believe its true
> You got to know Im true
>
> (hook x 2) | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 8/30/2008 9:44:55 PM | | i dont think people should be afraid of falling in love.but they should be afraid of falling in love with the wrong person.falling in love can be a bad thing if u fall for someone who turns out to be bad for ya. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 8/30/2008 9:50:29 PM | Afraid of love?
Not at all, one the contrary i look for it and promote it.
I tell you what im afraid off, spending a whole life not being loved.... truly loved. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:45:53 PM | | Trust me real12 you don't want that responsibility for someone's feelings. So you are right to make sure that the girl you want to be with isn't going to try to hold you hostage with her feelings. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:48:38 PM | | I'm not afraid afraid of love, just afraid of failure getting there...... | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:59:43 AM | Hi
So many have an opinion what love is all about.
Some might even think that sex is love?
When a person has been hurt because of an unhealthy realtionship.
Do they completely heal the emotional scar or do people bury their feelings?
For me love is tied up with spiritual values of trust caring consideration and respect.
How can we love or like some one else if we do not like or love our self?
Fear can stop us being our self?
Giving of your self is very important.
Unresolved unhealed emotional scars will adversely hold a person back
Loyalty trust fear and honesty are very much linked together.
Relationships are based on honesty.
What relationship do I have with my self?
Child hood issues and programming often cause us to live in fear.
Anger comes from 3 emotions pain fear or frsutrations.
Do people understand the serenity prayer or acccept it in their life?
The only person I can change is me and no one else.
In healthy relationships people encourage each other and build each other up.
People who critisise and redicule show that they are inadequate insecure people.
In relationships in the past was I a person pleaser with hidden motives?
Love and peace to every one Dave of Beckenham | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 8:19:26 AM | | hey I thought i was in LOVE ... and it scared the crap out of me... turned out to be wind. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:01:15 AM | Why give up? Take what you've learned and find the courage to pass it on to that "special someone." Sure, you could settle for tv and the comfort of not dealing with the issues of another, but I'd rather come home to inconveniences than be alone, revelling in my "empty" life...everybody is different-some prefer to "give up."  | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:41:53 AM | | I'm not afraid of love, I am more afraid of not finding love. I want to see the happiness in a mans eyes and feel the contentment of being together, knowing that the man with me is just as much in love with me as I am with him. I know what true love is and hopefully I will have that opportunity again. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:02:11 AM | | there is a funny saying about falling off a cliff, the fall won't hurt you, it's the landing that does you in. I like to be in love, I embrace it. It's the break-up that's the killer. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 3:15:15 PM | Thought I was in love too...turned out to be tainted mayo on the sandwich HE made for me!!! Hmmmmmm......He musta been so bummed when it didn't make me sick enough to be bedridden a couple of days....... He could'a just said....'See Ya, got a better thang goin on now'.........roll:  | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 3:27:23 PM | | Not afraid of it at all. Have been in love quite a few times and married for 19 years to one of them. Accept the love--reject the fear. Fear is based on the future, it isn't here yet. Pain is based on the Past--it is gone. Learn to live in the Now. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 3:39:26 PM | | If you want to know the meaning of LOVE start loving yourself. Were you afraid that there is a tremendous obligation to meet by loving yourself? Having a job,nice house and car, education to improve your line of work ? The underline issue is>>>>> You are afraid if you don't know<<<. If you don't know how to love yourself,then you don't know how to love others. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/27/2009 3:16:37 AM | OP maybe, just maybe you "fear" loving someone on such a deep level because the moment you allow yourself that depth of emotion you feel like the person is going to walk out on you and rip your heart out.
Heartless as it may seem, if you don't allow yourself to fall in love, you can't get hurt as bad and it is easier to move on.
It's a risk that most people take. Me, personally I would rather bungie jump off the Golden Gate Bridge ( and I am not doing that either) my heart would go through the same motions as falling in love but when it's over I would feel more alive instead of the alternative. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/27/2009 3:30:20 AM | | I would say check out the advice in my threads because we talk about ways to build a love that will last so you do not have to go into a relationship and fear love..The fear is natural but love is a horse you fall and always mount again for life if you have it in you...I do....Be a man and face love head on and you will be happier and stronger for doing so. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/27/2009 6:28:43 AM | | I`agree with what post 110 said.... its the pain i fear so i avoid the thrill as much as I can... wish I could be more fearless! | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/27/2009 9:14:40 PM | No one is afraid of love even you who asked this question. What other people fears is the flip side of love and that is Responsibility and commitment.. No one can love without responsibility and commitment.
If we are looking for love on others for our fulfilment,we can not find it ,what we'll find is frustration, anger, and heartache.
Because love is within us ,it is not without. " It is in giving that we recieve ", so if we give real love or fake love that is what we'll recieve.
In other words we have to love our self with unconditional (real) love before we can love others. It's that simple..........
ps I did not know I already posted an answer msg. 113 | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/28/2009 7:44:31 AM | Vannilli,
I imho have to dissagree ....I have been single a very long time, and I dont 'fall' easily however, when i have, Ive given love but not unconditionally - meaning that I will not accept bad behaviour or abuse ( I have done so with some for a while, until enough is enough) You normally know the real person after several months of dating ( or more so, living with them... and I dont!)
My choice of people have mostly been what anyone else in the outside looking in would describe as professional/healthy/good person/intelligent/well balanced THEN guess what? they turn out to be socially unexceptable (to me) due to drinking/porn/verbal abuse/ emotionally unavailabe/ etc.,
I have "given' wayyy more than Ive ever received. In most of the forums that Ive read, it appears that most women have also given more that they have recieved in Love,
I am afraid to let go because when i do it appears that they change in the most horrible way. I am afraid of Love! | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/28/2009 7:56:53 AM | Everyone's notion of "love" is different. If love is a nurturing thing that helps me reach my true potential as a beautiful human being, yes, I'm looking for love. If love is a hindering, smothering thing that is somehow holding me back, no, I'm not looking for love. And it needs to be the same thing for her. It really depends on the person, whether we find each other physically attractive, whether our personalities gel (the right balance of softness and aggressiveness) and so many other subtleties and variables that are so complex that one simply needs to forge ahead with some idea of how they want to feel and then project that into the other and hope they reciprocate similar feelings.
I do know that I want to feel the heat of passion. Passion inspires and infuses every other aspect of my life. Without it, I feel empty. Mix that "fire in the belly" feeling with some humor and visual stimulation, and we've got a keeper. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/28/2009 10:46:12 AM | [ forumsgee : I have to dissagree....I have been single a long time,and I dont 'fall easily however ,when I have I've given love but not uncondionally-meaning that I will not accept bad behaviour or abuse ( I have done so with some for a while until enough is enough) You normally know the real person after several months of dating ( or moreso ,living with them.. and I don't!)
Mychoice of people have mostly been what anyone else in the outsice looking in would describe as professional/healthy/good person/intelligent/well balance THEN guess what? they turn out to be socially unexceptable (to me) due to drinking/porn/verbal abuse/emotional unavailable/etc,,. I have given awayy more than I've ever recieved. In most of the that I 've read ,it appears taht most women also givenmore that they have recieved in love, I am afraid to let go because when I do it appears that they change in the most horrible way. * I am afraid of Love...]
Have not meet you but I know that you're a Special and a Beautiful person that you should enjoy the happiness of LOVE.
There is no such thing as real person ( the only real is our feelings at the moment, good or bad) the reality in a person is not time lock, we change all the time in our ways thru connecting with others like the earth is evolving changing seasons like summer,spring,fall, winter, earthquake, epidemics, istorms,etc. war and peace... The only eternal is LOVE within each of us.
Drinking/porn/verbal abuse/ etc.. is an acquired dyfunctional habit, not the person, you bet s/he has love in her/him other wise we did not fall for him/her.
We give permissions on how we are treated by others unconciously, we have the power to stop the person to treat us that will hurt us ,if it needs for us do (metaphor) boxing,karate , etc with him /her . We
should know not to give the power to anyone to break our spirit .... And learn that a weak person don't survive in this jungle of life...... Here is a story: Two guys walk in a bad neighborhood , one got mugged and beaten badly the other is unscathed the two difference between them one is weak in fear that some one will
mug and beat him ,the other walk coccky with self confidence. Please feel free to email me to further this.
Vannili | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 4/28/2009 11:14:34 AM | | You just haven't beek in love yet! When you are you will want to marry and have no reservations about it. | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 9/8/2009 9:51:47 AM | Hi
First of all do we know we love our self first of all?
Am I able to fulfill my own needs adn only then I can help another person fulfill tehir needs.
Marriage for me is about being able to love.
Do I love myself rist of all?
Marriage for me is also about commitment.
Am I commited to fulfulling my own needs frist fo all?
Marriage for me is also about reponsability, am I a responsable to myself frist of all, am I accountable and responsable.
Marriage for me is also about sahring and being able to trust and being able to give and share.
If there is any child hood issues of pain and fears not faced they are best faced before amrriage.
Were all my needs fulfiled as a child?
Was I loved wanted nurtured and protected and did I learn those spiritual values?
Then if so I can say I am ready to get married.
Sadly did not know those facts when I married over 38 years ago? LOL.
It is only now in the later years I have my wants and needs.
Love
Dave | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 9/8/2009 10:06:04 AM | That is the wrong question... No one is afraid of love.. I love my kids.. and my kids love me.. nothing scary.. nothing to be feared and most people would agree..
The real question is are you afraid to let yourself love someone where their intentions/feelings are unclear to you...
Biggest question a person asks is does he/she really love me?
I personally am not afraid.. I look forward to giving my heart to the right woman..
Hope it is soon..lol | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 9/8/2009 10:08:45 AM | | Sounds like the man doesn't know what love is. He is into the quantity not the quality of the person. Sex is not love, it is part of love but there is more to love than sleeping with every person. With most people having sex it is a release and wanting to be with the opposite sex for the closeness. If it was love you would spend more time with each other have special feelings for the other person. When was the last time someone from the opposite sex said, "I Love You"? I hope they don't say "I Love You" while in bed together it makes me wonder what they are loving? | |
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| Are you afraid of love?
Posted: 9/8/2009 11:45:15 AM | | Thanks for the post it helps me understand the man i've been seeing for 14 months. It's him not me, i get it now!!!!!! | |
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