| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/7/2007 3:24:40 PM | | girlfriends are overrated, I wouldn't loose too much sleep if I was single for the rest of my life dude. F**k many, Love None :) | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/7/2007 7:51:08 PM | No its not wierd. Sounds like you are making yourself feel wierd. That is the problem in the first place. Maybe you should see someone you can really open up to and talk to. You are in for a very unhappy life if what you say is true. Make an effort to overcome this problem. But, don't make yourself feel wierd. Maybe that is why you cut people off....because you feel wierd. You should be happy you are different.
As a matter of fact...I work with someone who everyone considers wierd. I got to know him and I don't consider him wierd anymore. He is a character....he reminds me of the scarecrow in the Wizzard of Oz. When I have to go on out of town trips with him I look at it as kind of a Journey. Sometimes he is so annoying and I wish he'd get fired. Then I think would Dorthey get the scarecrow fired.... Oh well, maybe Im wierd. But, it passes the day. Otherwise he would drive me nuts.
So, the bottom line is...who cares if you are wierd...but, if you are unhappy seek help | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:03:56 PM | it's ok . some epople are late bloomers. don't pet the sweaty stuff. i mean don't sweat the petty stuff. love always finds a way. as long as you keep on fishing you will be bound to reel in something real... | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:17:29 PM | fyritup:
QOUTE: "Don't pet the sweaty stuff. I mean don't sweat the petty stuff" UNQOUTE
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:45:23 PM | Everybody is different and develops differently in life, be patient and enjoy life. Just be yourself and a girl will like you for who you are. I thought I was weird when I was young becasue I did not have my first car date until I was 17 years old, some of it was due to the fact that my parents were very strict Catholics !!!!!!!!!! I had boyfriends in junior high and
high school but I met them at dances, video arcades,etc.
There is no official age to start dating ! Give it time, and try to date many different types of women ! You sound like a sweet guy! | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/8/2007 5:16:11 PM |
21 and never had a girlfriend.
At 21 i was running my own business and travelling the country. the last thing on my mind was a long term relationship.
When your mind is occupied, you don't think about it.... when you don't think about... it comes along... but it comes on it's own scheduele.. not yours. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/8/2007 6:07:56 PM | | I'll be 33 next month and I've never had a girlfriend. I seem to be the guy who gets stuck in the "friend zone." There have been stretches of time during which I just wasn't dating because I didn't have time, such as when I was in grad school, but overall it's really hard not to think there's something dreadfully wrong with you if you've never gotten past a second date at age 33. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/8/2007 6:08:49 PM |
Gosh it totally screwed with my thinking though. I was bitter whenever I saw people holding hands or hugging in public.
Oh, man, do I know how that feels! | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/9/2007 12:33:55 AM | Friend
Youve had hundreds of girlfriends. You just call it socialisng. You've never had a SERIOUS girlfriend.
So what? Check the broken hearts section. If you are beng finicky about serious relatinships I don't blame you. Risky business if it's the wrong person. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/9/2007 12:57:28 AM | Here is a thought in theory!
If you really love someone, then WHY, does "MONEY", ALWAYS seem to come into play.
If I remember correctly, and this is advancing it ever further, those old marriage vows htat go like this.
Do you take this woman or man to be your lawfully wedded wife or husband, to hold and cherish, to love through sickness or heath, for richer or poorer until death do you part.
Lke HEY, where the H E L L did that go.
Did it just diminish overnight.
Because, it sure the heck seems like it did.
It is far, FAR too easy today, to divorce these days.
And NOW, look at the mess that we are in. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/9/2007 11:21:50 AM |
Its pretty common for a man to be single and never had a girlfriend in his entire life. Its almost unheard of for a woman to be 21 years old and never have a boyfriend in her entire life.
hmmm. I don't know about the first one, sounds too exaggerated. Men will seek a date even if they can't get one (you know what kinds of dates I am talking about....)
With women is a lot different. From very early on, they get hit by every guy on the planet. Since they get to choose who they date, it is harder for them not to experience sex and love early on. Yet, there are some women that never have anything.
Kind of rare situations, but it is possible. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/9/2007 11:35:51 AM | | I did not start dating until I was 27 years old. I have been making up for lost time ever since. I guess I was meeting the wrong type of females when I was younger. I have met a few over the last 2 or 3 years who were gold diggers so sometimes you are better off not dating then dating those type. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/12/2007 2:33:51 PM | 19 and never had a boyfriend. Just drunkern mistakes.
But still the loner the wait, the better the... fish?
Sorry, it caught my eye.  | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/12/2007 4:02:24 PM | | Nothing weird about that at all. I didn't even go on my first date until I was 20, and didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 27. It takes time to get used to the dating/more than friends thing. I came out of my shell by going out dancing with my girlfriends--I was forced to talk to guys in those situations. Don't be in a hurry. You could just be a "late bloomer" like some of us. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/12/2007 8:24:17 PM | Relax, mate. I didn't really date until I was 23 believe it or not, and I had no clue how to talk to women. Later, I learned how to flirt, hit on women, charm them etc.... You can act like you have experience. You are not going for a job interview. Don't make yourself out feeling inadequate. Seriously, it's not a big deal in my opinion. I could have started earlier, but I was more focused on other things in my life....
Do not focus on being weird in relation to the rest of the population. You have to live with being yourself not with being all of England, right? So let's address your cutting off when a girl gets interested, shall we?
You are afraid, my friend, of commitment. There's nothing wrong with admitting it. Being aware of it won't solve the problem. You look for reasons to escape from the women and try to justify it by thinking of how the women have this and that flaw, am I right? That is my guess. It is normal to have some fear of commitment. It's healthy in fact, the path to serenity is paved with some fear as the Tibetan Bon practitioners would say.... Give a decent a girl a chance, and give yourself a chance to love and even maybe get hurt. Many of us are to some extent afraid of other people, because we can get hurt, but that's life, so accept that reality and when you feel like cutting off, thinking of being brave, charming, warm. Take your time, and if a woman is a decent enough fit, go with it.
I hope this helps...... | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:19:18 AM | I'll be honest, I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 22, although I did happen to lose my virginity at 19, but she was just someone who wanted me for a fling, and I foolishly took the bait, but that's not the point 
And, I'll be perfectly honest again, my first girlfriend was probably my ONLY girlfriend, because she was the only woman I have ever shared a house with for any significant amount of time. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:22:44 AM | I was going to post a new topic,but did a search for"never had a girlfriend"and here i am.
I am 38 and have never had a girlfriend.There has only been crushes and infatuations.But that was a long long time a go.
To be honest,the only woman that I really had feelings for,decided to stay with her boyfriend,and he abused her.That was a hard lesson to learn..... | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:41:24 AM | I doubt its asperber's syndrome.
You cant go diagnosing things like that without a full background of the guy. Please refrain from doing so in the future. As a counselor, i have learned that even a mention of a diagnosis allows people to get stuck in the idea that they have it. Even if later test prove that they don't.
There may be nothing medically wrong with him, he just hasn't found someone that will make him feel comfortable yet. Everyone is different. I didn't have my first BF until i was older. Continue doing you, and the rest will come in time.
Good luck! | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/14/2009 12:06:46 PM | | If a guy is 18 or older and has never had a girlfriend before, still a virgin, it will hurt him a lot more than a girl who is 18 or older and has never had a boyfriend, still a virgin. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/15/2009 3:59:46 AM | 21 and never had a girlfriend.
You say this as though 21 is ancient! Kid, I was 26 before I finally worked up the nerve to kiss a girl. It's no big deal. Unfortunately, we weren't intellectually compatible. I was rather bookish and she (at 24) was into partying with about a 4th grade mentality.
Main thing is intellectual and emotional affinity. You've got to develop and maintain the right "tone" together and enjoy the sound of each other's voices and have some things to talk about.
When it comes to sex and intimate physical love, you've got to be bold and accept that you're going to make mistakes, as will she. It won't be perfect, so, if you're expecting perfection, prepare for disappointment.
Relax...at 21 I was chicken-sh-t too. At 21, you simply haven't been out of high school and experienced life enough to acquire any depth. Real depth comes by age 30, after you've graduated college (if you're going to college), been working for awhile, lived in your own place, paid bills and become aware of politics and world affairs and how you fit into the world. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/15/2009 9:11:43 AM | Am I missing something here? You said it yourself, "when it comes to the line where friendship crosses into something more, I have a tendency to cut off etc"....well, you haven't had a girlfriend simply because you haven't wanted one. Pretty darn simple. Don't complicate it.
Hell, I'm in my 40s and STILL withdraw from anything meaningful. I'm a Lone Wolf and it's just taken me this long to figure it out. But I'm happiest this way. Some people are meant to be alone or not in a serious relationship and they embrace that as I do. You may or may not be this person who is meant to stay single, but you're only 21! At 21, I didn't know crap and looking back, GLAD I didn't get have a 'boyfriend' at such an age where I should be enjoying my freedom...no ties, no complications. Enjoy it while you can. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:09:37 AM | | Still, inexperienced men have it worse than inexperienced women because men are expected to be more assertive and take charge, do the pursuing, and they have to do it the right way, there more ways you can go wrong than ways you can go right. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:34:30 AM |
Still, inexperienced men have it worse than inexperienced women because men are expected to be more assertive and take charge, do the pursuing, and they have to do it the right way, there more ways you can go wrong than ways you can go right.
Amen to that. God, I hate gender roles. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/16/2009 2:31:41 PM | | Yup, I seriously hate that, and I just ****in' hate how people say those sexist insults and phrases to guys such as "Grow a Pair", "Be a Man", etc. Because they are making approaching a girl and starting a conversation and asking her out, overall, taking the initiative, they are making it look easier than it actually is, because I what I mean is that it is not as easy as people make it out to be, it is always easier said than done. Sure, walking up to a woman and approaching her is not that hard, it's just knowing what to say and when to say it is the hardest part. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/17/2009 11:22:20 AM | Ive never had a girlfriend because all they say im ugly and tell me to go **** a sack or curl up in a corner and die or something. Im really tired of this and its tearing me apart. what, am i not worthy for this earth, im really considering suicide.  | |
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