| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:25:34 PM | | You and me both pal, I have been considering suicide for a while now, I always get rejected by the girls that I want to have. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/18/2009 10:10:19 AM | This is nothing bad.
My homegirl whose 22 now NEVER had a bf because she rejects guys/girls all the time. Not because they were ugly...but because she needed to get her priorities straight. BUT when she was ready to start a relationship, the guy that asked her out was ****ing her friend for a while. So.................
You just need to take your time and find someone you feel connected with.
Be patient and try to break down your walls. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/18/2009 7:50:08 PM | That's got to really suck to get to age 20 and beyond and not have even one girlfriend or boyfriend.
Not worth killing yourself over but I can understand why someone might think about it. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/18/2009 7:59:05 PM | | I’m 31 and never had a gf. Although I’ve had flings and have had my heart broken by a girl I was sleeping with, she didn’t want me for a relationship but she found someone else. I never thought about killing myself though. There are people with much MUCH bigger problems that are getting on with their lives. You dudes that are 21 have no excuse to be depressed, thats still a very young age and you literally have like 20 more years to find someone so don’t sweat it. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/18/2009 9:12:35 PM | | Yeah it is the worst feeling in the world, and give me a good reason, or reasons, as to why I should not kill myself just because I'm 21 and still a virgin and never had a girlfriend? | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/19/2009 12:15:38 AM | Ok dude. Check this out.....being 21 and still a virgin is VERY COMMON!!! You are not a special snow flake or a victim. Unless you have a major health crisis or someone in your family has a major health crisis, or you don’t have food in your belly or a roof over your head, you DON’T have a problem!!. The fact you feel very depressed about this virgin/no gf thing is just an indicator that you have a good life. If you had something truly tragic happen, trust me you wouldn’t be thinking about girls at all.
Look dude, I know it sucks. I was a virgin till 27 and when I finally lost it, it wasn’t that great of an event. It was actually kinda disappointing. It didn’t live up to the hype. When I was 21, I never as so much kissed a girl and I wasn’t that worried or mad or depressed, you wanna know why? Because I was 21!!! I didn’t give a shit at all about any of that at the time. Just live your life and do the things you enjoy. There are also many resources out there on the net that help guys that struggle in this area. I took advantage of these things to turn myself around and finally get some success with women. I still haven’t had a serious gf and I’m 31. Its not a big deal either. Theres millions of people that are lonely. People get divorced, hook up, break up, break hearts, **** each other over...its all the same shit, its just....life. You think that having a gf is gonna make you happy? it might for a while, but relationships bring other shit into your life and its not always fun and games. I know this from having many friends that have been in and out of relationships. Its hard work, it can be stressful. Some people in relationships have fantasies about being single. Its human nature to want what we don’t have.
Another thing I found is that if you carry this negative energy around, this anguish and bitterness. This will not attract women into your life. It will repel them. Trying too hard or looking too much for love is not a good way to attract women into your life either.
Killing yourself is a not the answer and neither is seeking the validation that sex or a gf will give you. I think that classic line of ’You complete me’’ is a load of BS. We are looking for someone to make us ’whole’? to make us ’happy’?. We expect some other person to fulfill us, to make us complete. Why can’t we be whole as we are?. Why do we seek ourselves and our value as a people is what someone else thinks of us?
Theres nothing wrong with you dude, you were born just fine. Don’t base your identity around being a virgin. Its an arbitrary thing. Most people don’t really care if you’re a virgin anyways, I’m sure they have their own shit to worry about. Just remember dude, this isn’t a big deal, its peanuts. I know a couple of virgins in their 30’s and they seem pretty happy, they don’t sweat it too much. It will happen when it happens.
Also remember that the world is an amazing place, theres so much cool shit to see and do. Travel, have fun with your friends, create adventures, try different sports and hobbies, watch some cool movies and remember to try and have fun. Life is short, no need to make it shorter by ending it. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 9/19/2009 3:01:35 AM | | Yeah but almost everyone has their very first boyfriend/girlfriend before age 21 and loses their virginity before that time, I hate being a late bloomer, I hate playing catch up. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/3/2009 6:03:30 AM | Just stop being a ****! seriously dude, if this is what your biggest problem is, thank your lucky stars!
How about this....Is there like a bunch of night clubs in your town? Id there is, go there on a busy night and just introduce yourself to any and every girl you find attractive. It will be the most liberating thing you’ve ever done,
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:31:51 AM | | Well I'm not looking for a hook-up or a one-night stand, I want a loving, relationwhip that can last more than 6 months, but lack of experience hurts guys more than girls since us guys are almost all the time expected to take the initiative and do the pursuing. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:03:24 PM | | Well a lot of us had been wanting to date for a very long time already, it's just that we don't know how to get a date, like we fail whenever we take the initiative, the reason why I have been single this long is not by choice, it's just that I don't know how!!!!!! | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:09:05 PM | 2dru
Its ok if you never had a gf. At least you are trying man.
I know how it is too be lonely. I havent been into a relationship for two years now. It sucks but hey I did date a couple of girls in between so what I leanred about dating is that you can not have high standards at the same time you cant be desprate either. And also take everything slow, dont try to get into a relastionship because you might scare her off.
I dated a really hot chick but she was a cruel btch. Then dated an ugly fat girl, i liked her for her personality first but then noticed that her personality was ugly too.
Then I met a very cute girl, she was everything i wanted in a gf. Smart, attractive, independent, you name it. But i fcked because i was rushing it or like she said "you like me too much".
Think about what I said, maybe you will learn unless you are like me, i learn from my own mistakes. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:10:39 PM | | Yeah, it's harder for me since I lack experience, because I assume that more relationships that people have been in, like the more ex-bf's/ex-gf's a person has had, the easier a new person comes along. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:55:13 PM | Dont worry about it.
You will find a girl that had never been to a relationship or a girl that will like you for you.
Just be yourself. Dont try to hard to find someone. Keep on improving yourself, its ok to be nervous when you meet someone but dont act differently.
Hell, if i can get a date, you can get one too | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/15/2009 4:46:40 AM | | Holy feck....forget about it. Better pack up the shop....its too late sunshine...bus had gone and Elvis has left the building. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:27:30 PM | | Yeah but 21 years is a bit too long without having being in a relationship, almost everyone has their very first boyfriend/girlfriend in high school, or before they enter their 20's. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/18/2009 3:02:41 AM | | I seriously hate gender roles in our society, because shyness and being non-outgoing hurts guys a lot more than it hurts girls, I know it's tradition and it has always been up to the guy to initiate, but it's not fair for every guy. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:02:12 AM | when you meet a girl that you like tell her that you would love been friends, if so it could lead to falling in love with each other. In other words be upfront with her.
Lifes short..... | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:08:46 AM | | No don't think like that i promise their is someone out there just for you. expect to meet her in five days. let me know . she has medium brown hair.. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:49:07 AM | | In reality, it is much more difficult for a man to meet a woman than it is for a woman to meet a man. Women are able to approach men and are also able to wait to be asked out. Men can not wait and rely on women to approach and ask for the date because men WILL NEVER BE ASKED OUT. Men have to do everything in order to get anything with a woman. Women have the god given right of never having to deal with rejection or incur any of the pain associated with it. When a man gets rejected he has to shrug it off and his friends would tell him to “be a man”. On the other hand, if a woman gets rejected, she would most likely take it as a personal insult on her inner child and her friends will comfort her. A woman is automatically accepted by society as a woman; whereas men have to prove themselves at every turn. A shy woman WILL get asked out without having to over come it. Men have to work more on themselves than women do. Men must have confidence, real self confidence, that is not based solely on how they look, but rather understanding and acknowledging their self worth in order to approach. Building up this type of confidence takes time and understanding. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/20/2009 7:06:16 AM | | Whats interesting is that women don't have to put even half the effort compared to men and they have every possible advantage in the singles life or when it comes to dating and relationships, boyfriend/girlfriend and yet they still believe that they have it harder. | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:47:58 AM | i am sorry you are going through this.. i am 30 and have only had one proper partner (and she only lasted 4 months) i am afraid like me you are going to have to get used to planes and head off to thailand, costa rica, kenya or sri lanka! | |
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| 21 and never had a girlfriend.
Posted: 10/20/2009 10:38:33 AM | Maybe you need to invest some money into professional help.....or invest in a 9mm. Whiny men be it 20 (cough cough)or 50 are painful to everyones ears. Fix it and quit the whining. I agree head off to Asia to find a suitable slave who will milk you , bring the brood over then leave your lame A$$. Grow up be a man and quit the whining. Did God give you a set of ????'s well go set them on a plane....
 me so orenery mr loser, me like u long time... | |
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