| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/2/2007 11:27:06 AM | ^^^Well, maybe stereotyping, but I shall confess that I have a certain "type" that I am attracted to and men in your age group seldom fit that type. I'm not ruling out older men per se. Even though Tramp is 55, I would find him attractive and interesting if that is his current photo. I have a quirky sexual nature and am intensely attracted to a certain type: lean, more intellectual, non-judgmental (particularly about women's roles). I was very attracted to my ex-husband and he is now 50. I have tried dating other types of men, but I'm never sexually attracted to them. I can't change that about myself.
It just happened to work out from my online dating experiences that men I am attracted to (so far) are in this age range. I think that is because a lot of men as they age become more and more conservative in their POVs and less willing to things like fly to Coz and go diving on the weekend. If you have to mow your grass instead of go diving, you're not for me.  | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/2/2007 1:14:10 PM | I meant no disrespect to people in their 60's. I only meant for me that dating closer to my age is preferable. I am sorry if someone in their 60's took offense to my "ewww". It was also directed at much younger and it was nothing personal. I read here of a man in his sixties who is admonishing me for my preference stating I/we may miss out on something if I/we let age be a factor. He cites the examples of how he has dated women as much as thirty years younger. He forgot to tell us about the women much older than him he has been attracted to or dated.
As for the formula and my earlier post about money; of course it was a joke.
Perhaps it just wasn't as funny as the formula itself.
Definitely not as funny as pork chops and applesauce!
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/2/2007 2:31:47 PM | Sorry....I think I gave the wrong impression. I didn't feel disrespected. I know exactly what you mean. In GENERAL, I agree with you and I was trying to make a joke back about the money thing. One thing I really like about being the age I am is that I no longer feel the need to impress, and you are absolutely right that I, normally, haven't found any people in my age group that I am attracted to. Isn't America great? We all can date or hangout with whomever we please.
Oh, and I the lawns that I am interested in require some diving.  | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/2/2007 2:49:03 PM | firstlight I wasn't replying to you and yeah, I'm in my 60s, but not your type so I guess you didn't think it was me ... Heck when I was in my 40s I thought 60s was over the hill... Funny how you change your mind when you get there..   | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/2/2007 4:22:14 PM | take your age. Divide it by 2 and add 7 years (rounded up
Oh goodie...I get a 29 year old...whatever shall we do??  | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/3/2007 1:01:50 AM |
You know theres too much of an age difference when you talk about some of the music you used to listen to like Jefferson Airplane or Abba and they stare at you blankly
Airplanes and…Addis Ababa? Huh? Mae, Mae, Mae...I have no idea what you're talking about. No, really. I used to know something about toilet paper manners but that was another thread, far away and long ago.
As for dating younger, I have a history of dating women few years younger (40's perhaps) but not to go back in time or for arm candy but simply because (and please note that many exceptions abound) so many people my age act so much older than they should. I don't mean mature and responsible. I mean "o-o-old" - as in unwilling to do anything as extreme as actually...uh, walking...or discovering a new interest, or sleeping in an unknown place where stars tinkle...I mean, twinkle above, or doing anything that is not utterly predictable, repetitious, and dull.
I figure I've inherited some pretty good genes and I take good care of myself so if I end up with someone five or 10 years younger, I'll still have many many good years of love to offer.
The porch is for playing music and bird watching , not turning into an old motionless boring blob.
PS - Hello to my good old hooky-playing Canadian friends! 
Yes, I'm back as winter sets in down here in So Cal with temperatures tonight plummeting down into the upper 50's. Brrrr...I even turned the heater on for several minutes, put on my flip-flops to keep my feet off the cold tile floor, and closed the little bathroom window. Ah, but a slightly younger woman could brave these harsh winter conditions with me.
Hugs to all.
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/3/2007 2:46:47 AM | In my opionion, 7 years difference is great
physiologically: The male older female for 7 years is great.
mentally: Femlae older than male is better (7 years or more)
Think so?
Sorry for my poor English....It's a humble opinion from Taiwanese
Rgds,
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/3/2007 5:59:03 AM | Well..I guess I'm not as stuck in the past as my kids might want to think. I have to admit..I didn't get the Brady Bunch line..until after it was stated who it was about. The names I knew..but..the line itself I didn't. Guess Alices pork chops impressed some of us more than others?
For me..someone close to my experience level is most important. That usually is someone close to my own age. A few years younger..a few years older..doesn't matter. I don't measure a person by their pic..they are deceiving at times..but..I figure..if you put one out there that's truly you..that's a kudos. I don't want to read paragraph after paragraph of your autobiography on a profile. I want to be able to ask questions that I deem important to me..for ME to get to know and TRUST what you're telling ME is true. If we have like interests..experience levels..you are kind..caring..considerate..have some couth and manners. I'm there! If not..I move on. Age is not the factor in friendships..but it is for me with love. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 2:23:42 PM | The age does not really matter unless they are close to my son's age, but more the maturity of the person and the quality of their experiences.
Usually it takes some living and years to get that maturity, education, financial security, independence, on and on, so that means if I am looking for that, and offer it as well, those that will fit that description usually will be closer to my age, and that is fine as long as we have the attraction and chemistry to make it work.
The sad part to all of this, is that many age so differently, and life can take its toll in many ways. Once this happens, you can find some that are your age, but much older physically, and not attractive to you at all.
As we mature, the age boundaries gray as much of our hair will also, and I have dated those that are 30 and those that are 60, finding out that it is not the date on their drivers license that determined my interest, but more the the quality of their life and how it has affected their looks, how comfortable they were with themselves and me, and how our chemistry fit.
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/3/2007 3:26:27 PM | | I'm 40. I don't think that a 40 yr man would have more things in common with me than an 30 yr old man just because the 40 yr old man is my age. In fact I generally have more things in common with men who are about 5-12 yrs older than me. Yet I wouldn't rule out a man around my age or a few years older just because of age. I think age can be a negative factor if the age difference is really large. I wouldn't date a man that is young enough to be my son or old enough to be my father. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 5:01:39 PM |
Airplanes and…Addis Ababa? Huh? Mae, Mae, Mae...I have no idea what you're talking about. No, really. I used to know something about toilet paper manners but that was another thread, far away and long ago
...Speaking of plummeting temperatures... a classic example of two people with no common bonds, we would have nothing to talk about...except maybe the whole bathroom etiquette thing.
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Posted: 12/3/2007 5:19:57 PM | Interesting concept about age differences. As I read through these posts, I think the age difference has more to do with LIFE EXPERIENCE, and not so much with age.
It could be the 'life experiences' are a determining factory. Such as knowing what you want in a relationship, surviving rough spots in your life, raising kids, education, career, beliefs, over-all stability, emotional maturity, financial security, goals and dreams.
Life experiences occur at different rates and different times for each individual. I think each person looking for a LTR in our age group tend to not look at the age so much, but look at the life experiences. Common ground.
OK.. well, maybe that is just me... but, who ever said I was normal.
PS: and yes, I attended a Jefferson STARSHIP concert (they had already changed their name, but Grace Slick was still the vocalist I remember!)
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Posted: 12/3/2007 5:40:17 PM | Airplanes and…Addis Ababa? Huh? Mae, Mae, Mae...I have no idea what you're talking about. No, really. I used to know something about toilet paper manners but that was another thread, far away and long ago ...Speaking of plummeting temperatures... a classic example of two people with no common bonds, we would have nothing to talk about...except maybe the whole bathroom etiquette thing.
Just kidding, Mae. I have too seen airplanes and heard of Jefferson (actually a girl who sang in one of my brother’s and my bands when I was growing up went on to sing in that band with Grace Slick) and so far as Abba is concern, does it count that my niece used to work in Addis Ababa? Oh, didn’t think so.
Now there ya go, folks – a classic example of two perfectly wonderful people with an age difference dilemma. Mae is definitely younger than me…by a year. What are we to do with this younger generation anyway?
BTW - I like what you said, Smilin' Bob - "I think the age difference has more to do with LIFE EXPERIENCE" than age itself. (...though I always liked Airplane better than Starship, bless its pointy little head).
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Posted: 12/3/2007 6:28:59 PM |
Now there ya go, folks – a classic example of two perfectly wonderful people with an age difference dilemma. Mae is definitely younger than me…by a year. What are we to do with this younger generation anyway?
...Actually we could play with finger paints, play hide and go seek, make paper airlplanes out of toilet tissue.
...maeflowers
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Posted: 12/3/2007 7:12:37 PM | Oh that would be fun! Plus we wouldn't get into trouble for possible [insert long pause here]......chatting [cue the scary "Psycho" movie sound effects].
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 12/7/2007 1:21:25 PM | | For me, within 10 years would be good. I wouldn't reject a woman that is 11-12 years older than me just because of her age. However I wouldn't have a LTR with a woman that is old enough to be my mother. When I was 25-26, I dated a woman that was about 20 yrs older than me for about 4-5 months. She was attractive, had a good personality, had the same lifestyle with me etc. The main reason why a LTR didn't work is that we had different long term future goals and plans that was largely caused by the large age difference between us. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 3:29:27 AM | | I am a spiritual healer and I was brought a young lady, by her brother for healing. She suffered from anorexia (hospitalised twice) and drug adiction. I fixed her of both her problems. She moved in with me a few months later. I was older than her parents by a year and we stayed together for 8 years. | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:14:38 AM | | These days it seems the mothers of the women I date are usually younger than my exwife. | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:28:27 AM | I have dated women 10 years older and 10 years or more younger. I think what I have learned is that age is not very important once you are above 35. At that point most of your life should be settled and ready to spend the days with the one you love. Of course as we all know because we are on this sight, the best laid plans of men and mice tend not to work out the way we planned.
Today people care more about the image rather than the substance of their relationships. It is like the commercial that says "If you don't like your spouse, trade her in". She get a little fat or he does, the hair falls out, breast cancer, what ever your excuse is to be the real shallow person you truly are will show itself.
That being said there is reasonable spread and not reasonable, Anna Nichole comes to mind. But to me once above 35, I would rather have happiness with a woman of any age, down to 35 (I am 49) than base my decision on just age. Would you rather be happy for a few years with the right person than miserable for a day?
Also, I have also found that when all is compatable the two will adapt and benefit each other from health, wisdom and fun. So what is the best age difference?
The one where you end up happy together for the rest of your days together! | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 2:00:40 PM | "What age difference is best?"
I think the age range should be the same in both directions. If a person will date someone 10 years younger then they should be willing to date someone 10 years older. Its only seems like the fair thing to do. This is why I personally will not date anyone that is 108 days older or younger than me.
BRB I have to go adjust my profile preferences to reflect what I just said | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 2:14:55 PM |
take your age. Divide it by 2 and add 7 years (rounded up
So, in other words, someone I could have given birth to........................ | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 9:19:33 PM | | No... Again... this is my formula. It is not meant to be used by everyone. I just find it fits my tastes in age range. | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 2/29/2008 9:32:15 AM | Not sure, but I feel comfortable with men 5 years younger, up to and including 5 years older....although the great love of my life was Caucasian, and seven years older when we started dating when I was 40....
Younger, and I feel a little creeped out because I have nephews, a niece, a goddaughter, and a daughter who are in their early to late 30's.
Older, and I feel like since I'm a "young 54", that the man would be more like an older brother or a father figure.....
But those "feelings" (especially older) could always change depending on the person! | |
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| What age difference is best?
Posted: 2/29/2008 10:33:53 AM | As long as I am not changing their diapers in either direction........... 
It is not the date on their birth certificate, but rather the content of their character, emotions, life style, and ability to walk by my side, understanding what I am saying and doing and why.
I can listen to rap music with my son, and enjoy some of it.......I can sit with my mother and listen to the "big band" music and smile at her as she dances........I can rock with the 60's, enjoy the 70's, 80's, and 90's.
It means that I have transcended time with my brain and openness to what was compared to what is, and that not only comes from life experiences, but from reading, watching, listening, and learning to all around you.......and this is not an age thing, but much more a condition of the brain and its power to perceive.
The best age difference is the one I have with that special person that turns me on mentally, physically, and emotionally.......and that my friends is not age driven, but much more chemistry oriented.
So bring it on all you younger and older females, I am not running because of the date on your birth certificate, but will run to see if you can keep up with me........and that will make all the difference, no matter your age...... 
Just my opinion....... | |
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