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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:14:36 AM |
Yes, both of you are so in love that you both have profiles on this site...
By the way, dearie, you joined November 9th so don't bullchit us. Bet you didn't think this site disclosed that info...
It's a shame people look for so many negatives that they can't read properly....
that is November 9th of 2006. Can you say oops? I think you owe her an appology. :) She joined over a year ago. | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:27:28 AM | I hope you will listen to an elder who has been there....
Your man has many of the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder!
I was married to one. He helped ruin my life! Thank God I had God to help me through it!
And you may not be aware...but by your shrugging it off or making excuses for him is a sign of co-dependancy...of which I was for a long time. But you can learn and get past that. But first you have to get him out of your life!
You are young and beautiful and there will be other men...much better men who will treat you with respect! Who will be truthful...completely!
But you must know where to find them! Maybe if you emailed me here...we could correspond about this.
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/4/2007 9:36:09 AM | Well after reading you profile (and I did read all of it!) I would have decided to message you (if I were in my early twenties and lived local to you in Ottawa, that is) and would have pursued you based on your profile. You are obviously still looking, and receiving mail and such.
I would have to say you are in a mutual agreeable relashionship and both of you are actively seeking someone else. Don't trust him because as soon as he finds someone better, he'll dump you or worse, tag you along while seeing other women. I also think he doesn't trust you either...looks like it is conveinent for both of you until one of you finds someone better.
Follow your intuiton...
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:16:50 AM | It's a shame people look for so many negatives that they can't read properly....
that is November 9th of 2006. Can you say oops? I think you owe her an appology. :) She joined over a year ago.
Did someone get hit in the head with a cricket bat and lose their short term reasoning skills. Look at her profile, says "single". She is going on about her man cheating on her cause he has a profile; but, Miss do as I say not as I do still has her's.
Regarless , 2006, 2007 , 1492 , should be "not single/not looking" if here for the forms.
Her OP snipped for the good parts.
have been dating a guy who I met on here, we've been dating for 9 months now,
----- snipped out ---- I also found out that about 2 weeks ago he signed up for date.com and some somespamsite site. This really bothered me,
She has had her profile here for a year and he's online for two weeks, I think he is just moving on cause _SHE_ don't take it seriously. | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:25:19 AM | | No, chances are she just never came back here until now. She probably remembered there were the forums here and came back to post her question. I don't remove profiles from sites just because I'm in a relationship, I just don't come back to them for a very very long time. If you're here just to post a question or two then why take the time to edit the profile?? If I'm not taken it doesn't matter if I get emails or not, I'm not looking. | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:52:56 PM | | u r soooo pretty!!! Hun, nine months is a rather long time to be c'ing each other. Saying this i believe he must be insecure in some way, not with u but himself!!! OK so he is on other sites so why can u continue dating others!!! Maybe u might find another guy that simply wants to see u and only u and he won't post himself on other sites. Guys who do this is gearing up to eventually leave u so why not simply move on. Hope u find the guy for u! | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:32:55 PM | Well I will chime in with my two cents on this one and say that it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.....if it looks like a player, walks like a player, acts like a player....it is a player.
This man has player written all over him.......take it from those of us who have been unfortunate enough to have been played. You deserve someone who treats you like gold ALL of the time, not just most of the time. | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:08:30 AM | HI again!
I just wrote a guy on here about something similar.
He let me know he is trying to make a relationship work, but he sees nothing wrong with writing me or any other woman.
Here was my response to him....
If you are trying to make your relationship work...well..May I give you some suggestions????
You say you are a Christian man..right? Or at least a good man, right?
How would YOU feel if you truly cared..deeply cared for someone and you found out she was on POF and she was communicating with other men..potential dates?
Are you not deceiving her? Or have you told her up front that you are still on POF and will continue to look until the two of you are sure about your relationship?
I for one...would say ........GOOD BYE!
So my suggestion to you is...(yes, I know you did not ask for this)....get off of POF and any other dating site until you are sure this relationship is NOT going to work. The fish will still be here. The one God has for you will still be out there somewhere. No worries!
Would you please let me know if this had any impact on you? And let me know if you want to kick me in my butt! LOL!
I speak from experience. I was so hurt by the one guy I met online and for whom I fell deeply! He kept his profile open on one dating site for favorites only ....which meant he could put all the favorites he wanted in there and could still contact them without me knowing! Silly guy forgot to take me out of his favorites and I figured it out.
So I told him to forget it and open his profiles. And he left me for one of those women. But he is so picky...I don't think he will ever find the right one!
It is a candy shop mentality. You find that one piece of candy you think is the Most Delicious! You take a bite! Yummmy! But you step one foot to your left and there is another that looks more inviting. And you just dumped the first piece for the second. It can devastate the other person! People on dating sites need to learn there really is a REAL PERSON on the other end of that computer line! That phone line! I cannot look inside a man's heart, but I can tell you ...at least from my own heart....this woman can hurt badly from just what you are doing!
Sincerely...and I mean sincerely!
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 1/3/2008 11:20:17 AM | | well I for one do look for and appreciate the guys that know how to treat a lady with respect.I won't go so far as to say that they are good guys but I don't look for nor do I want a guy with a rap sheet longer then my arm and that includes when he was under age.If after speaking for awhile to someone you start getting a nagging feeling of inpending doom or just a slight case of upset nerveousness then listen to ur inner self.red flags internally are known to save lives and a womans intuition is nothing to laugh at.I think this may have something to do with theirself and not so much to do with u which means u can't fix it.what do u want from him and what are u willing to give.good luck sis | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 1/3/2008 11:30:49 AM | | Sweetheart, you are only 20 years old so I am going to cut you some slack, but I must say, this man does not want to spend the rest of his life with you if he is signing onto other dating sites. This really should be OBVIOUS to you even as young as you are. You're a very pretty girl...I think you can do better than him. Good luck! | |
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| Why is he signing up on new dating sites when we are in a serious relationship?
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:10:52 PM |
Now, I questioned him about this, and he told me that he created those profiles because he just wants to see what people will say about him or what they think of him. I'm not really quite sure I believe or understand this...
the man you have fallen in love with has turned out to be nothing more than an "attention whore''.........
think I'm gonna open a "Dear Gunner column"... | |
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