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Posted: 1/25/2008 7:21:52 PM | | Hey I didnt get married when I was young and have no kids and dating is still giving me problems. Movies are just that movies. All I can say is keep living your life and make yourself have fun and be happy and that person will come into your life. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 9:21:03 PM | what is interesting to me is that it doesnt matter if we were with one person or a hundred people in our lives ... when it comes down to that moment makes us feel lonely, we have one thing in common
.. that missing void that leaves us wishing to be with the "one"
so OP.. you are not alone .. get out there and live.. he will appear soon enough | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 12:51:24 AM | Man oh Man I Tried...
I mailed 3 airline tickets to a POF gal at 163rd street to come to the United States and live happy ever after, and she stopped emailing me.
Rumor has it she sold the airline tickets and took her 2 kids to Chuck E cheese, and bought a 50 pound bag of coffee!!
It's okay, next time I'll leave the tickets at "will call" | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:29:50 AM | Yes ~ I have had the romantic 'one'. Tho we have been divorced nearly 14 years, for 13 years he was "the one". I tend to agree with Nymie465's post about particular people, romantic or not being the one at different stages of our lives. In fact, I told someone not too long ago, my 16 yr. old daughter has been "the love of my life" for awhile now. 
This doesn't mean I don't think that another romantic love will come into my life when the timing is right for "both" of us.  I believe things happen for a reason, and it's just not meant to be right now. I am not any less happy, or less of a person because I don't have a romantic partner.
Nightwing66:
The "One" is about finding a decent, kind person who also wants to make the daily choice (with you) to see the other person as, and strive themselves to be, as close to 'perfect' as they humanly can.....this too will be filled w/ imperfections & compromises.
It's not a fairy tale anymore....but I'll tell you what, the fact that your partner actively chooses, on a daily basis, the joy of being with you despite those imperfections & compromises is about the most romantic damn thing there is.
Very well said ... very true!
And rune 3 ~
Happy is now. Happy is never "ever after".
Living in the moment is one of life's greatest rewards. Choosing happiness, regardless of situations in our lives, IMO, is freedom to just "be" one day at a time. Happiness is a series of choices, not just one big event.
~OP~ Maybe your children are now the loves of your life. Embrace that, and don't get too caught up in having a romantic partner right now. When the timing is right, God will put someone else in your life. 
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Posted: 2/7/2008 9:57:57 AM | The "One" is about finding a decent, kind person who also wants to make the daily choice (with you) to see the other person as, and strive themselves to be, as close to 'perfect' as they humanly can.....this too will be filled w/ imperfections & compromises.
It's not a fairy tale anymore....but I'll tell you what, the fact that your partner actively chooses, on a daily basis, the joy of being with you despite those imperfections & compromises is about the most romantic damn thing there is.
& it happens EVERY day!
Absolutely beautiful! Who says guys aren't romantic anymore | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 1:16:13 PM | I'm with you Grog280 ... I do believe that 'The One' exists for everyone ... although it's written in the singular, it's actually plural.
That said, I also believe it's important to keep doing whatever you do in life that makes you happy because life goes on, whether you & enjoy it or not so might as well enjoy. People like being around other happy people thus increasing your chances of meeting one of Your Ones.
All the best & enjoy the party of life!
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Posted: 9/12/2008 4:22:00 PM | people who have been married 20,30,40 years or more wonder where the one went
or if he or she will ever come
there is someone out there for everyone
sometimes 2 or 3 ha
waiting for the one who may never come
find someone you can get along with and be HAPPY | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 8:09:25 PM | | I have met very few people that have found all the pieces to their life time puzzels but at my age I have to believe in order to continue. I've been single for years now and these are supposed to be the best years of my life. I try to enjoy them but dream of sharing it with "The one." There is really no point to continue without hope so I carry on to believe that it is really out there and does really exist. He WILL manifest for me! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:19:16 AM | I think "the one" is the combination of the two [of you].
The relationship between any two lovers can be thought of as a life of it's own. The happiness of this "one" is up to a lot of things. I believe that if people focus on giving, acceptance, joy, laughter, there is no reason why they can't create their "one".
If you're waiting around for another person to DO it all for ya, then forget it.
We've just become so frigging selfish in this culture that we all end up ****ing up what should have been "the one" by the time we are 30 and none of us wants to take any responsibility. We're all too clever too, so we spend our jaded years living in our heads, sticking up for our "rights" and making sure we're "clever" about who we allow into our lives. And when we do meet people, we are keeping our finger on a hair trigger for the first sign of fault because we're too afraid to be hurt again... we let our pathetic fears set our compasses and cleverly direct our lives.
I had an athiest marriage councellor once say to me that he thought a marriage was a miracle. Because each person in the marriage has to choose the other person day after day after day... well that's how you make "the one". | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 6:17:43 AM | | Neo where are you ?? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 5:02:52 PM | It would be nice to have the "fairytale" ending.
But I guess that's why they’re called "fairytales".
That's ok...it makes us who we are | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:54:37 AM | life can be fun, someone will show up soon
bide your time
Digi | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:56:34 AM | sometimes you have to settle for 2/3/4/5 you get my point
every"one" has good and bad
hope you find the good
Digi | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:59:13 AM | overseas scams abound be very careful
stick close to home unless you have been overseas
Digi | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 3:03:12 AM | hey sometimes a chemical imbalance takes place and the brain finds it hard to work normally like before and may never change back
move on elsewhere place your energies elsewhere
Digi | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 3:14:09 AM | | hey if the guy cant take your kids on as his hes not a keeper | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 3:16:14 AM | I found you
where
on the internet
where on the internet
I for git
or u forgot
where,when,and,how | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 9:36:31 AM | | I think there is "the one", but unfortunately the question is whether you are their "one" also. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 1:30:25 PM |
I had an athiest marriage councellor once say to me that he thought a marriage was a miracle. Because each person in the marriage has to choose the other person day after day after day... well that's how you make "the one".
which leaves me the question; can miracles happen? | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 1:51:44 PM | I've often wondered how many people have actually met "the one" only to over-analyze that person and focus on some minor imperfection or character flaw, think that the chemistry "is good or great but isn't ... quite ... right", be uncompromising in their fairytale expectations or it be a matter of timing or circumstance and, in the end, the two people become nothing more than ... friends.
Sometimes, "the one" is right under our noses, already involved in our lives under the guise of being "a friend" ... I never could understand how someone would choose NOT to date a person because "it could ruin a great friendship" when so many of the traits that would make for a strong bond and partnership already exist and have survived many different tests. I'd love nothing better to end up with someone who is a friend first ... what a great foundation to begin a relationship, yes?
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:07:54 PM | what a great foundation to begin a relationship, yes?
yes! but we are in a world filled with impatient people
those who desire a relationship are too quick to say i love you
those who desire intimacy are too quick to say i want you
those who can learn to be content with friendship can achieve the full range between wanting and loving.. i'm betting my bottom dollar those are the ones making miracles | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:24:37 PM | There are many that can be the "ONE", and it all depends on where you are in your life compared to where they are in theirs.....
Life is situational, not destined, and options always exist and wait for one or both of you to decide which way you are heading and why.....
Just my opinion.....   | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:58:56 PM | I have been a non-believer for the longest time. Then after I was divorced, I've met my "The One".
People really, really can't know the difference of being with "The One" or that they even have "The One" until they meet their "One". It is absolutely different experience from any other person you date. You feel compassion towards all people including your evil ex, you genuinely want to become a better person, the world twirls merrily around you, summer lasts longer, you don't need sleep, food, even learn to tolerate Jets as a viewing choice.
Until of course things come to a screeching halt and you resolve to never leave home again or let go of that gallon of ice-cream..
I also believe that you get to meet more than one "The One" in the course of your life because after things didn't work out with first "One" couple years later I've met another "One".
Not as intense, but unmistakably "The One".
Now I believe everyone has a certain type of "One" who effortlessly does it for them better than anyone else can no matter how much they strive.
And let's all raise a to toast our finding "The One"
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Posted: 10/2/2008 4:05:50 PM |
Here, here ... to finding someone who fits the bill as "the one".
jeffery | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 4:28:10 PM | Let's just hope "The One" comes along before we're all way to plastered to recognize them ....
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