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| Second date and he wants to pick me up but....
Posted: 12/2/2007 9:56:40 AM | | After having read some of these weird responses, I'D start feeling paranoid! I liked a lot of the responses, too, however. I'd have to say most men and women are average people who'd love a half-way decent and "normal" thing with somebody of the opposite persuasion. If their having any kind of oddball sex drive is a potential threat to your identity and security, I'm sorry, but people in that weirded-out of a mindset should not be looking for a romantic partner at this juncture. Those types would surely take the "f" out of any possible fun for perverts like me! Good luck, and I see my own head is not as effed up as a lot of people's appear to be, as unfortunate as that is in this whackjob society. If I'd be worse for the wear as a result of it, I'd find something else to do with my time, and leave my presence out of that of anyone else. God bless! Love, Titus | |
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Ls1
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Joined: 3/26/2007
Msg: 53 | |
| Second date and he wants to pick me up but....
Posted: 12/2/2007 11:14:25 AM | You're generalizing and sterotyping when you say "women like you"
Yes I guess I was southernlass and I should'nt have.
And I'm glad you found a fella.
We live in a free and equal society, the woman is of coarse free to decide the terms of how she is going to date and the man is also free to decide his own....what is reasonable and what is not.
Most men probably feel like I do and will not be interested in a lady that treats a date like a police interview.
But I always beleive in being fair......what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
So how many of you women would subject yourselves to the pre - dating process that southernlass is suggesting ?
I bet I don't get any straight answers to this one either...lol.
just like that other question in msg # 27....top of the last page.
if it was your daughter meeting a stranger from the internet for the first or second time, I bet you would feel a lot different.
Actually I set my daughter up with the man she spent the last four years with and is the father of my grandson. Unfortunately they've recently split up.
I guess there no gaurantee's with anything in life.
But the advice I'd give her is be careful and do what feels right and if you need me, dad will be there.
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| Second date and he wants to pick me up but....
Posted: 12/2/2007 11:27:59 AM | | I have found that intelligent, mature, "good" guys that I have dated are respectful of my cautiousness. So do what makes you comfortable. Don't forget to appreciate and thank him for the thought though - wanting to pick you up was meant as a nice gesutre. | |
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qu1nn
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Joined: 8/22/2007
Msg: 55 | |
| Second date and he wants to pick me up but....
Posted: 12/2/2007 1:30:23 PM | I can remember a time when a guy could offer to pick up a girl, not because he was a stalker, but because it was how his dad had done. He could then buy her flowers with out the woman thinking he had a motive. Today, people are so worried, meet in a public place, don't tell him anything about yourself, maybe after a few months, then he can pick you up. Whats wrong with you people. What kind of chivalry can guys have now days? Can't pick you up. Can't bring you flowers. According to some threads, can't buy dinner. People say there are a lot of stalkers online, guess what, there are a lot of stalkers on the street as well. People have to learn to relax. If after the first meeting you don't trust him enough to come pick you up, then why bother to see him again?
I wonder how most of you would feel about this:
I had seen a girl two times, the third, she told me to meet her at her house, the door would be open, just walk in and wait for her. And I did just that.
So while I believe that any bad experience posted here is in the minority, lets not put people in fear over something that is likely not an issue.
Let the bash of quinn begin! | |
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| Second date and he wants to pick me up but....
Posted: 12/2/2007 2:48:08 PM |
I can remember a time when a guy could offer to pick up a girl, not because he was a stalker, but because it was how his dad had done. He could then buy her flowers with out the woman thinking he had a motive.
The thing is that when this was done was way before Internet dating ever began .The person you were going out on the date with was usually if not already know to you then was known by people in your family and or friends . The people we now meet through the Internet are for the most part complete strangers to us.
We really know nothing about the other person except for what they tell us .Many people represent themselves on dating websites for many different reasons . As a man you really have not much reason to fear for your physical safety when getting into a car with a strange woman. She can't rape you and unless she is a female body builder can't beat you up and steal your car.
I would think though that even men when meeting complete strangers would want to be just a little bit cautious . There have been cases of men being accused of rape or going to a woman's apartment ,or what he thought was her apartment ,and being jumped by a group of guys ,robbed and beaten.
For the most part i think nothing bad will happen and that most people are pretty normal and have no desire to do harm to another ,but there are exceptions and why take unnecessary risk? | |
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