| I'm gettin tired of these BBW threads... BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE!
Posted: 5/23/2005 7:35:54 PM | @Christina
Awe shucks. Thanks. A big part of it was leaving an emotionally abusive husband. That was SO incredibly empowering. It's taken a while to heal from it, and every now and then I have a bad day, but they don't last long LOL.
Right now, I've met this wonderful man. And, yeah, he's a big guy and I know that he's not all that happy with it, but (this is important! LOL) I am so totally attracted to him. I know that his size isn't who he is. Just like my size isn't who I am. Not that I'm denying my size, au contraire! But, there's SO much more to me that what dress size I wear. The beauty of a person starts deep inside, and shines through. If the interior is ugly, I don't care how physically attractive a person is, they're still not beautiful.
So many times I've said to myself "I'll be happy when __________". Living my life for the future. Doesn't work. I'm trying to live my life for the here and now. Appreciate each moment as it comes. Yeah, for the moment I may be a size 20. But, I used to be a size 24. I don't ever want to be a size 6. And if I wait until I'm the 'right size' to be happy, I'll never be happy. I'm not saying that I'll never lose the weight. But, it's just that if you're always thinking "When this finally happens" or when I lose weight etc... you will never be happy.
And happy people are beautiful people who are attractive to others. | |
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| I'm gettin tired of these BBW threads... BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE!
Posted: 11/29/2005 12:45:40 AM | | IM a bbw and im proud of it. dont need to **** because your big, there is just as much love for us as there is for thick and thin. most of the bbws i have noticed are pickier so they do get love but they dont like the lovin they getting because its not from who they want it to be. so if they dont want ppl to judge or whatever them then they should not be so picky. like i said im a bbw proud to be one and i have fun, i have nothing to **** about being big. | |
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| I'm gettin tired of these BBW threads... BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE!
Posted: 11/29/2005 1:37:49 AM | Okay..wow...this is the first one of these for me!
I have finally formulated what I want to say.
I am overweight. About 50 lbs more than I was 1 year ago.
I was never skinny, nor slim. But I liked my appearance.
Do I like myself now? Sure, because myself is the inside of me.
Do I like the image I see when I look in the mirror?
Absolutely not! How can I, when I am far from comfortable,
am putting my health at risk & jeapordizing the primary caregiver my children have.
My health has gone to shit the past year.
Above all, I make excuses for myself. I tell myself tomorrow, or it's not really that bad, or I can just buy different clothes. But for myself, that's not what I want.
I know many people who accept themselves the way they are, because they can't change it. My sister has a medical condition, has had intervention in her life, and will never lose her weight. Nothing wrong with that. Then accept it and love the skin you're in.
But I just wanted to speak out for those who are maybe, like me, hiding behind the BBW pride, because it's easier, and safe, and there's a sense of commaraderie. I don't want to be this way, and have started taking action to change it.
Thanks for listening.
Cutiegal
(That was hard to admit!) | |
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| I'm gettin tired of these BBW threads... BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE!
Posted: 11/29/2005 2:04:47 AM | I am tired of BBW threads............as well as
Those who are tired of BBW threads... LOL
Nice guy threads
Women dont reply threads
Self promotion threads
Why did he or she lie threads
look at this nasty mail I got threads......
But I notice that negative threads run far longer than positive ones........... | |
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| I'm gettin tired of these BBW threads... BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE!
Posted: 11/29/2005 5:55:34 AM | Yanno, I used to be like that. I'd sit around and whine because I wasn't finding a guy. I hated myself, hated what I saw in the mirror but I was too damn depressed or lazy to do anything about it. Then one day I was listening to the radio and one of these comedy bits came on and I think it was Chris Rock. He said..."You look at the difference between white women and my black sista's. There's a three hundred pound black sista on a saturday night, she's goin out to find a man. She making herself up, she doin her hair, she puttin on her best cause she' a big beautiful woman and she know it!!!!! She doin what she can to show off that booty cause she a woman!!!!......now you gotta 300 pound white woman and she ain't been outta the house for two years.....what up wit dat??????"
That little comedy bit really hit me between the eyes. I thought of all the Big Beautiful Black woman I have met in my travels over the years and the ones I see on TV like Queen Latifah. Then I realized I'm like one of those white women he was talking about. I went to the mirror and took a long hard look. That day I did my hair, I put on make-up, I dressed to the nines and I went out and just watched people. Yanno, it was like a whole new world opened up to me. I realized that day, hey I am a beautiful woman, I turn heads when I walk down the street, I may not have guys breaking down my doors to date me....but you know what? Those who have come into my life since that day are men of quality, guys who look at the whole package.
These days I may still be single, but I'm not sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. I'm out in the world living my life and loving every moment of it. One up side to this story is that when I started feeling better about myself, I started looking better, and when I started looking better, I started eating better and I lost some weight. While I'll never be skinny, I'm at a size where I'm comfortable, and I've never been one of the twiggy types anyway, this baby got back, and I love to shake what my mama gave me!!!! | |
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