| when did women get so stuck up
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:33:12 PM | The Reason...what a great,refreshing, uplifting post~ Kudos !!!!
And Herding Cats, you rock, completely. I am a big fan of your posts, have seen them in other threads. :)
I have to agree...if you're holding open doors expecting an acknowledgment, you're doing it for the wrong reasons, rhinoplasty notwithstanding. :)
And, some here have noted the death of good manners, or at least, near-death, and I sadly concur. We could all work at being more polite and courteous...lovely things happen....it becomes contagious. :)
Did you guys hear about the Starbucks' drive-through thing at Christmas...where one person just spontaneosuly paid for the order of the person in the car behind him, and then another EIGHT HUNDRED customers just kept paying it forward ???
I am probly gettin' old, but that made me so proud I puddled up.
I think we need loooooooooooooooooooottttsssss more of that.
Happy 2008 to all~ :)
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:50:16 PM | FatBlackDeepStroke said:"But seeing that is the logic there is no reason to be rude sight unseen and untested. But if you are going to be snobbish, don’t apologize or try to feign that you are not. If you are holding out your response for a select number of men, regardless of what you say, you are not answering all equally even if on a social level."
Can we please define "snobbish" ???? "Don't try to feign that you ( we) aren't "???? I am not real sure what this is all about, a bit confused what point you are trying to make.
OF COURSE a woman has the right to hold her responses for a select number of men !! THIS IS A DATING WEBSITE, not a democracy or government center. There can sometimes be a misplaced sense of entitlement some folks have on sites like these; I think the pay sites are the worst offenders, but I have seen some of it here on POF. ANY member has the right NOT to answer or respond to another member. Signing up here guarantees you squat; and when you email another member you must be prepared for the possibility of rejection or disinterest. The other person owes you exactly nothing just because you took a shine to them. And of course, I am huge fan of good manners and etiquette, but if someone approaches me with an ignorant email, I have less than no inclination to respond to it. Personally, I try to answer every email I get, but there have been those who not only got nada, but got blocked, almost always because they've said something heinous in their first communique. You see...this works both ways. For every woman you accuse of being snobbish, there's some oaf who wrote her making comments on her boobs or other such hideous faux pas. Believe me, happens all the time.
"regardless of what you say, you are not answering all equally even if on a social level."
Not answering all equally ??? More of the same here...believe me, I'll answer all equally when all emails I get are sane, well-written, polite, respectful, etc etc ad infinitum/ad nauseum.
I have a tip for you...there is a lady in another thread with an iguana you may find useful.... :) ( see thread about God and dating...)
Hoping whatever it is you're so angry about gets resolved.....
Best Wishes~ PhoenixWmn | |
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| when did women get so stuck up
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:11:07 PM | And, personally, I believe in treating women with respect; so when I see a woman go from one abusive prick to another, I do tend to wonder. Hmmmmmmm.......
hmmmm indeed.
thing is OP. women don't seek out the jerks. these men don't go up to a woman and say "hey, I'm a jerk and I'm gonna treat you like shit, but would you like to come home with me anyway?"
these men just know the right words to say...it's called "charm"
not all women can spot a player, most go with initial attraction and if the guy has all the right words and says them well, then the ladies will fall for it every time.
these guys portray themselves to be the "nice, respectful guys" that you claim you and your bro/friend are. (not saying you're not) but every guy on here claims to be a "nice guy"
I'm glad that you have respect for women as well as your bro/friend.
but as I said...these guys that the women are falling for don't start as a bad boy...they come off as a typical "nice guy" and change as soon as the panties hit the bedroom floor.
EDIT:::EDIT::: Please disregard above comment ^^^^^^^
I posted this in the wrong thread...was having problems with my computer and copied my post and pasted it in the wrong topic. OOOPS!
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| when did women get so stuck up
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:24:52 PM | When my kids were young and went to their friends house to visit, I'd always remind them to say "Thank you, Please & call them Mr. & Mrs." My kids got to where they mocked me as they went out the door. To my satisfaction, people have approached me many times to tell me how polite my children are and how refreshing it is.
My point is...it starts at home. My parents taught me by words and by example. I also carried that on to my children. I hold doors, I say thank you, I say please to whomever deserves it.
I say hello first lots of times in passing and some people are shocked. It is just common politeness, humane and it does my heart good. When someone, woman or a man say hello to me with a smile, I know it makes me smile too!
I truly do not do it for any other reason than for making myself feel humble and to show kindness. It is very rude for people not to respond to your kindness,however it doesn't matter, I still keep doing it no matter what.
Many times, when a man or a woman did not respond with a thank you, I would say "your welcome" and that usually embarrassed them. There is no excuse not to open doors, smile, say thank you and so on....it only takes a second and it happens to feel good to do it!
P.S....I once worked with a Psychiatrist friend who told me that one of his fellow doctors was arrogant and entitled. This man never said thank you. One time my friend doctor did something for him and the arrogant doctor put his nose in the air without any response of appreciation. When my friend doctor got up to leave, he shook the arrogant doctors hand and said in a quiet tone, "F_ _ k You very much!" The arrogant doctor said "excuse me?" and my friend said "I said thank you very much!" As my friend walked away, the arrogant doctor had a puzzled look on is face. That was enough to make my friend get a good laugh, knowing the doctor was not sure what he heard! I thought it was ingenious! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:26:37 PM | | It is quite simple. When you say hi or when you hold open a door or any other kindness, it is a reflextion on you.self. If they don't respond, oh well, you did your part. Don't worry about the other person reaction because it is a reflextion of them. Do what is right. God bless. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:57:19 PM | I found my girlfriend is no longer stuck up....
The velcro strip came apart and she fell down. Not to worry, she's stuck up again.... | |
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| when did women get so stuck up
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:01:34 AM | I went to go and open up a door for a lady....I raced ahead of her and jumped in front of it and it opened....it was an automatic door...lol
I let her go through first..
She looked a me strangely....and twirled her index finger around her ear, as if I was crazy..
Pffft....thats the last time, iam gonna be a gentleman then. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 8:03:05 AM | | I think PEOPLE in general are rude and abrasive with one another! The world has their defences up against anyone who comes within their comfort zone! Everyone has to make an extended effort to be decent and polite to others. It may make the world a brighter place where we wouldn't be having conversations on this topic! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 8:06:16 AM | I haven't seen the film yet (pay it forward) but I loved the book, everyone should read that too : )
....I must be a complete idiot, but how do you quote peoples messages on this forum? | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 4:46:36 PM | I think it's funny when I hold a door for a man and he sails through like I am his butler. @.@ It's something in our culture, not with women deliberately being mean to you.
For the record, unless I'm being absent-minded, I always say thank you to an open building door, smile to an opened car door, and unless they're creepy, say hello to the person who says hi to me. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 8:11:41 PM | | ok so what about on this site? I've Istant message a bunch of women who I ws interested in adn said hi to them and all i got was that they'll recieve this message the next time they log in, in their email. or they've closed the window. I think most of you women on here a pretty snobby and picky, if a guy whether you find him attractive or not you could at least say hi back and then go on sayin you're not interested in chattin at the moment. and vice versa for us men who would probably do the same thing to beautiful women on here. (i only said that so i won't get ****ed at) | |
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| when did women get so stuck up
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:17:08 PM | ^^^You do know that a majority of the time IMs don't work properly on POF right? It may even freeze or lock certain people's screens....
Try e-mail to be sure, that's usually better (and more polite to message beforehand here anyway)...at least you know they get the e-mails. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 5:37:56 PM | | you shouldnt be upset, these women are doing a huge favor for you. your not wasting any of your time pursuing someone who believes there on a pedistal | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 8:46:03 PM | Don't take things so personally.
Being indifferent to small gestures of etiquette isn't always an indication of someone being stuck-up.
Nothing is black and white.
There is always more going on that you may not be aware of. Sometimes it's more than what it seems.
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