| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/2/2007 9:46:18 PM | Short drive into Manhattan and Rockefeller Center
Look in local papers for Tree Lighting ceremonies or Musical Holiday Shows
Go for a walk in a snow covered park with a thermos of Hot Toddies
Go See Santa at Macy's
Take in a Broadway show followed by Hot Chocolate and Roasted Chestnuts
Carriage Ride in Central Park
Those are just a few that came to mind. It's been a while since I lived in the Greater NYC area during winter but I don't seem to recall ever having a shortage of things to do on a date when I lived there.
Last night my new lady friend and I went for a walk to the Falls along the Big Sioux River, it was all lit up, as were all the trees in the park. The view from the observation tower was very romantic. That being said though, winter doesn't mean you can't do the standard dating stuff. Best thing to do is simply step outside the box a bit and let what will happen, happen. Tis the season after all.
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:36:21 AM | IMO, some of the above ideas are great for a 2nd or 3rd later date.
For the first, safety conscious date, what happened to the good ole lunch or dinner at a restaurant idea? So many choices of fine restuarants in NYC. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 8:13:20 AM | SelenaNJ is right, changing your profile because of 1 conversation with a girl was a little rash......to put it mildly.
If she hates the cold so much, why not put her on your private jet and take her to the Bahamas.
If she's a regular ole Longgeyeland goil she just might find that sufficient.
Other than that, there should be a good variety of art galleries and such around Sea Cliff, iirc. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 9:11:54 AM | LOL no, I haven't changed my profile. Just updated it to reflect the fact that I suck at multitasking and I can't handle dating more than 1 person at a time (i.e. "unavailable for now, permanently unavailable if things go well."). I hate getting old, but that's what happens when I age and my joints start creaking. :-P
Yeah, 50/50 chance things might not work out. Just don't jinx me. 
Thanks for all your suggestions though. I won't go into details but I'll come back Thursday night and let you guys know if things turn out well.  | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:44:45 PM | | In a place that can be very cold and snowy and generally not nice in the winter, like Wisconsin, I have found a nice mall to be a good place for a first date. There are lots of people, lots of room to walk and window shop, and lots of things to see. I went on one last winter and we spent a lot of time in the large Barnes & Noble looking at the books (you get to see one another's taste in reading material) as well as movies and cds. Then there are also plenty of places to eat or to have some coffee. Plus, on weekends malls often have something special going on. You can find out a lot about a person in a casual way by paying attention to what they like and dislike and also file away some good choices for a potential future gift. | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:53:40 PM | Hey Wisdomtooth... Where abouts on the Island are you..?
I lived in Massapequa for close to 16 years..
anyway.. in the winter or on a cold evening hear I like to go to a dinner and then to a comedy club.. On a first date you could go for coffee and then the club and sit in the back so you can talk.. Wisper anyway.. you don't want to be responsable for a Michael Richards thing.. :)
You seem like a gentleman.. In any event.. treat her like a lady.. and your in..
:-) Ken | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 6:00:33 PM | So, I was wondering if your update note about seeing someone right now and are not available freaked her out or charmed her? (Different for different people). Also, remember the favourites lists mean nothing. The people on my favourites list mostly haven't ever even contacted me, and they're not generally anyone I'd date anyway.
For winter dates, hokey things come to mind, but holidays are all about enjoying traditions anyhow - horse-drawn carriage ride complete with lots of hot cocoa and blankets, Christmas light displays, snowshoeing/fondue nights (don't know if you have that there). Warm and cosy restaurants with fireplaces, museums, plays, and concerts are still great. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 6:38:13 PM | Hey Ken,
I'm in central Queens, but I got family all over the place including a sibling in Syosset, so I spend a lot of time in northern Nassau. I particularly love riding my bicycle around the Oyster Bay area when the weather is good. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> My date is coming in from near Huntington so Garden City sounds like a good midway meeting point.
I definitely want to do a comedy club date in the future if the first date turns out well. Let someone else be the funny guy so I don't have to try so hard to make my date laugh (hard to do when I'm nervous as all heck, LOL).
Dumpling Girl:
LOL, no she did not freak out. Funny thing is, on another thread someone was talking about exclusivity and I get the impression a lot of people do 1-date-at-a-time too (that's all I meant). We'll see after Thursday if exclusivity is worth pursuing. Hopefully I'll like her, hopefully she'll like me. If we click and have a wonderful time, great. If things don't go right I'm tossed back in the pond. We'll see. It's Christmastime, who knows, there might be miracles. ;) | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 11:28:35 AM | Update 1/10/08:
Eazk asked me for an update so I figure I'd post it here in my old thread..
Yep, I got a second and a third date with this lovely lady:
Second date a few weeks before Christmas, I went for something fancy-- An upscale restaurant my brother-in-law recommended. It was a bit of a flop because she didn't like the food. (oops!) But she thought enough of me to agree to a third date. She jokingly chided me for always dressing up with nice slacks and a necktie, so I agreed to show up for a third date in jeans / casual.
Third date we met up for a nice jaunt around her part of Long Island the weekend before Christmas-- we both loved some of the more scenic parts of Long Island, and went on a driving/walking tour of the shorline around the Great South Bay near Robert Moses State Park, and saw some houses with crazy overboard Christmas lighting displays. Had a nice meal with her afterwards and thought we had a great time.
After that date, she mysteriously clammed up. I sent her emails asking if she wanted to do stuff on the weekends, but no answer. After three unanswered emails I didn't press the issue any further (didn't want to appear clingy).
I still see her popping on every couple of days here on POF.. I guess she probably wasn't into me. Maybe it was me in jeans (I do have some extra pounds and was honest about it-- Maybe not being able to fill out denim well is a dealbreaker for her, haha.)
Ah well. I thought I had something nice going there, but I guess not. I'm not one to dwell over what-could-have-beens so I'll move on. | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:32:52 PM | Ahhhhh...my friend....dwell on things for a bit. After every date, do a little assessment test. What went well? What didn't? Why? What could I have done to make it better? Do I want to change my thoughts for the next date?
The only reason you don't have future dates is because something failed on a past date...you need to understand what that is.
Also...DO NOT BELIEVE she just wasn't into you. HERE IS A TRUTH...WRITE IT DOWN....
A woman will decide in the first 30 seconds if she's NOT going to sleep with a guy"
So the mere fact that you got a second date meant that at some point you were still b/f material. But somewhere in the second date...maybe things fizzled. Maybe you didn't handle the bad food thing as well as you could have. I dunno...you have to figure that one out. But she decided to give you another try...and it doesn't sound like you hit a home run on that one...you probably did OK if you wouldn't have had the second date...but you didn't 're-secure' her feelings of attraction.
To women, attraction is not a choice. They are at their best when they can't exactly put a finger on why they like a guy. When they can start articulated 3-5 reasons...you are in trouble. The best line to hear is "I don't know...there's just something about him".
Do you homework...revisit these in your mind, but don't obsess about them. And in the end...remember, it was Christmas, traditionally a horrible time to start a new relationship (for Christians at least). Yet you did it, took a shot, and are now a little bit wiser.
Good luck...you're on the path.
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Posted: 1/10/2008 4:25:52 PM | LONGUE ISLAND! My old neck of the woods! Go to a wine tasting on the North Fork, take the winter ferry to fire island dress warm and pack a thermos of spiked hot chocolate, then go for steamers and beer. Go into Huntington and see and Arty movie at the Playhouse then hit one of the bars for a good bottle of wine and make fun of what you just saw. Visit an historic home or Old Bethpage Village followed by an Italian pastry and cappuccino.
If all else fails there is always the Walt Whitman Mall. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 11:42:14 PM | Heya Eazk,
Yeah December was definitely not a good month to go on dates.. We both had obligations to spend the holidays with our respective families, so it was hard to find days on which we could get together. (In my case it was really nutty because my extended family is very multicultural-- There are Jews, Christians and Buddhists in my extended family of relatives, LOL).
I did do a bit of Monday-morning quarterbacking but I'm not sure where something might have taken a wrong turn. The third and last date right before Christmas I thought we had a great time-- We both had lots to talk about, the walking/driving tour was great, she loved the food at that restaurant we went to. I was on my very best behavior and as impeccable with my table manners and posture as I could-- The very model of honesty and decorum. She knew I enjoyed spending time with her and wasn't pursuing her for sex (though I did want romance). Just about the only thing that I did differently was how I dressed (casual as she requested). We parted company and agreed to wait until after New Years to see if we can get together again. I tried to keep in touch with her via email, not wishing to intrude by phone while she was spending time with family.
I was really hoping it would work out, because I had been so lucky up to then-- She was attractive, within my geographical area, reasonably close in age (she's 5 years younger than me), and she actually contacted me first when I've only been on POF for a few weeks. I thought our dates went fairly well and I enjoyed spending time with her. I think the odds of something like this happening again for me here on POF would be somewhere in the neighborhood of 1 in 12 million. :-P
I kind of wished she would at least email me back and tell me straight up that she'd rather not see me anymore. Ah well, it's probably a good thing for me to quit while my dignity is still intact, LOL.
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Posted: 1/11/2008 12:18:27 AM | RE: First post.
Easy. Ive done this for a woman who doesnt like the cold or being outdoors in winter too.
Find someone with a lovely greenhouse. There should be plenty. Ask if you can rent out a section of it sometime, most people will be amenable once they hear your intentions. For one of my... more serious relationships I did this. Didnt tell her where we were going, just "out for lunch". Brought her to the green house. Had a classic red blanket all laid out. Wicker picnic basket and I rearranged some of the potted plants to give us lovely scents. There was wine too of course. We sat down, I served her food and wine and we just got to talking, surrouned by fresh floral scents, a green scenery and the light hum of machinery. Went over very well. Too bad she cheated on me 2 months later. ^_^ | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 10/29/2008 1:09:16 PM | Here is my list of Top 10 winter dating ideas. Hope it helps. Yes I know the last one wont work for you unless you live in the Minneapolis St Paul area...
Top 10 winter date ideas
No particular order just some great ideas. Come on let’s go have some fun.
1. Treasure hunt – Create a list of items then begin the search all around the metro or just in one city/town. Make it a real adventure.
2. Coffee shop picnic – Go to your favorite coffee shop get some hot chocolate/Tea or coffee. Talk and people watch the day away. It’s a good time for us to play 20 questions.
3. Take a drive looking at Christmas lights – This can be very romantic, brings a sense of familiarity to the date.
4. Go Sledding – Don’t forget to bring the hot chocolate, share a sled or if you feel competitive lets make it a race. I prefer to share. :P
5. It’s almost that time, let’s go Ice Skating – Maybe someone will teach me how. Lol
6. Visit a animal shelter – Nothing says I care like rolling on the ground with dogs or cats playing all over and around you.
7. Lets bundle up real warm and go for a walk on some fresh snow, okay so it has not snowed yet but it will :D
8. Let’s take a cooking class together – Come on now, we all know food and romance go hand in hand. It brings a whole new meaning to whisking you off your feet.
9. Salsa Night – Let’s learn to dance the forbidden dance, eat some Tapas and try something new to drink.
10. And don’t forget we have the Holidazzle and the St Paul Winter Carnival coming up. Want to go with me? | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:57:01 PM | Would asking a girl to go for a snowmobile ride be a good idea for a 1st date? I was thinking of giving her a ride to a place where we have a good view, build a fire and roast winners.
I dont know if I should wait a second or third date. | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 1/12/2009 7:30:08 PM | | tell her to come over mop the floor, do your laundry and when finished run down to the corner store and buy some beer and munchies so you and the boys can enjoy the playoffs in comfort | |
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