| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2007 6:50:03 PM | Damn it! THat's a sexy post...lol
You are either making them cum and they want you in NOW or you are putting too much pressure on that spot an they are stopping you because it hurts.
I would NEVER stop a man unless he was hurting or just bad- but would totally orgasm that way. If her back is arched- she most likely did! | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2007 8:32:03 PM | It did occur to me that she might have gotten too sensitive down there but I don't think it was hurting them because they were either making these giggling noises and having a weird smile. And I'm not...err... just working one spot, more like a slow motion in an upward direction. That's what throws me for a loop...are they smiling because it tickles, it was good, or is it a pity smile that is saying "thanks sweetie, but that'll do"?
And I never asked them because...well, it's kind of an awkward thing to bring up. When I was with them, they were both virgins (and in their early twenties). And they were not the type that openly discussed sex (shy type) so the topic is hard to bring up.
Hmm...I always assumed that they were not cumming because they'd cum later and, duh, I forgot women can cum multiple times. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2007 10:36:51 PM | hmmm...
tie her down and do your thing..
she'll have mind blowing orgasms.
be careful tho....she'll get addicted to you.... | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 12:30:58 AM | | ^^^^^-- OMG - wth is going on that every man's fantasy is to have some woman sexually addicted to them? Good grief Charlie Brown! OP, look. You wanta get some info? Google it. You can find anything on Google.--------- Men -> if you're not any good - no amount of rope or handcuffs will magically make you better, and swallowing the damned key will NOT make you sexy, ok? | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 1:01:56 AM | no lie...lie to me. it sure isnt a fantasy of mine to have a woman addicted to me this way, nor did i say it was as you have incorrectly assumed. they get clingy, smothering, jealous, and pretty much weak in the knees all the time with anticipation...then one gets bugged too perform, perform, perform. this is why i cautioned the op...we need our space too you know. however for the op...if you want to get real good...and last longer in that  zone of your honey..and drive her totally beserk beyond belief...
...do a hundred pushups a day with your tongue in a shot glass | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 2:24:46 AM | OP -
All women are different. An ex I was with for 6 years got so sensitive there that at teh first hint of orgasm she would need to ah... be filled instead of licked. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 6:55:11 AM | 1)It ain't a paint by numbers endeavor.
2)Mind and body have to be connected for optimal results.
3)Communication is key. If one is too inhibited to talk about it, why on earth are they engaging in it? Nobody is a mind reader.
4)Use all your senses and pay close attention to responses(verbal and non), cues, subtle and not, to guide you.
5)Your partner's pleasure should be paramount(honest mental enthusiasm is vital but don't equate this with mechanical vigor), don't be in a hurry to to have your urge satified--if you do things right, you will be equitably compensated for your time and efforts. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:17:36 AM | the back arching and the knees boxin your ears means you did good grasshopper. :p
after talkin with the girls (my friends not my boobs) the answer is simple. sometimes when we are about to orgasm, we become soo sensetive that we want to stop. some of us feel like we are goin to pee (when actually they may be closet gushers and be too scared to find out) and don't wanna do it in your face. some girls just can't handle it.
Use that upper body strength, pin those knees down and go to town until she screams stop. then you know she's done.
girls will naturally push you away from soo much stimulation.
by the way ... hi.. hows it goin.. whats your sign? lol
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:14:52 AM | | dude here's the thing, I dont believe women really truely go for that as a main course, if u know what i mean, while i'm not prepared to say that they dont like it, i dont think that we as men see that act in the same light they do. meaning, we approach it as a ultimate giving, where they may veiw it is a plesurable evil, if u get my dirft. that same arousial can be given by the hand if done right and at the end of the day quite frankly they still want that area to be bulldozed. advise forgo the lick, teach ur fingers that trick, and **** there brains out with muscle. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:16:08 AM | Well I think that means your doing a great job!!!!! I do the same thing after I have an orgasm, it gets a little sensitive and your ready for the real deal.  | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:31:37 AM | | I'd definitely suggest you talk to her about it. Or tell her that you'd like to try to get her off with oral, just to see if you can...and tell her to tell you what she wants. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 1:34:29 PM |
sometimes when we are about to orgasm, we become soo sensetive that we want to stop. some of us feel like we are goin to pee (when actually they may be closet gushers and be too scared to find out) and don't wanna do it in your face. some girls just can't handle it.
I agree completely with that... the first time I ever did let go and gushed I had no idea what had just happened and was horrified. Then I found out what it was and that it really turned men on even more. So I haven't been afraid of it ever since (and now I need runber matress pads). | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:14:47 PM | It sounds like you are possibly using too much pressure and focusing on the most sensitive spot without moving. The squirming around is her trying to get you to do circular motions, the figure eight or just plain licking to distribute the motion of your tongue. Pleasure comes from the whole vaginal area, not just the clitoris. The amount of pressure depends sole on the women's sensitivity and preference. It's a great idea t stop and say "how's that?". She would definitely pull you away to stop the discomfort.
Good luck and don't give up. You will know when she orgasms and so will the neighbors. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:56:06 PM | Sounds like your on the money, with the head clamping move to kisses on the thigh work your way back slowly give her time to relax. Sounds like shes afraid to go any farther its your pleasure and it should be to take her there with a little breather she may let you, if she crawls across the bed to get away shes through with that.
The main thing is to talk sounds like youth is on your side. You will never have a better reason to ask or to talk about what both of you like than youth use it. Sounds like you never played doctor " how does this feel" lol . Can she be possible after only a couple minutes, depends on what happened before you got down to pleasure. It could and has and can again again and again and thats all I have to say on that.
PS it is never criticism if you are learning to do what she likes "which is subject to chance" it it is never wrong to ask,to ask is to learn and keep learning grasshopper. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/5/2007 1:05:30 AM | First. I'm gonna assume your asking these ladies if your doing good, or bad. Without communication, just give up now.
Second. She must trust you. [Or conversely, you must be VERY GOOD.]
Why do they want you to stop? Lack of technique? (I would assume so, since good cunnilingus never ends unless the performer decides to end it :) )
Anyway, for cunnilingus to be performed to its best, you need a ready and willing partner, a working technique, and an exit tempo. Its kind of like masturbation in this regard, the girl must be fooled into thinking its her own hand, or give herself to you and loose control.
Also, its important not to confuse what feels good with what gets the job done. To reach orgasm, you need a technique, that she can climax with, and doesn't simply 'feel good'. Thats where exit tempo comes in.
Work on learning the secret technique, to unlock your girl. You don't need variety to start out with, just one solid technique. Any orgasm is better then no orgasm.
Start slow, tease, avoid the clitoris. Slowly edge closer, always preferring indirect contact. Move in a bit, like gently, and pay very close attention to response cues. When you find the technique, don't speed up, follow HER RHYTHM, then when she is in 'the zone' force your exit tempo [a bit faster but not lightning speed!!] on her (which is just a tad slower then she'd like). When she's about to crest, give everything you have, and don't stop until she begs you. Even if your tongue is about to fall off.
Anyhow. Tell your girl that your going downtown, and you've brought a sack lunch. Tell her you don't plan on leaving the downtown untill she has that orgasm, and you don't care if it takes all day/week/year. Your that dead set on learning her body and most importantly her responses. [Listen to breathing, body motion, facial flushing, vocalizations, clitoral swelling, sudden lubrication, involuntary muscle spasms, toe curling. You know, standard cues :)]
She can only resist so long.
(By the way, my girlfriend read this, and she said, "If you can't figure it out after this, your hopeless.")
Good Luck and happy licking. | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/5/2007 11:32:34 AM | | OP - these girls are in their 20's and virgins? There is your answer! They're not comfortable in their sexuality - yet. A naive woman would believe that men want penetration - and that they see oral as foreplay - not the 'main event'. Assure her that you WANT to be there - and there is plenty of time and attention for something else later. Once they become more comfortable with their own bodies - they'll be begging for more! Meanwhile, keep on keepin on!! | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/5/2007 3:21:02 PM | | It doesnt sound like you are really doing anything wrong while your down there. Blow on it and see if they giggle, if they do then you know that it tickles them. I would rather have a swabbing tongue muncher than none at all. Maybe these girls get hotter when getting banged than they do when getting some mouth? | |
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| Oral sex, am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/5/2007 4:28:41 PM | Doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong. It is a very sensitive area and in my experience if pressure is a little too much can make me cringe a bit.
Have you tried lying under your girlfriend and let her lower herself onto you. That way she controls the pressure a bit more.
Let her know you are enjoying her and that she tastes good and ask her if it feels good and what she'd like you to do.
Tell her you really want her to cum while you lick her. It might be that she can feel herself coming and thinks you need to move onto the main event.
Happy licking!! | |
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