| |
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/5/2007 7:24:27 PM | I had a conversation just like this with someone earlier today. I sincerely believe that in general (and they did do a study) that women are less likely to be as sexually fulfilled when it is meaningless sex with a stranger or someone who they don't care about and who does not care about them.
Healthy men and healthy women (healthy meaning psychologically and emotionally) will not choose to have meaningless sex with another human being. People who have issues (commitment issues because of past hurt, momma issues, daddy issues, and general issues) will choose to have meaningless sex. Men who are selfish and do not care about the repercussions of their actions will do it... Women who have borderline personality disorders will do it.... If men want "no drama" why even have meaningless sex with a woman? If you go there, men, you are asking for drama and a whole lot more.... In my book someone who is selfish more than likely will not care about fulfilling your desire sexually ... so why even go there? Men out for their own desire and who are not thinking about someone's else's feelings are selfish. Why, women, would you even go there? I think men and women are different in how we are taught to think about sex but I think we more or less have the same urges for it.... The ones who are worth having sex with are usually also the ones who care, who will fulfill your desires, and who actually think something about you......and less likely to have disease..... golden, in other words..... | |
|
| |
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/5/2007 7:58:36 PM | AGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How many of these threads do we need ?
All anyone of us needs, is ONE member of the opposite sex whose sex drive matches our own, more
or less.
Why do i care if MOST women want sex as much as MOST men ?
Will i find some consolation in knowing the answer to this burning question if i end up with a woman
who is not within the “normal range”, assuming that i am, of course.
Can i use it to resolve arguments we might have over frequency?
( “Yeah ? Well, MOST women want sex more/less than YOU do b^tch!.
You are abnormal !”) Always a great idea, yes ?
I have never been a woman ( i hate to shock anyone). Most women have not been men. Our opinion
can be a Silly Wild Ass Guess at best. Worse, it is often argued based on “ My ex husband/wife ____,
so ALL (wo)men ______” type of logic, which is often strongly held and resistant to logic.
So it may be fun to discuss, but please remember there is no “right” or definitive answer.
Anyone up for a thread on “How Many Angles Can Dance On The Head Of A Pin ?” | |
|
| |
| |
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/5/2007 9:50:46 PM | BlueCrimson77 that was really well written
I know I have made the mistake of sleeping too soon with someone because the right mental buttons were pushed, but when you realize they weren't that into you...
I will try to keep my hormones in check the next time, but boy I know they are all there and hope I meet the right man...soon...
 | |
|
| |
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/5/2007 9:56:30 PM | | I know that if I could...I would have sex all the time but my problem is that I don't feel comfortable enough with my body to have sex with just anyone. My sex drive is over the top though...Thats why I have fingers I guess! | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/5/2007 11:58:17 PM | | Just to comment on your query and not stating anything else other than making a statement on the subject/s, love and sex are not the same thing. Preferably they go hand-in-hand, however and unfortunately sometimes it's just one or the other. :) | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/6/2007 1:09:31 AM | The girls that are honest with themselves can admit they enjoy sex (and think about it) just as much as men are reputed to. Of course, there are exceptions on both sides.
For myself? I can admit I love sex and I don't see the shame in it. Admitting I like sex doesn't make me a slut but the societal phobia still hangs over a lot of heads. Especially those of the older generations | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/6/2007 8:54:18 AM |
Your sexuality demonized?
I've never heard "Every woman is a potential rapist".
I've never seen a woman who seduced a 12-13 year old boy considered a danger to society. More like Woo-hoo! Lucky kid!
In fact, I've never seen any woman censured for sexuality except by jealous other women and weirdos from various whackjob Christian cults.
tsk tsk Biker, you've missed the context. Women's sexuality is demonized in that we can have lots of sex and be labelled a whore, while men can have lots of sex and get high-fived for it. IMO, there's a problem with that, and lends itself to the sterotype that women don't want sex as much as men do - we do, we are simply influenced to think that we shouldn't, or we should only want it under certain circumstances. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, however since this thread is a blanket statement, I'll play. | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:02:42 AM |
Women's sexuality is demonized in that we can have lots of sex and be labelled a whore,
Or Samantha in "Sex and the City"....
Men cannot have lots of sex. Women don't give em it.
Unless there's time and money involved. And I don't mean hookers. | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:07:20 PM | Do all men have a high drive? No, Do all Women? No. Do more Men than Women have a high drive? Yes-So says nature (or god if that is your cup of tea).
Single women don't pursue sex because they don't have to. The men do it for them. Married women don't pursue sex because it's not "polite." A woman that is aggressive about sex is considered a whore or a slut by society. Even if it is not said outright, it is implicated. Most women can't handle that.
So who deemed the women with the high drives whores? My guess is the women with the low drives. They can piss off. If men did it, then shame on us. Welcome to the wonderful world of masturbation...
 Here's to the women with the high drives-please don't ever call them whores! | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/7/2007 7:20:45 PM | | ...to generalize....I would say that young men want it more than young women.....and older women want it more than older men......this may be controversial....but it is a generalization.....it is, however, my experience.....since I'm old now at 49...lol....they often make the first move......it was always me when I was younger..... | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/7/2007 7:39:09 PM | | Girls like it just as much as guys. They just can't let their friends or anyone else for that matter know they like it as much. Enjoying it leads to slutdom. | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/7/2007 7:50:25 PM | [quote- So who deemed the women with the high drives whores? My guess is the women with the low drives. They can piss off. If men did it, then shame on us. Welcome to the wonderful world of masturbation...
HA! Nuzzle, I love that - women are the cause of our own stereotypes - I'd put money on that being true. Well said (even if it was in jest - I think there was some nail hitting in that statement) | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:57:23 PM | Girls like it just as much as guys. They just can't let their friends or anyone else for that matter know they like it as much. Enjoying it leads to slutdom.
Waaaaa? You can enjoy sex with someone you love dude. I certainly don't think that when you are in a committed relationship and enjoy it, anyone would ever even think of calling you that word. Enjoying sex has nothing to do with being a sleeze. Personally I prefer to make love, just sex makes me ill. But that doesn't mean when I see a hot dude I don't have my hormones going wild! It is just a matter of acting on the impulses or not. And of course based on a previous post....protection is important too. | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/7/2007 9:28:21 PM | See, you did it again. Implied that anyone enjoying sex outside of a committed relationship is a sleaze. Basically enjoying an orgasm with another person is enjoying a natural physical body response. Being in a "committed relationship" really doesn't have anything to do with either the enjoyment OR the "slut" factor.
In my opinion a lot of "holier than thou" individuals like to call people names who make different choices than they do. Sex can be enjoyed alone, or with another or with several others all at once. What if we got an intense physical response from toe rubs? Would we need to make sure that only people in committed relationships rubbed toes? Geez.
I do think there needs to be a certain amount of trust, but we don't need to be filing joint tax returns to enjoy sex. | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/7/2007 10:02:36 PM |
See, you did it again.
Honey I quoted you saying people called women..... It was not I.
I don't throw rocks, I live in a glass house.
Look above and make sure your glasses are on good this time. I quoted you dude. You certainly made it sound like you were judging people. I don't judge you, it isn't my job. I just help with the Christmas Prezzies. | |
|
| |
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/8/2007 10:32:01 AM | . . Sure they do..!!
It's just that women don't have to do as much 'Hoop-Jumping' . . 
' Jump, Fifi . . Jump ! '
All they have to do is walk outside . . and .. Smile . . !! | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/8/2007 12:07:15 PM | Hell yeah is the easy answer. but guys don't have to worry about seeming promiscuous. usually before we have sex with a guy there's a lot of talking to friends, judgeing if you've waited the right amount of time. if guys and girls were treated equally in regards to sex, women would be a lot more open. if guys could only hear what women talk about.... | |
|
| do girls really just want it as much as guys?
Posted: 12/8/2007 3:45:26 PM | | I am sure there are guys and girls out there alike that want the love first, then the sex. If so send me a message I prefer to get to know someone first intimately before being intimate!! | |
|
| |
Home
login 
