| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:34:38 AM |
Been speaking to a guy for almost a year online.
At first he was caring and a great person to chat/text/call. For 9 months he was great. Meeting never was mentioned that often. Things seemed well, he often commented on how connected he felt.
Now the last 6 weeks or so he hounds me to meet every day. Usually in the evening. He also has been asking much more about sex.
He wants me to go to his house, even though i have never met him, and expect me to feel safe. He says he feels rejected unwanted and like i am treating him a fool when i say no.
The fact we seemed to connect so well is it all an illusion?.
Would anyone meet him under that circumstance?.
Why would you chat w/ someone online for a year?
If you don't know him well enough after a year to feel comfortable meeting him....it doesn't matter WHERE you meet...does it?
I think you've both wasted one another's year...and you should both cut your losses...
I suspect he already has.... | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:18:57 AM | Well if you are online only to chat, meeting is not an issue.
But if you connect, talk on the phone... what would be the issue to meet in person?? (And I would agree with the others, not alone at his home but out somewhere in public)
If you never intended to meet, perhaps that should have been one of the first discussions you had.
And no, don't meet him if you feel uncomfortable. | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/6/2007 11:28:58 AM | | Hi How very sad for you but surly it better to find out now wot they are like and you are safe that is the main thing , but very sad for you bless. | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:18:34 PM | I understand the connection one can feel toward a person after talking with them for a long time. Yet if it does not feel right within yourself, then do not do it. Obviously if you are on here asking us, then you have some doubt. Then why do it? If he is making you feel bad or is being pushy, then he is not sincere about your feelings.
Sometimes chat buddies are best left over the computer. Once in person, the illusion you once created is faded and you are left with dust. 
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/10/2007 2:10:35 AM | At first he was happy chatting online/text/phone.
For like 7 months.
I suggested meeting he was always hesitant.
Now i just have realised he is a certain few words that may offend some people.
I am now deleting blocking ignoring him.
I have told him enough enough, this is just wrong. | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/10/2007 2:45:57 AM | | Meet somewhere safe, it's not a lot to ask! I mail them all my details to pass onto a friend and tell them i dont mind if they ring while on a date. It gives peace of mind and takes away one of the worries of a first date. Dont like the sound of this guy. Sorry. | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/10/2007 2:52:45 AM |
Now i just have realised he is a certain few words that may offend some people.
I am now deleting blocking ignoring him.
I have told him enough enough, this is just wrong.
WOW kinda spontaneous.
When I started reading this thread I too was going to suggest caution.
Then as I read further an idea popped into my mind.
Why not take the initiative and call him out of the blue and invite him to meet you for lunch at a local eatery?
Be spontaneous but still cautious about it and see where it goes from there. If he is reluctant to meet in public then go from there.
But if you both have spent so much time talking I surely wouldn’t jump to assumptions about ulterior motives.
Best of luck
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/10/2007 3:03:25 AM | | why do you want to meet him now? what has changed? it sounds like HE wants to meet and YOU don't. so stop chatting with him and move on. | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/10/2007 10:07:52 PM | Pure curiosity but as people have mentioned, the image i have possibly created of him will be very different to the real him.
Same as for him of me. | |
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| Meeting after talking for ages.
Posted: 12/11/2007 7:21:15 AM |
Pure curiosity but as people have mentioned, the image i have possibly created of him will be very different to the real him.
Same as for him of me.
In a mature,modern, ADULT relationship...there sure shouldn't be any "curiosity"...
You both should have an excellent idea of the person you are meeting...
If not..then what the hell were you chatting about for a year? | |
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