| | Ever have this happen to you?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | You could do it in the shower and save him the trip.
Some people shower immediately after, some need too just before, some both before and after.
Just be glad he showers at all.
If you screw him once a day then he'll be taking more showers than certain people I know. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 3:06:58 AM | Try not and stress about it.
I personally like having a shower pretty much straight after sex as I don't like feeling all sweety and gross.
It might be something as simple as that.
Don't assume the worst straight away. It's crazy to do that. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 4:41:02 AM | Yeah........definately dont stress about it.....It's just how he is, it has nothing to do with you.....my husband used to get up....clean up with a warm washcloth, then come back to bedroom and clean me up.....it was nice | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 5:10:58 AM | I prefer to wash soon afterwards due to a very painful incident.
After a night of love making my 'tallywackle', for want of a better word (porkies falshback ) had somehow 'glued' itself to my leg.
Without thinking I quickly seperated the 2 and removed several layers of skin in the process.
Besides, if it's clean, aren't you ladies more inclined to wake us up in a certain way?   | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 5:17:08 AM | Better clean than not. Yes, better to be clean so if you fall asleep, all things are possible upon waking. I bet he won't be pleasing you orally soon after unless you shower as well, so be like Nike......Just Do It. Then snuggle. At least he will be AWAKE! LOL Had to toss that one in. Woohoo. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 7:17:54 AM | If he like...jumps up and *runs* to the shower, ok, I understand the cause for concern, but if after basking in the afterglow for a moment he excuses himself to wash off and pee, what's the big deal?
I think he's being considerate, as in not wanting to leave pecker tracks and adhere himself to your lower back while spooning afterwards.
He doesn't *have* to use the shower, the sink works just fine......... | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 2:36:36 PM | I don't think there is anything to worry about. If it bothers you that much, why don't you offer to jump in with him and help clean him up. Who knows, maybe it could lead into another sex scene in the shower. But like most, I don't like going to bed with cum and sweat all over my balls. Sticky balls don't feel so comfy. Not only that, but if you both clean up after having sex, if he wakes up with a morning woody you can give him a BJ. Or you can even wake him up by giving him a BJ and not have to worry about the dried up sex juices from the night before. It's a win win situation. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 2:55:24 PM | | Personally, I like to clean up afterwards but I don't jump right into the shower. That's the beauty of baby wipes! Quick clean and back to cuddling. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 3:08:08 PM | Well, the sex in the city episode was Amanda - they would have great sex and he would immediately jump into the shower. In this case - when confronted - he freaked out. She probed if sex was dirty to him and it turned out he was guilty and it had to do with his spiritual upbringing. They made him out to be quite a basket case over it.
Seems to me there must be something else bothering your instinct and the hop in the shower is just the symptom of the real issue you are trying to get out. What is beyond me is why don't you just ask why he choses to do it and your answer is your key to determining how you feel about it. Maybe he always showered when getting out of bed before he met you. Maybe he just likes to sleep clean. Maybe he hates sticky things - including carmels and taffy. Who knows. I think there are core issues you worry about and all the rest is just human stuff. You'd have a bunch more to worry about if he didn't shower in general - met a few of those!
Cuddling is highly overrated at "specific times". Is he affectionate in general? Does he suprise you with warmth and comfort when you really need it? Bigger questions. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 4:09:00 PM | | A recent ex not only hopped in the shower, but watched me as *I* showered. Just stood there, watching, it was weird. I think he was making sure I showered "correctly" (he was a control freak). | |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 4:23:14 PM | Cleanliness is good! I see no problem here! You can always cuddle after he's all fresh and smelling nice! I love the smell of a naked - freshly showered man!!  | |
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Posted: 12/7/2007 12:48:36 PM | | I've never experience this but I don't think I'd have a problem with it especially when you say he comes back to bed. Taking a shower right after isn't the worst thing he could be doing! | |
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Posted: 12/7/2007 12:55:18 PM | | I believe everyone agrees, clean is good. As several have already mentioned, jump in there with him, then come back to the bed and cuddle. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2007 1:33:20 PM |
A recent ex not only hopped in the shower, but watched me as *I* showered. Just stood there, watching, it was weird. I think he was making sure I showered "correctly" (he was a control freak).
Nahhh, I think watching some shower is sexy. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2007 1:36:35 PM | | Is he/was he Catholic? Was he taught by nuns? Reminds me of an episode from "Sex and the City" ... | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 2:02:13 AM | | Is he cut? Just wondering if he’s not circumcised, I’m not to clear on this but I understand that uncut guys have to worry a bit more. Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 2:25:48 AM | | I like to shower after masturbation, let alone sex. It's not that I don't like a woman's smell, it's that I don't like to be sticky. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 6:52:10 AM | | I often like to have a shower right after as well,and my Gf likes to join me as well. You might consider doing that. Some people just prefer to be clean.At least he's coming back to bed with you and not just leaving. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 7:20:16 AM | habit
phobia
smell
probably should ask him
see if he even knows he's doing it
might be a programmed response
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Posted: 12/9/2007 7:46:13 AM | | ??? Maybe he's a germ freak. I like to snuggle up and fall asleap afterwards. Two or three minutes of that exhausts me.....( Kidding) | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 8:11:11 AM |
Well then if it isn't anything out of the ordinary I wouldn't worry about it
Listen Paperdollgirl, if you are going to give sound advice, you should just leave these forums right now... | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 8:47:30 AM | I am dating this guy that goes and jumps in the shower right after we have sex.
Definitely not a bad habit. Is he circumcised? Uncircumcised men need to be very diligent in cleaning under the foreskin after sex to prevent infections. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 12:04:59 PM | | I think it would bother me a bit, but only b/c I don't want him to go anywhere for a while after. Most do, though, I think, even if it's just briefly. I think your guy's just one that needs to be clean and his running to the shower probably has nothing to do with you. Ask him, though, why he does it and explain how it makes you feel. You can probably negotiate something that will allow both of you to be fine in the afterglow. | |
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