| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 12:12:42 PM | | I write in my profile don't respond unless u are serious and i get loser who are just curious seeker....you really don't want to jump into relationship even after i stated that I do. There are alot of loser out there | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 1:10:42 PM |
All this comes down to finding someone that shares your dating mindset. Meaning, one person's "game playing" behavior could be another's idea of a natural, acceptable dating progression.
This was expressed very well, and ITA...good examples also. Game playing I think is also a term thrown around when someone gets hurt and needs a way to blame it on the other person. Or they chose not to see the signs someone else was sending (the I"m not interested anymore signs).
Really interesting thread...I"ve enjoyed it!
Kaylie | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 1:25:18 PM | It's the proverbial catch .22... I usually laugh and keep going when I see that someone has anything about games/baggage/or player on their profile. Those are usually the ones that thrive on drama in their lives, from my naivette experience. "Do Unto Others...." seems to keep ringing in my ears...... | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 1:47:11 PM | I have no baggage and no games on my profile
I don't have any ex husbands, child custody issues, money issues, job issues or any other issue I have to deal with and frankly I don't want to deal with anyone else's either.
I don't need to be rescued, saved, resuscitated, or otherwise brought back from a grim existence.
I have no games on my profile because this is a dating site and its possible to get caught up in a bunch of highschoolesque drama that I just don't need.
I don't want to play the game where I have get in line for a date
or I have to wait for 3 weeks or so for another date because someone needs to test ride some other fishes
I'm no day at the beach to some I'm sure...but I'm worth the time to get to know...and if you can't fit me into your schedule...I'm just not interested.
Has nothing to do with drama...Its just I've been around here long enough to know how "the game" is played...I know the rules and for the most part I refuse to conform.
If you skip over my profile because I have that on it...I don't figure I'm missing out on anything. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 2:13:55 PM | No games - I'm the one whos' gonna play games with your head. Not the other way round
No dramas - Only room for one drama queen inthis relationship and that aint gonna be you.
No mommas boys. - If youre still living with mum she's gonna stop me from ripping you off duing the divorce, and, if youre still living wiht mom then chance are you aint rich enough to rip off anyway. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 2:53:00 PM |
I have no baggage and no games on my profile
That statement on a profile, and that statement here in the fora, would be enough to tell me that I wouldn't want to be in contact with you. Someone who says she has "no baggage" means that either a) she has lived a life totally disconnected from meaningful connections with other people, or b) she lacks the ability to be introspective.
Your profile says that you have children, for example. If they are "no baggage", that would mean that you are indifferent to their lives, and they never interfere with your personal plans?
The other "no games" statement also tells me that the person saying it lacks understanding of other people. We all, every single one of us, have games we play, more often fooling ourself. Becoming intimate with someone, is to get past the "games" of hiding from oneself, and being open with another human being.
If you mean the conscious "game players", the liars and deceivers, do you really think a line in your profile will deter them? A real games player is incentivized, when he sees that. It adds to the adventure and thrill, and tells him that you're vulnerable. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:48:43 PM | "The only way to win..... is NOT to play."
Then what pray tell are you doing here?
In a sense you to are playing a game of which you have on many occasions protested against. We all know what a low opinion you hold on women, you make that perfectly clear in almost every one of your posts. Are you not playing a game to see how many women you can piss off on POF in order to fulfill some morbid personal vendetta you have against all the women in your life, that have not lived up to you're own personal expectations? Treat others with the same respect you wish to be treated, instead of wanting to bring others down to your level of hate, with these games you play.
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/21/2007 2:36:34 AM |
No games - I'm the one whos' gonna play games with your head. Not the other way round
No dramas - Only room for one drama queen inthis relationship and that aint gonna be you.
No mommas boys. - If youre still living with mum she's gonna stop me from ripping you off duing the divorce, and, if youre still living wiht mom then chance are you aint rich enough to rip off anyway. I loled. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/21/2007 7:48:38 AM |
We all know what a low opinion you hold on women, you make that perfectly clear in almost every one of your posts.
From "The Crow"
"Greed is for amateurs. Disorder, chaos, anarchy: now that's fun! ...."
No, that's not it.
More like the Buddhist notion of the bodhisattvas- people who have found enlightenment, but stay behind to show others the way. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/21/2007 8:55:33 AM |
Only women are allowed to create the rules and make the games, not men.
Only if you allow it.
Dating, online or real life, is an open market, and you are free to "buy" or "sell", based on your perception of worth and value. Men, who are insecure may perceive their value to be low, and willing to "sell" on very unacceptable terms. Others, with a more centered identity, will only enter into a relationship based on a comparable exchange of "value". | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/21/2007 6:26:19 PM | Games....You mean, "Who plays whom...for the advantage...and why?"
All to WIN the game...because "To the victor...belong the spoils..."
Yeah right...so that the victorious one can be the boss and say, "It's MY WAY...or HIGHWAY!"
What a demeaning and cruel merry-go-round ride! | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/21/2007 6:36:40 PM |
Games....You mean, "Who plays whom...for the advantage...and why?"
All to WIN the game...because "To the victor...belong the spoils..."
Yeah right...so that the victorious one can be the boss and say, "It's MY WAY...or HIGHWAY!"
What a demeaning and cruel merry-go-round ride!
Which is why one shouldn't ignore incompatibility, before you even agree to meet. A good relationship shouldn't begin with any significant areas in which the two aren't naturally in sync. If there is an area of incompatibility, then one does "win" at the expense of the other, and both end up losing. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:49:35 PM | .
Dating, online or real life, is an open market, and you are free to "buy" or "sell", based on your perception of worth and value.
Exactly right!
And we each make our own set of rules to live by. When dating, we either buy into the other person’s ideals or we find them incompatible and move on.
If someone you are interested in is playing games, immediately call them on it. If it doesn’t change, simply reject them. Any other action shows acceptance and/or makes you an enabler in a situation you know is wrong.
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:56:44 PM | ewwe I can't believe some of the crap I am reading here.
god forbid a woman speak her mind! snarls
why does this have to be a flaw when a woman says "no games?" she is dammaged, has issues? If that's what you want to see - that's what you get.
Here's a thought -maybe she doesn't want a dude wasting her time saying all kinds of stuff about how much he likes her and doesn't pick up the phone to call or take her out - that's THE GAME!
this is no knock on the guys either, I know there are plenty of players on the gals team too!
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 5:54:08 AM | If having no baggage and no games on my profile keeps the riff raff away...so be it.
I don't consider my children baggage. They are an important part of my life...but they are NEVER baggage and when we're together...they are not interferring.
Yes I really think that line will deter them...didn't you say that you wouldn't contact me?
I would assume it would be likewise for others.
I have a really good understanding of people...hence the no baggage and no games on my profile.
There sure are a lot of bitter men on here.
egads
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:17:01 AM | This thread has turned into a large number of games.
“ I/We don’t do it. THEY do it.” seems to be the favorite.
Since we do not agree what “Playing Games” means, we
would all be better served by wiping the phrase from our vocabulary.
( I'll bet some of you will think this post is just MY "game".) | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:20:51 AM | | Like the old adage says, "if you have to ask the price you can't afford it". In a forum for single (married and cheating also) people looking for love you don't understand what we mean when we say "no games"? Man if you really want a clarification for that, or if I suspect you're just making a self righteous proseletizing commentary, you shouldn't be on this cite looking for anything. I would suspect that anybody with any maturity level has an intrinsic understanding of the concept of games and what they aren't looking for from a relationship. It's self defining and if it doesn't jump out at you right away then you are way to naive to be on here. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:23:00 AM | I agree with the post above.
Just read some of the posts here and you can see why
people have no games or baggage on their profile.
This should be simple.
Hi
I like you.
want to meet?
but noooooooooooooooo
it turns into a couch session by armchair psychiatrists.
keep it simple
if you want to play
I'm just not interested | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:18:06 AM | | No games to me means? No info about one's self sends red flags they have a wife and no phones calls after 3 emails and will not give you their phone number as married men are at home on week ends so call them at that time, and just looking for a free ride, YUCK? | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:03:43 AM | | Well there you go someone who has a grasp of a definition of games. People such as myself don't put an awful lot of information in the profile for a wide variety of reasons some of which, of course can include being married. Did it ever occur to you that some people are simply fairly shy about advertising themselves - with all due credit to those of you who are braver and more adventurous. And, that those of us who my be reluctant to put a lot on our profiles DO understand that we are more than likely not going to get a single response from anyone? Yeah, I've figured that one out but that doesn't mean games. Just means I don't meet anyone until I start posting my picture and handing out my phone number. Oh wellllllll. | |
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| Define No Games Please that you have on your pages
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:07:54 PM | I agree the idea that anybody doesn't want a game is not very traditional. It seems the more honest I am about my intentions, which are not horrible, the colder I get treated.
I have chosen to be honest on my profile, and it doesn't work out because I am not "Playing the Game"
"Playing the Game" means you lie to fit the other persons expectations,
make yourself seem harmless and domesticated when you are not
reach out to endless amount of women who are just getting off on the internet attention, (Guilty as charged on this one), and have no intention of dating you.
When you do hook up with someone you sporadically communicate with them so you can feel in control.
Saying you don't want anything serious and get upset when the person you are dating treats yor relationship casually.
Allowing the idea of "two people sexually attracted to each other who are only friends" to exist like a club to keep the other "playing the game"
Not playing the game.
I like you, I want to call you when I have a chance and enjoy your company when I have the time.
I am attracted to you, we should have sex when we both feel comfortable and increase the intimacy in our relationship. Don't tease me, and I won't rush you.
I don't like that about you, and I am either not ok with it, or it doesn't mean anything and I am cool with it.
I am in this relationship for this reason , and only this reason , not for any other alterior motive.
My romance is from the heart, and not just a move to get into your pants.
These are just some of my observations. My numer 1 observation is that women really don't want a none game player, you actually reward those that are smooth talkers, and disregard the Real Man who doesn't hide behind a mask.
Remember ladies you know as well as we do that it is your "Game" and we are either playing in it, or not, and when we don't play the "Game", you all just don't let us play. If you want men that are "Real" then reward us for our honesty, our integrity, and our sincerity. Instead you stear clear of the monument, and head toward the oasis that vanishes the next day. | |
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