| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/2/2006 1:43:37 PM | | I'd like to think that "yes" you can, but have come to the realization that some men (and I'm sure women too) just can't be faithful. It's important to realize that their cheating is not necessarily a reflection on you, but an indication that they need to build their own egos up. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:30:27 PM | Short answer- NO
If someone oversteps those boundaries thats it- no going back!
If someone is really in love with you they would not even take the tempations that come everyones way. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/2/2006 8:19:17 PM | | Personally the answer would be NO.....I would never trust the person again....if he went out without me, I'd always be wondering what the hell he was up to....trust is huge with me and if you break that trust....you won't get it back....Maybe it's the scorpion in me.... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/2/2006 8:28:42 PM | I dont know but I think that it depends on the reason why they cheated. People cheat fro many reasons sometimes it can be a cry for help. THings aren't always black and white when dealing with relationships. Communication is everything and if the couple is willing to learn from the situation and grow mabey it can be forgiver. After something like that though trust is earned not an automatic.
That being said I hope Im never in that situation.
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/2/2006 10:28:48 PM | No, you cannot trust someone who has cheated, because you know without a doubt that the person can cheat and has cheated. If you are someone who has never cheated, the thought that the person is capable of doing so, even once, is enough to make you run as fast as you can.
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ponie
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Joined: 1/25/2006
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/2/2006 11:13:38 PM | | Nope. Not completely at least. Once you know what they are capable of doing, you are always left to wonder if they are doing it again. Once they disrepect you when you believed in them, well that's insulting and humiliating. When they won't even fess up to the truth after you have hard core proof, it proves they are still not worthy of trust. Jesus, if the whole truth was out on the table, if you chose to try to rebuild, at least you'd have a place to start, because there would be no more secrets hidden out there which will always be revealed at some point later. It's easy to say "get out, move on", but some peoples lives aren't as simple as that. I have never ever cheated, I would never hurt someone that badly. If you really love someone, that would never be an option, Period. There is no excuse in the whole world, and no amount of ass-kissing that can ever make up for doing someone that way. The cheater's do pay, they have to live with themselves & what they've done every day. Let them carry that burden, those piece of shit's. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/3/2006 12:45:50 AM | I can't....
Been down this road one too many times before.
Once a cheater, always a cheater for me - and no ifs ands or buts about it. That's just me. I can never forgive/forget and take him back.
Way I see it, if he does it once to me - he's shown so much disrespect for me, for us, for the relationship - it's unforgiveable.
Sure we all make mistakes - but cheating? Screw that. Way I see it - I'll find someone else who actually cares enough not to do this. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/3/2006 8:17:36 AM | No. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once caught they just try and be MORE sneaky and secretive. My ex actually thought ALL men cheat and was very surprised to find his older coworkers did NOT agree with him and we on my side about the divorce.
I think you will ALWAYS doubt and second guess your partner which always leads to more distrust. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:55:00 AM | Ok have just read alot of the post's put on here, and was wondering something :? if a man or woman is married to someone that was no longer able to have sex.. let's say that the partner was in a coma or had a car crash and had become 100% disabled, and you knew he or she was never going to get better, ( and by way not talking about myself) would you then have the right to say to that person that you could not feel the touch of a loveing hand again. see myself I would not like to have to think that for the rest of my life should have to go though that problem,, ( and again thankfully I don't ) but were I to, I then wonder if I should be branded a cheater:?  | |
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Joined: 7/15/2005
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/18/2006 8:12:02 AM | No way hose.....once they have disrespected me in that way...I'm out. Communication is key and if one is not being satisfied in the relationship you need to seek the answers as to WHY and try to work together to overcome the problems. Once someone steps outside the relationship it is finished.
People are inately selfish and don't realize when you love someone it takes WORK it is not always easy and you need to work together to overcome problems and set backs....there usually aren't any quick fixes.....thats why I say choose your partner wisely and know you are good match from the beginning sexually and mentally.... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/18/2006 9:39:35 AM | | NO..........I am outta there. I am a very forgiving person , but IMO the person who has cheated had time to think about what they were about to do. Before an act has been done. So had time to talk to the one they are w/to find out whats going on w/his or hers feelings and in that relationship. I can forgive a person and I dont believe once a cheater always one. But I would truly be to heart to make the relationship work. I would not do it. so dont want it done. And really now if you take them back and you find true trust again you dont think that will always be in the back of you mind at some point and time??...gotta have trust to make it work | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:43:23 AM | No. Hands down. Walk away, have a nice life.
But how about someone who's been married for 20-30 years? I really don't know. I know people whom have worked it out because they felt the relationship was worth it. And they really did work it out, became stronger from it. I have to admit, that's admireable. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/18/2006 1:11:22 PM | | There is no way I would, my exboyfriend cheated on me, went on holiday with his mate, I was packin parts of his stuff that he was taking with him, in his toiletbag there were condoms packed too, which I found odd but never said anything, which I did on purpose just to see what he was doing. After he came back, by the way while he was on holiday he never answered his phone, I found out that there were about two left. He could have done anything with them on holiday, but still found it quite strange. I asked him straight away when he came back he couldnt answer me. Packed my stuff and left. Now if you trusted a partner, well if you think you did, and they cheat on you, what on earth makes you take them back and trust them?? Do they not make you feel so little? There is no excuse such as oh I was drunk or it wasnt my fault. Obviously it only means that that person wasnt right for you. So there is absolutily no way I would take someone back or being able to trust someone again, itll always stay in the back of ur head. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 12/18/2006 1:31:57 PM | | I think it depends on external factors to some degree. The only time I cheated on a girl (I am not a cheating type seriously) was when I thought I was dumped by a girl. It turned out to be a miscommunication she was having a bad day etc I was upset and in the 'women sux place' and took my aggression out on a one night stand. If I knew how bad my girl PMS'd I would have known the signs. I told her of course and we worked it out, life is never as straight as an arrow sometimes something as small as a hormone change can change things for both parties. Only once, no one should make the mistake twice. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:40:13 AM | | Did over and over again, he still cheated, now he is on wife #4 and has done it to all of them. I have never cheated even on someone I was just dating, little own someone I'm married to. It is probably the greatest hurt someone can do to you. | |
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/12/2007 7:37:55 AM | | Nope. Even if I took him back and he never cheated on me again, I would always be wondering. Distrust in a relationship, whether warranted or not, is not healthy. | |
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